Phantse kanye kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, ndathenga ukucamngca kukaMarcus Aurelius kwiAmazon.Ifoto yombhali
Phantse kanye kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, ndathenga i Ukucamngca kaMarcus Aurelius kwiAmazon. I-Prime Prime yeAmazon ibingasekho ngelo xesha kwaye ikulungele ukuhanjiswa simahla, kuye kwafuneka ndithenge ezinye iincwadi ezimbalwa ngaxeshanye. Emva kweentsuku ezimbini okanye ezintathu bonke bafika. 
Ukufumana kwam iAmazon kwiminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo.Ifoto yombhali
Iphepha elinobukhulu obuphakathi, ubukhulu becala umhlophe ngomqolo wegolide. Kwiphepha elingaphandle uMarcus uboniswa ekhululekile, exolela abantu abangaqhelekanga. Apha, ngenxa yobudala bethu, ngumsebenzi omkhulu kaMarcus, utsho uRobert Fagles kwisibhengezo sakhe. Ndandineminyaka eli-19 ubudala. Bendingazi ukuba ngubani uMarcus Aurelius (ngaphandle komntu omdala ongene Gladiator) kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ndandingazi ukuba ngubani uRobert Fagles okanye uGregory Hays, umguquleli. Kodwa kukho into enditsalele kule ncwadi phantse kwangoko. Ndicinga ukuba ithamsanqa lindizise kuguqulelo oluthile endilukhethileyo ( UHlelo lwaMathala eencwadi lwale mihla ) - nangona amaStoyike ayeza kuyibiza njalo fated —Kodwa oko kwafika kwabutshintsha ubomi bam.
Iya kuba yeyam, into uTyler Cowen ayibize incwadi yenyikima, eshukumisa yonke into endicinga ukuba ndiyayazi malunga nehlabathi (nangona yayincinci loo nto). Ndingaba yinto uStephen Marche anayo ekubhekiswa kuye njenge-centreader, ukufunda uMarcus Aurelius ngaphezulu kwamaxesha ali-100 kuhlelo oluninzi kunye neekopi.
Ngexesha lokufundwa kwaye Ukufunda kwam stoicism , kuninzi okutshintshileyo. UMarcus Aurelius undikhokele ngokwahlukana nokutshata , ngokuba mncinci kwaye ulihlwempu kwaye umdala noko kwaye utyebile. Ubulumko bakhe bandincedile ngokugxothwa nangokuyeka, ngempumelelo nangemizabalazo. Ndiye wamthwala ukusondela kumazwe aliqela kwaye wamhambisa kwizindlu ezininzi . Ndiye ndajika ndaya kuye for amanqaku kunye neencwadi kunye nengxoxo yesiqhelo isidlo sangokuhlwa. Isiciko esimhlophe esimhlophe ngoku sesomthunzi waso, kodwa ngayo yonke into efundwayo, ngalo lonke ixesha ndichukumise incwadi, ndifumene into entsha okanye ndikhunjuzwa ngento engenasiphelo nebalulekileyo.
Ngoku kukhutshwa eyam inguqulelo kunye nesiqulatho, Istoic semihla ngemihla (kunye Incwadana yemihla ngemihla ye-imeyile ku-DailyStoic.com ), Bendifuna ukuthatha ixesha ndicinge ngezinto endizifundileyo kwiminyaka elishumi ngesinye sezona ncwadi zibalaseleyo nezizodwa ezakha zenziwa. 
Isigqubuthelo esimhlophe esimhlophe ngoku sesomthunzi waso.Ifoto yombhali
-Yayiyindlela yokuvula iNcwadi yesi-5 — malunga nokuthandabuza ukuvuka ebhedini nokuhamba kusasa-oko kwandichukumisa kakhulu xa ndandifunda okokuqala. Njengoko ubona, ndibhale u-FUCK ngesibane esibonisa kwaye uyayibona indlela ebaluleke ngayo loo ndima kum ngelo xesha Iposti yebhlog ka-2007 . Emva kwexesha, bendiya kuthi phrinta esi sicatshulwa ndayibeka ecaleni kwedesika yam nebhedi. Ndicinga ukuba yayikukuba njengomfundi wasekholejini ndiyidinga loo nto. Bendonqena kancinci kwaye ndinelungelo. Kwakufuneka ndibubambe ubomi kwaye ndibusebenzise, kwaye uMarcus wandisebenzela kakuhle kule meko ixesha elide. 
Bendisiprinta esi sicatshulwa ndisibeke ecaleni kwedesika yam kunye nebhedi.Ifoto yombhali
-Ngona ndiza kuthi namhlanje, Ndicinga kancinane malunga nenqaku elindikhuthazayo ukuba ndenze ngakumbi kwaye ndisebenze ngakumbi. Ukuba bendizakubeka eyahlukileyo edesikeni yam, bendiya kukhetha kwiNcwadi yeshumi, ukuba ufuna ukuzola, wenze kancinci.
-Ukufunda kwam okokuqala Ukucamngca , Ndiqaqambisile umgca Ungabonakalisa ubomi bakho kuphela ukuba wonakalisa isimilo sakho. Ekufundeni kamva ndongeze iibakaki ezijikeleze loo mgca, kugxininiswa ngakumbi. Kwaye ndikrwele umgca emva koko, kungenjalo, ayinakukulimaza-ngaphakathi okanye ngaphandle.
-Iphepha le-XXVI kunye ne-XXV lokwaziswa kuka-Hays kulapho ndaqala khona ukwaziswa nge-distillation ye-Stoicism ukuya kumacandelo amathathu ahlukeneyo (ukuqonda, isenzo, intando). Yayingulo myalelo owathi ekugqibeleni wabumba bobabini Umqobo yiNdlela kwaye Istoic semihla ngemihla . Xa ndicelwa ukuba ndichaze ezi ndlela zintathu zokuziphatha, oku kuhlala kuyimpendulo yam emfutshane:Jonga izinto njengoko zinjalo. Yenza oko sinako. Nyamezela kwaye uthwale oko kufuneka.
Intshayelelo kaHays ikwadwelisa u-Alexander Pope, uGoethe noWilliam Alexander Percy njengabafundi nabalandeli bakaMarcus Aurelius. Ukufunda kusebenza ngabo bonke aba bantu — ngakumbi uPercy (kunye nonyana wakhe owamkelekileyo, uWalker Percy) —undithumele emngxunyeni womvundla oya kuba yenye yezona zinto ubomi bam bokufunda . Ndikhuthaza wonke umntu ukuba afunde iPercy's Izibane kwiLevee .
-Kwincwadi yesine, uMarcus uzikhumbuza ukuba acinge ngabo bonke oogqirha abaswelekileyo, emva kokufaka iiflegi zabo malunga nokuba zingaphi iibhedi zokufa, bangaphi abavumisi ngeenkwenkwezi, emva kokuqikelela okuqaqambileyo malunga nezinye iinjongo. Ngosiba omnyama-ngandlel 'ithile kutsha kubonakala ngathi-ndongeze okanye ndenza amayelenqe, abacebi kunye nabacwangcisi, ndadlula, ndadlula kwaye ndatshatyalaliswa. Ndicinga ukuba yayikukumba kum nabanye abantu abakrelekrele. Akukho kwanto siyenzayo ihlala ihlala, nokuba ikrelekrele kangakanani okanye ikrelekrele kangakanani. Kuhle ukuyikhumbula loo nto. 
Akukho kwanto siyenzayo ihlala ihlala, nokuba ikrelekrele kangakanani okanye ikrelekrele kangakanani.Ifoto yombhali
-Ngoko ke sikhuphela ngaphandle ukuqaphela kwabanye abantu. Yintoni eseleyo kuthi ukuba sizuze ibhaso? Ndiphendula ngosiba oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngokufunda kube kanye, Ukwamkela kunye nokuchasa indalo yethu. Ndenza ntoni mna — wayethetha ntoni uMarcus — ngayo? Ndicinga ukuba kukhuthaza okuhle ngathi kwaye silwe nokubi. Ukukhuthaza iinxalenye zethu eziziphethe kakuhle, ziluncedo, zithembekile kwaye ziyazi kwaye zilwa nezinto ezingabalulekanga, ezingenamsebenzi, ezingaboniyo nezingalunganga. Kukuphila ngento uWarren Buffett ayibiza ngokuba likhadi langaphakathi kunye ungayihoyi eyangaphandle (ukwamkelwa kwabanye abantu).
Kwesa sicatshulwa sinye, uMarcus ubhala kwakhona ukuba awukwazi ukuyeka ukuxabisa ezinye izinto ezininzi? Emva koko awusoze ukhululeke-ukhululeke, uzimele, ungaphazanyiswa. Ndinekopi yam inqaku elibhaliweyo ukusuka Iklabhu yokulwa , Kuphela xa ulahlekelwe yinto yonke, ukhululekile ukuba wenze nantoni na. 
Kuphela kuxa ulahlekelwe yinto yonke, ukhululekile ukuba wenze nantoni na.Ifoto yombhali
-Xa ndiqala ukufunda Ukucamngca , Ndandiphakathi kwedrama ehlekisayo nabantu endandihlala nabo ekholejini. Andizukukruqula ngeenkcukacha, kodwa ngelo xesha, ndandikhathazekile, ndidanile kwaye ndilusizi malunga nendawo endandihlala kuyo. Ndicinga ukuba esi yayisesona sizathu sokuba ndibambe ukucamngca kwiNcwadi yesiThandathu, malunga nokuba ubusarhabaxa nomntu aze akonzakalise, ubungekhe ubangxolise okanye ubhomboloze okanye ubabambe ulwa nabo- uzakwenza inqaku lengqondo malunga nalo kwaye wenze ngokufanelekileyo kwixa elizayo. Ndiyabona apho ndibhalele khona amagama abantu endihlala nabo egumbini ukwenza ngokucacileyo olu nxibelelwano. Musa ukubathiya, ndazibhalela, ukuhlala kude.
-Ndanditshilo ngaphambili ukuba yonke into endandiyazi kuqala ngo-Marcus Aurelius kukuba wayeyindoda endala Gladiator . Uphando lwexesha elizayo lundifundise ukuba ukubonakaliswa kwakubangela umdla ngakumbi kunomboniso bhanyabhanya. Okokuqala, uMaximus (umlingiswa kaRussell Crowe) wayesekwe kwibali lokwenyani laseRoma-uCincinnatus jikelele, owasindisa iRoma kodwa wafuna nje ukubuyela kwifama yakhe. Okwesibini, unyana ka-Marcus u-Commodus (uJoaquin Phoenix) wayeyinyani naye-kwaye mhlawumbi woyikeka ngakumbi ebomini bokwenyani. Wayebulewe ngumlwelwe kwaye wayekunandipha ukungcungcuthekisa nokwenzakalisa abantu. Ikwenza ukuba ucinge: Inokwenzeka njani into yokuba indoda enkulu kangaka ibe nonyana ombi kangaka? Ithini loo nto ngeemfundiso zakhe?
-UMarcus ubhala ubuchule bokufunda nokubhala kufuna ubuchule. Okwangoku, ngakumbi ubomi. Ndabhala uTucker, R.G kwimida esecaleni kwesa sicatshulwa. R.G ime URobert Greene -Yayiyintoni inkosi yam ngokubhala kwaye, ngakumbi, ebomini. UTucker ubhekisa kuTucker Max, owayengumcebisi wam ngokubhala nakwishishini. Kuyavela kum ngoku ukuba bendiyiqonda le ndawo kuphela-bendijolise kwisiqingatha sokuqala, xa kanye i ngakumbi ubomi umgca ngowona ubalulekileyo. Ukuqonda oku kunokundisindisa kwiingxaki ezininzi. 
Ukuqonda oku kunokundisindisa kwiingxaki ezininzi.Ifoto yombhali
-Ngeencwadi ezilishumi elinambini, njengoko Ukucamngca Isonga, Marcus ubhala Ayipheli ukundothusa: sonke siyazithanda ngaphezu kwabanye abantu, kodwa sikhathalele ngakumbi ngezimvo zabo kunezethu. Eli nqaku landibetha kwangoko, ndiyakwazi. Kodwa yandibetha kakhulu ngo-2014, xa ndandiphinda ndifunda isicatshulwa. Ndiyazi oku kuba mna ubhale inqaku elinomgca njengesihloko , njengoko bendijongene nenyani yincwadi yam leyo ndandisandula ukukhutshwa yi INew York Times Uluhlu lweBesteller kwaye bendijongene nokuwa. Kwakunceda ukubuza: Kutheni ndiyikhathalela le nto bacinga ngayo aba bantu? Kutheni uluvo lwabo lubalulekile kum? Ukuwaqonda la magama akusoloko kwanele, ngamanye amaxesha kuye kufuneke siwave-ukuba nentsingiselo yawo unyanzelwe phezu kwethu. Le yayiyenye yezehlo.
-Ukubuyela umva ngekopi yam ukuze ndibhale le posi, ndifumene i-notecard emhlophe enamanqaku eebhulethi abhalwe kuyo. Ekuqaleni ndandingakwazi ukuqonda ukuba zazithetha ntoni ezi zinto. Emva koko ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ngamanqaku endiwabhalileyo ngaphambi kwencoko yam noGreg Bishop, intatheli Imidlalo eboniswe , xa wayendenza udliwanondlebe nam ngenxa ibali awayelwenza kwi-stoicism kunye ne-NFL . Imbumbulu enye ilayini ukusuka kuArnold Schwarzenegger , ihlala isomelele ngakumbi njengoko sicinga ukuba siyayazi. 
Ukubuyela umva kwikopi yam ukubhala le posi, ndifumene i-notecard emhlophe enamanqaku eebhulethi abhalwe kuyo.Ifoto yombhali
-Koko ndicinga ukuba ndifunda okwesithathu okanye okwesine, ndiphawule le ndima: Ungabushiya ubomi ngoku. Vumela oko kugqibe ukuba wenzani kwaye utheni kwaye ucinga ntoni. Akukho zininzi izikhumbuzo zokufa kwakho kwi-20. Le yayiyeyokuqala kwam.
-Akukho mbuzo ukuba ngalo lonke ixesha umfundi wokuqala Ukucamngca , ngumgca wokuvula weNcwadi yesiBini enye yezona zibalaseleyo : Xa uvuka kusasa, zxelele: Abantu endijongene nabo namhlanje bazogxuphuleka, bangabuleli, bazikhukhumalise, banganyaniseki, babe nomona kwaye babe krwada.
Kwaye isicatshulwa esilandelayo silungile-ukuba asiyonto iphikisanayo: Zilahle kude iincwadi zakho; yeka ukuzivumela ukuba uphazamiseke. Ngaba wayethetha ukuba yeyona ncwadi bendiyifunda?
-Omnye wemigca endiyithandayo: Ukwamkela ngaphandle kwekratshi, ukuyiyeka ngokungakhathali. Olunye uguqulelo olufanayo:Yamkela ngaphandle kwekratshi, uyeke ngaphandle kokuncamathisela.
Kwisiqendu esinye, uMarcus uqinisekisa uthando lwakhe lobugcisa. Ubonisa ukuba iintlekele (zemidlalo) zisinceda zisikhumbuze ngento enokwenzeka ebomini. Ukwanika inqaku elinomdla- Ukuba kukho into ekuonwabisa ngayo lonto isigaba, akufuneki sikubangele umsindo kule. Ukuba ungayithanda ngeentsomi, unokuyixabisa ebomini — kwaye ufunde kuzo zombini.
-Kwincwadi yesihlanu, ndafunda ukuba yayiyintoni kanye kanye ifilosofi. Ayisiye umqeqeshi, njengoko uMarcus watshoyo. Ayizizo izifundo endandizithatha esikolweni. Iyeza. Yinto yokuthambisa ethambisayo, into yokuthambisa efudumeleyo. Yenzelwe ukuba sincede sijongane nobunzima bobomi -Ukunyanga, njengoko watshoyo uEpicurus, ukubandezeleka komntu.
Kude kwiveki ephelileyo, ndiphinda ndifunda uMarcus apho ndiqaphele igama elithi cwaka njengoko livela kwiNcwadi yesiThandathu, 7: Ukusuka kwisenzo sokungazingci uye kwelinye usicingisisa ngoThixo. Kulapho kuphela, ukonwaba kunye nokuzola. Ukuzola yinto ebendikade ndiyiyo ukucinga okuninzi -Ukuyifumana njani, ungayifumana njani, kutheni iphezulu kunomsebenzi. Bendiyifuna kwimibhalo yaseMpuma kwaye ibikho eStoicism ngalo lonke ixesha.
-Incwadi yesithoba, i-6 andifumananga kuphela i-epigraph enokubakho yencwadi yam Umqobo yiNdlela (endathi ndayibhala ngosiba oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngo-2013) kodwa esona sishwankathelo sinokubakho sesiStoiki kukho:
Injongo yomgwebo, ngoku, ngalo mzuzu nje.
Isenzo sokungazingci, ngoku, ngalo mzuzu.
Ukwamkela ngokuzithandela -ngoku, ngalo mzuzu-wazo zonke iziganeko zangaphandle.
Yiyo yonke into oyifunayo.
-Ngexesha elithile emva kokuba ndifunde inguqulelo kaHays, ndaphinda ndathatha enye inguqulelo kaMarcus- mhlawumbi enye nguGeorge Long okanye A. S. L. Farquharson, eyayifumaneka simahla kwi-intanethi. Ndachukumiseka kwangoko yindlela incwadi entle, enengoma ebendiyithanda eya iba dense kwaye ingafundeki. Kwandibetha ukuba ukuba bendikhohlisile kwaye ndizama ukufumana simahla into endiyithengileyo endaweni yoko, ubomi bam bonke ngebungafani ngokwahlukileyo. Iincwadi zezotyalo-mali . Konwabele ukubeka imali yakho.
-UMarcus unebinzana elimangalisayo lokuvunywa kunye nokuvuya kwabanye abantu. Uyibiza ngokuba kukuqhekeka kweelwimi-yiyo yonke into eyenziwayo eluntwini, utsho. Nabani na osebenza elisweni loluntu, obeka umsebenzi wakhe okanye ubomi babo phaya ngaphandle ukuze asetyenziswe, unokusebenzisa ukukhumbula eli binzana.
-Rhoqo ukungabikho kokusesikweni kulele kwizinto ongazenziyo, hayi kuphela kule uyenzayo. Okanye, njengoko sisitsho ngokwala maxesha, 'Inye kuphela into efunekayo ukuze uloyiso lobubi lolokuba abantu abalungileyo bangenzi nto…'
-Ungazami ukuziphindezelela kwabanye abantu, utshilo uMarcus ngelinye ixesha. Musa nje ukuba njalo.
-Umfundi njengembethi manqindi, hayi eyokuqina. Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba umgcini wefenisha unesixhobo kufuneka basithathe. Izixhobo zomdlalo wamanqindi ziyinxalenye yakhe, yena kunye nesixhobo esinye. Kuyafana nakulwazi, ifilosofi kunye nobulumko.
Izixhobo zomdlalo wamanqindi ziyinxalenye yakhe, yena kunye nesixhobo esinye.Ifoto yombhali
-UMarcus uziyalela ukuba aphumelele iingcinga zakhe. Unomgangatho omkhulu. Ukuba umntu ebengakubuza ngoku, Ucinga ntoni? unganikeza impendulo emfutshane? Ukuba akunjalo, uphupha emini kwaye uhambahamba kakhulu.
-Ikujongile ebusweni, ubhala uMarcus. Akukho ndima ilunge kakhulu kwifilosofi njengaleyo ukuyo ngoku. Ngaba wayethetha ngokukhethekileyo ngendima yomlawuli? Ngaba wayethetha ukuba nayiphi na kwaye yonke Indima yeyiphi egqibeleleyo yefilosofi? Ndikhetha ukucinga ukuba le yokugqibela.
-Ndibe nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokuba abanye abalandeli abanesisa bandithumele iikopi ezindala ezinqabileyo Ukucamngca . Ziyaphela, zinxitywe bubudala. Kuyandibetha ukuba uStoic wayenokucinga ntoni ukuba wayenokunikwa incwadi eyayineminyaka engamakhulu amabini ubudala. Banokucinga ngomntu ongumnini wakhe kunye nento eyenzekileyo kubo (abafileyo), baya kucinga ngazo zonke izinto umntu azenzileyo ngaphandle kokufunda ifilosofi (ubukhulu becala izinto ezingenantsingiselo), kwaye baya kucinga nangamaxesha anzima ukuba ubulumko obuqulethwe ngaphakathi bunokubanceda (yile nto ndiyicingayo ngoku). Kwaye emva koko bajonge indlela sonke esixhomekeke ngayo kwisingqisho seziganeko kwaye umntu angayichola le ncwadi emva kwabo kwaye abe neengcinga ezifanayo. 
Ndibe nethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo lokuba abanye abalandeli abanesisa bandithumele iikopi ezindala ezinqabileyo zokucamngcaIfoto yombhali
-Kuhamba ikopi enye yoguqulelo lweHays kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ndafumana irisithi. Yathi ngoJanuwari 2007 kwaye yayivela kwiMida eRiverside, eCalifornia. Ndithenge eyam eAmazon, ke bendisazi ukuba ayingowam. Emva koko ndaqonda, le yayiyikopi yomfazi wam. Uthenge le ncwadi kwakamsinya emva kokuba sidibene, ngengcebiso yam. Ukuba wayeyifundile emva kokuba ndiyikhankanyile ekudluliseni, yandenza ndacinga ukuba iimvakalelo zethu zinokufana. Yenye yezinto zokuqala esidibanise ngazo. Kwiminyaka elishumi kamva sisese kunye .
Kwintshayelelo kaGregory Hays uthi umongameli waseMelika ubanga ukuba uphinde afunde uMarcus Aurelius minyaka le. Abanye uphando lufikile ukuba uBill Clinton wayengumongameli. Ngaba kulapho ndafumana khona uluvo lokuqhubeka ndifunda kwaye ndifunda kwakhona incwadi? Ukuyisebenzisa njengesikhumbuzo sazo zonke izifundo eziza kuziswa yimpumelelo?
Amandla -Absolute ayonakalisa ngokupheleleyo yile nto siyithethayo. Kodwa uMarcus wayenamandla apheleleyo. Kum, ukubhala kwakhe kunye nobomi bakhe bubungqina bokuba imigaqo elungileyo kunye noqeqesho olufanelekileyo- ukuba lulandelwa ngokungqongqo- lunokunceda ukuthintela oku kungaphelelwa lixesha.
-UMarcus wazikhumbuza: Musa ukulinda ukugqibelela kweRiphabhlikhi yasePlato. Wayengalindelanga ukuba umhlaba ube kanye ngale ndlela wayefuna ukuba yiyo, kodwa uMarcus wayesazi ngokwendalo, njengoko isithandi sobulumko esingumKatolika uJosef Pieper wayeza kubhala kamva, ukuba nguye yedwa onokwenza okuhle owaziyo ukuba zinjani izinto kwaye nokuba injani imeko yabo. .
-Kuyahlekisa ukucinga ukuba imibhalo yakhe inokuba ikhethekile njengoko injalo kuba yayingakhange yenzelwe ukuba sifundwe. Phantse zonke ezinye iziqwenga zoncwadi luhlobo lokusebenza-lwenzelwe abaphulaphuli. Ukucamngca ayikho. Ngapha koko, isihloko sabo sokuqala ( Ta eis heauton ) Isiguqulela njenge Kuye.
-Kukwanomdla ukucinga ukuba asinalwazi lokuba ukucamngca kwakukade ku-odolwe ngokwahlukileyo. Konke esinako ngoku kukuguqulelwa kweenguqulelo- akukho kubhalwa kwasekuqaleni kwesandla sakhe. Yonke le nto ibinokucwangciswa ngendlela eyahluke kwaphela ekuqaleni (Ngaba zonke iincwadi zazinazo izihloko kwasekuqaleni-njengoko zazinjalo ezokuqala ezimbini? Ngaba ezo zihloko zazenziwe? Ngaba zazinenombolo zonke ekuqaleni? Okanye ngaba ikhefu phakathi kweengcinga zongezwa ngu umguquleli wamva?)
-Ngubani ongakhange awasebenzise amabinzana ndiya kuthembeka kuwe okanye Ngentlonipho yonke okanye ndiza kuba ngqo kuwe. Kuxa ndide ndafunda ukugwetywa kuka Marcus kula mabinzana apho ndacinga ngenene ngalento bayithethayo- ukuthembeka, intlonipho, ukungqala kufuneka ibe yinto emiselweyo. Ukuba kuya kufuneka ubeke iintetho zakho ngayo, ngumqondiso wokuba kukho into engalunganga ngentetho yakho yesiqhelo kunye nemikhwa yakho yesiqhelo.
-Kodwa ukuba uyawamkela umqobo kwaye usebenze ngale nto uyinikiweyo, enye indlela iya kuzizisa-esinye isiqwenga sento ozama ukuyidibanisa. Intshukumo ngesenzo. Akuthandabuzeki ukuba siza kunqunyanyiswa kwinto esingathanda ukuyenza, okanye nokuba sifuna ngamandla ukwenza amaxesha ngamaxesha. Imali izakulahleka. Izicwangciso ziya kuphazamiseka. Amaphupha amade ayaphulwa. Abantu (kubandakanya nathi) baya kwenzakala. Kwaye okwangoku, zimbi ezi meko kwaye ziya kuba njalo, ndicinga ukuba kuya kufuneka uvume, azithinteli yonke into. Usenokuqhubeka nokunyaniseka, uxolelo, ubuhlobo, umonde, ukuthobeka, umoya olungileyo, ukomelela, ubuchule bokuyila, njalo-njalo.
-Ifanele ukuba yayifundwa kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ndiqonde ukuba uninzi lwezilumkiso- Musa ukuchitha ixesha, Musa ukucaphuka, Yeka ukubanjwa zizinto ezingabalulekanga- kufuneka zibekhona kuba uMarcus Kutshanje kwenziwe ngokuchaseneyo ngqo. Khumbula, oku yayiyijenali yakhe, ukucamngca kuyimbonakaliso ebhalwe emva kosuku olunzima. Ayizizo izinto ezikhutshiweyo, zizinto anokuzenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo.
Ayizizo izinto ezikhutshiweyo, zizinto anokuzenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo.Ifoto yombhali
-Kukho umgca kwisincoko sikaJoseph Brodsky malunga nomfanekiso odumileyo wamahashe kaMarcus Aurelius (endaya eRoma kwiminyaka embalwa eyadlulayo ukuyokubona). Ukuba Ukucamngca yinto yamandulo, uthi, ke ngoku singamabhodlo. Into endicinga ukuba ayithethayo yile yokuba xa uthelekisa amandla kunye namandla kunye nokunyaniseka okungqongqo kokubhaliweyo kukaMarcus ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, konke onokukuva kukudodobala. Kuvakala ngathi siye sahlehla endaweni yokuqhubela phambili.
-Umthambo omkhulu wokubhala ovela kuMarcus uhamba ngokubaluleka ngolu hlobo: Ngaba umhlaba ongenabantu abangenazintloni unokwenzeka? Hayi ke lomntu udibene naye nje ngomnye wabo. Dlula kuyo. Yinto entle ukuyikhumbula ngalo lonke ixesha udibana nomntu okucaphukisayo okanye okuhluphayo.
-Isinye sezibonelelo zokufunda incwadi amaxesha amaninzi kukuba iqala ukuziva ngathi iyakulandela yonke indawo. Kuyafana xa ufumana imoto entsha kwaye ngequbuliso uqala ukuyibona loo moto kuyo yonke indawo-ingathi nguwe nabaqhubi ngequbuliso kwangaxeshanye. Ndiyakhumbula ndifunda Ngasempuma kwe-Eden kungekudala emva Ukucamngca , kwaye uqikelele ukuba ngubani ocatshulwe yonke indawo? Emva koko ndafunda uJohn Stuart Mill, kwaye uMarcus wavela kwakhona. Ke kuhambo oluya kwisiXeko saseNew York bendinyuka nge-41 St kwaye kukho ipleyiti enesicatshulwa esivela kuMarcus. Enye yeemvakalelo ezimangalisayo, ufumana intambo yomsebenzi kuyo yonke indawo kwaye kufana nokuba nobabini kwiqela elinye, kunye nomyalezo ofanayo wokusasaza.
-Enye yezona zinto zisebenzayo ndizifundileyo kumaStoyiki ngumthambo endiwenzayo beza kubiza intetho edelelayo. Ndiyayithanda indlela uMarcus angazithatha ngayo izinto zodidi kwaye azichaze ngolwimi olungenangqondo, nolususayo-inyama eyosiweyo sisilwanyana esifileyo kwaye iwayini yeediliya indala, iidiliya ezivundisiweyo. Ude achaze ingubo emfusa kaEmperor njengelaphu nje elidaywe ngegazi leembaza. Injongo yayikukuzibona ezi zinto njengoko zinjalo, ukususa intsomi ebabonisa. Ndizama ukusebenzisa lo msebenzi yonke imihla.
-Imigca emifutshane yeyona ilungileyo:
Lahla ukuqonda kwakho gwenxa.
Yeka ukuxutywa okonodoli.
Zilinganisele okwangoku.
-Ukucinga ngukumkani waseRoma, nabaphulaphuli bakhe abathinjiweyo kunye namandla angenamda, ezixelela ukuba angangomntu onamazwi amaninzi kunye nezenzo ezininzi. Kukhulu kangakanani oko? Kuyakhuthaza njani?
-Kude kwafuneka isebenze noSteve Hanselman kwiinguqulelo kwi Istoic semihla ngemihla ukuba ndenziwe ndayazi indlela olulula ngayo uguqulelo. Ndacinga ukuba uHays ubamba ubuhle bendalo eMarcus. Ngandlela thile wayekho, kodwa wayekho ukukhetha ukubhala kakuhle-omnye umntu unokuthatha nje ngokulula ukungabinantsingiselo kwaye abe lililo. Indinike uxabiso olutsha kubugcisa bokuguqulela-kwaye lingakanani igumbi lokutolika kukho konke.
-Ukuba bekukho uguqulelo olunye bendiya uthando ukuyifunda bekuzakuba sekupheleni kukaPierre Hadot. Kwincwadi yakhe ebalaseleyo ICitadel yangaphakathi malunga noMarcus Aurelius kunye noStoicism, uHadot wenza iinguqulelo zakwesiqendu azicaphulayo- kodwa okubuhlungu kukuba wasweleka engapapasanga inguqulelo epheleleyo kaMarcus ukuze isetyenziswe ngokubanzi.
-Kwakukufunda uHadot ukuba ndiqale ndifumane inkcazo ecacileyo yoko akubiza ngokuba kukuguqula imiqobo ijonge ezantsi. Ngokucacileyo ndingafunda isicatshulwa sokuqala acaphula amaxesha amaninzi eHays, kodwa inguqulelo kaHadot yayihlukile, yayenza yacaca. Isihloko sokuqala zencwadi yam Ukuguqula Imiqobo Ijongise Ezantsi. Kwakufundwa kuphela Isichazi-magama seMizekeliso yaMhlanje Ndifumene i-Zen isithi, umqobo yindlela endikwazileyo ukuyidibanisa yonke ndize nencwadi.
Yonke into ihlala usuku olunye, lowo ukhumbulayo kunye nokukhunjulwa. Oko kuthetha into ekhethekileyo evela kumfana obuso bakhe usenokububona kwiingqekembe zamaRoma onokuzithenga kwi-Etsy.
-Kususela kuMarcus ndafunda ngubani uHeraclitus (UMarcus umcaphula kakhulu). Akukho mntu unyathela emlanjeni omnye kabini, ngomnye wemigca ayicaphulayo. Onjani wona umbono omuhle. Ndandiyithanda kakhulu kangangokuba xa ndandisekholejini ndongeza isicatshulwa esikhethekileyo seVeki kwiphephandaba labafundi-ukuze nje ndiyisebenzise.
-Emva kokuba ndifunde uMarcus, ndakhawuleza ndafunda u-Epictetus ( ILebell Ubugcisa bokuPhila inguqulelo ), emva koko nguSeneca Iileta ezivela eStoic , emva koko buyela ku Inguqulelo kaPenguin kaEpictetus , emva koko nguSeneca Ngokufutshane kobomi . Kube luhambo lweminyaka elishumi ngoku, kwaye ndiziva ngathi ndisekuqaleni kwayo. Okanye ubuncinci, kusekho okuninzi okuseleyo ekufuneka kwenziwe.
-Kuphambene kangakanani ukuba iphephancwadi likaMarcus lisinde kuthi, kunjalo ke iileta eziphakathi kwakhe notitshala wakhe wokubhala, uCornelius Fronto ? AmaStoyiki angatsho ukuba umsitho onje wawuyinto eyenzekileyo kodwa ndingathi sinethamsanqa elimangalisayo lokuba ithuba alikhange liwatshabalalise la maxwebhu kwaye lihluthe ubuntu kuwo.
-UMarcus uthetha ngaye iilogo —Ngamandla ombane wendalo yonke — ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Elo gama lalibonakala liqhelekile kum xa ndiqala ukulifunda. Emva koko ndenza unxibelelwano, uViktor Frankl, Isazi ngengqondo kunye nexhoba lokuQothulwa Kwesizwe wabiza isikolo sakhe seengqondo Unyango lweLogotherapy.
-Nangoku, bendibhidekile ukuba ithini iilogo wayenjalo. U-Hays-kunye nababhali abaninzi-basebenzise ukufana kwenja ebotshelelwe kwinqwelo ukucacisa unxibelelwano lwethu nelogo. Inqwelo (iilogo) iyahamba kwaye sitsalwa emva kwayo. Sinevila elincinci lokuhamba apha naphaya, kodwa hayi kakhulu.
-Ndicinga ukuba ndineminyaka eli-19 ubudala, ndiyalile le nto. Ukumiselwa kwangaphambili? Ngaba awukho inkululeko yokuzikhethela? Ndiyacela. Oko kwakuvakala kunqulo. Abantwana beekholeji bahlala betsalwa kukungakholelwa kuThixo ngenkululeko ngqo kunye nokuxhotyiswa kwayo. Kodwa njengokuba ndikhulile, ndiye ndaqala ukuqonda ukuba senziwe njani ngamathuba nangemikhosi engaphaya kolawulo lwethu. Kuyandibetha ke, ukuba ingxoxo-mpikiswano ayisiyiyo nokuba ngaba siyinja sibotshelelwe kwinqwelo ehambayo kodwa, ithini ixesha elide? Lingakanani igumbi ekufuneka siliphonononge kwaye simisele esethu isantya? Okuninzi? Kancinci? 
Lingakanani igumbi ekufuneka siliphonononge kwaye simisele esethu isantya?Ifoto yombhali
-Marcus's Ukucamngca bazaliswe kukuzigxeka. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule, nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukude kude. Kwakungekho nto yokuzikhupha, akukho ntlawulo yokuhlawula, akukho miba yokuzithemba evela kwityala okanye ukuzicekisa. Oku kugxeka eyakhayo .
-Kukho ipaseji nguMarcus apho athetha ngokuhlala ecaleni komntu onukayo, okrwada. Inokuba yayiziinyanga nje ezimbalwa emva kokuba ndiqale ndafunda ukuba bendikwindiza esuka eLong Beach isiya eNew York. Ndabe ndibambekile kwisitulo esiphakathi. Umntu owayekufutshane nam wayesoyikeka. Babenyanzela endaweni yam. Babesoyikisa. Ndabe ndibila. Ke le nto indibethileyo: Nokuba ndithetha into okanye ndiyayiyeka. Wahamba wonke umsindo. Ndabuyela kule bendiyenza. Mhlawumbi ndicinga ngalo mgca lonke ixesha ndikhwela inqwelomoya ngoku.
Njengesikhumbuzo sendoda kunye nemigaqo esencwadini, ndagqiba ukuthenga ibhastile emarmore kaMarcus oqoshwe ngo-1840 ohleli edesikeni apho ndibona khona yonke imihla. Mhlawumbi sesona siqwenga sobugcisa sibiza kakhulu esixabisa iidola ezingama-900. Kodwa ngenxa yezikhumbuzo endinikwe zona kunye nobukho bokuzola obukhe bakhona, kufanelekile yonke ipeni. Ukucinga ukuba zizizukulwana ezi-3 okanye ezi-4 zabantu abanokuba nayo le nto. Ukuba umntu uza kulufumana emva kokuba ndife.
-Kwiminyaka kamva, omnye wabafundi bam wadala kwaye wandithumela ezimbini Iibhasi eziprintiweyo ze-3D Bobabini uMarcus noSeneca abahleliyo kwilayibrari yam . Zitshiphu kakhulu kwaye zinobunzima obuncinci kakhulu kodwa zinefuthe elifanayo.
-Ndizimisele ukufunda yonke into endinokuyenza malunga noMarcus Aurelius. Ngexesha elinye, ndafumanisa iphepha elidala lezemfundo ocebisa ukuba ukubhalwa kukaMarcus kwakwenziwe kukukhotyokiswa yi-opiamu-kutheni enye into ibinokubhala phantsi, ukubonakaliswa kwe-cerebral malunga nokujikeleza kude emhlabeni kunye nokujonga izinto ezivela phezulu phezulu? Impendulo kungenxa yokuba lo ngumthambo weStoic obuyela umva kumawaka eminyaka (kwaye, enyanisweni, kuye kwaqwalaselwa ngoosomajukujuku amawaka eminyaka kamva). Zonke izinto abantu abazenzayo ukuba bahlole ii-hallucinogens, unokuzenza ngelixa ungangxamanga njengejaji. Kuthatha nje umsebenzi.
Ngokucacileyo ubeka imigangatho yakhe kwiNcwadi 10, uMarcus uziphakamisa wathi: Uthe tye. Ukuthozama. Ngqo. Ingqondo. Intsebenziswano. Andinamdla. Kwi iposti yebhlog ngo-2007 , Ndongeze oku kulandelayo: Uvelwano. Vula. Nkuthalo. Amabhongo.
-Ndabhala isiqwenga malunga nephulo elide likaPeter Thiel ukuziphindezela Gawker ebutsheni balo nyaka. Njengokuba bendibhala, umgca osuka kuMarcus ubuye ungxamile ubuya ezingontsini zememori yam: Eyona ndlela ingcono yokuziphindezela kukungabi njalo.
-Ngokubhala Istoic semihla ngemihla , Kuye kwafuneka ndihlolisise amazwi kaMarcus Aurelius (kunye nabaguquleli bakhe) ngeendlela endingazange ndazenza. Ndihlala ndiwuthanda umgca, Hayi indlela ezingenamsebenzi ngayo izinto esizifunayo ngothakazelelo. Ekufundweni kwam kokuqala, bendihlala ndicinga ukuba intle indlela athetha ngayo Ngomdla. Emva kokubonakalisa kamva, ndiye ndaqonda ukuba uHays / Aurelius bebesithi izinto zifunwa ngothakazelelo, zizinto ezinobuhle bazo.
Uyakwazi ukuqonda nokuqonda iimbekiselo zembali ezinzulu. Umzekelo, kwisicatshulwa esinye, uMarcus ubhala Ukubaleka impiriyali, elo bala lingacimekiyo. Ndiyazi, ngokucacileyo, ukuba yiyiphi impiriyali kunye ne-impiriyali ethethayo kodwa bekungekho kude kube xa abaninzi befunda kamva ukuba ndiqonde ukuba wayefuna ukubaleka imigibe yeofisi yakhe. Wayesithi: Ndimele ukuphepha ukutshintshwa nokonakaliswa yiofisi yam. Asingabo bonke abaphethe amandla olawulo, kodwa sonke sinokulisebenzisa eli cebiso.
-Ukuguqulela i- Istoic semihla ngemihla , umhleli wethu ubuze malunga nomgca apho uMarcus athetha ngokwaneleyo kobu bomi bumnandi, obuhlungu. Yeka iinkawu ngeenxa zonke! Ngaba uMarcus angaze ayibone inkawu, wabuza? Okanye ngaba ngumgca wale mihla? Ngokuqinisekileyo wayeya kuba! Ngapha koko, unyana wakhe we-psychopathic mhlawumbi wabulala iqela labo kwi-coliseum. UMarcus wayeyicaphukela le midlalo yomlwelwe kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo wayezokwazi inani elothusayo lezilwanyana zasendle zaseAfrika.
Enye into enomdla malunga noMarcus-ubungqina, ndicinga ukuba wayephila ngefilosofi yakhe. Wakhethwa ukuba abeke esihlalweni sobukhosi nguHadrian owabeka emgceni isicwangciso sobundlobongela esibandakanya uHadrian wamkela uAntoninus Pius osele ekhulile owathi wamkela uMarcus Aurelius. Xa uMarcus wenyuka waya esihlalweni sobukhosi, sathini isigqibo sakhe sokuqala? Wamisela umntakwabo-nyani uLucius Verus umlawuli ongumlingani. Wanikwa amandla angenamda, olawulo kwaye into yokuqala awayenzayo kukwabelana nomntu awayengenabudlelane naye kwezobuchwephesha? Obo bubukhulu .
Ingcebiso yakhe ngotshintsho iyamangalisa. Sifana namatye-asizuzi nto ngokunyuka kwaye singalahli nto ngokubuyela ezantsi.
-Ungazivumeli ukuba uphinde uviwe ukubamba malunga nobomi boluntu, nditsho nangeendlebe zakho! Ukhethe obu bomi, uyazixelela, kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba awufumani sikhalazo malunga nalo.
-Ndinethamsanqa ngokwaneleyo Udliwanondlebe noGregory Hays ngo 2007. Ndambuza ukuba yeyiphi eyona ndima ayithandayo. Wacaphula wathi: Hlalani nikhumbula ukuba kudlula ngokukhawuleza kangakanani na, kwaye zikhona, izinto zangoku, nezizayo. Ubukho buhamba budlule ngathi njengomlambo: i 'yintoni' ehlala iqukuqela, i 'kutheni' ineewaka ezahlukeneyo. Akukho nto izinzileyo, nditsho nokuba yintoni apha. Ukungapheli kwexesha elidlulileyo nelizayo kwikomkhulu eliphambi kwethu -umsantsa wobunzulu bawo esingenakububona. Kuya kufuneka ndivume ukuba ndiphose ubuqaqawuli belo xesha lokuqala, kodwa oko kunamathele kum ukusukela ngoko.
-Ubusazi loo Ambrose Bierce , umbhali wexesha leMfazwe yamandulo kunye noMark Twain owayephila ngexesha langoku, wayengumlandeli omkhulu wamaStoyike? Ngokucacileyo utatomkhulu noomakhulu bakhe babekhona ukusukela oko utata wakhe wabizwa ngegama UMarcus Aurelius UBierce kunye nomalume wakhe, ULucius I-Bierce (umntakwabo kaMarcus kunye no-emperor).
-Xa ndi Udliwanondlebe noRobert Greene ye Istoic semihla ngemihla Iwebhusayithi yeqabane, ndamangaliswa kukuva ukuba uyayithanda nesicatshulwa malunga nokubona inyama egcadiweyo kunye nezinye izitya phambi kwakho kwaye ngequbuliso waqonda: Le yintlanzi efileyo. Intaka efileyo. Ihagu efileyo. Njengokuba ebendichazela: Ndizamile ukuzisa loo nto ngokubhala kwam. Umzekelo, ukuyila kwakhona izinto ezinje ngamandla kunye nokulukuhla kunye nokubona ezona zinto zidlalayo endaweni yeentsomi ezibangqongileyo.
Ngelixesha lodliwanondlebe wandibonisa ikopi yakhe Ukucamngca kwaye wayekhumbula uhambo lwenkampu xa wayebhale onke amanqaku kumaphepha. Kwiqela labo wayephawule i-AF kwimarginalia, isishwankathelo se fati uthando -ukuya ukuthanda ikamva lomntu . Njengoko wayechaza umbono, Yeka ukunqwenela into eyenzekileyo, eyahlukileyo eyahlukileyo. Oko kukuphila ubomi bobuxoki.
Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokufunda nokukhokela ngumzekelo. Ndicinga ukuba yiyo loo nto ndiyithandile kakhulu incwadi kaMarcus-ebendibonisa (thina) into enokwenzeka. Njengokuba ebeka nje, akukho nto ikhuthazayo njengaxa isidima sibonakala kubantu abasingqongileyo, xa sityhafiswa nabo.
-Kwimfundo yam bendihlala ndilandela umthetho kaMarcus wokuya ngqo esihlalweni sobukrelekrele-esakho, umhlaba wonke, abamelwane bakho. Ukwabhala ukuba ukufunda ukulesa nokubhala kufuna ubuchule-kwaye ke nobugcisa bobomi. Kum, abantu abanjengoRobert Greene babeyinkosi kwaye ke nabantu abanjengoMarcus. Kuya kufuneka uye ngqo kwimithombo yolwazi kwaye uthathe oko unokukwenza kubo.
-Ngexesha lolunye lweengozi zakhe ezinobungozi kwaye ezisongelayo, uhambo olusezantsi koMlambo wokungabaza, uTeddy Roosevelt uphathe ikopi yakhe ye Ukucamngca . Ndingabulala ukutyhila ikopi yakhe! Ngaba wayehleli phantsi ebusuku afunde amaphepha ambalwa? Ngaba kukho amanqaku anomdla kwimida? Zeziphi iindinyana awayezithanda? Umbuzo wamaStoyike: Mangaphi amanye amadoda adumileyo okanye abalulekileyo amadoda nabafazi abahleli phantsi nekopi kaMarcus? Baphi na ke ngoku? Imkile kwaye ilityelwe kakhulu.
-Kwi-yam sebenza ngababhali abathengisa kakhulu kunye nokuyila kukho umgca omnye ovela kuMarcus endihlala ndilingwa ukuwucaphula: Amabhongo, wazikhumbuza ngokwakhe, athetha ukubopha intlalo-ntle yakho nakwabanye abantu xa bethetha okanye besenza… Ukuba nengqondo kuthetha ukuyibophelela kwizenzo zakho. Ukwenza umsebenzi olungileyo yeyona nto ibalulekileyo. Ukwamkelwa kunye nemivuzo-ezo zinto zongezwa nje. Ukuncamathela kakhulu kwiziphumo ongazilawuliyo? Leyo yindlela yokufumana usizi.
-Ngaphandle kwamalungelo akhe, uMarcus Aurelius wayenobomi obunzima. Umbhali-mbali waseRoma uCassius Dio Uye wacinga ukuba uMarcus akazange ahlangane nethamsanqa elimfaneleyo, kuba wayomelele emzimbeni kwaye wayebandakanyeka kwinkathazo yeengxaki phantse kulo lonke ulawulo lwakhe. Kodwa kuyo yonke le mizabalazo akazange anikezele. Ngumzekelo okhuthazayo kuthi ukuba sicinge namhlanje ukuba siyadinwa, sikhathazekile, okanye kufuneka sijongane nengxaki ethile.
-Kusuka kumaStoyike, ndafunda malunga nomxholo weCitadel yangaphakathi. Bakholelwa ukuba yile nqaba ekhusela umphefumlo wethu. Nangona sinokuba sesichengeni ngokwasemzimbeni, nangona sisenokuba sengozini yelishwa ngeendlela ezininzi, indawo yethu yangaphakathi ayinakungena. Njengoko uMarcus ebeka (ngokuphindaphindiweyo, enyanisweni), izinto azinakuchukumisa umphefumlo.
-Kunene emva konyulo luka-2008, u-I khumbula ukudibanisa Umzuzu ka-Obama onokufundiseka malunga nehlazo likaMfundisi uWright kunye nendlela owawubonisa ngayo umgaqo kaMarcus wokuguqula umqobo ujonge ezantsi. Njengoko u-Obama ebeka, eguqula imeko engalunganga kwiqonga elifanelekileyo lentetho yakhe ebalaseleyo ngobuhlanga, uya kuphulukana nethuba elibalulekileyo lobunkokeli. Yinto endizama ukuyicinga ngobomi bam njengomphathi nanjengoko ndiza kuba ngutata.
-Umthetho uBillichick uxelela abadlali bakhe : Yenza umsebenzi wakho. UMarcus uyenza icace into yokuba yintoni loo msebenzi: Uyintoni ubizo lwakho? Ukuze ube ngumntu olungileyo.
-UMarcus ngumbhali obalaseleyo, okwaziyo ukufumana ubuhle kwiindawo ezingaqhelekanga. Kwesinye isiqendu, uncoma umtsalane kunye nomtsalane wenkqubo yendalo, iindiza zokutya okuziinkozo ezivuthiweyo zigobele ezantsi, ibunzi eligobayo lengonyama, amagwebu evuza emlonyeni wengulube. Njengombhali, ndifunde okuninzi kobu buchule bakhe. Njengomntu, ndifunde ngakumbi. Imalunga nokukhangela ubungangamsha kuyo yonke indawo naphina.
-Ngexesha elinye uMarcus uzixelele ukuba makaphephe ubuhlobo bobuxoki ngazo zonke iindleko. Ndicinga ukuba ulungile, kodwa singayithatha inyathelo eliya phambili: Ukuba, endaweni yoko, sibuza malunga namaxesha esiye saxoka ngawo yethu abahlobo?
-UMarcus uhlala echaza indlela abalawuli abeza phambi kwakhe ababekhunjulwa ngayo kwiminyaka embalwa kamva. Kuye, oku kwakusisikhumbuzo sokuba nokuba angoyisa kangakanani, nokuba angayenza kangakanani intando yakhe emhlabeni, bekuya kufana nokwakha inqaba esantini-eza kucinywa kungekudala yimimoya yexesha. Kunjalo nakuthi.
-Kunomdla ukuba ungakanani Ukucamngca yenziwe ngeengcaphuno ezimfutshane kunye neendinyana ezivela kwabanye ababhali. Ngandlela-thile, ngokwenene Incwadi eqhelekileyo kaMarcus (kwaye undiphefumlele ukuba ndigcine eyam). Enye yeentandokazi zam nguMarcus ecaphula umgca olahlekileyo ovela kwi-Euripides: Akufanele unike iimeko amandla okuvusa umsindo, kuba abakhathali konke konke.
-Ndiye ndathetha kancinci malunga utyekelo lwam lokusebenza kakhulu nangokunyanzelwa yenza. UMarcus unesikhumbuzo esihle: Kwizenzo zakho, sukulibazisa. Kwiincoko zakho, musa ukudida. Kwiingcinga zakho, ungabhaduli. Emphefumlweni wakho, musa ukuba sisixekethile okanye ube ndlongondlongo. Ebomini bakho, musa ukuba konke malunga neshishini.
-UMarcus wayengomnye wababhali bokuqala ukuveza uluvo lwe cosmopolitanism -esithi ungummi wehlabathi, hayi iRoma yodwa. Yeyiphi ingcinga enomdla nenomdla… ucinga ukuba umsebenzi wakhe wawunjenge ummi wokuqala waseRoma.
-UMarcus wayenoxanduva oluninzi, njengabo babambe amandla olawulo. Wagweba amatyala, weva izibheno, wathumela umkhosi emfazweni, abalawuli abamiselweyo, uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali olwamkelweyo. Kuninzi ekhwele kukhetho kunye nezenzo zakhe. Wabhala esi sikhumbuzi kuye esichaza kakuhle uhlobo lomntu awayekulo: Ungaze ulubale uhambiso olufanelekileyo lomsebenzi wakho, nokuba uyabanda okanye uyatshisa, ugrogy okanye uphumle kakuhle, uyanyeliswa okanye uyanconywa, nokuba uyafa okanye ucinezelwe ngezinye iimfuno.
Kwincwadi yokuqala ka Ukucamngca , UMarcus uyabulela uRusticus ngokumfundisa ukuba afunde ngononophelo kwaye angoneliseki kukuqonda okungalunganga kwayo yonke, kwaye angavumelani ngokukhawuleza nabo banento eninzi yokuthetha malunga nento ethile. Sisikhumbuzo kuthi kweli hlabathi leendaba lixakekileyo ngamaxoki kunye nabaculi be-bullshit. Musa ukwaneliswa ngumbono ongaphezulu. Sukusebenza. Yazi.
UMarcus waziswa njani ngamaStoyike? Asiqinisekanga ncam kodwa siyazi ukuba ufumene ikopi yakhe ye-Epictetus evela kuRusticus (kwaye, enyanisweni, uRusticus usenokuba wamnika amanqaku akhe ngokuya kwiintetho zikaEpictetus). Inani le iincwadi zam endizithandayo beza kum bevela kubafundisi bam. Ngapha koko, ndaziswa ngamaStoyike ngu ukubuza uGqirha Drew ngengcebiso yencwadi . Ucebise bani? U-Epictetus.
-UMarcus ubhala athi, Musa ukulila ngale nto kwaye musa ukuphazamiseka. Ikhumbuza isiqubulo somnye umphathi welizwe, inkulumbuso yase-Bhritane u-Benjamin Disraeli: Ungaze ukhalaze, ungaze uchaze.
Kudala phambi kweengxoxo zale mihla zokuzithetha ngokwakho, uMarcus wayiqonda le nto: Ingqondo yakho iyakuthatha imeko yento ohlala ucinga ngayo.
Ngelinye ixesha, uMarcus uthi angaze enze nantoni na esinokuba nexhala kuyo inokuhlala 'ngasemva kweminyango evaliweyo.' Kulula ukuyithetha, kodwa kunzima ukuyenza. Ngubani ongayi kuba neentloni ukuba iakhawunti yakhe ye-imeyile iye yavuza okanye ukuba umlo neqabane lakhe wenziwa esidlangalaleni? Sonke senza izinto ngasese esingasoze sizenze phambi kwabanye abantu. Yeyiphi ingcinga elungileyo / uvavanyo lokuvavanya indlela esiziphethe ngayo ngaphambi kokuba siqale into ethile.
-Kwincwadi yesithandathu sifumana enye yezona zinto zikhuthazayo azinikayo uMarcus. Uthi, ngokusisiseko: Ukuba omnye umntu ukwenzile-oko kunokwenzeka ngabantu. Ukuba kunokwenzeka ngokwabantu, ngokuqinisekileyo ungayenza nawe.
-Ndifumene kule minyaka idlulileyo umona yimvakalelo enetyhefu . Sifuna ngokungazenzisiyo oko abanye banako side siphulukane nolonwabo lwezinto esele sinazo. UMarcus unika isisombululo: Musa ukubeka ingqondo yakho kwizinto ongenazo ... kodwa zibale iintsikelelo onazo kwaye ucinge ukuba ungazinqwenela kangakanani ukuba bezingezizo ezakho.
Ngokuphindaphindiweyo uMarcus uzilumkisa ukuba umsindo kunye nosizi kusebenza kuphela ekwenzeni iimeko ezimbi zibe mandundu. Ukucaphuka kuba umntu ekrwada kuwe ayithuthuzi-kuyaphazamisa. Ukuba lusizi kukuba ulahlekelwe yinto ayibuyisi, iyayibaxa imvakalelo yokulahleka. Kufana nomgaqo wokuqala wemingxunya: Xa ukunye, yeka ukumba.
-Xa ndandi kwi-podcast kaTim Ferriss ehlotyeni ndafunda ukuba wayenenye yeengcaphuno zam endizithandayo ezivela kuMarcus efakwe kwifriji yakhe: Xa ingqayi, ngokungenakuphepheka, yimeko, buyela kuwe ngokwakho, kwaye ungalahli isingqisho ngaphezulu kokuba unganceda. Uya kuba nokuqonda okungcono kokuvumelana ukuba uqhubeka ubuyela kuyo.
Yintoni ebuhlungu ngoMarcus, njengoko omnye umphengululi wabhala , yindlela ifilosofi yakhe-emalunga nokuzilawula, uxanduva, kunye nentlonipho kwabanye-eyathi yashiywa ngendlela engathandekiyo ngumnombo wobukumkani awawuthambisayo ekufeni kwakhe. Njengoko benditshilo, unyana kaMarcus owoyikekayo, sisikhumbuzo esibalulekileyo sokuba ayikhathali nokuba ulunge kangakanani emsebenzini wakho, ukuba awuyihoyi imisebenzi yakho ekhaya…
-Yile nto siyenzayo siyiphindaphinda, utshilo u-Aristotle, ke ngoko, ukugqwesa ayisosenzo kodwa ngumkhwa. AmaStoyike ongezelela ekubeni siyimveliso yeengcinga zethu (ezinje ngokuba ziingcinga zakho zesiqhelo, ziya kuba njalo ke nengqondo yengqondo yakho, yindlela uMarcus ayibeka ngayo).
-UMarcus uhlala ezikhuthaza ukuba abuyele kulo mzuzu wanamhlanje kwaye ajolise kwinto ephambi kwakhe. Olu luvo lokubonakala lubonakala ngathi luseMpuma kodwa kunjalo lusembindini weStoicism nayo. Bambelela kwimeko ekuyo, uyazixelela, kwaye abuze, Kutheni le nto inganyamezeleki? Kutheni ndingakwazi ukuyinyamezela? Uya kuba neentloni ukuphendula. Ewe.
-Ngaphakathi Ukucamngca Sifumana olona hlobo lokuzilolonga siluncedo kakhulu xa sifuna umbono: Yehlisa uluhlu lwabo baziva benomsindo ngento ethile: abona badumileyo, abona banelishwa, abona bantu bathiyiweyo, uninzi kakhulu: Iphi yonke loo nto ngoku? Umsi, uthuli, intsomi… okanye kwanentsomi. Ekugqibeleni, sonke siya kudlula kwaye silibaleke kancinci. Kufanele ukuba silonwabele eli xesha lifutshane sinalo emhlabeni-singabi ngamakhoboka eemvakalelo ezisenza sibe lusizi kwaye singoneliseki.
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Ndizokushiya nesifundo esinye sokugqibela, enyanisweni, sisifundo esikhethe ukusivala Istoic semihla ngemihla nge. Ngokucacileyo uMarcus wayengumfundi omkhulu, wawathatha ngokucacileyo amanqaku akhutshelweyo kwaye wafunda nzulu ngefilosofi. Ukanti wathatha inyathelo elingaqhelekanga lokuzikhumbuza ukuba akubeke ecaleni oko.
Yeka ukubhadula! ubhale. Akunakufane ufunde iincwadi zakho zamanqaku, okanye iimbali zamandulo, okanye iingqokelela oziqokelele ukuzonwabela ebudaleni bakho. Yixakeke yinjongo yobomi, ulahle kude amathemba alambathayo, sebenza kuhlangulo lwakho — ukuba uzikhathalele kwaphela-kwaye ukwenze ngelixesha unako.
Ngexesha elithile, kufuneka siyeke ukufunda, sibeke lonke ingcebiso kuMarcus kunye ezinye izitokhwe ecaleni kwaye uthathe inyathelo. Ukuze, njengoko uSeneca ebeka, amagama aba yimisebenzi.
Yiloo nto ndizamile ukuyenza kule minyaka ili-10 idlulileyo. Ukutshintsha phakathi kokufunda kunye nokwenza. Andifezekanga kuyo. Andikho kude njengokuba ndingathanda ukuba njalo. Kodwa ndenza inkqubela.
Ndiyathemba ukuba nawe unjalo.
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