Abafazi beZibonelelo eziMfihlo bahlala befumana into exabise ngaphezu kwemali ngokuzibandakanya nala madoda aphumelele kakhulu.Shutterstock / Izibonelelo ezifihlakeleyo Impumelelo yalo naluphi na ulwalamano luxhomekeke ekungeneni kubo ngamehlo avulekileyo, nokuba kungumtshato wesiko, i-app-eququzelelwa i-hookup, okanye into ekuxoxwa ngayo ngokuxhaphakileyo, ehlala iqondwa phosakeleyo phakathi kweSuar Babies kunye neSugar Daddies. Umjongi uthetha nabasetyhini ababini, omabini amalungu enkonzo IziBonelelo ezifihlakeleyo , Ukufumana iingcinga zabo kubomi obuswiti, iingcinga ezingachananga zabangaphandle, kunye nentsingiselo yokwenyani yokuxhamla.
Umfazi wokuqala esithethe naye, uKatheryn-intombazana encinci, i-28 eneminyaka engama-28 ubudala e-blonde echazwe ngokulinganayo ngohlobo lwe-spunky lokuzihlambalaza-luvela kuloo nxalenye ye-Atlantic Coast apho ukufaneleka kwe-Southern kudibana nolwandle-ubomi obulula . Waqala wazivula kumnqweno wokuba ubutyebi kunye nokunxibelelana ngokweemvakalelo kungangangqinelani kangangeminyaka emithandathu eyadlulayo, kungabangelwa nje kukufuna ukwazi ngamadoda amadala amakhulu, kodwa nangokudinwa kwenani labo elichaseneyo. Kwixesha elidlulileyo, bendisiya emva kwamadoda ekufanele ndibahoye, uyachaza. Ndahlawulela imihla, ukutya, indawo yokuhlala. Izibonelelo zezemali ecaleni, kulungile nje ukuba nomfana ongafuniyo ukuba uhlawule kubo .
ULana, 25, ngokungxama wenza iprofayili yakhe yokuqala eneminyaka eyi-19 emva kokubona icandelo leSuar Baby kwiindaba. Njengomntu waseNew York onomdla wokuthatha umngcipheko (bendisoloko 'ndingumhlobo wasendle,' utsho), akazange abone nto ngaphandle kwecala-kodwa wenza uphando. Wayikhaba nayiphi na inkonzo ethi ingene nzulu kakhulu kulwalamano lwabasetyhini kwasekuqaleni, njengenye yezona zinto zijikeleze ubudlelwane bokuhamba. Kwavakala kuyinto engaqhelekanga, uyavuma, kodwa andinaye uLiam Neeson ebomini bam ukuze andilandele! Inkonzo ayikhethileyo yamvumela ukuba aphuphe kakhulu, ngelixa esondela kwimidlalo eyayiza kubakho kunye nengxoxo ethembekileyo awayeyizisa kulo naluphi na ulwalamano olutsha. 
Ngandlela thile, ubudlelwane buqheleke bucoceke ngakumbi kunokuba, njengoko uKatheryn ebeka, 'Ndisisityebi, kwaye uyatshisa.'Izibonelelo ezifihlakeleyo / iShutterstock
Ukuba ukugcinwa kwe-arhente kuyamangalisa, akufuneki kube njalo. Omnye wemicu emininzi eqhelekileyo eyavela phakathi kukaKatheryn noLana yayikukukhetha kwabo — ukhetho olungasekelwanga kubutyebi okanye izilingo, kodwa kwisimilo sendoda, abathi abafazi babone ukuba ingavavanywa ubukhulu becala ngaphambi kokuba bavume ukudibana noSugar Daddy ngobuqu. . Ngelixa bengacingi ukuba bathethe zonke iiShukela Babies okanye Inzuzo eyimfihlo amalungu, ngokokubaluleka kwabo, ukuba indoda ivula incoko kwi-Intanethi ngokubuza ngokungakanani ukuba ingakanani ?, uphumile. Ukuba utshatile, uphumile. Ukuba uthatha ubutyebi obukhulu buhlawulela izakhono zokuncokola ezingalunganga, uphumile.
Imali sisiseko, kodwa ayisosiphelo kuso. Ndinobomi, umsebenzi, ikhondo lomsebenzi, utsho uKatheryn. Andingo kuxhomekeke kwaba bantu. Eyona nto ibonwa ngabafazi emva koko ziimpawu ezindala, amadoda aphumeleleyo kunokwenzeka ukuba abe nawo: ukukhula, ubulumko, i ukuzithemba eza nozinzo kwezezimali, amandla okubafundisa into abangayazi. Umtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni nawo uyimfuneko eyimfuneko. Ukuba uyindoda endala enenwele yetyuwa kunye nepepile, utsho uLana, ndiyathandana.
Ke uLana noKatheryn bayayifuna yonke loo nto, kodwa ngaba abayikukubeka nje ithemba labo kwifantasy, yendoda esele ikhulile, enesidima exabisa yonke into enentokazi evulekileyo evulekileyo izisa etafileni, hayi umzimba wayo kuphela? Ngamafutshane, ayizizo zonke iiSugar Daddies ezirhubuluzayo kunye nesitulo esinamavili? Ngokuchasene neentsomi, ezi Swekile Babies zanyanzelisa ukuba akunjalo nokuba ukude kunjalo.
Ukuqala, uninzi lwamadoda abaqubisana nawo IziBonelelo ezifihlakeleyo Benze konke okusemandleni abo ukuba nembeko. Omabini la mabhinqa aqikelela ukuba amadoda asebenzisa iinkonzo zeSuar Baby ayazi malunga nokuqonda okuthandwayo kweenjongo zabo, kwaye ke bazimisele ngakumbi ukuzibonakalisa bengamanene. Ayisiyo mpendulo nje kwizinto zangaphandle, nangona kunjalo; amava obomi ongezelelweyo afundise la madoda ukuba axabise ukuthandana ngokwahlukileyo. Uninzi lwabouqhawule umtshato, ucacisa uLana. Bayazi apho bajija khona-xa basebenze nzima kakhulu, xa benganikeli ngqalelo ngokwaneleyo. Bebesemhlabeni ixeshana, kwaye bayayazi indlela yokwenza umfazi onwabe.
Kuqikelelo lukaLana noKatheryn, uluvo lokuba ooTata baphatha iintsana njengabakhaphi, kwaye baya kuthi balk ukuba owasetyhini ubeka imithetho yezesondo, ayicacanga. Ukwabelana ngesondo kusemoyeni-isini sinjalo njalo emoyeni. Kodwa amadoda ngokwawo ahlala efuna into-ayisiyonto imbi (nangona ingekho ngaphandle kommandla) -kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ibaluleke kakhulu. Kananjalo banesiqulatho esiqhelekileyo sobudlelwane beplatonic ukuba ikhemistri yothando ayikho. Enye indlela okanye enye, ubudlelwane buqhelekile bucocekile kunokuba, njengoko uKatheryn ebeka, ndisisityebi njenge-shit, kwaye uyatshisa. 
Iimpawu zokuba ushukela usana ziyinyani-kwaye zinokumangalisa-kodwa indalo yazo iyahluka, kwaye ihlala inobuntu ngakumbi, kunokuba ungalindela.Izibonelelo ezifihlakeleyo / iShutterstock
Ngokubhekisele kwinto yobudala,Abantu bacinga ukuba aba bantu banomdla, utshoUKatheryn, Ukwenza ukuba unobhala wabo achwetheze Iswekile Usana Iintengiso. Kodwa andikaze ndibone umntu oneminyaka elikhulu ubudala, uRockefeller ongumntu welifa, akukho mntu undenze ndacinga, 'Owu thixo wam le ndoda ifanele ukuba ifile!' Baninzi abantu abakwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu nangamashumi amane abasebenzisa indawo (kunye nobuninzi beminyaka yobudala obuphambili, ukuba olo lukhokelo lwentliziyo yakho kunye nomkhwa wobushushu).
Kulungile, kulungile, uthini malunga neenzuzo? Zinyani, kwaye zinokumangalisa, kodwa indalo yazo iyahluka, kwaye ihlala inobuntu ngakumbi, kunokuba ungalindela. Ubusuku obuqhelekileyo buquka isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi kakhulu esigcwaliswe ngamehlo kunye nokuchazwa kwincasa yomfazi kwinto yokutya nakwincoko, kodwa xa kukho inqanaba lentuthuzelo elimiselweyo, uhambo lomlingo wolwandle kunye nokuhlwa okuzenzekelayo ekhasino kunokwenzeka kwaye kuyenzeka.
Ngokubhekisele kwithokheni ebonakalayo yothando, Ukuba uluhlobo lweSuar Baby ofuna ukunikwa izipho, ukuba olo lulwimi lwakho lothando, yiba phambili naloo nto, uthiUKatheryn, okhetha izipho ukuba zivele ukusuka ubudlelwane, endaweni yokubenza ukuba babe yimfuneko ye ubudlelwane - isikhwama esihle sendoda siyazi ukuba sineliso laso, endaweni yento ebiza imali engenangqondo ivela ngaphandle kweblue. ULana wavakalisa izimvo ezifanayo; esona sipho asithandayo yayikukuhlwa okuthathu ehotele ethengisa izinto ezikufutshane neofisi yakhe kunye needola ezingama-500 zokuchitha imali, evela kwindoda eyayisazi nje ukuba ukuhamba kwakhe yayimnxibile. Kodwa, uthi, Nokuba uyavela nge $ 500 okanye ijongilanga, ndifuna nje ukwazi ukuba ukhathalele ngokwaneleyo ukuba unikele ingqalelo.
Kuninzi njengamadoda amaninzi awonga nje ngokubakho komfazi odlamkileyo, onomtsalane, onomdla, omncinci IziBonelelo ezifihlakeleyo bahlala befumana into exabiseke ngaphezu kwemali ngokuzibandakanya nala madoda aphumelele kakhulu. Ukuba ungqongwe ngabantu abahleli imini yonke babukele iTV, uyakwenza oko, utshoUKatheryn. Ukuba ujikeleze abantu abakrelekrele abasebenza nzima, oko kuyarhola kuwe. Kuyandikhuthaza ukuba ndibengumntu ongcono. Yeyiphi, ekugqibeleni, yile nto sifuna ukuba lonke ulwalamano lwethu lusenze.
Isitudiyo soMxholo waBabukeli sisithuba esinye, inkonzo epheleleyo, iarhente yokuyila ngaphakathi yendlu edibanisa ii-brand kuluntu lwelizwe, kubaphumeleleyo. Iqela lethu labahleli beStudiyo esiqulathe ubuhlakani bobuchule obuqinisekisiweyo kumabali alungiselelwe, amabali emultimedia, ukuphuhlisa amanqaku axhaswayo, iividiyo, iiyunithi zentengiso ezisebenzisanayo, imikhankaso yemidiya yoluntu, iminyhadala nokunye Isiphumo sokugqibela? Umxholo osisinyanzelo onzulu onxibelelana nabafundi ababalulekileyo. Ngolwazi oluthe kratya, qhagamshelana intengiso@observer.com
