Ugqirha wabantwana uGqirha Michel Cohen kwiiofisi zakhe zeTribeca.
Embindini we-aught, xa iTribeca yayisengaphuhliswanga ngamagcisa kunye nobuchule, ugqirha wabantwana uMichel Cohen yayiliziko labumelwane. Abantu bendawo batsaleleka kwisitayile somthonyama saseFransi kunye nomtsalane kugqirha welizwe. Wayenxibe ijini, wazazisa njengoMichel kwaye wakhwela ibhayisekile waya kwiminxeba eya endlwini. Amathoyizi enkuni asasazeka malunga neofisi yakhe efana ne-loft phantsi kweHarrison Street, awayeyivula ngo-1994, kwaye abazali babedla ngokukhuthazwa ukuba baphume kwi-unscheduled.
Wayeyaziwa ngokuba yi-hand-off, (wayekhetha ukubona, umzekelo, ukuba usulelo lwendlebe luzisombulule ngaphambi kokumisela i-antibiotics) kunye nokugxila kwakhe ekunciphiseni umthwalo kubazali (ukuba ishedyuli engqongqo ayisebenzi kuwe, sukuyityhala). Wayeyilungelo lokufumana into eyahlukileyo kwiinkqubo zeklinikhi nezisesikweni ezalungiselela abazali behelikopta yaseManhattan.
Isixeko sonke saqaphela. Emva kokubonakala ujongeka ubambene kodwa u-chic kwi GQ ukusasazeka kwefashoni-ihempe yaseHawaii ebingabanjwanga (Paul Smith) phantsi kwesuti emdaka (iComme des Garcons) kunye nophawu lwentengiso oluziimpawu zegilasi ezimnyama ezirhabaxa (iSelima Optique) - eli phepha lathumela intatheli edolophini ukuba iyokuphanda ukuba yintoni le ingxabano. Wonke umntu uthi, ‘Ndikunye noMichel Cohen,’ wagxadazela umzali waseTribeca (kunye nomseki weCalypso) uChristiane Celle, owayethetha ngesiFrentshi. Abantu bayazingca ngaloo nto. Ukupapasha ubunzima obunzima uJudith Regan wabiza uGqirha Cohen, emfuna ukuba abhale intlebendwane malunga konke ngobomi babantwana abadumileyo, kodwa uGqirha Cohen wakhalaza wabhala incwadi yokuba ngumzali: Iziseko ezitsha: I-A-to-Z yoNyana kunye noKhathalelo loMntwana kwiParen yale mihla t, epapashwe ngo-2004.
Nanjengokuba uGqirha Cohen, owayesele evule iiofisi zesathelayithi eSouthampton naseBrooklyn, esiba yingcali ecatshulwa rhoqo, eyona nto wayeyenza yayikukusungula. |
Nanjengokuba uGqirha Cohen, owayesele evule iiofisi zesathelayithi eSouthampton naseBrooklyn, esiba yingcali ecatshulwa rhoqo, eyona nto wayeyenza yayikukusungula. Bendingugqirha-weenkwenkwezi, bendinodumo oluncinci, ndiyibhalile incwadi, kwaye ndingene kancinci kuloo nto, utshilo uGqirha Cohen ngoku, isiNgesi sakhe sitshisiwe sisinciphiso saseFrance. Kwaye emva koko ndafumanisa ukuba ngenye imini ndaphantse ndophuka. Ngenye imini, ndajika kwaye ndibomvu, kwaye ndaye ndaziva ndikhululekile.
Xa evula iincwadi, wafumana amatyala angazange afakwe nakwiinkampani zeinshurensi. Uyakhumbula, eyi- $ 400,000 yamatyala. Ndacinga, ‘Umhlaba wam wonke uyawa. Ayinabunyani ukuba ndinamatyala. ’Ke ndiguquka iidigri eziyi-180 ndize nje [ndathi],‘ Ndizakuyenza le ngeniso. ’Kwakufuneka kubekho iinguqu. Izigulana azinakubonakalisa xa zonwabile, ukuvavanya incoko yegumbi elingenanjongo kunye neefowuni zendlu bekufanele zihambe. Wabeka imigaqo-nkqubo engqongqo emva kwexesha kunye nokucima kwaye wenza isiseko sedatha esinokubonelela abazali ngamaxwebhu afana neefom zesikolo kwisiqingatha seyure. Kuya kufuneka aphathe umkhuba wakhe kancinci ngesiFrentshi kunye nokuninzi ukuya eNew York kwaye uthathe isimo sengqondo esiphikisana nayo yonke into awayelumkise ngayo abazali baseNew York ngokuchasene: Kuya kufuneka abe yi-CEO yehelikopta.
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Uzalelwe kwaye wakhulela eNice, eFrance, uGqr Cohen akazange abone amayeza njengobizo kakhulu njengokungagqibeki. E-France waba ligqwetha okanye ugqirha, okanye wenze ezinye njengezifundo zefilosofi apho ubungenamsebenzi, utsho. Inyaniso yayi, emva kwesikolo sezonyango, uGqirha Cohen wayenamaphupha okuba ngumdanisi oqeqeshiweyo. Wafunda umdaniso wale mihla (kubandakanywa nesitudiyo kwi-Merce Cunningham Studio) kodwa nge-30, kwafuneka enze utshintsho wabuyela kwezamayeza, esiya e-Afrika eyokusebenzela i-dispensary yabantwana, yiyo le nto eyamtsalela kuqala kugqirha wabantwana. .
Ekugqibeleni wabuyela eNice, apho wadibana khona nowayengumfazi wakhe, umculi, kunye kunye esi sibini safudukela eNew York apho angena khona kwinkqubo yokuhlala kwiYunivesithi yaseNew York nakwisibhedlele i-Long Island College. Esi sibini sasineentombi ezintathu. UGqirha Cohen uthi wayesebenza kwiSibhedlele iDowntown saseNew York, xa ngenye imini, wafika eTribeca, eneendawo ezivulekileyo zokuphakama kunye nezitrato ezithe cwaka. Ndandifana, 'Wow, lo mmandla upholile kakhulu. Ndizakuseta umkhuba. ’Bendingazi nokuba abantu bahlala apha, utsho. Kwakungo-1994, kwaye waqesha igumbi eliphezulu elinendawo yokugcina izinto kwisitrato iHarrison, watsho, wangena kunye nenkosikazi yakhe kunye nabantwana abathathu. Kwavela ukuba baninzi abantu abahlala apha-uninzi lwabazobi, abantu abaninzi kwishishini leemovie. Kwisithuba seenyanga ezintandathu, wayenomthwalo opheleleyo wesigulana. Wabiza isenzo sakhe esithi Tribeca Pediatrics.
Ngokwamayeza, uGqirha Cohen wayeyinto encinci ye-iconoclast. Ukusukela ekuqaleni, bendinefilosofi yamayeza angenelelo oluphantsi kakhulu, ndizama ukungasebenzisi zintsholongwane, ndizama ukungasebenzisi amayeza ukuba andifuni. Ngelo xesha yayincinci phaya. Ucebisa ukuba iintsana zinokutshintsha ukusuka kwifomula ukuya kubisi malunga neenyanga ezisibhozo, endaweni yeminyaka eli-12 esemgangathweni. Akacebisi noVithamin D wosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa kuba, utshilo, uninzi lwezigulana zakhe ezikumgangatho ophakathi ziba nezidlo ezinempilo, oku ngaphandle kwengcebiso ebekwe yiAmerican Academy of Pediatrics, umbutho wesizwe obeka izikhokelo kukhathalelo lwabantwana ( kwaye engeyonxalenye yalo).
Ndicinga ukuba ngumzimba ogcinayo, oqinileyo wegunya, utshilo uGqirha Cohen. Ke sithatha abakutshoyo ngengqolowa yetyuwa.
Le ndlela ibhenela kuKate Knouse, ozise umntwana wakhe omncinci kwiofisi yePark Slope ukususela ekuzalweni. Uninzi lwabahlobo bam bebengqongqo, kodwa ugqirha wam wandixelela into endifuna ukuyiva: Ukuba ayizukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza indlela yokuphila, izakuba yile uyenzayo, utsho. Baxhasa ukondla kwimfuno, ukulala xa umntwana elala, ukuba yenza ubomi bakho bube lula ukuba nosana kwishedyuli, yiya ngalo kodwa ukuba alwenzi njalo, ungayenzi.
Mhlawumbi elona cebiso lakhe lilungileyo kukujonga ukuba abantwana abancinci njengeenyanga ezi-2 ubudala mabashiywe bekhala, njengoko besitsho, indlela engeyiyo eyenzelwe ukuba bafundise ukulala ubusuku bonke. |
Mhlawumbi elona cebiso lakhe lilungileyo kukujonga ukuba abantwana abancinci njengeenyanga ezi-2 ubudala mabashiywe bekhala, njengoko besitsho, indlela engeyiyo eyenzelwe ukuba bafundise ukulala ubusuku bonke. (Nangona uGqirha Cohen efunga ngayo, akazange alandele iingcebiso zakhe kude kube ngumntwana wakhe onguNombolo 3.) Ndiza kukuxelela ukuba andizange ndenze yonke into ngokufanelekileyo, kude nayo, utsho ngomzali wakhe. Ndifunde kakhulu nabantwana bam.
Ukuba ukwandiswa kungumqondiso, iindlela zikaGqirha Cohen zibe yimpumelelo, nto leyo ephawuleka ekubeni oogqirha abaninzi kwezi ntsuku bevala iindlela zabo bodwa zokujoyina amaqela amakhulu okanye iinkqubo zesibhedlele. Namhlanje, iTraececa Pediatrics ineeofisi ezili-15 ezibandakanya amazwe amathathu (kukho iiofisi eJersey City naseLos Angeles). Umthwalo wakhe wesigulana, uthi, ngama-32,000 kwaye uqeshe malunga nama-40 oogqirha, aziqeqeshayo. Iofisi nganye inovakalelo lwasekhaya: Akukho ofisi ine ogqirha abangaphezulu kwesibini, kwaye nganye nganye inephepha lodonga laseYurophu eliluhlaza, iithoyi zomthi ezithandwayo ezihleli ezimbombeni. UGqirha Cohen uyila yonke ifanitshala yeofisi ngokwakhe kunye nabasebenzi abayakhayo e-Ditmas Park. Akukho ziiglavu zimhlophe zerabha kwizikhongozeli ezicacileyo zeplanethi okanye kwiibhola zomqhaphu kunye neentonga ezihleli ekomityini. Inqaku kuxa usegumbini, awuziboni naziphi na izixhobo zonyango nantoni na, utsho.
Ngaphandle kokuchukunyiswa okunje ekhaya, ngokuqinisekileyo abazali banezikhalazo. Kwiibhodi zemiyalezo, bayaqonda ukuba oogqirha banokuba brusque, baphoswe zimpawu zokugula kakhulu, kwaye babe ngumesiya kakhulu malunga nohlobo lwabo loqeqesho lokulala.
Omnye umama onenyanga ezili-9 ubudala, owacela ukuhlala engaziwa kuba umntwana wakhe usesigulana kulomkhwa, ukhalaze, Batyhala ifilosofi yabo yokulala kakhulu. Isicwangciso sabo sokulala asisebenzelanga thina. Sibabizele ukuba bathethe ngento esingayithandiyo ngayo. Kwakungathi batyhalele kancinci nayo. Kwakungathi ngumcimbi wesazisi kubo-baziva ngathi bayinto encinci, utshilo. Ndinenkosi kwimpilo yoluntu. Ndabacela ukuba babonise uphando ukuba ayinabungozi emntwaneni. Bathe bonke abazali abancumayo esinabo bubungqina kwaye bubuxoki nje.
Abanye bathi ukugxila ekusebenzeni kakuhle kufike ngendleko. Ndicinga ukuba ngugqirha onesidima kodwa kufuneka akhathalele ulwakhiwo lobukumkani kunye nokubeka uphawu kunokuba kunjalo ngamayeza, utshilo. Oko bakubiza ngokuba kukutyelela kakuhle noGqirha Cohen kulingana neJiffy Lube. Iyakhawuleza. 
UMichel Cohen uphatha abantwana bakho kodwa ujongeka njengomlawuli wezobugcisa.
UGqirha Cohen ngokwakhe ubona abaguli ngoLwesithathu, kwaye uchitha ixesha lakhe elininzi eqeqesha oogqirha abatsha, ehluza iingxelo zenyanga malunga nexesha lokulinda, nokuthumela ii-imeyile kwizigulana ezikhethwe ngokungacwangciswanga. Ndiyayithanda into endiyenzayo kodwa iphindaphindeka kakhulu, kwaye utyekelo loogqirha abafana nam kukuba uyafana nomatshini, utshilo. Yenza into enye iphindaphindwe. Akufani nokuba ungugqirha wotyando wobuchopho.
Omnye wemiceli mngeni yakhe mikhulu kukufumanisa ukuba lingakanani ixesha ekufuneka belichithe oogqirha kunye nezigulana: Ixesha nezigulana libaluleke kakhulu kwaye wenza njani ibhalansi? Kwelinye icala, unayo i-inshurensi, esika nje ukubuyiselwa kwemali, emva koko kwelinye ixesha kufuneka uchithe ixesha elaneleyo lokuba isigulana sizive sikhululekile. Ke unabo oogqirha kwi-Upper East Side, bathi, ‘Akukho inshurensi, ndiza kuchitha iyure kunye nawe, iirandi ezingama-300, imali.’ Ke leyo yenye yeendlela. Andiqondi ukuba iyinyani.
'Molo unjani? Unjani ? UGqr Cohen ubhabha kwisigulana njengoko edlula kumqolo ahleli kuwo, ebuyile-ngathi. Unxibe iibhulukhwe ezimdaka ngebala, enebhatyi ehambelanayo kunye nehempe eluhlaza nezimthubi. Iiglasi zakhe ezirhangqwe luphondo zingqindilili kwaye zihlaza okwesibhakabhaka ngokumangalisayo. Unekofu. Xa kufika ixesha lokuba athathe umfanekiso wakhe, uyanyanzelisa ukuba kubekho ifoto enomntwana, kwaye uzulazula kwiiholo ekhangela enye: Sifuna umntwana, uyakhwaza ngaphambi kokuba esinye isibini sonwabe ngosana lwabo olusandul 'ukuzalwa. Umhlangano wonke unobungane kwaye ukhululekile. Umoya kaGqirha Cohen uhleli nangoku njengoko ethetha ngeshishini. Into esiyenzayo yinoveli encinci, ngandlela yokuba ndikhulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingathengwa sisibhedlele. Andililo iqela elikhulu, kodwa sisahambisa iinkqubo zesatellite zokhathalelo olwenziwe ngokwezifiso.
Kwiminyaka emibini edlulileyo, wagqiba kwelokuba andise izakhono zakhe ezintsha zeshishini kolunye uhlobo lweshishini laseNew York: ivenkile yokutyela, iSaleya, eWest Broadway, kufutshane nekona kwikomkhulu elitsha eWarren Street. Kubonakala kufanelekile ukuba ngumhlobo wasebumelwaneni onobuhlobo njengoGqirha Cohen, ngaphandle kokuba akahlali eTribeca. Xa i-Whole Foods yaqengqelekayo, uGqirha Cohen uthi, waqengqeleka. Kuhlekisa kuvela kumfana oqeqesho lakhe ngokwalo luye lwaba luphawu lobumnini bommandla. Wafudukela kwenye yeedolophu ezintsha ze-bohemian meccas-eGowanus. Kwaye ubungayi kuyazi? Kunyaka ophelileyo, Ukutya okupheleleyo kungene.
