Izifundo zibonisa ukuba abantu abahlala bengabahlobo kunye ne-ex yabo ye-narcissistic psychopaths.Unsplash / Andreas Ronningen Wena ne ex yakho nigqibe kwelokuba nihlale nabahlobo nangona ningenako ukuwenza usebenze njengabahlobo abalala nabo. Ngoku, umenyiwe ukuba umjonge xa ehamba ezantsi nomnye umntu.
Uyaya?
Impendulo emfutshane sisihogo kuhayi. Kuya kufuneka uthathe ipasi elinzima ngakumbi. Ukuba ujonge ukuzingcungcuthekisa, kutheni ungenayo loo canal yeengcambu uyenzileyo- okanye, kungcono, ufumane le colonic ikuluhlu lwakho lwezinto oza kuzenza ukusukela oko uKatie Couric wabuyayo xa uBush wayenguMongameli. Kungenxa yokuba ukuba ucinga ukuba uya konwaba ukubukela i-ex yakho itshata, ngokucacileyo ugcwele ikaka.
Ngaphambi kokuba uzisole ngokwamkela, okungenani funda ezi zizathu zintlanu.
- Umlingane wakho wangaphambili uya kuba yinguqulelo eshushu kuwe kwaye wonke umntu uya kubhekisa kuwe njengohlobo lwevenkile yohlobo. Uxabiseke kakhulu. UnguFruity O's. Uyalingana. Kungcono uhlale ekhaya.
- Ukuba kukho into ehamba kakubi, iya kuba yiphutha lakho. Ukuba umyeni ufumana iinyawo ezibandayo, wonke umntu uza kukusola. Ukuba umtshakazi ngempazamo ukhubekile, iminwe iya kukukhomba-nokuba ukufuphi kwindawo yolwaphulo-mthetho okanye hayi. Ukuba kuyanetha, iya kuba yimpazamo yakho. Kanye njengokuba bonke besola wena ngokonakalisa ubudlelwane kwindawo yokuqala, uya kubekwa ityala ngokonakalisa usuku lwabo olukhethekileyo. Ukuba uya kulo mtshato, uya kuzityhola.
- Umntu wakho wangaphambili uxelele wonke umntu malunga nobomi bakho bezesondo. Xa ungena, onke amehlo aya kujonga kuwe, hayi ngenxa yesinxibo sakho. Lonke undwendwe apho luzazi zonke izinto ezingcolileyo ngokungathandabuzekiyo olonwabela ebhedini ukuya kutsho kwiinkcukacha zokugqibela. Xa umhlobo wakho wakudala wasekholejini encoma umgexo wakho weeperile, kwaye unganxibanga enye, okanye ukuba umakazi wakho wakudala ukukunika i-shortcake ye-strawberry, ayingobahlobo nje. Bayazi. Bazi yonke into. Kwaye ngoku kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba akufuneki uye kule setyhula.
- Awuyi kukwazi ukumamela nayiphi na ingoma edlalwe ngexesha lokwamkelwa kwakhona. Baza kuthatha intsingiselo entsha kwaye basebenze njengezikhumbuzo eziqhubekayo zomtshato we-ex yakho. Amabhinqa angancumisani? Yonakele. Umdaniso wenkukhu? Ukuhlanjululwa. Ngaba Cha Cha Isilayidi? Kulungile mhlawumbi ayisiyiyo leyo. Uyazithanda izandla emadolweni, izandla emadolweni ziyinxalenye. Kodwa ngaba uyafuna ngenene ukuba uye kwikhathalogu yakho ye-Spotify kwaye ucime iingoma ezininzi ezimnandi kangaka? Andicingi njalo. Wuqobe lomtshato.
- Uya kuphulukana nomsebenzi wakho. Ewe, ngokwenene. Izifundo bonisa ukuba abantu abahlala bebahlobo kunye nomntu wabo wakudala zii-psychopaths ze-narcissistic kunye nokunganyaniseki. Ukuba uya kulo mtshato, kwaye umphathi wakho ufumanisa, uyakwenzakaliswa kukungabikho komgwebo, ubuchule bokucinga, kunye nokwenza izigqibo ngendlela yokuziphatha. Uya kunyanzelwa ukuba aphelise umsebenzi wakho ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ngethamsanqa ndichaza oku ngexesha lodliwanondlebe lomsebenzi.
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