(Ifoto nguFernando Pereira Gomes.)
Ayisiyomava okuthandana, uChristina Berkley uthi, ejonge esangqeni kwabangama-23 kuthi ababhalisela itheko lakhe elijonge amehlo. Sihleli kwizitulo ezisongelwayo kwigumbi labucala leyoga kwiWest 49th Street. Amakhethini azotywe ngokuchasene nobukhazikhazi beTimes Square kunye nezihluzo zokukhanyisa ezithambileyo ngokusebenzisa izibane zesilingi.
Amatheko ajonge ngamehlo-eneneni, imisitho yokuthandana ekhawulezayo- yaqanjwa kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo ngutitshala we-salsa egama lingu-Michael Ellsberg, owathi kamva wabhala Amandla oQhakamshelwano ngamehlo: Imfihlo yakho yokuPhumelela kwiShishini, kuThando nakuBomi . Injongo yemibutho yakhe yayikukuzisa oko wayekufundile kumgangatho wokudanisa-amandla okudibana kwamehlo-ebantwini. Ingcamango yagqitywa ngokukhawuleza ngabaculi bokuthabatha njengesikimu sokukhawuleza. Kodwa ukufumana abantu babekiwe ayisiyiyo ajenda kaNks Berkley. Asizelanga ukukhohlisa nabani na, utsho, undikhumbuza abantu abangamaziyo abanxilileyo ebharini ngexesha lokuvala: Ndizogoduka nawe, kodwa asilali ngesondo.
UNks Berkley luhlobo olutsha lwe-agey-ufunda izinto ezibizwa ngokuba yi-limbic resonance kunye ne-generative trance, usebenza njengomqeqeshi wobomi kwaye, uyazi, uphosa amaqela ajonge amehlo-kodwa uphantsi emhlabeni kwaye uyathetha. Ukhalaza esithi kwisiXeko saseNew York, singasathethi ke kwiminyaka yee-smartphones nakwi-Facebook, abantu balibale indlela yokudibanisa ubuso ngobuso. Sifihla ngaphakathi kweendlebe. Sigcina amehlo ethu kwizikrini zethu. Kwaye ngenxa yoko, siphulukana.
UNks Berkley ucela umntu ngamnye kuthi ukuba agcwalise okungabhalwanga: Ukujonga iliso ngu ____.
Sijikeleza ngesangqa. Ndithi, umdla. Abanye bathi boyike, basondele kwaye babodwa. Umfana onesikipa, ijean kunye negama elinegama elithi uChristopher uthi, kushushu ngokumangalisayo. Ngokucacileyo uChristopher ngoyena mntu mncinci kweli gumbi (uninzi lubonakala ngathi luye emva kwexesha-ngama-20 ukuya phezulu). Ngolusu olugudileyo kunye namehlo abanzi, ujongeka esemncinci kakhulu ukuba angatshisa ngokumangalisayo ngayo nayiphi na into ngaphandle kwesuphu.
UNks Berkley uyabuza, Yintoni ebangela ube neentloni?
Ukwenza impazamo, ndithi.
Ukuncoma, utsho omnye umntu.
Abantu abandibonayo bayalila.
Ingqalelo.
Xa ibhinqa liphuza isidlele sam okanye liluma intamo yam, utsho uChristopher.
UNks Berkley ubeka ngaphandle kwemithetho ejonge iliso: Musa ukuthetha. Gcina intetho engathathi hlangothi. Yiba khona.
Silungelelanisa izitulo ezisongwayo kwimiqolo emibini ejongene — amadoda kumnye, abafazi komnye. Andiqinisekanga ukuba kutheni izihlunu zam zixinene, kutheni ngequbuliso ndinqwenela ukubaleka eli qela. Ngokwesiqhelo ndiyabathanda abantu, ngaphandle kokuba bayangxola kakhulu okanye banyanzelisa ukudlala isiginci somoya. Xa ndithetha nomntu, nditsho nomntu endisandula ukudibana naye, andifumani mngeni wokudibana ngamehlo. Ngapha koko, ndiyayithanda. Yindlela yokubambana ngaphandle kokubambana ngokwasemzimbeni.
Ndihleli ngaphesheya kwendoda enegama layo elithi Arjuna. UNks Berkley usixelela ukuba sivale amehlo kwaye sidibane nathi, kodwa konke endinokukwenza kukungunda. Kuthekani ukuba ndihleka ebusweni buka-Arjuna? Or what if ucinga uba ndifuna ukulala naye? Isitulo sam esisongekileyo luhlobo lweplati olutyhidiweyo elinoxanduva lokujongana nazo zonke iingxaki zomhlaba zangasemva.
UNks Berkley uvula umculo othile kwaye usiyalele ukuba sivule amehlo xa silungele umjikelo wokuqala wemizuzu emibini.
Andikakulungeli. NgokukaGqirha Katalin Gothard, usosayensi ofunda isiseko seemvakalelo, ukudibana kwamehlo kusetyenziselwa ukulwa, ukondla kunye nokutsala (yiyo loo nto amagcisa athabatha amaqela ajonga amehlo) -kwaye ayigcina ikhatywa yinkqubo yemithambo-luvo ezimeleyo. . Oko kuchaza ukubetha kwentliziyo yam kunye neentende ezibilayo. Ekugqibeleni ndinexhala lokuba kunzima ngakumbi ukuvumela iArjuna ijonge iinkophe zam, ndiye ndavula amehlo. Nantso ke - ayisoze yenzeke.
Ayisiyiyo yonke into yokudibana kwamehlo eyenziweyo ilingana. Phambi kokuba siqale, UNks Berkley wahlula phakathi kokujonga kakhulu kunye nokujonga okuthambileyo (wakhuthaza oku kulandelayo). UGqr. Carol Goman, umbhali we Inyaniso malunga nokuxoka kwindawo yokusebenzela , Ukwahlula phakathi kwamehlo anje ngeshishini (egxila kummandla ophakathi kwamehlo naphakathi kwebunzi) kunye nokujonga ngothando (kugxila kubude ukusuka kwamehlo kuye emlonyeni). Xa ndinikezela ngokupheleleyo ku-Arjuna, andazi ukuba ndigxile phi. Ndifuna ukuphuma ngefestile. Nangona ndiqhele ukutshixa amehlo ngexesha lencoko, into malunga nokuthe cwaka, ukudibana kwamehlo kunjalo nje… emva komtshato. Ndiyahleka, emva koko ndiziqambe, emva koko ndihleke kwakhona.
Xa imizuzu emibini iphelile, UNksz Berkley uyeka umculo kwaye uxelele amadoda ukuba eme kwaye ahambise isihlalo esinye ngasekhohlo. UArjuna unqwala kum, epholile njengenkwenkwe efaka umnqwazi wakhe. Wonke umntu osanda kudibana naye, sithatha phezulu. Ngokujonga kwam okwesine, umnqweno wokuhleka udlulile.
Ngaba unokuvula ngakumbi kangakanani? UNks Berkley uyasibuza. Amaphepha:1 Mbini
