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Ukuba ndibuyela emva ngexesha, kodwa ndinokwenza into enye kuphela, andizukuqhatha kwimarike yemasheya, ndizingele kakhulu, okanye ndibulale uHitler. Ndingazinika nje amagama ambalwa eengcebiso.
Ezinye zezi zinto zindithathe ixesha elide kakhulu ukuba ndifunde- kwaye nangona ndinqwenela ukuba ndizifunde ngokukhawuleza, ndinombulelo kuba ndikwazile ukuzifunda konke konke. Kwaye ndabafunda ngoncedo lwabahlobo, ootitshala kunye nabacebisi abadala, abanobulumko kunye namava kunam.
Ngelishwa asinakukwazi ukuhamba ixesha, kodwa into esinokuyenza kukufunda kwabanye, nto leyo isakhawuleza kakhulu kunokuzama ukuzifumanela yonke into. Nazi iibhombu zolwazi ezingama-40 ezindise kude, kukude kakhulu ukuba ndizifunde.
1. Iitalente zendalo ubukhulu becala ziyintsomi
Ukuba sele ulungile kwinto ethile xa abantu badibana nawe, baya kuthatha nje ukuba ubusoloko ukhona, kodwa ababoni iminyaka yokusebenza eyangena kuyo. Ngaba ucinga ukuba iTiger Woods yindalo kwigalufa? Utata wakhe waqala ukumfundisa ukudlala igalufa xa wayenonyaka ubudala. Uninzi lwezinto esizicingayo njengetalente yendalo ngokwenene ziziphumo zokuqalisa ukuziqhelanisa kwangethuba, njengoTiger Woods. Ziqhelanise nokubetha italente yendalo, ngalo lonke ixesha.
2.Ukufumana into entle, kufuneka uyithande inkqubo
Abantu abafumana ukutyikitya iingoma ngabo bonwabele isikali sokucula kunye nokwenza umthambo wokufudumala. Abantu abalunge kakhulu kwi-basketball ngabo banandipha ukwenza i-dribbling kunye ne-layup drill. Abanini bamashishini abaphumeleleyo kwi-Intanethi abayonwabeli nje ngokwenza imali; bayakonwabela ukwenza izinto ezinje ngokubhala amanqaku okanye ukulawula imikhankaso yentengiso.
Wonke umntu ufuna isiphumo, kodwa ukuze ukhuthazeke ukuba usebenzele kuso, imihla ngemihla, kuya kufuneka ufunde ukonwaba kwinkqubo.
3.Ukungakhathaleli kunye nokuba nethemba kungazisombulula zombini, ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo
Ukuba awunambeko kakhulu, uya kuzoyikisa ngezinto ozizamayo, uxhomeke kakhulu ekusileleni okudlulileyo, kwaye akuyi kuba mnandi ukubakho. Ukuba uqinisekile kakhulu, uya kuzithemba kakhulu, usilele ukuqikelela ukuba izicwangciso zakho zinokungahambi kakuhle njani, kwaye uhlale uzivumela ukuba usilele kusilelo lwakho, ngaphandle kokufunda kubo.
Kungcono ukuba nethemba, kodwa ujonge injongo kunye nenyani. Lindela kwangaphambili ukuba izinto zingahamba gwenxa njani, kwaye wenze izicwangciso zokulindela iimeko ezinokwenzeka. Hlalutya ukusilela kwakho kwaye ufunde kuzo, ngaphandle kokuzibetha.
4. Ungaze ugxothe izinto ongaziqondiyo
Ukuba umntu uthi andiqondi ukuba umntu angamthanda njani u-X, into abaqhele ukuyithetha ngu-X bubudenge. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukusilela kwakho kokuqonda kukusilela kwakho? Nangaliphi na ixesha ufumanisa ukuba uyayiyeka into ongayiqondiyo, yenza umgudu wokuyiqonda endaweni yoko. Nangaliphi na ixesha ubuza umbuzo ongathandabuzekiyo ongayazi impendulo kuwo, zama ukuwubuza njengombuzo oqhelekileyo endaweni yoko.
5. Khululeka ungabinalo uluvo
Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuthethelela izimvo zakho, kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into ebalulekileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungabeka uphando oluninzi kuyo. Rhoqo, siziva sinyanzelekile ukuba sibe nembono ngesihloko ngasinye esibekwe phambi kwethu. Musa. Ukuba umntu ukubuza uluvo lwakho malunga nesihloko ongakhange ucinge ngaso ngaphambili, musa ukuyenza loo ndawo- kodwa uvume ukuba awukacingi ngayo okwangoku, ugcina amandla okwenza uluvo olunolwazi emveno kwexesha.
6. Unezinto ezininzi kakhulu onokuthi uzinike. Zilinganise ngononophelo.
Yonke into oyikhathaleleyo isebenzisa ezinye unikezelo olulinganiselweyo lwamandla engqondo. Uninzi lwabantu abanamabhongo okanye abanolwazelelelo ngokwasentlalweni bayasilela ukukuqonda oku- bayasebenza malunga nayo yonke into, kwaye abafezekisi nto. Ziqhelise ukungakhathaleli; gcina amandla akho kwinani elincinci lezinto ezibalulekileyo. Ukuba iyanceda, sukucinga ngokungakhathali- cinga njengokugxila kuko.
7. Soloko unenjongo enye okanye ezimbini ojolise kuzo
Ukwenza uphuculo olukhulu kwindawo enye yobomi bakho, kuya kufuneka usebenze kuloo ndawo okungenani iiyure ezingama-20 ngeveki, ubuncinci iinyanga ezintathu. Iiyure ezingama-40 ngeveki unyaka zingangcono. Unokwenza oku kuphela kwinto enye okanye ezimbini ngexesha. Unako kwaye kufuneka ube ngaphezulu kweenjongo ezimbini zobomi, kodwa funda ukugxila kwinjongo enye okanye ezimbini ngexesha, ngelixa ugcina ezinye kamva.
8. Ukumodareyitha kudla ngokuba sisizathu nje sokufumana umndilili
Awungeni kwimilo emangalisayo ngokusela utywala obulinganiselweyo, ukutya ukutya okuphakathi kwe-junk, kunye nokuzilolonga ngokulingeneyo izihlandlo ezimbalwa ngeveki. Awuyi kuba ngu-billionaire ngokusebenza iiyure ezingama-40 ngeveki. Iziphumo ezigabadeleyo zifuna iinzame ezigabadeleyo.
9. Ngamanye amaxesha kuye kufuneke ukogqitha abahlobo bakho
Iintaka zentsiba zihamba kunye. Ngelishwa, xa ukhula, ayingabo bonke abahlobo bakho abaya kukhula kunye nawe. Abahlobo bakho badla ngokukusalela kuwe; Kananjalo, banokukutsalela phezulu okanye bakubambe. Zibuze: Ukuba bendingekabi ngabahlobo nabo, ngaba bendiya kufuna ukwenza ubuhlobo kunye nabo? Ngaba bafana kakhulu nomntu endifuna ukuba nguye, okanye umntu endandikade ndinguye?
10. Uninzi lwabahlobo bakho bathandwa kakhulu kunawe, kodwa ayisiyonto yakuzikhathaza leyo
Enye yezona zinto zincinci abantu abaxinzelela kuzo kukuba uninzi lwabahlobo babo babonakala bethandwa ngakumbi kunabo. Inyani yile, uninzi lwabahlobo bakho kusenokwenzeka ukuba ludume kakhulu kunawe, ngenxa yento ebizwa ngokuba ngumnqa wobuhlobo. Kungenxa yokuba abantu abanabahlobo abaninzi kunokwenzeka ukuba babe njalo eyakho umhlobo, uya kuba ngaphantsi ethandwa ngaphezu abahlobo bakho abaninzi nokuba okunene ukuba nabahlobo abaninzi jikelele. Le ayisiyonto ingaphezulu kwepropathi yemathematics enqabileyo yenethiwekhi yoluntu, ke yeka ukukhathazeka ngayo.
11. Abahlobo abasondeleyo balungile, kodwa abo babaziyo balungile ngokugqibeleleyo
Ukuba nabantu obaziyo ongasondelelananga nabo akukho nzulu okanye kuyonakalisa. Ukwenza ngathi ngabahlobo abasondeleyo. Abahlobo, abahlobo abasenyongweni kunye nabantu obaqhelileyo bonke banendawo yabo ebomini bakho, baxabise nje nganye nganye ngale nto iyiyo.
12. Unxibelelwano lungonwaba kwaye luyinyani, ukuba uyenza kakuhle
Ndikuthiyile ukunxibelelana elona xesha lide, kuba liziva lincinci, lithembekile kwaye alithembekanga. Ngoku ndifunde indlela yokonwabela oko, kwaye ndikhe ndadibana nabahlobo kwimisitho yenethiwekhi. Nantsi indlela endenza ngayo: thatha umdla wokwenene ebantwini, jolisa ngakumbi ekuncedeni abantu kunokucela uncedo lwabo, wazi abantu abakwintsimi yakho ngaphambili ufuna into kubo, kwaye xa ufuna into emntwini, yazi ngaphambili ngayo.
13. Ijongeka ibalulekile. Okuninzi.
Inkangeleko yakho inefuthe elikhulu kwindlela ophathwa ngayo-ekuhlaleni, emsebenzini, kwaye kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Mhlawumbi oku kufanelekile, mhlawumbi akunjalo, kodwa kuyinyani. Ewe, kuyinyani kumadoda nakwabafazi. Enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenzela yona kukuthatha isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukunika ntoni, kwaye ulolonge inkangeleko yakho malunga noku. Ukuba ujongeka ulungile, iya kuba nefuthe elihle phantse kulo lonke unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu olilungu lalo.
14. Ukusebenza nzima kwinto ethile akubalulekanga kangako kunokusebenza ngokungaguquguqukiyo kuyo
Siyile nto siyenzayo ngokungaguquguqukiyo, hayi into esokola ngamanye amaxesha. Umsebenzi onzima ubalulekile, kodwa awuyi kufeza lukhulu ngokusebenza nzima okwexeshana, ukudinwa nokuncama. Ukufezekisa into enkulu, sebenza kuyo phantse yonke imihla. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uzikhawuleze; sebenza nzima kangangoko unako ukugcina, hayi kunzima kakhulu uyaphela.
15. Funda ukuba unganyaniseki nini
Ukunyaniseka kulungile kumgaqo, kodwa ayinguye wonke umntu okuxabisayo ukuthembeka okupheleleyo. Ngaphambi kokuba unike abantu iingcebiso okanye ingxelo, funda kakuhle kubo. Ukuba babonakala ngathi banokuphatha yonke inyani, banike. Ukuba akunjalo, yifake iswekile. Kangangoko unokufuna ukunceda abantu ngokubaxelela inyani, kuya kufuneka ujonge iziphumo zentlalo ukuba umntu othetha naye uyakhubeka.
Abantu badla ngokucinga ukuba abanye bayafana nabo
Sithanda ukuthatha abanye abantu babelane ngezinto esizikhethayo, izimvo zethu kunye neenqobo zethu (ngaphandle kokuba asibathandi kwasekuqaleni- emva koko senza ngokuchaseneyo). Oku kusikhokelela ekubeni simangaliswe xa abanye abantu beziphatha ngokwahlukileyo kunathi, kwaye ukunqanda oko, kufuneka senze inzame zokufunda ngenene ngabanye abantu.
Oku kuthetha ukuba unokuxelela okuninzi malunga nomntu ngento abayicingayo ngabanye. Ukuba umntu ucinga ukuba wonke umntu uzimisele ukubakhohlisa, banokuzikhohlisa bona. Ukuba umntu ulindele ukuba wonke umntu aziphathe kakuhle, mhlawumbi nabo balungile.
17. Awunakho ukuphikisana nabazondayo, kuba abaphikisani nawe
Xa umsebenzi wakho utsala intiyo engekho ngqiqweni kubantu ongabaziyo, kulinga ukuzikhusela. Oku akunantsingiselo, kuba intiyo ayikho ngawe. Usetyenziswa nje njengendawo yokuma ngaphakathi kwinto ethile okanye omnye umntu.
Umzekelo, njengombhali wokomelela komzimba ngamanye amaxesha ndifumana i-imeyile yentiyo evela kubantu abaphambeneyo endithi kunokwenzeka ukuba yehle ubunzima. Eyona nto iqhubekayo apho, kukuba bazama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba abanako ukunciphisa umzimba nokuba benze ntoni, ukuze bazinike imvume yokuncama. Ndimile nje ngelizwi elisemva kwentloko yabo ndibaxelela ukuba bayaphazama, kwaye andinakuyiphumelela loo mpikiswano kuba andiyonxalenye yayo.
18. Yiba likhefu
Ukuba unesitokhwe, zibuze ukuba uza kusithenga na. Ukuba impendulo nguhayi, kuya kufuneka uyithengise. Ukuba usebudlelwaneni, zibuze: Ukuba ubungathandani naloo mntu, kodwa ubusazi into oyaziyo ngoku, ngaba ukhetha ukuqala ukuthandana nabo? Okufanayo kuya kwimisebenzi: ungawuthatha umsebenzi onawo ngoku, ukuba ubusazi ukuba kunjani kwaye ungenawo kakade? Ukuba akunjalo, khangela entsha. Ukukhetha ukuhlala apho ukhoyo lukhetho njengoko ukhetha ukubukela imovie; akufuneki ube nokukhetha nangayiphi na indlela.
19. Uninzi iingcebiso ukuthandana ozicingela wedwa kwaye alunamsebenzi
Uninzi lwethu lufuna umlingane okhangeleka emhle, onovelwano, onwabileyo, onomsebenzi omnandi, onomdla, onobomi obumnandi esinokuba yinxalenye ye ... kwaye uluhlu luyaqhubeka. Kwaye okwangoku, ingakanani ingcebiso yokuthandana isixelela ukuba sizithembe, okanye sisebenzise umgca wokuthathwa komlingo? Kwenzeka njani ukuba umgangatho uphakame kakhulu kubantu esifuna ukuthandana nabo, kwaye siphantsi kakhulu kuthi?
Indlela abantu abaninzi abaqokelela ngayo ulwazi malunga nokuthandana nayo imbi. Abasetyhini bajonge iimodeli zefashoni kwiimagazini zabasetyhini, kwaye babone kufanele ukuba yile nto amadoda ayifunayo emfazini. Amadoda ajonge amadoda kwiimagazini zamadoda, kwaye abone ukuba bathanda abafazi. Kutheni ungajongi abafazi kwiimagazini zamadoda kunye namadoda kwiimagazini zabasetyhini? Kutheni ungafundi iinoveli zothando ukuze ufunde ngabasetyhini, okanye ubukele iimuvi zentshukumo ukuze ufunde ngamadoda?
20. Ukuba ufuna ingxelo ethembekileyo, yenze ingenabuhlungu eyokunikwa ngomnye umntu
Ukuba ucela umntu okwaziyo ukuba akunike uluvo lwabo olunyanisekileyo malunga nawe, into oyenzileyo okanye umbono onawo, baya kuthi bakhethe ukuba bahle kunokuba banyaniseke. Kulula ukunika ingxelo ethembekileyo ukuba awuthethi ngqo ukuya umntu othethayo malunga . Buza abantu ngengxelo engaziwayo, okanye ubaxelele ukuba ucela umhlobo.
21. Iinkcukacha-manani zilele ngamaxesha onke.
Uninzi lwee-crack lutshaya intsangu kuqala… kodwa uninzi lwentsangu alutshayi. Umndilili waseMelika unelinye ibele kunye netende elinye. Izibalo zinokuba yinyani ngokupheleleyo, kwaye zisakhokelela ekubeni ukholelwe into engeyonyani.
22. Ukuthengisa kakubi kuyacaphukisa. Ukuthengisa kakuhle sisakhono sobomi esibalulekileyo.
I-Pushy, ukuthengisa ngokunganyaniseki yindawo yam yezilwanyana zasekhaya. Thenga ii-tchotchkes zam zobudenge! Iyodwa, ndim kuphela umthengisi osisidenge edolophini! Yithenge ngoku, ndiza kukunika ixabiso elihle xa uthenga ngoku! Kodwa ukuthengisa okufanelekileyo akunyanzelisi okanye kunganyaniseki. Endaweni yoko, wazise ithemba ngazo zonke iindlela abanokukhetha kuzo, kwaye ubancede bakhethe eyona ndlela ifanelekileyo, ngaphandle kokubanyanzela ukuba bathenge konke konke. Umthengisi ongalunganga sisidalwa, kodwa umthengisi olungileyo ngummeli othenjiweyo womthengi.
23. Kungcono ukuthandwa ngabambalwa kunokuba uthandwe ngabaninzi
U-OkCupid wakha wenza uphando olwajonga indlela abantu abanomtsalane abalinganiswa ngayo, kwisikali ukusuka kwesinye ukuya kwisihlanu. Kufumanise ukuba okukhona abantu bekala i-5, kokukhona uya kufumana imiyalezo emininzi, kodwa ukulinganiswa kwe-3 kunye ne-4 kubi ngaphezu kokungenamsebenzi, kuba ngokungalunganga ehambelana nenani lemiyalezo.
Ukuba uyibhlog njengam, unokuba namawaka abafundi abakuthandayo, kodwa imali yakho ivela kwinani elincinci kakhulu labantu abakuthanda ngokwaneleyo ukuba bathenge izinto zakho. Akukho mvuzo mkhulu wokuthandwa ngokuthambileyo. Kungcono ukuthandwa ngabanye kwaye uthiye abanye kunokuba uthandwe ngumntu wonke, ke jika uthango.
24. Zigwebe ngokwamagalelo akho kwixesha elifutshane, nakwiziphumo zakho kwixesha elizayo
Xa abantu befuna ukunciphisa umzimba, ndibaxelela ukuba bazilinganise kanye ngenyanga. Yonke imihla, kufuneka bangahoyi isikali kwaye bazigwebe kuphela ukuba bayakulandela na ukutya kwabo kwaye benze ukuzilolonga kwabo.
Ukuba ufuna ukuqala ishishini, ngekhe ube nengeniso ngosuku lokuqala- kodwa kuya kufuneka usebenze nzima ngosuku lokuqala. Ukuba usekholejini, ufumana kuphela iikhredithi kube kanye kwisemester. Imihla ngemihla, ujolisa kwizabelo zakho, hayi umbhalo wakho. Xa usebenza kwinto yexesha elide, jonga iziphumo zakho ngamanye amaxesha ukuze uqiniseke ukuba usendleleni, kodwa jolisa kwigalelo lakho, nokuba ulandela isicwangciso kwaye wenza usuku lomsebenzi kunye nosuku.
Gweba abantu ngqwabalala ngaphambili, tyala imali kubo kamva.
Sihlala sixelelwa ukuba masingangxami ekugwetyweni. Oku kuvakala kuhle, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba udibana nabantu abaninzi ebomini bakho. Xa ubamba ukugweba wonke umntu odibana naye, kuya kufuneka uchithe ixesha elininzi ubazi bonke. Ukuba uvavanya abantu ngokungqongqo ngaphambili — kwezokuthandana, ukuqesha, ubuhlobo, okanye nawuphi na omnye ummandla — unabantu abambalwa ekufuneka ujongane nabo, kwaye unokunika ingqalelo ngakumbi kwabo bahlangabezana nemilinganiselo yakho.
26. Xa uxelelwa ukuba uneendlela ezimbini- uhlala usoloko unezinye
Utitshala wam we-kung-fu wakha wandixelela ukuba apho akhulele khona, kukho icawa kunye nendawo ethengisa utywala kwikona nganye. Waye waxelelwa ukuba angangumntu wecawe okanye umntu wevenkile yotywala. Endaweni yoko, akazange abe; ayisosaphuli-mthetho okanye unxilile, kwaye ngokomoya kodwa akabandakanyeki kwinkolo ehleliweyo. Wayeyazi ukuba kufuneka kubekho ezinye iindlela.
Ngaba ucinga ukuba utshatile okanye uhlale ungatshatanga? Unokuba kubudlelane ubomi bakho bonke ungatshatanga, okanye ungabinomfazi omnye. Ngaba ucinga ukuba kufuneka usebenze i-9-5 okanye ubeke umsebenzi ongatshintshiyo ongaqhelekanga? Unokuzimela. Xa uneendlela ezimbini onokukhetha kuzo, oko kuhlala kukunika nje into engekhoyo yokukhetha ukufihla inyani yokuba unokuninzi.
27. Imali inokuthenga ulonwabo, ukuba uyisebenzisa kakuhle
Abantu bahlala bexoxa ukuba ingaba imali ingaluthenga ulonwabo, kodwa uphando lucacile: lunako, kuxhomekeke kwinto oyichitha kuyo. Ukuqokelela i-crap ongeke uyisebenzise akuyi kukonwabisa. Ukuchitha imali yakho kumava kuya kukwenza wonwabe njengoko kuya kuyinika injongo elungileyo, okanye ukuyigcina ukuze ukhuseleke ngokwasezimalini. Ke yenza umgudu wokufumana imali ethe kratya, kodwa sukuyichitha kwisidenge.
28. Abantu bayakhathala malunga nento onokubenzela yona, kwaye kulungile
Ukuba ufuna umsebenzi, umphathi oqeshayo uyazibuza ukuba uza kuyenzela ntoni inkampani. Akakhathali nokuba ufuna kangakanani umsebenzi. Ukuba uzama ukuqala ubuhlobo nomnye umntu, okanye ukuqala ukuthandana nomntu, bayazibuza ukuba uza kongeza ntoni kubomi babo. Awunalungelo lokuphambana ngale nto, kuba ucinga ngendlela efanayo. Ukufumana into oyifunayo, yenza umgudu wokujonga izinto ngokwembono yazo.
29. Andikhathali nokuba abantu bacinga ntoni ngam yinkomo
Nanini na xa umntu esithi akakhathali nokuba abantu bacinga ntoni ngaye, kuthetha nje ukuba ufuna ukubonwa njengomntu ongakhathaliyo ukuba abantu bacinga ntoni ngabo. Kuyinyani, kuya kufuneka ukhathalele ukuba abantu bacinga ntoni ngawe- kodwa hayi wonke umntu. Chonga ukuba ngubani umgwebi olungileyo wesimilo, kwaye ujonge uluvo lwabo kuwe njengengxelo eluncedo, kodwa ungabahoyi bonke abanye abantu.
30. Ungabutshintsha ubuntu bakho
Ubuntu babantu ngokubanzi abuguquki bakhulile, kodwa banako. Ukutshintsha kobuntu kufuna ukuba ukhule kwaye uqinise iindlela ezintsha ze-neural. Oku kusebenza ngendlela efanayo nokusebenza komzimba. Kuya kufuneka uxinzelele ezo ndlela ze-neural ukuya kwinqanaba lokudinwa, emva koko ubaphumze, kwaye bayomelela xa bachacha.
Ukuziqhelanisa, oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ubandakanyeke kwiindlela ezintsha, ezinqwenelekayo zokuziphatha, kwaye ugcine kuzo zidlule kwinqanaba apho ziqala ukudinwa engqondweni. Ukuba ufuna ukukhutshwa, kuya kufuneka uphume uye kuhlala nabantu, kwaye uqhubeke nokuthetha nabantu ubuncinci kangangesiqingatha seyure udlulileyo apho ufuna khona ekhaya. Ukuba ufuna ukuvelisa ngakumbi, kufuneka uzinyanzele ukuba usebenze udlule kwinqanaba apho usifa khona ukuze uthathe ikhefu. Kunzima, kodwa kuya kuba lula ngokuhamba kwexesha.
31. Izigqibo zeminyaka emitsha zezaboyisiweyo
Ukuba wenza into isisombululo seminyaka emitsha, akunakufane kwenzeke ukuba uyenze. Cinga ngoku: Ngaba ubusicingile ngenene ngesisombululo ngeminyaka entsha yosuku? Okanye, ubucinga ngayo inyanga okanye ezimbini ngaphambili… kwaye usebenzise izigqibo zeminyaka emitsha njengesingxengxezo sokuyisusa?
Izigqibo zeminyaka emitsha, phantse ngokwenkcazo, zizinto okhe wazibeka ecaleni. Ixesha elingcono lokuqalisa izigqibo zakho zeminyaka emitsha ziyakuba ngu-Novemba. Elona xesha lilungileyo lokuqalisa ukusebenza ngesisombululo ngokukhawuleza ukuba ucinga ngaso- sukuyibeka kude kube ngumhla wokuchasana nomthetho.
32. Awunakho ukuqiqa abantu ngento abangakhange baqiqelwe kuyo
Leyo yixabiso elidala likaMark Twain, kodwa eneneni lixhaswa sisayensi. Zimbini iintlobo zeenkolelo- ezo zisekwe kwingqondo, kwaye ezo zisekwe ngokweemvakalelo. Iinkolelo ezisekwe kwingqondo esekwe kulwazi, kwaye zinokutshintshwa kuphela ngengqondo. Iinkolelo ezisekwe kwiimvakalelo zinokutshintshwa kuphela ngeengxoxo ezivakalayo. Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha iinkolelo zomnye umntu, kufuneka uqale uqonde ukuba inkolelo yabo esele isekelwe kuyo ithini.
33. Ukuba ngumsipha kuhlawula ngaphezulu kunokuba ucinga
Ukungathandwa kunokuba neziphumo ezininzi. Awuyi kumenywa kumatheko. Awuyi kuthunyelwa ekuvulekeni kwemisebenzi. Abantu baya kuba madolw 'anzima ukukwazisa kwabanye, okwenza kube nzima ukunxibelelana.
Kwaye le nto yile, akukho mntu uya kukuxelela ngayo. Awuyi kuyazi ukuba elo theko liye lenzeka, okanye loo msebenzi wawufumaneka. Iindleko zokuba yijerk ubukhulu becala azibonakali kuwe, kwaye zilinganiswe kumathuba aphosiweyo.
34. Ayisiyiyo yonke into eyimpazamo yomntu
Xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle, abantu badla ngokuzama ukuqonda ukuba ngubani unobangela. Kwaye bakube befumene umntu wokukhomba ngomnwe kubo, bahlala bema apho, ngokungathi loo nto iyodwa isombulula ingxaki. Ayisiyonto yokusombulula nantoni na, kodwa iingxaki ezininzi azinangxaki yomntu. Umsantsa okhulayo phakathi kwezityebi namahlwempu unokuba kungenxa yokuba izityebi zenza into ukuze zenzeke- okanye isenokuba yimeko zentengiso ezingezizo ezomntu. Abasetyhini banokuthi baphile ngaphandle kwamadoda kwimigaqo-nkqubo yezempilo yoluntu okanye kunokuba yi-biology. Xa ukhangela unobangela wengxaki, sukucinga ukuba inokuba yiphutha lomntu.
35. Ukungafuni ukutshintsha asikokuzithanda
Kukho umkhwa okhulayo kwi-intanethi wabantu ababhala iincoko abathi ngokusisiseko bathi ndiyanya kwinto ethile, kodwa kulungile kwaye ndiyazithanda. Ababhali bazakuthetha malunga nendlela abazabalaze ngayo nobunzima babo, ukunqongophala kwezakhono zentlalo, okanye ikhondo lomsebenzi wokungayi ndawo, kodwa ke bayeka ukuzama ukutshintsha kwaye baqala ukuzithanda.
Oko ayikokuzithanda; bubuvila obo nokuyeka. Ukuba uyabathanda abantwana bakho, uya kufuna ukuba babe nabahlobo, bafumane amabakala amahle, babe sempilweni, babe nobomi obumnandi. Ukuba uyazithanda, uyakufuna ukufumana obona bomi bumnandi onokubunabo kwaye oko kuthetha ukwenza umgudu wokuzakhela obona bomi bungcono.
36. Fight Club yayingalunganga- wena are Umsebenzi wakho
UAristotle wayenyanisile — siyile nto siyenzayo siyiphindaphinda. Nantoni na oyichitha iiyure ezingama-40 ngeveki uyenza yinxalenye enkulu yokuba ungubani, kwaye akukho kuhamba malunga noko. Ukuba uziva unomdla wokuzahlukanisa nomsebenzi wakho, lixesha lokuba ufumane umsebenzi owukhathaleleyo.
37. Landela inkanuko yakho ingumphunga kunye neengcebiso zomsebenzi ozithandayo
Kungenxa yokuba uyakonwabela ukwenza into, oko akuthethi ukuba uyayilungisa, okanye ukuba abantu baya kukulungela kwaye banakho ukuhlawula ngayo. Indalo iphela ayinyanzelekanga ukuba ikunike imali yokwenza into oyithandayo. Endaweni yoko, ziqonde ukuba ulungile ebantwini abaza kukuhlawulela, kwaye ukhethe into onokuyonwabela ukuyenza, okanye onokuzibona ukhula uyonwabela (ungakha ukuthanda kwakho ngokuhamba kwexesha). Ukuba ufuna ukubhatalelwa into ethile, kuya kufuneka ucinge umthengi kuqala.
38. Yiba yingcinga ezimeleyo, kodwa khumbula ukuba uninzi luhlala luchanekile
Kule minyaka ilishumi idlulileyo ndibone inani elandayo labantu liwela kwinto endiyibiza ngokuba yi-red piritsi syndrome. Bafumanisa ukuba enye okanye ezimbini iinkolelo zoluntu ezigcinwe nzulu ziphosakele. Umzekelo, ukuba ukuthenga ikhaya akusoloko kuyimali elungileyo, okanye ukuba isidanga sasekholejini asiqinisekisi ngomsebenzi olungileyo. Emva koko bathatha isigqibo sokuba uluntu alungalunganga malunga yonke into. CI-ollege yinkcitha xesha kunye nemali, imisebenzi eyi-9-5 ilungile njengobukhoboka, ukuthandana kunye nomtshato sisikrelemnqa esikhulu, imarike yemasheya irigged, ukuvota akunantsingiselo, kwaye wonke umntu uphosakele ngayo yonke into.
Kuhle ukuba ngumntu onamathandabuzo. Kukulungele ukubuza ukucinga okuqhelekileyo. Akulunganga ukuhlala ucinga okuchasene noko uninzi lwabantu lukucinga. Ayisiyiyo kwaphela into yokuba ungabinangqondo njengakuhlala uhlala ecaleni kwesininzi, kodwa uya kuba uphosakele rhoqo, kuba uninzi lwezimvo luchanekile amaxesha ngamaxesha kunoko.
39. Yenza nantoni na oyifunayo, ngaphandle kokuba kukho isizathu esivakalayo sokuba ungakwenzi oko
Uninzi lwethu ludlula ebomini lusenza into esiyiyo ebefanele ukuyenza , endaweni yento thina funa, ukoyisa amaphupha ethu kunye neminqweno yethu kwizibophelelo zethu zentlalo. Xa kufuneka wenze isigqibo, sukuqala ngokuzibuza ukuba ufanele ukwenzani. Endaweni yokuba uqale uzibuze ukuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni. Emva koko, zibuze ukuba ngaba kukho nasiphi na isizathu esisinyanzelo sokuba kutheni ungayenzi loo nto. Ukuba azikho, qhubeka wenze le nto uyifunayo.
40. Tyala imali kuwe kungekudala
Ndityala imali eninzi kum kule minyaka- ngokuthenga iikhosi, okanye ngokuqesha abaqeqeshi, nakwiindawo ezahlukileyo njengamashishini, izakhono zentlalo, ukufaneleka, i-kung-fu nokucula. Ngalo lonke ixesha ndizityala, bendikade ndicinga ngayo ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuba ndigqibe kwelokuba ndisebenzise imali. Kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha, ndakuba ndizityalele imali, ndaye ndaphela ndizikhaba ukuba ndingazenzi kwakamsinya.
Njengotyalo mali, eyona nto iphambili kutyalo mali kwizakhono zakho kukuqala kwangoko. Ukufumana uqeqesho olufanelekileyo ekuqaleni kutshintsha yonke imikhondo yokufunda. Sukwenza impazamo endiyenzileyo- ndenze utyalomali kuwe kwangoko kwaye rhoqo.
Ukuba bendisazi ngoko endikwaziyo ngoku, ngendikhawulezise ukukhula kwam kwiminyaka elishumi. Andikwazi ukuhamba ixesha, kodwa ndingabelana ngento endiyifundileyo nawe, njengokuba abanye babelane ngolwazi lwabo kunye namava nam.
Kananjalo, ukuba kukho umntu okwaziyo ukuhamba ngexesha, ndibize.
UJohn Fawkes ngumqeqeshi womzimba kunye nomcebisi wezempilo onceda abantu ukuba banciphise umzimba, bazinike amandla, kwaye baphile ubomi obanelisayo. Ubonelela ngokuqina komzimba kunye neengcebiso ngobomi ngokubanzi ibhlog yakhe , Incwadana yeendaba, kunye nenkqubo yokulahleka kwamafutha eenyanga ezi-2 yasimahla.
