Umthi Onikelayo .URichard Sherman / iWikipedia Ngobunye ubusuku unyana wam oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala weza kum ephethe incwadi yemifanekiso kaShel Silverstein Umthi Onikelayo . Bendingazi ukuba sinayo ikopi okanye ivela phi, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyikhumbule le ncwadi ukususela ebuntwaneni.
Ndiqale ngokufunda ngokuvakalayo, kwaye isinye kwisithathu sendlela kule ncwadi yandiphazamisa: Ndaminxa, ndangqengqa ndilila. Amabinzana athile andiqinisile ngaphakathi. Andinakukwazi ukuyifumana le ncwadi, ndifuna ukumisa amatyeli aliqela ukuze ndiziqokelele (ngelixa ndizenza ngathi ndiyayithanda imizekeliso, ewe).
Le yayiyimvakalelo ebukhali, engenakuchazeka: hayi ukudana, ngokuqinisekileyo ukungonwabi, kodwa ingekuko nokuba nanjongo - into enzulu.
Ukukhangela kuGoogle kutyhila ukuba abantu abadala bahlala bekhala xa kufundwa Umthi Onikelayo , nangona bahlala bengaqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo ukuba kutheni. Njengoko UChrissy Teigen Ithunyelwe kunyaka ophelileyo:
awunakufunda umthi onikelayo ngaphandle kokukhala, nangona uwufundile amaxesha ali-100. yintoni isimilo apha?
-Christine teigen (@chrissyteigen) Nge-9 kaJuni 2016
Okanye lo mntu:
Umthi Onikayo Uyandililisa ukusuka iincwadi
Ngobuso bayo, ibali limalunga nothando lokuzincama komthi ngenxa yenkwenkwe. Badlala kunye bonwabile yonke imihla, kodwa inkwenkwe ikhula kwaye ilandele imigibe yabantu abadala: imali, indlu, usapho, uhambo. Ke umthi unika inkwenkwe ii-apile ukuba zithengise, amasebe akhe indlu, kunye nesiqu sayo ukwenza isikhephe. Ekugqibeleni, umthi usisiphunzi, kodwa inkwenkwe - ngoku ixhego elidiniweyo- ayifuni kwanto ngaphandle kwendawo ezolileyo yokuphumla, ke ihlala emthini kwaye iyavuya. Isiphelo.
Abafundi baxoxe ngentsingiselo yencwadi ukusukela ekupapashweni kwayo ngo-1964, kunye nokungavumelani okuphambili okufakwe kwisihloko se-NY Times ngeCawe yoPhononongo lweNcwadi ukusuka ku-2014: 'Umthi Onikelayo': Ibali leThenda yoThando olungenamiqathango okanye iNqaku eliPhazamisayo lokuzingca? Echazwe ngokwahlukeneyo njengomfanekiso wothando lwabazali, uthando oluvela kuThixo, ubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo, okanye kwanobundlobongela bendalo esingqongileyo, le ncwadi yahlula abafundi ngokuqatha.
Nantsi into enomdla: incwadi ibashukumisa ngokunzulu abantu abadala nokuba bayayijonga uyadumisa uthando lomthi olungenamiqathango okanye ndilila uthando lokuzitshabalalisa lomthi.
Kuqhubeka ntoni apha?
Oku: yintoni ebolekisayo Umthi Onikelayo ukubonakala kwayo okubalaseleyo ayilulo uthando lomthi, kodwa ibali leseyile - ukuhamba kwexesha. Kwimizuzu elishumi, singqina uhambo lwenkwenkwe ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuya ebudaleni, ngayo yonke ilahleko kunye nomnqweno ohamba nobomi.
Incwadi ivula ngemiboniso yolonwabo lwabantwana. Inkwenkwe idlala ngalo mthi yonke imihla: ukubaleka, ukukhwela, ukujinga, ukuzenzisa. Bonwabile. 
Bonwabile.Umbhali unikiwe
Lo mfanekiso obomvu wobomi: shalom.
Kodwa lonke ibali elilungileyo liyachuma kwimpixano, kwaye kwiphepha elilandelayo sihlangana nale ncwadi. 
Kodwa ixesha lahamba.Umbhali unikiwe
Kodwa ixesha lahamba . Inombono woncumo lobuntwana oluseleyo, inkwenkwe iyazikhumbula iintsuku zayo zobuntwana obonwabileyo kunye nomthi.
Ukuqhubela phambili ebudaleni, inkwenkwe ayisadlali nomthi. Amaxesha amathathu umthi ubongoza inkwenkwe ukuba ize kudlala kwaye wonwabe -Umamela ukubuyela kwiintsuku zabo zobuntwana ezilahlekileyo-kodwa inkwenkwe inkulu kakhulu, okanye ixakeke kakhulu, okanye indala kakhulu kwaye ilusizi. 
Inkwenkwe ayisadlali nomthi.Umbhali unikiwe
Ixesha lithathe uvuyo lobuntwana benkwenkwe, kwaye ngekhe abuye umva.
Oku akuvelisi nje ukuphulukana nolonwabo lobuntwana, kodwa umbono ophambili welahleko elingena kuphepheka: ulutsha, ubumsulwa, ubuqhetseba, amathemba, amaphupha, nothando. Ngokwenyani, le yiparadesi elahlekileyo: ukugxothwa e-Eden, indawo ekude kakhulu ye-shalom apho sinokufumana ukuphelela kwaye sonwabe ngengqondo epheleleyo, ukuba nje sinokubuyela.
Ngokulahleka kuza ulangazelelo. Inkwenkwe, ngaphandle kokushiya umthi ngenxa yezinto kunye nosapho, ihlala ibuyela emthini. Kuba kuloo ndawo inkumbulo yokuphelela ihlala, ikrolwe ngonaphakade kwisiseko somthi. 
Ngokulahleka kuza ulangazelelo.Umbhali unikiwe
Kodwa ngulo mthi ulangazelela kakhulu oko kulahlekileyo, kwaye ulapha - ekudibaneni kwexesha lokuhamba kunye nothando lomthi-ibali linamandla kakhulu. Qho xa inkwenkwana esele ikhulile ibuya, umthi unika ngexabiso elikhulu ukufezekisa iminqweno yenkwenkwe, kubuhlungu ukubuyisela i-Eden kuye: Emva koko unga… wonwabe , njengaxa inkwenkwe yayidlala phakathi kwamasebe akhe kudala.
Kodwa abanakubuyela umva. Inkwenkwe ibuyela ngalo lonke ixesha emthini ingonelisekanga kwaye inqwenela ngaphezulu, ide ikhule indala kakhulu kwaye ilusizi ukuba ingadlala. Incwadi iphela ngesithunzi se-Eden: inkwenkwe kunye nomthi kunye kwakhona, kodwa zonakaliswa lixesha. 
Incwadi iphela ngesithunzi se-Eden.Umbhali unikiwe.
Njengoko uSilverstein wabhala, Inesiphelo esihle esidabukisayo.Ukuphila kukuguga, kwaye ke ukulahleka kunye nokude.
Ngothando lwakudala, ubuhlobo bebanga lesikolo, imifanekiso evela kwiholide elityelweyo, ingoma ethandwayo kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ukumanga okokuqala, imifanekiso yomntwana wakho, okanye inkumbulo yobuntwana yokudlala emva kwemini yasehlotyeni: inkumbulo, ulile ilahleko, kwaye ulangazelele ukubuyiselwa okupheleleyo ngakumbi. Ixesha lithatha olu lonwabo kuthi kwaye lishiya ulangazelelo olunzulu.
Lo mnqweno ungathandekiyo umnqweno , ingcinga etyebileyo yaseJamani CS Lewis ichazwe njengokulangazelela okungathethekiyo esingazi ukuba yintoni. Kukulangazelela kwethu ubomi bonke, umnqweno wethu wokudityaniswa kwakhona kwinto ethile kwindalo iphela esiziva sinqanyulwe kuyo.
Ngokwembono kaLewis, ngelixa olu langazelelo luhlala luphuma kwiinkumbulo zobuntwana okanye izinto zobuhle, ezo zizinto nje zokuma: ekugqibeleni sinqwenela into engazange ibonakale kumava ethu. Lo Lewis uchonge njengelizwe lethu elikude, ikhaya esingazange siye kulo.
Xa sibona ukuphulukana kwenkwenkwana egugileyo kukonwaba ebuntwaneni kunye nomnqweno womthi wokuphinda uyifumane, sihlangabezana nelahleko yangaphakathi ebomini kwaye silangazelela indawo apho ulindelo lupheleleyo. Sobabini siyinkwenkwe nomthi.
Ngokuchasene nale mvelaphi uthando lomthi luzuza i-heft. Kule nto indalo ishiyekileyo umthi uthulula: ungazicingeli, ububi, mhlawumbi ulilize, kodwa mhle. Olu luthando kulo lonke ixesha kunye nendawo yokuchitha ixesha kunye nokugxotha ubumnyama obunzulu- uthando olumangalisayo olulangazelela ukusizisa ekhaya kwilizwe lethu, apho iintsuku ezingapheliyo zokubaleka nokudlala zilindele.
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Ndabhala ekuqaleni andazi ukuba ikopi yethu iphi Umthi Onikelayo ivela, kodwa eneneni ndifunde xa kuvulwa incwadi: 
Umthi OnikelayoUmbhali unikiwe
Le ncwadi yayisisipho sobuntwana kum esivela kubamelwane bethu bakudala, esasibabiza ngothando njengo-anti nomalume. (Umama ngokucacileyo wayibeka le ncwadi ekhaya lam ngelinye ixesha.) Lo mbhalo uvuselele iinkumbulo ezikude zokufunda le ncwadi kwigumbi lam lokulala ebuntwaneni.
Kwaye ngoku i-crux yayo: kuthi abo bakhumbula ngothando ukufunda Umthi Onikelayo njengomntwana, loo nkumbulo ngokwayo ivuselela ulangazelelo lwethu. Ngoku sasiyifundela abantwana bethu le ncwadi, njengoko sasiyifundelwa ngaphambi kokuba sazi ukuba ubudala bokulahleka busizisa, sibuye xa ibali lalingathethi nto ngaphandle kothando oluthambileyo lomthi.
Kwikonsathi, isenzo sokufunda kunye nebali ngokwalo livusa ilahleko engathethekiyo kunye nexesha lokulangazelela eliye lasebenza okoko saqala ukufunda ngomthi owayethanda inkwenkwana. Kwaye siyalila.
Kodwa asinakubuyela umva. Sibadala kakhulu ukuba singadlala, kwaye umthi esiwakhumbulayo uhambile. Imihla yethu yempilo epheleleyo ayililo kwixesha elidlulileyo, kodwa kwikamva: kwilizwe lethu elikude.
U-Anthony Ford ungumseki-ntshukumo we-Move On Pluto kunye nomqambishelana we-app yeencwadi zabantwana ezisebenzisanayo UMax noMeredith: Ukukhangela iPercival . Ngaphambili wayesenza ukhuseleko kunye nezimangalo zorhwebo kwisiXeko saseNew York. Mfumane kwi-Twitter: @Model_TFord. Oku kubhaliwe ngaphambili yabonakala kwi I-Coffeelicious kwi-Medium.
