Ubulumko obuphikisayo boCarly Simon

MnaNdiyabulela kuCarly Simon.

Xa, ngo-2003, ndaqala ukuphanda ngobomi bam abathathu, uCarole King noJoni Mitchell, Amantombazana afana nathi , Undishiyele umyalezo wefowuni esithi uyayixhasa kakhulu le projekthi kwaye ufuna abahlobo bakhe basebenzisane. Uye waqinisekisa ukuba ndiyayiqonda into yokuba akukho nto ndinokuyibuza abantu (nokuba ndiyifumene ngaye okanye ngokwam) ibingavumelekanga. Ndilindele ukuba ndiziva ndibuhlungu abhale kwi-imeyile.

Yintoni abadumileyo yenza lonto? Inqabile kakhulu, inesibindi-ehlonipha iintatheli (ezifanelekileyo kwintombi yomsunguli kaSimon & Schuster), kodwa enye ingenazo izihluzi, isilumkiso kunye nokuzikhusela de rigueur kwi kudala-odumileyo. Abahlobo abasondeleyo bakaNks. Simon babemchaze ngeendlela ezazibonakalisa ukubonwa kwam njengoko ndandimazi. UCarly akazisi ukuzikhusela phambili ukusuka kumzuzu omnye ukuya kolandelayo; akaziniki loo nto, loo ntuthuzelo, ndixelele uMia Farrow. Ingcali yezonyango yaseJungian uEllen Questel, umhlobo wakhe osenyongweni kangangamashumi eminyaka, wakubeka ngolu hlobo oku: Unamehlo amabini — omnye uthi ewe ehlabathini, omnye uthi hayi. Kuya kufuneka ubone nabo bobabini. UCarly ubona okungakumbi ngeliso elithi ewe kwaye limenza abe sesichengeni. Uhlala kwenye inkulungwane, ixesha leemvakalelo ezinkulu kunye neeleta ezibhaliweyo zothando. Uya kuba ugqibelele kwinoveli kaTolstoy.

Ewe, ngoku, kunye nomthengisi wakhe ogqwesileyo Amakhwenkwe kwiMithi U-Nksz Simon ubhale eyakhe incwadi ebhaliweyo yothando, u-Tolstoy-oliciko kwiindawo kwaye ugcwele ezo mvakalelo zintle. Ilandelela i-arc yobomi bakhe: ekubeni ngoyena dade umncinci uyitshontsho elibi, engenaziqhamo elangazelela uthando lukatata onqabileyo ngaphakathi kosapho olunobunkunkqele nolunokuwohloka kancinane, kwimvumi yomntu omncinci ophakamileyo onyanzelisa ukugatywa kabuhlungu yiristocrat yaseBritane ebushushwini utyebe kakhulu umcebisi weenkampu zasehlotyeni (apho wadibana nendoda eyayiza kuba ngumntu wobomi bakhe bonke, umntu onezimvo ezinzima kunye nombhali-mbhali wengoma yakhe yokuphumla, uJake Brackman) ukuya ku-1971's Intombazana eyimvumi-umbhali wengoma, eyathandwa nguCat Stevens, Kris Kristofferson, UTerrence Malick, uJack Nicolson, uWarren Beatty kunye noMick Jagger. Intsapho yokuqala yama-70s pop, uJames Taylor noCarly Simon, kunye nabantwana babo uSally noBen. (UMFANEKISO: UNorman Seeff)

Kodwa kunjalo-ikhosi yeyakhe nabani na omazi kakuhle-iyakuba yiminyaka elishumi elinanye yokuthandana (kunye nomtshato weminyaka eli-10) noMnu Taylor, ovelise abantwana ababini: uSally, ngoku uneminyaka engama-41, kunye noBen, oneminyaka engama-38 ubudala — leyo yeyona ndawo kugxilwe kuyo kunye nendawo yokuphumla yememo yakhe, nangona umtshato waphela ngoqhawulo-mtshato ngo-1983 kwaye nangona bengathethi. Ubutyebi bakhe, iminyaka engama-32 yobomi basemva kokuqhawula umtshato (kubandakanya ukoyiswa komhlaza wamabele; ukubuyela kwi-albhamu Ukubuya kwakhona ; umhobe wakhe ophumelele uOscar-, iGrammy- kunye neGolden Globe ophumeleleyo Intombazana esebenzayo Bobabini aba bahlobo bakhe abenza imiboniso bhanya-bhanya uNora Ephron kunye noMike Nichols-umtshato wakhe okondlayo, oneminyaka engama-20 ubudala kwi-inshurensi-eguqukele-imbongi uJim Hart, owathi, nangona baqhawula umtshato kwi-2007, isengomnye wabahlobo bakhe abasenyongweni; kunye nobudlelwane obuphantse bulishumi-ubude kunye nogqirha uRichard Koehler): akukho nanye kwezi ehlanganiswe kwimemori.

Odd, unokucinga. Yima. Kubonwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo: ukukhulula.

Ukuba bendinombulelo kuNkskz Simon kwiminyaka elishumi elinambini eyadlulayo ngesisa sakhe kwincwadi yam, ngoku ndiyambulela ngesinye isizathu: isifundo sakhe kubafazi abadala. Amakhwenkwe kwiMithi unomdla wokuphikisana nomgaqo-nkqubo ochanekileyo wezopolitiko, ochanekileyo kunye nokunciphisa umthetho (yena ngokwakhe usebenzisa lesi sibizo) ukuba umfazi oqolileyo, ophumeleleyo kufuneka abe nekratshi kwaye aguquke ukuphakamisa ixesha elidlulileyo legolide ebomini bakhe (ingakumbi enye isiseko kubudlelwane bakhe nendoda) ngokubaluleka okukhethekileyo-ukuba kubuhlungu okanye akunampilo okanye i-retro, okanye bobathathu, ukonwaba izolo endaweni yokwamkela uBomi kuya kuba ngcono! Ndiyaqhubeka ndikhula! ndingu edlulileyo yonke loo nto! I-mantra, ehlala ibonakala ngathi ikhusela i-cheerleading kunokwenyani yeemvakalelo. Kwaye ayisiyonto yomfazi odala ukuba enze uthando, hayi ukusebenza, leitmotif kwimemo yakhe. (UJanet Maslin tsk-tsk'd, kuye INew York Times uphononongo, ukuba UNks Simon, nangona echazwe njenge 'icon yomfazi' kwibhantshi yencwadi, uququzelele imemo yakhe ejikeleze amakhwenkwe kunye namadoda. Kodwa u-Mme Simon wabhala kwaye wacula ezimbini kwezi uninzi iingoma zobufazi zobufazi-birthing '70s-Leyo yindlela endihlala ndiyiva ukuba kufanelekile kwaye uyinto enqabileyo-kwaye ezothando zakhe zangqina ukuba abafazi banokonwabela amaqabane amaninzi njengamadoda.)

‘Ndiyekile ukuzama ukuyeka ukuthanda. Ukuba imigaqo iyalela ukuba uvumelekile ukuba uthande kuphela ukuba olo thando luyabuyiselwa, ke nabani na owenze loo mithetho usika inxenye ebalulekileyo yobunyani bayo. '

MnayantoniI-nversation endandinayo noNks Simon kanye ngaphambi kokuba ndifunde incwadi yakhe, wayenza yacaca into yokuba ukunikezela isithathu sencwadi ebomini bakhe noMnumzana Taylor (ubukhulu becala, uyayithanda into yokuba likhoboka leziyobisi, elihlala ixesha elide. yexesha labo bekunye), oko kuwonga elo xesha ebomini bakhe, yayiyinto awayeyiyo abanekratshi ye. Ndinexhala lokuba isimo sengqondo esinjalo siza kubabizela. Kodwa ufunda la mazwi-awabhalayo ekupheleni kwencwadi, xa ecinga ngokuhlala kwindlu enye ye-Martha's Vineyard ukuba yena noMnumzana Taylor (okwangoku ungowesithathu, kwaye wonwabile, umtshato, uneminyaka eli-14- amawele amadala) akhiwe kunye — ndibanjiwe sisidima sabo. Ndicinga indlela ekuya kuthi ngayo ukukhululeka ekunyanisekeni kwakhe kubafazi abaninzi abakufumanisayo kuyadinisa ukwenza ngathi ubomi buqhubeka bukhula kwaye bungcono-ngamanye amaxesha kuyenzeka; ngamanye amaxesha ayenzi. Ubhala athi: Kule minyaka ndifunde into ebenze lula ubomi bam, ndanyaniseka ngakumbi kwaye ndoneliseka: Ndiyekile ukuzama ukuyeka ukuthanda. Ukuba imigaqo iyalela ukuba uvunyelwe ukuba uthande kuphela ukuba olo thando luyabuyiselwa, ke nabani na owenze loo mithetho usika inxenye ebalulekileyo yobunyani bayo kude. Inkolelo eyamkelweyo yesiqhelo yokuba xa uqala ubomi obutsha, okanye ukuqhubekeka, kufuneka uyeke ukuthanda umntu akunanto yakwenza nentliziyo yakho yabucala… Ayinanto yakwenza ne-masochism kwaye ayisosigqibo esisengqondweni, nokuba.

Nditsho nendoda yesibini kaNks. Simon, uJim Hart-ofumana kuphela umbulelo kulencwadi, kodwa mkhulu ebomini bakhe-uyakuqonda oku. UMnu Hart wakhumbula kum ngenye imini, xa yena noNks Simon kuqala wadibana kuloliwe, phakathi ku-80s, wambuza, Ngubani oyena mntu umthanda kakhulu emhlabeni? Ngokukhawuleza, wamxelela, Alana [umfazi wakhe wangaphambili] -siqhawule umtshato kodwa sakhulisa umntwana onzima kakhulu [kwezonyango] kunye. Emva kokuva oku, uCarly wakhathazeka. Yena ndiyifumene yiyo. Ngeminazana ithile. (Ifoto: Peter Simon, ngoncedo www.PeterSimon.com)

Ukophulwa kwendibano kwakungeyonto ingaqhelekanga ebuntwaneni bukaSimon (umama wakhe wathatha isithandwa esineminyaka eli-19 ubudala, esasicekiswa nguNks Simon, wangena naso endlwini, ngenxa yomyeni wakhe, umzekelo) kwaye ayizukuba yinto yangaphandle kuye kamva . Yena noMnumzana Hart bazakuchitha iminyaka emihlanu yabo yokugqibela yeyakho umtshato uzama ukuqonda indlela yokwenza hayi qhawula umtshato; ebephume njengesini, kodwa basathandana. UNks Simon yintsusa kunye nabantu bokuqala ngabantu abalungileyo ukuba bangafunda kubo.

Amakhwenkwe kwiMithi yayiluhambo lweminyaka emine lokubhala, ukubhala ngokutsha kunye nokubhala ngokutsha (umjikelo wokugqibela wancedwa kakuhle ngumhleli-umbhali uPeter Smith, naye owenza uKim Gordon Intombazana kwiBhendi umthengisi ogqwesileyo) obandakanya ukubambana nabahleli abaphezulu abahluke naye kwifom ekufuneka ithathe incwadi. UNks Simon wanyanzelisa ukugcina ilizwi lakhe elikhethekileyo, etshintsha abapapashi, ukusuka kwiRandom House ukuya kwiFlatiron, kufutshane nomzuzu wokugqibela. Ngexesha lokubhalwa kwayo, uNkosazana Simon kunye nathi ngamanye amaxesha sasibhalelana — kwaye bendihlala ndimva emkhulu, ebetha iintliziyo ngezo imeyile. (Wayekhathazeke kakhulu xa uJoni Mitchell ehlupheka kwi-aneurysm yakhe ekuqaleni kwalo nyaka kwaye wayegula kwaphela Wayefelwe ngumzala wakhe kunye nomhlobo wakhe osenyongweni ebuntwaneni uJeanie Seligman.) Sihlala sithetha emnxebeni. Ndayazi ukuba ukubhala le ncwadi yayiluvavanyo kuye, kwaye kwakanye, ngaphandle kokubandezeleka, wathi wayezibuza ukuba uzibandakanye nantoni na.

Fokanye umntu othethe ngokungafihlisiyo nangokuvulekileyo ngokwentelekiso, ukutyhilwa okwenziwe ngencwadi ngokuqinisekileyo waye wakhupha ukungathandabuzi kuye ngaphambili. Ubuhlobo bakhe obusondeleyo noJackie Kennedy Onassis (omnye umntu ongakhankanywanga kwincwadi yakhe) baqala kumashumi eminyaka eyadlulayo xa uNkskz Onassis, owayengumhleli ozuzayo eDoubleday, wayefuna imemo kuNks. Simon, kunye noNks Simon- emva kokubhala amaphepha angama-80. -Yongezwe isithi hayi kuyo. (Abavelisi bafuna ukubhalwa kwakhona Kuzalwa inkwenkwezi malunga noNks. Simon noMnu Taylor, kwaye bala.) Ngokuchasene noNks. Simon okonwabisayo kunye nentloko-phambili, uMnu. Taylor unelungelo laseNew England, umda wobukhoboka kwakhona-kwaye Nks. Simon umbonile esenza ngokungakhathali nababesakuba ngamantombazana (wamva exelela ababini abamfowunelayo-omnye yayingu-Joni-angaze aphinde afowune, kwaye amazwi akhe kunye nethoni yakhe wayeziva ngathi ngumqondiso osisilumkiso ngekamva lakhe). Ukuba ngokwakhe encwadini yakhe, kwaye etyhila ubomi bakhe noMnu Taylor, phantse waqinisekisa ngakumbi ukungamkholisi umntu wakudala. Mhlawumbi esi yayisisenzo sokugqibela sobufazi, inguqulelo yamaxesha e-quantum yokubheja ucinga ukuba le ngoma imalunga nawe- awunjalo, akunjalo ? ’’

Ngaphambi nje Amakhwenkwe kwiMithi yapapashwa, Nksz Simon kwaye sineencoko ezimbini. Wayenexhala. Inqanaba lakhe elidumileyo loloyiko labonakala ngathi liye langena e-pub-umhla-woyika. Wayendibuzile umntu wakhe othintithayo. Ngaba baya kucinga ukuba ndiyalahla igama? Ubuzile, kubagxeki. Ingaba uyadlala? Ndiphendule. Wena ndinayo bonke abo bathandi. Ububazi bonke abo bantu kwaye ubazi kakuhle . Ungabulahla njani ubomi bakho? Ukuba yena ngokwakhe wayeligama elinethontsi akubonakali ngathi kuye. Kwiminyaka esithoba eyadlulayo uMia Farrow wandixelela: kwinqanaba elithile UNks Simon akaqondi ukuba ungosaziwayo. Kuyinyani, oko.

U-NNge-24 ka-Okthobha, usuku lokupapashwa, UNks Simon uvele Umdlalo wokugqibela kunye noStephen Colbert . Benza uguquko lwayo kunye noMnu. Taylor duo odumileyo uMockingbird. Emva koko wacula ingoma yakhe entsha, Andikwazi ukubulela ngokwaneleyo, ekhatshwa nguBen noSally. Ngosuku olulandelayo wayekhwele Namhlanje , kusuku olulandelayo emva koko Hlala noKelly noMichael . Ndothuswe kukuba wazivolontiya, kumdlalo wokugqibela, ukuba uMnu Taylor khange athethe naye ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-30. Oko kubonakala kukuhenda ababukeli ukuba bacinge: Ubhala kakhulu ngaye kwaye akade amhoye? Kodwa kuwo wonke umboniso ukwathe noMnu. Taylor ufumene iMbasa yeNkulumbuso yeNkululeko nokuba wayenebhongo kangakanani. Wathatha indlela ephezulu. Okanye-ewe, masiyibeke ngale ndlela: indlela yakhe.

‘Baza kucinga ukuba ndiyalahla igama?’ Ubuzile, kubagxeki. ‘Uyahlekisa?’ Ndaphendula. ‘Ubunabo bonke abo bathandi. Ububazi bonke abo bantu kwaye ubazi kakuhle. Ungabulahla njani ubomi bakho? ’Into yokuba yena ngokwakhe wayeligama elirhuqayo akubonakali ngathi kuye.

Ndathetha naye kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kamva. Wavakala ekhululekile. Uninzi lwabantu kule minyaka lindixelele ukuba bendikhathazekile nguJames, kwaye ndiziva ndikwimixokelelwane, ndizama ukubaleka kolo luvo, kungekuphela kokuncamathela kuye, kodwa, ngokunjalo, kuvavanyo lweenjongo ezintle kwaye abantu abangenantlonelo-entle, eyamenza ukuba azive ngathi andinangqondo kwaye ndinengqondo engqondweni ngenxa yokucinga ngomtshato ophelile. Kwaye xa ndayeka ukumelana naloo mvakalelo-ukuba angacingi ngoMnu Taylor-wayeka ukundenzakalisa, kwaye inxenye yaloo [nkqubo yokuhlangula] eyayikhupha konke ephepheni. Ekhaya kwiSidiliya seMartha. (Ifoto ngoncedo lukaCarly Simon)

Kule ncwadi ubhala ngoyise kabuhlungu, u-Richard Simon, owathi, nangona wayeqaqambile kwaye enomtsalane, waxhonywa ngumfazi wakhe, wasebenzisa ithuba kwaye ekugqibeleni wasikhupha kwisabelo sakhe kwindlu enkulu yokupapasha awathi wayiseka, kwaye ngubani owachitha iminyaka yokugqibela yobomi bakhe edlala umculo weklasikhi kwipiyano yakhe, ekuguleni nasebumnyameni nasentlungwini. Unikezela incwadi kuye-iqhawe lam endimthandayo, waqonda kade ukuba uxolo lwethu luze ngexesha lokudla kwakhe ubomi. Mna ngokwam ndandiyintombi eyayiziva ingathandwa ngutata ophumeleleyo owasweleka ndisemtsha, kusekutsha kakhulu ukuba singavala umsantsa wethu; Ndaziva ndiphilisiwe ngokuyinxenye ngokubhala incwadi malunga nayo, ke ndaye ndakuqonda ukuphumla-isisombululo-kwilizwi likaNks. Simon ngoku, ngokwahlukileyo kulomntu endandimva kwiminxeba yakhe yangaphambi kokupapashwa. Andizange ndikhe ndikuva ukusweleka kukatata wam xa kusenzeka, wandixelela. Kodwa xa uJames saqhawula umtshato, kwakungathi kukho ulwandlalo katata wam phantsi noJames-indoda efanayo, ende, ethe qelele, engangxami indoda eyathi, njengoko yayifaka kwimifanekiso emibini eyahlukeneyo, yahamba ngqo, ingajonganga ngasekunene nangasekhohlo — kwawela kuwo kuze kuzalise ulwandlalo. Ukubhala le ncwadi ke yayikukucinga kabini.

Ngokumalunga nokuphathwa cwaka akufumanayo kwisandla somfazi wakhe wangaphambili kunye nenkosikazi yakhe yangoku, UKim: Bacinga ngokundigcina kule mpi ibandayo, ndizakubuya umva kwimbono kaReagan yokulila, ‘Ludilize olo donga!’ Utsho. (Iyaphawula ukuba kuphela ziingqondo ezinyaweni zakhe u-Ms Simon onokuzifanisa noRonald Reagan.)

Abantwana bakhe abadala bayayixhasa le ncwadi. UBen wathi, ‘Kutheni ufanele ucinge ngendlela uTata avakalelwa ngayo xa engakhange athethe nawe kwiminyaka emininzi kangaka?’ Kwaye uSally wayeyithanda loo nto — ndaza ndamvumela ukuba afunde ezona zinto zinzima kwasekuqaleni. Enye yezo zinto zicelomngeni yayiyisahluko esikufutshane nesiphelo, xa, emva kokutshata kwakhona kukaMnu. Taylor kumfazi wakhe wesibini, wayetyelele indlu eseCentral Park West apho babehlala khona ixesha elide njengentsapho, kwaye yena noNks Simon bawela ngesondo, ngokukhawuleza. Isahluko sinesihloko ngento ayikhumbulayo uMnu. Taylor xa efika kuye: Strip, bitch! Ngexesha lefandesi yencwadi, bonke abapapashi bayayithanda [loo mgca] kwaye bafuna incwadi ngokusekelwe kuyo, utshilo.

Zininzi izinto ezityiwayo-ukusuka kuyilo lukaWarren Beatty lokudala ixesha elisezantsi lichukunyiswa nguNks. Simon's psychoanalyst, kubo bonke abantu, ngendlela enokuthi ivele kumdlalo bhanyabhanya kaWoody Allen, kuNks Simon enyanzelisa ukudibana ngumdanisi onoburharha noMnu. Taylor owayethandana naye ekupheleni komtshato wabo (UNks Simon waphinda).

Okwangoku, ngaphandle kwale chic kunye ne-randy eqhubekayo, le nto yokuhleba, into endisoloko ndibethwa kuyo yile mgca unyanisekileyo: Ukuba imigaqo iyalela ukuba uvunyelwe ukuthanda kuphela ukuba olo thando luyabuyiselwa, ke nabani na owenza ezo zinto imigaqo isika icandelo elibalulekileyo lokunyaniseka kude. Ukunyaniseka yile nto uyiNkosazana Simon; akunakwenzeka ukuba abe ngenye indlela. Ndiyakholelwa eluthandweni; yintoni enye endinokuyenza? Ndikuthanda kakhulu, wabhala wabhala ingoma ethi Coming Around Again. Ubomi, ubomi bomzali-babulinganisa ngokulinganayo kwaye buzithemba, buhlungu kwaye boyisile. Ngoku, nge Amakhwenkwe kwiMithi , kukho incwadi epheleleyo egcwele indibaniselwano yomphefumlo.