Uxolo, mfondini ..Ifoto: Getty Images
Alikho elinye igama ekulula ukulithetha kunye nokujongela phantsi kwangaxeshanye 'uxolo'. Kuba xa sisithi uxolo kwaye silandele ngokukhawuleza ngo 'kodwa' okanye 'nangona kunjalo' okanye naziphi na ezinye iinguqulelo okanye amabanga emfundo njengamabanjwa abotshelelwe kunye, akuselulo uxolelo olusuka entliziyweni. Endaweni yoko iba sisizathu sokuziphatha gwenxa kunye nokufumba iintlungu ezingakumbi nakweyiphi na intlungu esele yenziwe.
Kufana nokunikela ngokuxhawula isandla somntu kwaye usitsale ngomzuzu wokugqibela. Umamkeli wesicelo sethu sokucela uxolo ushiyekile kungekuphela nje okwenziwe kakubi kodwa ekhohlisiwe. Akukho kakhulu ukuxolisa kuneqela lamagama alula angacacanga.
Bangaphi kuthi abathe into enje,
Ndiyaxolisa ukuba ndilibele isidlo sangokuhlwa, sithandwa. Kungenxa nje yokuba ndinokuninzi emsebenzini andinakukwazi ukubaleka.
Oku akuluceli uxolo kunentetho engagungqiyo, umsebenzi ubaluleke ngaphezu kokuchitha ixesha nawe naxa uye kumzamo wokulungiselela ukutya. Ngamanye amagama, ndiwukhathalele kakhulu umsebenzi kunobuhlobo bethu.
Kubaluleke kangakanani kwaye kunamandla okuthetha,
Ndiyaxolisa ndishiywe lixesha. Inokuba bekucaphukisa wena, uzibuza ukuba ndiphi xa uye kuwo wonke lo mzamo usenza isidlo sangokuhlwa.
Okubi nangakumbi, ngokunikela ndiyaxolisa ukuba ukhathazekile kangangokuba ndishiywe lixesha kodwa khange ndikwazi ukunceda ayikokuxolisa konke konke.
Ke kutheni uxolisa kunzima kangaka?
Kuzo zonke i-bluster kunye ne-bravado yethu, amadoda zizidalwa ezingakhuselekanga. Ukunyaniseka ukuthi uxolo kunokuziva kuveza-koyikisa nkqu-sizishiya sivulekile ukuba sihlasele okanye sibek 'ityala. Ukuvuma ukusilela kwethu kwaye sinikezele ngesivumelwano kwabo sibathobileyo kungaziva ngathi abanamandla, njengokuveza ubuthathaka. Ungaze ucele uxolo, ungaze uchaze ukuba imantra ininzi kakhulu kuthi esiphila kuyo. Ayisincedi kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayincedi ubudlelwane bethu nabanye abantu.
Asifanele silibale ukuba ukucela uxolo kufuna inkalipho- eyona nto uninzi lwabantu lunqwenela ukuyenza. Ukuba sesichengeni kokuxolisa ngokunyanisekileyo kuvula into ebalulekileyo phakathi kwakho nomntu omonileyo. Ukuxolisa kwethu kumema omnye umntu ukuba azothetha phandle malunga nendlela esiziphethe ngayo. Xa ndingazange ndive kuwe andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiza kufumana ixesha elingalunganga, banokuthi. Enkosi ngokucela uxolo. Ngoku ndiyazi ukuba yayingenguye. Ke uthathe ntoni ixesha elide kangaka?
Ngoku incoko iya isiba ngophando kunye nobuchule kunokuba isole ikhusele. Ukuxolisa kwethu kuyasidibanisa nomntu esimyekile. Kusisondeza kunye.
Amanyathelo amathathu okucela uxolo olusebenzayo:
Inyathelo 1. Bonakalisa ukuzisola: Ndiyaxolisa okanye ndiyaxolisa zezona ndlela zinentsingiselo zokubonisa ukuzisola. Xa uthetha la magama kufuneka abe nentsingiselo kwaye anyaniseke. Nantoni na eyenye ayikokuxolisa koko sisizathu.
Inyathelo 2. Thatha uxanduva: emva kokuvakalisa ukuzisola kubalulekile ukucinga ukuba izenzo zakho zibe nefuthe elingakanani komnye umntu kunye nendlela ezibenze baziziva ngayo. Kufuneka uzive unomsindo ngakum okanye ukuba bendinguwe bendizakuziva ndidanile yilento ndiyenzileyo.
Inyathelo 3 Lungisa. Kubalulekile ukuba ayingawo amagama angenantsingiselo, kuya kufuneka wenze isindululo sakho okanye uxolo luza kuqala. Ndingenza ntoni ngoku ukwenza izinto kuwe? Kuthekani ukuba ndenza isidlo sangokuhlwa ngomso ukulungiselela indawo yam yokufika ebusuku?
Ekugqibeleni , usenokuthi into ocele uxolo ngayo ayisoze iphinde yenzeke —nokuba isithembiso esikhulu eso. Ukuqinisekisa abo boniweyo ukuba siza kwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukungayiphindi loo ntlungu kuyinyani. Sisenokuzimisela ukuba singaze sisuse isandla sethu kude nakwisandla esikufutshane sokuphinda sibambe isandla kwakhona, kodwa i-prankster yolutsha ngaphakathi kwethu ayinakuze iqinisekise ngokuqinisekileyo.
