Kumva nje kwemini yangeCawa, unjingalwazi waseyunivesithi oneminyaka engama-35 waseNew York wavala ucango lwe-ofisi yakhe wahlala phantsi wathetha ngendlela afumanisa ngayo ukuba unokuba ne-orgasms ezininzi, okanye ubuncinci into eqinisekileyo ukuba uziva ngathi. Mde ngeenwele ezimdaka ezimhlophe ezimdaka kunye namehlo aluhlaza, wayenxibe iJap ibhulukhwe kunye nepolo yehempe enemikhono emide. Wacela ukuba ndingashicileli igama lakhe; akafuni ukuba abafundi bakhe bafunde ngobomi bakhe bezesondo. Ke siya kumbiza ngokuba nguNjingalwazi.
Kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo, watsho, wayehambisa indlu evela kumhlobo wakhe. Ufumene incwadi eshalofini ebizwa ngokuba yiMulti-Orgasmic Man nguMantak Chia.
Ndiyabazi abantu basetyhini abanee-orgasms ezintandathu zilandelelana, utshilo uNjingalwazi. Ihlala iyinto endiyixabisileyo kakhulu-bendiya kuba ngathi, 'Wow!' Kukujika-tshintsha ngendlela eyoyikekayo, kwaye into endandingayicingi ukuba inokwenzeka emadodeni. Ndacinga ukuba sasifakwe iintambo ngokwahlukileyo. Kwaye, i-orgasm yayithetha ukunyuka.
Wayifunda le ncwadi kuba wayefuna Wow!
Ndifuna ukonwaba oko, utshilo. Kwaye ndacinga ukuba kunokuba yindlela yokuqonda ngcono abantu basetyhini, kunye nokuphucula indlela enihlangana ngayo.
Uye wathi wayenengxaki ngamanye amaxesha kunye nokufikelela kuvuthondaba kwakamsinya, kwaye wayenethemba lokuba ubuchule bunokunceda.
Kudala, ndize emva kwemizuzu embalwa, utshilo. Kwakungathi, 'Whup! Uxolo! ’Kwaye eli bhinqa ndicinga ngalo lalinjengokuthi,‘ Uck! ’- laze landiqhwaba ngempama emqolo. Yayiyimpama enobuhlobo ngasemva, kwaye sahleka nje ngayo. Kodwa kwixesha elizayo andizanga ngokukhawuleza.
Wayifunda lencwadi kwaye waqala ukuthatha iiklasi ezahlukeneyo zokucamngca ngeTao, kubandakanya enye ebizwa ngokuba yiSex Kung Fu, apho wafunda khona ukugcina isidoda. Wayeziqhelanisa neminyaka emibini kwaye kutshanje wayekwazi ukufumana i-orgasm yakhe yokuqala apho angakhange akhuphe khona.
Kwakungokwabelana ngesondo kunye nentombi yam yangaphambili, utshilo. Ndazi ukuba sasithi ndlela-ntle, kodwa ngokungazi ndandingafuni kuthi ndlela-ntle. Ndifuna ukuba ihlale. Kwaye ndahlala ixesha elide. Ndicinga ukuba senze uthando iyure enye enesiqingatha. Kwaye ke ndafumana obu bushushu bunyuka ngomqolo. Bendicinga, ‘Hayi, yima-kwenzeka enye into apha!’ Ndicinga ukuba iyafana naleyo banayo abafazi.
Kutheni engakhange akhuphe ejaculate ekugqibeleni?
Abasetyhini kufuneka baqonde ukuba akubalulekanga ukuba indoda iyachama okanye hayi, utshilo. Banolu luvo lokuba benze kakuhle xa umntu ephuma. Ewe, banokuyeka oko ngoku.
Emva kokuhlukana ngesondo, wathi wayejolise ekulimeni kwakhe yedwa.
Ndiyathanda ukukhupha! wathi, Kodwa ngoku ngumdlalo: Ndingahlala ixesha elingakanani?
Inguqulelo ethe kratya yokubamba amadlozi ngamanye amaxesha ibizwa ngokuba yi-injaculation -igama lobuchwephesha elichaza xa umntu etsala isidoda sakhe emzimbeni wakhe kwaye, ngokweemfundiso zeTaoist, ingena egazini lakhe. Uninzi lwamadoda endikhe ndathetha nawo khange lubange ukuba ngenene benzakalisile; bathe baqhuba ngokugcina amadlozi.
Ngayiphi na imeko, uNjingalwazi wathi ukulungele ukuthatha ngaphezulu.
Enye yeengcinga zam bekusoloko kukuthandana nabafazi ababini. Oko kuvakala kuyinto embi kakhulu! uthe.
Mhlawumbi ayothusi into yokuba aqale ukubona umfazi ovela kwiklasi yakhe. Uthe uyayithanda le mvo mithathu, naye.
Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ngendandinexhala elingakumbi: ‘Ngaba ndiyenza ngokuchanekileyo? Ndingenza ntoni? Bathanda ntoni abafazi? Ngaba baya kwenza uthando omnye komnye? ’Konke oko. Ngoku ndinamandla am okuhlala. Ndingayivumela yenzeke, utshilo.
Phakathi kweefolokhwe zamaqanda abhakiweyo eCafé Gitane kwisitalato iMott, utitshala oneminyaka engama-29 ubudala we-yoga kunye nomzobi wegraphic undixelele ukuba, kwinyanga ephelileyo, isini sikaTantric siguqule ubudlelwane bakhe nentombi yakhe kangangeminyaka emibini. Kwaye hayi ngendlela elungileyo.
Wayeneenwele ezimdaka ngombala, amehlo amdaka kunye nokushiyeka okuncinci phakathi kwamazinyo akhe angaphambili, kwaye wayenxibe ihempe eluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka enomkhono osongelwe ngaphezulu kwetato enepateni yedayimane ejikeleze ingalo yakhe. Siza kumbiza ngokuba nguAron.
Kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, wayefunda ezinye iincwadi kwaye ngokufutshane wenza izifundo kunye nenkosi yamaTao esixekweni, kodwa kwakungekho ziqhushumbisi.
Kwakungekho nesondo, watsho. Wayefana, 'Funda oku kucamngca kunye nokucamngca.' Besihambisa amandla phezulu nasezantsi emqolo. Phezulu phantsi, phezulu naphantsi. Ngelo xesha ndandithanda, 'Ndifuna ukuya kwizinto ezintle zokudlala.'
Malunga nenyanga edlulileyo, wafumana indlela emfutshane.
Umhlobo wam waya kwindibano yosuku olunye kunye notitshala ogama linguCarla, wathi, kwaye wayefana, 'Ndifunde ubuchule kwaye bayasebenza kwaye ngamantongomane!' Kwaye kubomi bam besini, bekukho ukusikelwa umda okuninzi. Ndifuna ukuya nzulu neqabane lam. Nzulu ngam. Ukujongwa ngamava omzimba, kumanqanaba amaninzi ahlukeneyo.
Ke ubhukishe iseshoni yabucala noCarla, ozichaza njengoTantra Titshala, Umqeqeshi wothando kunye nesiKhokelo sobudlelwane. Iseshoni yayisendlwini yakhe eQueens. Ixabiso laliyi- $ 300 ngeyure. Imali echithe kakuhle, utshilo uAron.
I-semen-hoarders yanamhlanje inokulandelela iingcambu zabo kwizithethe ezibini: I-Tantra isetyenziselwa ukuchaza iindlela zesondo eziphuma kwisithethe samaNdiya amaHindu; Izenzo zesondo zeTao zivela eChina. Ulawulo lobuchwephesha yinto ebalulekileyo kuzo zombini. U-Anton, umhlohli we-Taoist eNew York oye wafunda ubuchule be-Taoist kunye ne-Tantric, uthe, Iindlela zobuTao zenze ubuchwephesha bobuchwephesha bokulawula ulawulo lwe-ejaculatory. Kodwa ukuba yinkosi engeyiyo i-ejaculator kunokuthatha iminyaka emibini. Amadoda afana noAron afuna ukuya kwizinto ezintle ngokukhawuleza aphelelwa ngumonde kwaye atshintshele eTantra. Yeyiphi indlela awaphela ngayo eflethini likaCarla.
Xa wathi mandikhulule iimpahla zam, ndandifana, 'Oo, Thixo wam,' utshilo. Ndaziva ngathi ndiyinkwenkwana eneminyaka emithathu ubudala ngequbuliso ihamba ze phambi kweklasi yonke yebanga lokuqala. Kwaye womelele kwaye unamandla, kwaye yeyona nto yoyikisayo: ndihamba ze phambi kwalo mfazi uyayazi le nto. Ngubani ohlala oku.
Kodwa wahamba nayo, kwaye kungekudala waba nohlobo lonyango lwengqondo ze.
Siye safumana enye ye-shit ekrwada kangangokuba andinakuze ndifumane unyango, okanye bekuya kuthatha iminyaka, utshilo. Ndiye ndazifunda ezi ndlela zokuphefumla kunye neendlela zokuhamba kwaye ndaqala ukudlala ngayo. '
Nayo ?
Ewe, watsho. Amehlo akhe athe ntsho wajonga phambili wathoba ilizwi. Ndine-ejaculation, kodwa kwathatha iiyure ezimbini. Kuqala ndandiphuma kancinci, kwaye ndandifana, 'Ngoku lixesha lokuba ndiphume apha,' uyazi? Kwaye wayefana, 'Ubunyanisekile kwaye ubuthathaka kwaye ubumnandi kwaye womelele, kwaye ungumntu okhethekileyo, kwaye uphume uye kubona ukuba ungazibandakanya neqabane lakho. Yizame okwethutyana-kwaye ukuba awukwazi, phuma uye ufumane umntu oza kuthi.
Khange akwazi ukufumana intombi yakhe inomdla kuphononongo lwayo lweTantric, kwaye ngaphezulu koko ufuna ukulala ngesondo kube kanye ngeveki.
Iba ngumtsalane, utshilo. Ukunyaniseka-kuba uye waba lihlwempu. Kwaye loo ntswelo ichaphazela unxibelelwano. Andilufumani unxibelelwano endilulangazelelayo rhoqo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kanye ngeveki kufana nokuthi, 'Oo, iintsuku ezisixhenxe zidlulile okoko ndinayo le nto.' Wayekhangeleka elusizi.
Uya kuba ne-orgasm, kwaye emva koko uya kuba ngathi, 'Ngaba ugqibile okwangoku? Yintoni isihogo esingalunganga? Yintoni engalunganga? Kutheni ungezi? Ndicela ume nayo yonke le nto? '
Ke ebesenza into eninzi yokuziqhelanisa.
Xa ufumana ulawulo, ufika kwinqanaba apho uqhuba khona amandla anyusa umqolo, utshilo. Uziva unciphiso oluncinci, kodwa akukho nto iphumayo. Ndizifumene apho amaxesha amaninzi kwinyanga ephelileyo.
UMichael, umlawuli wezobugcisa oneminyaka engama-29 ubudala kunye nomfundisi-ntsapho woyilo, uthathe ikhefu kwimvakwemini yangoLwesibini eDean naseDeLuca kwiDyunivesithi Indawo ukuze athethe ngendlela ayifumene ngayo ngesondo iTantric ngesondo. Wayenamehlo aluhlaza amile okwe-almond, amabala amade kunye neenwele ezinde ezimdaka. Uthe ebengazi kwanto malunga nezenzo zesondo zaseMpuma xa wayedibana nomfazi ophelileyo ehlotyeni ngexesha lokufundisisa ngeeyure ezimbini nabanye abantu abamalunga ne-200 ngaphakathi kweTempile ka-Ishtar eBurning Man, ukubakho kwamagcisa ngonyaka kunye abafuna idessert yeNevada.
Saphela entlango, kwaye yayiyeyona isondo inamandla. Kwakungaphandle komzimba, utshilo. Ukuphefumla kwethu ngandlela thile kwakulungile. Xa uqala ukusebenzisa oko kuphefumla, kuyamangalisa. Umzimba wam wonke uye wakhaphu-khaphu. Yonke ingqwalaselo yathatyathwa kumbindi wam ophakathi. Ndandinalo mzuzu apho ndakhutshwa ngaphandle kwentloko yam.
Wayengekho kwiziyobisi.
Ixesha litsaliwe, utshilo. Andinakukuxelela ukuba sabelana ngesondo ixesha elingakanani; Ndingathi mhlawumbi iiyure ezimbini.
Ndabuza igama lakhe.
Une blush kwaye ushwabanise ibunzi.
Kwakungekho sithuba samagama, utshilo. Sobabini sasicocekile 'Ewe!'
Emuva edolophini, wathatha iworkshop yesini esineeyure ezisixhenxe kwiZiko elivulekileyo laseNew York, apho wadibana neqabane lokuziqhelanisa, awamchaza njengohlobo lukaIsabella Rosellini. Babeziqhelisa endaweni yakhe.
Sabelana ngesondo phantse kwimfashini yocweyo, utshilo. Kwakungafani nokuthi, 'Ndiza kukrazula iimpahla zakho ngokukhawuleza xa ufika ekhaya.' Kwakumnandi kwaye kuhlangene, kodwa emva kwexesha kwakunjengokuthi, 'Ewe, oku kusemthethweni kwaye ndifuna ubudlelwane. '
Kwaye wayenomdla wokusebenzisa ulwazi lwakhe olutsha.
Bendihlala ndilahleka kwesi sithuba 'Wooh! Mfazi! ' uthe. Ndandidla ngokuza ngokukhawuleza. Kutheni ndize ngokukhawuleza? Jonga zonke izinto endizenzileyo ukulala naye! Kutheni ndingafuni ukuhlala ndilala ixesha elide? Ndandibaleka ntoni?
NgeTantra, ujongene nezinto. Inendlela yokuthetha nentliziyo yakho egqithisa ngokupheleleyo yonke le nto yenzekayo apha, utshilo, ewangawangisa izandla zakhe kwizangqa ezijikeleze iindlebe zakhe.
Emva kokuba egqibile ukwenza uqeqesho kunye no-Isabella, waqaphela ukuba wayehlala nje ngokubanzi ngalo mzuzu. Kwakungekho nje ngesondo, nangona isondo sasilungile, naso. Kutshanje, wayenento yobusuku obunye e-Paramount Hotel kunye nebhinqa awalichaza njengentombazana enesinxibo esimangalisayo esivela eChicago awayesazi ngeeyure nje ezimbalwa.
Bendingagcini amanqaku, utshilo. Andizibali ii-orgasms. Ngokuqinisekileyo zazikho iincopho; kwabakho amaza notshintsho lwethafa. Ndenza ukuphefumla kwecobra, apho uphefumla ngokungqongqo ngomlomo wakho ngokuchasene nempumlo. Wayelungile ethangeni lam, kwaye sikwazile ukujongana ngokwenene emehlweni. Wayengazi ukuba sinomzuzu weTantric. Ndathi, ‘Cothoza umzuzwana. Apha. Ngaba loo nto iyaziva ilungile? ’Kwaye wayefana,‘ Wooh! ’Kwakumnandi! Kwakungafani nokuthi, 'Masime okomzuzwana kwaye sixoxe ngento yokuba sizokwabelana ngesondo ngeTantric.' Kwakungafani nokuthi, 'Ngaba uyafuna ukubeka iintyatyambo ecaleni kwebhedi ukuze ndikhunjulwe uthixokazi wenzala? 'Okanye,' Masigcwalise isitya samanzi ukuze sikwazi ukujonga sobabini. '
UAlex uphume ngaphandle kweofisi yakhe ngaphandle kweWall Street. Wayenobuso obunomtsalane, obunemilenze kunye neendlebe ze-wing-nut, kwaye wayenxibe isuti emnyama, ihempe yelokhwe emfusa, iikawusi ezimfusa, izihlangu ezinemikhono kwaye kungekho thayi. Uthe uneminyaka engama-30 kwaye uhlala nentombi yakhe yonyaka onesiqingatha ePark Slope. Umama wakhe ngugqirha wamandla eLondon, owawuchaza indlela aphela ngayo kwaye mhlawumbi iisokisi ezimfusa. Wayengafuni ukubalekela kuye nabani na ovela eofisini yakhe, ke sathatha iisaladi saya kwiPier 17.
Uthe waqala wakhubeka kwingcamango ye-orgasms yamadoda xa efuna ulwazi kwiWebhu malunga neendlela zokucamngca ngeTao ezinje ngeTai Chi kunye neChi Kung.
Ndandinomdla ngumbono wokuba ndinokuba ne-orgasms ezininzi okoko ndithanda, utshilo. Wathatha isemina. Wayeziqhelanisa neendlela zokuphefumla nokucamngca iinyanga ezine. I-orgasm yakhe yokuqala engeyiyo i-ejaculatory yayingeyiyo le nto wayeyilindele.
Ngethuba lokuqala, ndasasaza amandla kwaye ndaba ne-orgasm ngolwimi lwam, utshilo. Kwakungathi kukuqhushumba, ngokungathi iiPop Rocks zigalelwe elulwimini lwam, njengokuqhushumba kolonwabo. Ndacaca gca ukuba ndenza into engekho kwitshathi. Bendibhuza ngamandla.
Le nto uyenzayo kukolula i-millisecond ngaphambi kokuba ukhuphe i-ejaculate kwaye uyigcine kwaye uyayandisa, utshilo. Ke unayo i-orgasm, kodwa awuchazi. Kwaye emva koko unokwakha kwakhona kwaye uqhubeke uye phezulu ixesha ngalinye.
NjengoNjingalwazi, uAaron noMichael, uAlex uthe amatyeli aliqela ukuba ayisiyiyo kuphela imilinganiselo ephakamileyo yezesondo ayilandeleyo, nokuba ujonge ulwalamano kunye nokomoya.
Ndicinga ukuba abafana bayaqonda ukuba kukho okungakumbi kunokwabelana ngesondo kunale mizuzu mincinci yemizuzu emithathu, utshilo uJudy Kuriansky, umbhali Isikhokelo esigqibeleleyo se-Idiot kwiTantric Sex. Inokuhlala ixesha elide, enokuthi ikhokelele kwinzuzo enkulu kubo nakwabafazi. Abafana baya bethandana ngakumbi kwaye ngakumbi ngokomoya kwaye bayayiqonda le nto ipholile endaweni yokuba i-goofy.
Ndicinga ukuba amadoda afuna ukulawula ngaphezulu ukunyuka kwawo, utshilo uSharna Striar, ugqirha wezesondo eManhattan othi ngamanye amaxesha afundise imigaqo esisiseko yeTantric kunye neTaoist. Amadoda afuna ukuba ngabathandi abakhulu. Akunjalo nje ngokuba nokulungiswa kakuhle; ayisiyiyo malunga 'nokuhla' kwakhona. Inene malunga 'nokuqhubeka' neqabane lakho ngendlela esondeleleneyo kunye neenkanuko.
Ndicinga ukuba athetha ngantoni la madoda yile nto ibenza bazive benolwazi ngakumbi. Amadoda afuna ukuziva enobuchule, kulawulo namandla, utshilo uGqirha Frederick Woolverton, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo kunye nomlawuli we-Village Institute for Psychotherapy.
Ngaba ucinga ukuba bakwasebenzisa ezi zinto ukufuna ukusondelelana namaqabane abo?
Abasetyhini banomdla kakhulu ngokusondeleyo kunamadoda, utshilo. Oku kubonisiwe kum amaxesha amaninzi. Kodwa ngaphandle kwayo yonke into, amadoda alangazelela ukusondelelana. Ingxaki kukuba, xa beyifumana, abazi ukuba mabenze ntoni ngayo. Ubundlobongela, ngelixa unqwenelekayo, buba sisongelo, kwaye amadoda angamadoda kufuneka afumane indlela yokuphuma kolo ngquzulwano.
Nokuba isondo le-Tantric alisombululi ingxaki yokusondelelana kwendoda, kubonakala ngathi kwenza ukuba ukungabikho kolwalamano olusondeleyo kube nokunyamezeleka.
Ndicinga ukuba uninzi lwabafana, ukuphulula amalungu esini kufana nokuthi, 'Hlamba amazinyo akho, uhlambe iinwele zakho, jerk off, uye emsebenzini, utshilo u-Aaron. Ndicinga ukuba isondo esichazayo singaqala ukuziva ngaloo ndlela. Ndiyazi ukuba inam. Ukungaziva ngathi kulungile. Mhlawumbi ungabinayo ne-ejaculate- okanye ukuba uyayenza, ukuyizisa ngokwaneleyo ukuze ubhabhe kwaye ugungqise ngokuchaseneyo nokuziva ngathi, 'Kulungile, bamba itawuli.'
Kwaye mhlawumbi, ngaphandle komzuzu obalaseleyo, ayisiyonto yesini kuphela eyandisiweyo.
Xa ungadluli, kunzima ukuvala, utshilo uMichael. Kodwa intle. Ukuba ungangeni ejaculate emva koko uvuke uye kuhamba naye emva-oko yeyona nto imnandi kakhulu onokuyenza. Isixeko sifile. Uphumile, uyabaleka ujikeleze le gridi, kwaye ulapha nje, umqhubi wombane. Ungabambelela kuye kwaye uzive uxhulumene ngokwenene.
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