UGeorge Takei.Ifoto ngu-Mat Hayward / Getty Intlanganiso yekofu eyenziweyo. Iinyani eziphambili zibanjiwe okanye zabuyela umva. Ibali elimnandi lepati malunga nokuhlaselwa ngokwesondo-athi ngoku ummangaleli ngekhe kwenzeke.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa ilifa lelitshantliziyo lonakaliswa yimbali yomhlobo wakudala othi emva kwayo yonke loo nto ibinokuba kukungaqondani konke? Kwaye siyilungisa njani le mpazamo ngexesha lobulungisa bezentlalo obugqithileyo?
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Iminyaka engamashumi amathathu anesithandathu ngaphambi kokuba ajoyine ingqumbo yomsindo wokuziphatha gwenxa ngokwesondo, uScott Brunton wayesazi ngokuhlaselwa ngamadoda amadala.
Imodeli enqwenelekayo, inde neblonde, ifoto yokuqala kaBrunton ekusebenzeni nomfoti owaziwayo ngokukhawuleza wajika wangcola.
Ndingathanda ukwenza ipotifoliyo yakho yonke, umfoti waxelela uBrunton ukufika kwakhe kwikhaya lendoda endala. Kwaye, wongeze, ndingathanda ukulala nawe.
UBrunton wadada. Xa wala, umfoti wathi, Kulungile, ndiyaqikelela ukuba le nto ayizukusebenza ngelo xesha. Imodeli encinci ishiye ngaphandle kweefoto.
Iziganeko ezinje ngee-20 zakhe zokuqala zatshintsha umbono kaBrunton wezothando kunye nobudlelwane. Umfuziselo wangaphambili, owathi wavotelwa uninzi lwamaNaive kwiklasi yakhe yaseOregon kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, walumka kakhulu ngabantu-amadoda-ekusenokwenzeka ukuba ayefuna nje ukungena kwibhulukhwe yam.
Kuzo zonke ezi nkqubela phambili zingafunekiyo, eyona ibalulekileyo-leyo iya kuthi, kumashumi eminyaka kamva, imbeke eluntwini-ibandakanye umdlali odumileyo: Inkwenkwezi yetrek inkwenkwezi uGeorge Takei.
Okanye u-Brunton wathi ngo-Novemba ophelileyo, xa wayesithi ngo-1981, yena no-Takei, owayeneminyaka engama-44 ubudala, babephume kunye kwaye baphelela kwikhonsathi yomdlali weqonga ebusuku. Apho, wasela ii-cocktails u-Takei awayezenzile, waba yi-woozy kwaye wazifumana esihlalweni sebhegi yebhontshisi. Ke, ngokukaBrunton, umdlali weqonga wehlisa ibhulukhwe kaBrunton ngelixa imodeli yayingazi nto. Ukuza kwaye wothuswa, u-Brunton oneminyaka engama-24 ubudala.
Phantse amashumi amane eminyaka kamva, u-Brunton, owathi wayezobalisa eli bali kubahlobo mhlawumbi amaxesha angama-20, wawachwetheza la mazwi, uGeorge Takei wandihlasela ngesondo, nge-imeyile Intatheli yaseHollywood , etyhola umdlali weqonga ngokumgcungcuthekisa.
Ukubalwa kwangoko. Kwiiyure ezimbalwa, i THR ibali waya kwintsholongwane. I-Twitter ngokufanayo yaqhuma kunye nabasebenzisi betyhola u-Takei ngokuthengisa iziyobisi u-Brunton kunye nokubhala u-Takei njengomdlwenguli. U-Takei oneminyaka engama-80 wasiphika isimangalo sikaBrunton, esithi akakwazi nokumkhumbula lo mfo.
Kodwa abalandeli abanesikizi bamshiya u-Takei, owayebhangise igama lakhe le-Lieutenant Sulu nge-tweets ngeyure kumalungelo oluntu kunye nezopolitiko ukuze abe ngumgxeki we-iconic, u-foil ku-Donald Trump kunye nomgqugquzeli wamalungelo e-LGBTQ ngaphezulu kweshumi labalandeli. Amaqabane akhe okupapasha amlahla. NgoMgqibelo ebusuku Ulahle igama lakhe kwisikethi malunga nolwaphulo-mthetho ngokwesondo. UDonald Trump Jr. utyhola u-Takei ngokuhanahanisa.
Akalunganga uGeorgie… Ndicinga ukuba unexesha elithe vetshe lokufunda #zigqibo ngoku kunzima ukubakhupha abantwana ngotywala ukuze ubahlasele ??? Uyazi ngalo lonke uhlolo olongeziweyo. https://t.co/xUbvbfhMxN
-UDonald Trump Jr. (@DonaldJTrumpJr) NgoDisemba 10, 2017
Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafaniyo noBill Cosby, uHarvey Weinstein kunye nabanye abatyholwa ngezesondo ngabantu abadumileyo, u-Takei wayesaziwa eHollywood njengomntu olungileyo. Kwakungekho lifu lokusebeza, kwakungekho mzila wentlawulo okanye amabango acinezelweyo okunyusa izityholo zokukhusela amashishini abo.
Ngaba oku kuphelelwe lixesha? Okanye ngaba yayililizwi lokuqala lepateni efihliweyo, icala elimnyama u-Takei wagcinwa kwimbonakalo yoluntu amashumi eminyaka?
Ndinezizathu zam zokufuna impendulo.
Nangona ndingazange ndithethe naye, uThai wayengomnye wabantu abaninzi endabachazayo ngelixa ndibhala incwadi yesayensi malunga nokusebenzisana kwabantu. Kwisahluko esinye, ndivavanye umlo kaTakei wokulwa ubundlobongela kunye nocalucalulo lwaseAsia eMelika, kubandakanya nomculo wakhe obanzi we-Broadway Ukunyaniseka, esekwe kwibali lokuvalelwa kwakhe njengomntwana kwiinkampu ze-WWII.
Inkqubo ye- THR Inqaku liphule njengoko umpapashi wam, uPenguin, ebefunda uyilo lokugqibela kumbhalo wam obhaliweyo. Umbuzo: Yintoni ngoku?
Ukuba u-Takei wayehamba ngenene, ndandizimisele ukumsusa kwincwadi yam. Nangona ndibhale abantu abaninzi abaziphethe kakubi-ukusuka ku-Che Guevara ukuya ku-Andrew Jackson-la yayingamaxesha ahlukeneyo. Kodwa ukuba igama likaTakei lenzekile ngokungafanelekanga, njengoko ebanga njalo, ngaba ndingongeza ukonakalisa ngokususa ibali lakhe?
Umpapashi wam kunye nam salinda isikhukula esingenakuphepheka sezityholo zika # MeToo ngokuchasene noTakei, njengoko babenzile nabanye abatyholwa ngokwesondo. Kodwa akufikanga namnye.
Kwaye emva koko, ndathi ndifunda ngokungathandabuzekiyo ibali ngalinye elitsha, ndaqaphela iinkcukacha eziphikisanayo ngoshiyi kudliwanondlebe lukaBrunton.
Ngokugqwesileyo, u-Brunton akazange abonakale ekhankanya ukuba wayenesiyobisi kude kube ziintsuku ezimbini emva ko THR ibali, kulandela ukukhaba esidlangalaleni kukaTakei. Ke ngoku, kudliwanondlebe lwe-CNN , Ngokudideka akazange abalise nakuphi na ukuphuthaphutha.
Imidiya yoluntu kunye noonondaba babemgwebile u-Takei, kodwa ngokungabikho kwabatyholwa abangakumbi, imibuzo yayixhonywe emoyeni: Kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye ngobo busuku? Kwaye ngubani uTakei, ngenene?
Ndiye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndifumanise ngakumbi malunga nento eyenzekileyo kwiminyaka engama-36 eyadlulayo phakathi kwamadoda amabini ezinzulwini zobusuku kwigumbi lokulala, xa kungekho mntu.
Into endiyifumeneyo emva kweenyanga zophando-kwaye emva kokuthetha ixesha elide noBrunton, abantu abasondeleyo ku-Takei, oochwephesha kwezonyango kunye neengcali kwezomthetho kwizenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho zesondo- icebisa ukuba eli bali lifanele libuyele kwakhona.
UBrunton, indoda enovelwano nenenjongo entle, wayeya kuhamba ebuyela ngasemva kwiinkcukacha eziphambili kwaye ayeke ukuba, kumzamo wakhe wokumanyelwa, wenza izinto ezithile. Obu nobunye ubungqina bunokubonisa isiphetho ekunzima ukugwinya: Thina-esidlangalaleni kunye noonondaba-silifumene ibali likaGeorge Takei.
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Ukuba uTakei wayenguCosby olandelayo, ndandizimisele ukumkhupha ngokupheleleyo. Ndenze udliwanondlebe nabahlobo kunye nabantu endandisebenza nabo malunga nobomi babucala bukaTakei. Ndithethe ixesha elide nabantu ababedla ngokuhamba rhoqo kwiindawo zakhe zobufanasini ze-L.A. kwii-80s kunye nee-90s.
Oku kumbi akubonakalisanga ndlela ibonakalayo yokuxhatshazwa — okwangoku, ubuncinci.
Ndishiye imiyalezo yemiyalezo ku-Takei nomyeni wakhe, ndicela udliwanondlebe. Ndiqhakamshelane neqela lakhe lentatheli kunye neendaba zosasazo. Omnye wabaphathi beshishini lakhe ekugqibeleni wavuma ukuthetha ngerekhodi kodwa akavuma ukuphawula ngakumbi kunokuba uTayi wayenayo kuFacebook. Ndabuza abameli bakaTakei ukuba angathanda na ukuxolisa eBrunton ngayo nantoni na. Baye bathi akunakwenzeka oko kwaye bandixelela, Kutheni ucela uxolo ngento ongayikhumbuliyo kwaye ongasoze uyenze?
Elinye inyathelo elicacileyo yayikukuthetha noBrunton. Iinkcukacha ezigqibeleleyo zebali lakhe zinokunceda ukuveza iphethini, ukuba ibikhona, kunye nokucoca ukungavisisani phakathi kweengxelo zeendaba ezahlukeneyo. Ngoku engama-60 kwaye onwabile emtshatweni, u-Brunton wayenomdla kwaye wayethetha phandle.
Wavuma ukundivumela ukuba ndiqhoboshele iincoko zethu kwaye wandikhuthaza ukuba ndibelane ngazo noTakei-ngethemba lokubaleka inkumbulo yakhe-kunye nabani na ongomnye. Sithethile kangangeeyure kwifowuni amaxesha amaninzi kunye nakwimixokelelwano ye-imeyile ethatha iinyanga ezininzi.
UBrunton wachaza ukuba wadibana noThai ngehlobo lika1981, ngelixa wayehlala nesoka lakhe lokuqala, uJay Vanulk. Baza kubetha i-LA's bar bar gay ubusuku obuncinci ngeveki. Enye yayiyiBlue Dot Lounge kaGreg, indawo ekhuselekileyo ngexesha apho abaninzi babecinga ubufanasini. Kulapho badibana khona noTakei. 
Greg's Blue Dot Lounge kaGreg, eHollywood, ngo-1980.UBruce Torrence
UBrunton wayengekaphumi aye kubazali bakhe (kwaye wayenayo nentombi eyayiza kuba ngumfazi ngeli xesha). U-Takei, nangona wayengekho esidlangalaleni, wayehlala esiya kwiindawo ezithandanayo kwaye wayexhasa amanye amadoda athandana namanye. Wayenengqondo entle yesazela sentlalontle, yakhe Inkwenkwezi yetrek Owayesebenza kunye noWalter Koenig, owayesazi ngobufanasini bukaTakei kwangoko, wandixelela.
UBrunton kunye noVanulk bayamthanda uTakei kwaye baya kuncokola kwisekethe yasebusuku. Sasingengabo abahlobo ixesha elide, utshilo uBrunton. Kodwa, uThai wayengathobekanga. Akangomdlali weqonga, ugcwele yena. Ulungile kwaye ulungile.
UBrunton uthe ubusuku obuzwayo buqale emva kokuba exelele uTakei ukuba uVanulk ubuphelisile ubudlelwane babo. Umdlali weqonga, ekhangela ukumonwabisa, uthathe uBrunton ngobusuku-isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye newayini kunye nomdlalo. Emva koko, u-Takei wamema imodeli ukuya kwi-condo yakhe yeziselo, kwaye u-Brunton wavuma.
Ngaphakathi, umlingisi uxube ii-cocktails kwi-Star Trek glassware, abasele ngelixa bencokola. UTeki wabuza ukuba ufuna enye na, kwaye uBrunton wathi ewe. Bendicinga, ‘Thixo, ezi ziziselo ezinxilisayo,’ uBrunton wandixelela, ndihleka.
Emva kokugqiba isiselo sesibini, uBrunton waphakama esofeni kwaye waziva enesiyezi. U-Takei wamkhokelela kwisitulo sebhegi, apho u-Brunton walala khona kwaye kufuneka ukuba waphulukana nomqondo okomzuzwana, utshilo. Wayengaqinisekanga nokuba ngenene waf ’isiqaqa okanye wavele nje wakhumbula imfutshane nje.
Into elandelayo uBrunton awayeyazi, umhla wakhe wawusenza intshukumo kuye. Ibhulukhwe kaBrunton yayijikeleze amaqatha akhe, kwaye uTakei wayebambelele kwimpahla yakhe yangaphantsi, utshilo uBrunton. UBrunton wabhikisha, esithi akafuni ukulala ngesondo.
Uthe uTakei wathathelwa ingqalelo waphendula, Ndizama ukukwenza wonwabe.
UBrunton akazange amkholelwe. Watyhala uTakei, emxelela, Hayi.
UThato wamangaliswa. Kulungile, umdlali weqonga uthe. Wayengacaphuki, ngokukaBrunton. Kodwa, uTakei uthe, Awukho kwimeko yokuqhuba.
UBrunton waqhuba wagoduka. Ndaphakama ndaziva ndinokuqhuba, wandixelela. Akazange adlule emotweni yakhe kwaye akazange azive elambile kusasa.
Waziva njani ngengomso? Ndibuze kuBrunton.
Ukuphoxeka.
Ndaziva ndinethamsanqa lokumazi [kuba] wayelungile, kwaye engusaziwayo. Ndacinga, 'Ewe, angaba ngumhlobo wabantu abaninzi, kodwa ukhethe ukuba ngumhlobo wam.'
Ilizwi likaBrunton lathamba. Uyayibona le ndiyitshoyo?
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Inkqubo ye- THR Inqaku lithetha ukuba uTakei wenze isenzo solwaphulo-mthetho sokuthinta isondo ngaphandle kwemvume. Abasebenzisi be-Twitter bafunda phakathi kwemigca kwaye batyhola umdlali weqonga lokuthengisa iziyobisi uBrunton. Kwiintsuku ezimbini kamva, kudliwanondlebe no Indawo yaseOregonia Emva kokuba uToki ekhuphe ukukhanyela kwakhe, utshilo uBrunton, Ndiyazi ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba wasicofa isiselo sam. Olu yayiludliwanondlebe lokuqala apho wayecatshulwe khona esithi wayephethe iziyobisi.
UBrunton undixelele ukuba khange yenzeke kuye ixesha elide ukuba uThai angamtyibilikisa.
Bendicinga ukuba ndinxilile nje, utshilo. Khange ndiqalise nokucinga oko de kwaba yiminyaka kamva xa beqala ukuthetha ngeziyobisi zokudlwengulwa. Kwaye, emva koko uCosby kunye nabo bonke.
Kumashumi eminyaka emva kokumka e-LA, emva kokuba efunde amajelo eendaba osasazo otyholwayo kunye nezityholo zokudlwengulwa nxamnye noBill Cosby, u-Brunton waphinda waqwalasela ngobo busuku. Mhlawumbi ndanikwa iziyobisi, wagqiba. Kwi-6-inyawo-2 kunye ne-180 yeepawundi, andikaze ndisele nje ezimbini kwaye ndigqithe.
Kodwa iminyaka, ebuza ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye. Ndiza kuhlala ndizibuza, utshilo.
Undinike imvume yokwabelana ngayo yonke into ebesiyixoxa, ndiye ndathatha umbuzo wakhe-kunye neempawu azichazileyo- kwababini bezonyango abanetyhefu. Loluphi uhlobo lwechiza ekusenokwenzeka ukuba walithatha u-Takei? Ndinike iingcali iinkcukacha zebali likaBrunton (ngaphandle kokutyhila naziphi na izazisi ukugcina injongo yovavanyo lwabo) kwaye ndacela izigqibo zabo malunga nokuba zeziphi iziyobisi ezinokuthi zibandakanyeke.
Kunzima ukungqina ukuba umntu ungene kumhla wokudlwengulwa kweziyobisi kuba ezo ziyobisi zihlala zishiya inkqubo yomntu ngokukhawuleza. U-Brunton akazange ambone u-Takei esongeza nantoni na engaqhelekanga kwi-cocktail yakhe, nangona amaxhoba ahlala engaqapheli into enjalo.
Ndothukile, nangona kunjalo, bobabini oochwephesha bezonyango banikezela kwangoko isiselo esinencasa.
Esona sizathu sinokubakho asihambelani neziyobisi, utshilo uLewis Nelson, umlawuli wezonyango kwezonyango eRutgers New Jersey Medical School. Kuvakala ngathi yi-postural hypotension, inyuswe butywala. I-postural hypotension kukuhla ngesiquphe koxinzelelo lwegazi olunokuthi lwenzeke xa umntu ephakama ngokukhawuleza-kwaye unokwenza umntu abe nesiyezi ngokwaneleyo ukuba angadlula ngaphandle kotywala. UBrunton wayecacisile kum, izihlandlo ezibini, ukuba isiyezi simbetha kuphela xa eme ngeenyawo.
Inkcazo kaBrunton yee-cocktails eziqinileyo icebisa ukuba bangabandakanya isibini sotywala nganye, okanye malunga nee-ounces ezintandathu zotywala zizonke, zonke zigqityiwe kwiyure enye okanye ngaphezulu. Wayesela iwayini ngaphambili, inyani ekubonakala ukuba khange ayixelele ezinye iintatheli, ezinokuthi zongeze kumxholo wotywala egazini lakhe. (Ukongeza, kwavela ukuba uBrunton khange abenobunzima beepawundi ezili-180 awayezixelele ekuqaleni THR nam. Ngokwenyani, ndandisezantsi ukuya kwi-170 ngelo xesha, wavuma kwincoko yethu yesibini.)
Indoda enesisindo esinje kwimeko enokuthi ibhalise i-BAC ubuncinci i-0.10, imenze ukuba anxile ngokwasemthethweni kwaye athambekele ekugxadazeni, ekunciphiseni ukusebenza kweemoto nakwintetho ekrwada-kwaye mhlawumbi kubi kakhulu kuxhomekeke kubungakanani bewayini ebenayo kunye nexesha elingakanani yayikwinkqubo yakhe.
Utywala bodwa, ukuba butywala ngokukhawuleza, bunokuphendula ngenxa yakhe [browning out], ngakumbi ukuba bekukho i-hypotension yasemva kwesithuba, utshilo u-Michael Scott-Ham we-Principal Forensic Toxicology & Drugs, inkampani ecebisayo eLondon, unike ubungqina kumatyala olwaphulo-mthetho kangangeminyaka engama-35. Ukuchacha ngokukhawuleza akufani nezenzo zeziyobisi.
Nokuba ithamo elincinci leRohypnol, okanye uphahla, elona chiza liqhelekileyo lokudlwengulwa komhla, libetha kakhulu. Ikuguqula ube ngunodoli womdaka ngaphandle kolawulo lweengalo okanye imilenze kwaye akukho nkumbulo yeeyure ezininzi. Amaxhoba achaza usuku olulandelayo njengolona krakra ebomini babo ngentloko ebuhlungu, isicaphucaphu kunye nentlungu yomzimba. Umntu oye wafulelwa mhlawumbi wayengenakuchasa ukuqhubela phambili ngokwesondo, makungabikho yedwa oqhutyelwa ekhaya kwaye akhumbule yonke into.
Ezinye iziyobisi zokudlwengulwa zikwapakisha inqindi. I-GHB inefuthe lokukhubazeka kunye ne-amnesiac. I-Quaaludes, ukuthambisa okusetyenziswe nguCosby osandula ukugwetywa ukukhubaza abasetyhini, kubangela ukuphulukana nolawulo lwezihlunu oluhlala iiyure. Kwaye ngekhe avumele u-Brunton ukuba aphendule njengoko wenzayo, ngakumbi xa exutywe notywala.
Kukho iziyobisi namhlanje ezinokukwenza oku, kodwa zazingekho [ngo-1981], utshilo uNelson.
Ndabelane ngoqwalaselo lwee-toxicologists kunye noBrunton, owavuma ukuba oku kumenza azive engcono. Inokuba wayenyanisile yonke loo minyaka xa wayecinga ukuba unxile nje. Akasokuze azi ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa, utshilo u-Brunton, ebhekisa ku-Takei, oko kumenza ukuba angoyiki kangako.
Ngaphandle kweziyobisi, nangona kunjalo, ukuphatha ngesondo ngaphandle kwemvume lulwaphulo-mthetho. Kwinxalenye yebali, iimpapasho ezahlukeneyo zichaze iinguqulelo ezahlukileyo njengoko ibali likaBrunton litshintshile kwiintsuku nje ezimbalwa.
THR Utshilo uBrunton ukuba uThai ebephuthaphutha crotch yam kwaye ezama ukukhulula iimpahla zam zangaphantsi kwaye andivise kwangaxeshanye.
I-CNN yathetha naye kamva-kwaye iakhawunti kaBrunton ishiye nantoni na echukumisayo: Uphezu kwam kwaye ibhlukhwe yam iye yatsalwa yajikeleza amaqatha am kwaye izandla zakhe zizama ukukhulula iimpahla zam zangaphantsi.
Indawo yaseOregonia uxele ukuba, ngokukaBrunton, uThai wayephezu kwakhe, ihempe kunye nezihlangu. UBrunton uthe ibhulukhwe yakhe ibixinene emaqatheni akhe kwaye noTai ebenesandla kwimpahla yakhe yangaphantsi, ezama ukuyikhulula.
Kum, uBrunton uchaze ukuba ungene ebhegini emva koko waqonda ukuba iblukhwe yakhe iphantsi kunye nenye indoda engaphezulu kwakhe. Isandla esinye sangaphantsi kwimpahla yam yangaphantsi, kwaye elinye icala linje ngohlobo lwempundu yam, ukuzama ukutsala i-elastics, uyazi? Ndiyathetha, bonke ubunzima bam bukwimpahla yangaphantsi. Khange asebenzise igama elithi grope kwaye khange abonise ukuba uTakei uthinte amalungu akhe angasese, nokuba ngqo okanye ngeengubo zangaphantsi okanye ubambe iimpundu zakhe. Ngokungafaniyo ne- Inkqubo ye- Oregonian Iakhawunti ebike i-Takei engenahempe, u-Brunton uthe umdlali weqonga wayenxibe isikipa esifutshane.
UBrunton wayethethe into enye kuzo zontathu iivenkile kwindawo enye: ukuba xa wayexelela u-Takei ukuba akafuni ukwabelana ngesondo, umdlali weqonga wabuya umva.
Kodwa masenze ntoni ngokungangqinelani kolu dliwanondlebe?
Ukungazikhumbuli iinkcukacha ezinje ngokuba uTakei wayenxibe ihempe okanye wayenganxibanga yena ngumzekelo oqhelekileyo wokungaphumeleli kwememori yexesha elide, ngokwe-neuroscientist kunye nomphandi wenkumbulo uGqirha Donna Bridge weYunivesithi yaseNyakatho-ntshona. Imemori yethu ayakhelwanga ukukhumbula iinkcukacha ezichanekileyo ixesha elide, undixelele. Sigcwalisa iinkcukacha.
Kodwa ukuba siyakukholelwa kuvavanyo lweetyhefu lokuba isiselo sikaBrunton asikhange sisebenzise iziyobisi, isityholo sokubetha sixhomekeke kuye sikhumbula ukuba ubanjiwe, kwaye kuloo nto, iiakhawunti zakhe ezitshintshayo zinokubaluleka ngakumbi.
Ndamcela ukuba acacise umba. Ngaba wayechukumisa amalungu akho obuni?
Uyazi… mhlawumbi… uBrunton uphendule emva kokuthandabuza. Ngokucacileyo wayesendleleni eya ku… ukuya… ukuya kwindawo ethile.
Sabelana ngekhefu.
Ke… awusamkhumbuli echukumisa amalungu akho esini?
UBrunton wavuma ukuba akakhumbuli nakuphi na ukuchukumisa.
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Umxholo wobomi obuvaliweyo obunesiqingatha e-LA ekuqaleni kweminyaka yoo-1980s buhamba indlela ende ekuchazeni indlela umntu anokuthi afike ngayo ekuthatheni ibhulukhwe yenye indoda ngaphambi kokuba aqonde ukukhanya kubomvu.
'Amasiko okuthandana ngaphambi komtshato' ihlala ibandakanya intshayelelo emfutshane, ilandelwe kukuya kwindawo yokuhlala umntu omnye kunye 'nendwendwe' ishiya emva kokwabelana ngesondo, u-Edward Garren, umgqugquzeli wamalungelo esitabane kunye nembali owayehlala e-Blue Dot kaGreg kunye nezinye iiklabhu zamafanasini kubumelwane ngelo xesha, undicacisele.
Umntu omncinci nomtsha kulo mboniso unokumangaliswa kukwazi ukuba ukuphuma nomfana, emva koko ubuyele kwigumbi lakhe kunye nokusela kunye, kuya kuthi ngokuzenzekelayo kuthathwe njengesimemo sesini ngezo ntsuku, ngokukaGarren nabanye I Ndathetha nabo bahlala e-LA kwii-1980s zokuqala.
Akukho nanye kwezi eya kuba yimpazamo kaBrunton. Ezi ntlobo zezinto zazingathethwanga ngokuphandle ngazo.
Umxholo onje ubaluleke kakhulu ngokwembono yezomthetho, ucacisile owayesakuba liGqwetha leSekela leSithili u-Ambrosio Rodriguez, owatshutshisa abadlwenguli kunye nabaxhaphazi amashumi eminyaka eCalifornia. Njengakwizazi ezinetyhefu, ndabelana noRodriguez ngeenkcukacha ezingaboniyo ngemeko endichazelwe nguBrunton.
Akukho nto yokutshutshisa apha, ucacisile, emva kokubuza imibuzo eneenkcukacha malunga neziganeko zasebusuku ezityholwayo. Abantu banxila kwimihla kwaye bayasusa iibhulukhwe ngamanye amaxesha, utshilo. Kwenzeka njani oku kwaye kwenzeka ntoni emva koko sisitshixo ngokwembono yomthetho, ucacisile. Iinkcukacha ezibalulekileyo kwimeko yomhla wokuvumelana nabantu abadala ababini abaselayo, utshilo, kukuba xa indoda eyenze kwangaphambili yenqatshelwa imvume, warhoxa. Ukwenza intshukumo ngokwayo ayilolwaphulo-mthetho, utshilo uRodriguez.
THR uxele ukuba abantu abane ababemazi uBrunton bamva ebalisa ibali kule minyaka idlulileyo, kodwa akukho namnye owacatshulwayo kwaye akukho zinkcukacha zinikiweyo. Ingcaciso enokubakho yileyo ndlela uBrunton ayichaza ngayo into eyenzekileyo-njenge-anecdote ehlekisayo, endaweni yengozi etshintsha ubomi, ngokukaBrunton ngokwakhe.
Ucacisile ukuba amashumi eminyaka, ubusuku bakhe noTakei yayilibali elihlekisayo, ibali elibalulekileyo lepati, njengoko wayekubeka.
Andifane ndiyicinge, utshilo. Ngamaxesha athile, ukuba igama lakhe liye lavela, okanye ukuba isalathiso seStar Trek size nabahlobo. Ndiza kuthi, ‘Owu, kulungile, ndinibali!’ Ukhumbule, ehleka. Baya, ‘Ngokwenene? Yintoni? ’Ndandibaxelela abantu, baze bahambe,‘ Ew! ’
Ucacisile, Wayemdala kum ngeminyaka engama-20 kunam kwaye emfutshane. Kwaye andizange nditsaleleke kumadoda aseAsia. Wongeze ngelithi, ndandishushu, ndingumbonisi, inkwenkwana yohlobo lwaseCalifornia, ekunokwenzeka ukuba wayenokuyifumana kuphela xa ethengile, ehlawulelwe okanye efumene umntu olungele nje ukukhwela kwizambatho zakhe zodumo.
Isiqendu ngokwaso sasingebuhlungu, utshilo uBrunton, ehleka. Khange indibethe.
Nangona kunjalo, uBrunton wathi wakutyhila kwangoko okwenzekileyo kuJay Vanulk, awayesathandana naye kakhulu, ngaphambi kokuba axelele omnye umntu.
UVanulk, nangona kunjalo, wayephikisana neakhawunti kaBrunton.
Aba babini babeqhubekile ukuba ngabahlobo emva kokwahlukana kwaye bahlala bebonana emva kokuba uBrunton kamva ebuyile ePortland, Ore., Indawo. UVanulk wandixelela okokuqala akhumbula ukuva ngokudibana kukaBrunton noThai xa wayekubona ezindabeni ngo-2017. 
UGeorge Takei njengoLieutenant Sulu kwi I-Star Trek II: Ingqumbo kaKhan. Ugcino lweeFoto ze-CBS
Ndiyazi ukuba sasidibene noGeorge Takei, kodwa konke kunjalo, utshilo uVanulk. Ukuba uBrunton wayemxelele ingxelo yeli bali ngo-1981, okanye emva kwexesha elithile, yayingakhange ivakalise umtsalane ngokwaneleyo ukuba uVanulk akhumbule. Wongeze ngelithi wathi akubona ezi ndaba, waxoxa nesinqandamathe sika Brunton, uTracey, owamxelela ukuba ukhumbula ukuva ngoTakei kodwa akakhumbuli nalinye ibali lokuhlaselwa.
Ezi ntlobo zeakhawunti eziphikisanayo-kubandakanya neBrunton-yiyo loo nto ingcali yememori yeYunivesithi yaseNyakatho-ntshona, uGqirha Bridge, ithi, inkumbulo yexesha elide akufuneki isetyenziswe njengerekhodi elichanekileyo leziganeko zangaphambili.
Iinkumbulo zethu ziyatshintsha xa sizikhumbula, ucacisile, ebhekisa kumashumi eminyaka yophando lwenzululwazi ngalo mbandela, ukuze ilingane umbono wehlabathi womntu kunye nomnxeba namava awenzekileyo emva komsitho. Esi sesinye sezizathu zokuba ubungqina bokuba amaxhoba athethe nabo kwangoko emva kwesiganeko kubaluleke kakhulu ekuqondeni iimeko ezindala. Kwaye yindlela umntu anokucinga ngayo ngememori yakudala njengebali elihle leqela iminyaka engamashumi kwaye ngequbuliso abe nomsindo malunga nomxholo kaHarvey Weinstein kunye noBill Cosby.
U-Brunton wathi umsindo wakhe ku-Takei wavutha ngasekupheleni kuka-2017, emva THR uthumele ibali malunga no-Takei egxeka uKevin Spacey ngokuchasana nesityholo se-pedophilia ngokuphuma egumbini. Xa amandla esetyenziswa kwimeko engacacanga, ayilunganga, utshilo u-Takei. Amagqabantshintshi abetha imithambo-luvo noBrunton. UThai wayemdala kunoBrunton ngobo busuku ngo-1981, kwaye uBrunton wayengavumanga ukuza.
Nangona kunjalo, emva kokuba umsindo wakhe usweleke, emva kokuba enze lonke udliwanondlebe lokuqala lweendaba, uBrunton wandixelela ukuba akamthathi uThato njengesaphuli-mthetho okanye umxhaphazi. Yonke le nto uBrunton wayeyifuna ngokwenene, watsho, yayikukuba umdlali weqonga athi uyaxolisa.
Kwaye yintoni kanye kanye awayenethemba lokuba uThato uza kuyithetha, ndibuze?
Ndifuna nje ukuba axolise ngokuthatha ithuba ngobuhlobo bethu, utshilo uBrunton.
Uziva ungcatshiwe, ndakunikela. Ngaba uyiqwalasele njengokuhlaselwa, ngelo xesha?
Hayi, utshilo uBrunton. Imeko nje engafunekiyo. Sisiganeko nje esingaqhelekanga kwaphela.
Ukuba uza kuwe wathi… oku ibikukungaqondani, ndibuze kuBrunton, ungamkholelwa?
Ewe ndingathanda, watsho. Kodwa bendizakuthi, 'Ngaba undicela uxolo?'
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Kwiinyanga ezilandelayo THR isiqwenga, bobabini umtyholwa kunye nomtyholwa banamava abonakalayo.
UToki wazama ukuzikhusela kwizityholo zikaBrunton ngokukhanyela okugxininisayo, ngelixa wayegxininisa irekhodi lakhe njengelitshantliziyo. Abo bandaziyo bayayiqonda into yokuba ukungaziphathi ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuyaphikisana nemilinganiselo yam kunye nezinto endizenzayo, kwa into yokuba umntu angandimangalela yile nto ibuhlungu, utshilo kwingxelo. Wayegculelwa ngabagxeki. Nditsho nabantu abakholelwa kuTakei bamgxeka ngale ngxelo, besithi iyayilimaza imbangi yamaxhoba akholelwayo.
Uye wazibhaqa ebaleka ecacisa ukuthatha kwakhe inxaxheba kwirediyo yeWoward Stern ukusukela ngo-Okthobha u-2017, malunga nenyanga ngaphambi kwalapho THR Ibali-enye yeembonakalo ezininzi kumdlalo kule minyaka idlulileyo- apho uThaty aqhula khona ngeqhuzu lokukholisa amadoda acaphukisayo ukuba alale naye endlwini yakhe. U-Takei waxolisa, ebhala, Kumashumi eminyaka, ndiye ndadlala indawo 'katat'omkhulu ongaqhelekanga' xa ndindwendwela umboniso kaWoward, umzobo endizisolayo ngawo ngoku. Kodwa ndifuna ukucaca: andikaze ndizinyanzele emntwini ngexesha lomhla. 
UTakei kuWoward Stern ngo-2006.L. Busacca / WireImage kaSirius
Akuzange kusinde ukuqaphela kukaTakei ukuba iintshaba zakhe zopolitiko zixhaphaze eli hlazo. Wathumela i-tweet ukuba abasasazi baseRussia basasaza iindaba zokumangalelwa nguBrunton, ecaphula i-Alliance for Securing Democracy, iqela elikhuthazayo elinabasebenzi abasebenza kwii-arhente zangaphambili zezobuntlola ezilandelela iiakhawunti zosasazo zaseKremlin. Oku kubuyise umva. Ibutho labasebenzisi be-Twitter kunye neempapasho ezininzi zamthethisa. GQ (endibhalela kona) uthumele umxholo, UGeorge Takei uthi Izityholo zokuhlaselwa ngoSondo ziQhinga laseRussia .
UTakei ngewayethe 'le yenzekile ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-35 eyadlulayo kwaye ndayeka xa esithi hayi,' kodwa ngamaRUSSI.
-Ashley Rae (@Communism_Kills) NgoNovemba 12, 2017
Xa nditsalela umnxeba iDemokhrasi ekhuselekileyo, isithethi siqinisekisile ukuba inethiwekhi yepropagandist abayilandelayo iyisasazile THR ibali ngoThai; yayiyeyona nqaku ithandwayo phakathi kwenethiwekhi ngaxa lithile.
Iindaba zeendaba , USA Namhlanje kunye nezinye iivenkile zibandakanya u-Takei kuluhlu lwabo batyholwa ngokwesondo njengoRoy Moore kwaye batyhola abahlukumezi emsebenzini njengoCharlie Rose kunye noMat Lauer. Ukuqhutywa kuka-Takei njengekhampasi yokuziphatha ye-intanethi, njengoko ibhlogi enye yayibeka, iphelile.
UBrunton wahlaselwa naye. Iitroli ze-Intanethi zafumana iphepha lakhe likaFacebook kwaye zashiya amagqabantshintshi, zimqhubela kwiinyembezi. Abaphambukeli bamtyhola ngokusebenzisa isimangalo esidlangalaleni ukukhuthaza ishishini lakhe elincinci kwaye bahlekisa ngomsebenzi wakhe wobugcisa, othe waqaqamba; UBrunton waye waqatshelwa njengomculi onetalente kumashumi eminyaka. (Ikopi egcinwe kwiphephandaba lakhe lesikolo esiphakamileyo ibonisa ukuba uBrunton wabizwa njengeGcisa eliGqwesileyo kwiKlasi yakhe 'yabangama-75 abaphezulu. Ngaphandle kwebango likaBrunton ngaphambili, ezo rekhodi azibonisi ukuba kukho imbasa eyanikwa nabani na kwi-Most Naive.)
Kwaye kwakubuhlungu ukuba uTakei wathi akamkhumbuli, nasemva kokuba bebuye bajongana kwakhona phakathi kwiminyaka yama-90 ePortland, e-Ore.
UBrunton wayexelele THR ukuba wafumana inombolo yomnxeba kaTakei ngethuba lotyelelo lwencwadi ngo-1994 ngobomi bakhe kwaye wabiza, enenjongo yokujongana naye malunga nobo busuku ngo-1981. Sadibana nekofu, utshilo uBrunton THR ibali, kodwa, andikwazi nje ukuzenza.
Kudliwanondlebe lwethu, uBrunton uvumile ukuba intlanganiso yekofu ayizange yenzeke. Uthe ngenene ubize nje igumbi likaThai ngebhodi etshintsha ihotele, kwaye umdlali weqonga ebemxelele ukuba bangancokola kumsitho wokutyikitya ngobomi bakhe, Kwiinkwenkwezi .
Xa uBrunton wafika ngaphambili kumgca wabalandeli, nangona kunjalo, wakhupha kwaye akazange ahlangane naye malunga nokudibana kwabo.
Wayalela ukuba uThai asayine incwadi aze abhale iidilesi zekhaya lakhe. UBrunton wabelane ngeefoto zezi zinto kunye nam, kwaye lo mbhalo ubonakale uhambelana noTakei. Umbhalo uyafana nabanye u-Takei ubhale ezincwadini kolu khenketho, luzele yi-Star Trek puns kunye nombuliso, ngothando.
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Inkqubo ye- INew York Times Intatheli uEmily Steel uchithe iinyanga ezintandathu ephanda izityholo zokuziphatha gwenxa ngokwesondo nxamnye noBill O'Reilly ngaphambi kokupapasha ibali ekugqibeleni lamkhupha kwiFox News . Ngaphambi kokudlula kwakhe, umcebisi wam uDavid Carr waphantse wazityhila izityholo zikaHarvey Weinstein kwaye kabini akazange aprinte into awayecinga ukuba uyazi kuba wayengenakuqinisekisa ibali elipheleleyo kwirekhodi. URonan Farrow usebenze iinyanga ezili-10 ngaphambi kokushicilela ekugqibeleni ukuba ibali in ENew Yorker .
Ezi yayiziingxelo ezilandelelanayo kwaye zibalulekile ekungeniseni ixesha lezomthetho elidlulileyo kumaxhoba amaSexual Harassment kunye nolwaphulo-mthetho.
Kodwa lakuba ligqabhukile idama, amandla kunye nomdla kula mabali kukhokelele kwinkuthazo kumaphephandaba ukuba ibakhuphe ngokukhawuleza kunye neendaba zethu zentlalo ezihlazisiweyo ukuba zikhawuleze zisebenzise izixhobo. Kulula ukulibala ukuba lonke ibali linobuqili kunye neempawu zalo, kwaye iziphumo zokufumana izinto ezingalunganga zinokuba nzima.
Ezi zibonda kufanelekile ukuthatha ixesha lethu kwaye sithathela ingqalelo ngaphezulu kwengxelo yeendaba yewebhu efanelekileyo: izinto ezinje ngenani labatyholwa, ukungqinelana kwamangqina ngexesha lomnyhadala, umxholo, iipateni zokuziphatha, ukungaguquguquki kunye nokuthembeka kwemithombo, kunye nokutshaya umpu ubungqina (cwaka imali, ityala, njl.
Kwaye ngokungabikho kwezo zinto, xa wathi, ishiywe ivulekile ukutolikwa, izibonda kufuneka zithathele ingqalelo ubuchwephesha bokungaphumeleli kwenkumbulo yomntu kunye nophando lwengqondo oluthi abantu ababi ngokufunda iinjongo zabanye— ngakumbi xa unxilile. Sityala amaxhoba kunye nomtyholwa ukuba baphande ngawo onke amacala ebali ngaphambi kokuba silivelise ebantwini.
Iingcali ziqikelela ukuba ziipesenti ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-5 kuphela zezityholo zokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ezijika zibubuxoki, ngelixa ingu-1 kwabali-1 abatyholwa ngokudlwengula abaphelela entolongweni. Ukuqhubeka nokwenza nzima oku, amaxhoba ngamanye amaxesha ayazibuyisa izityholo zabo zoxolo lwengqondo.
Ngoku ukuba ekugqibeleni siphulaphule ngakumbi kumaxhoba, singazibeka emngciphekweni wokungakwazi ukohlwaya iipesenti ezingama-97 ezibalekayo ukuba senza into ngokungxama. Ngokunjalo, siza kubusebenzisa kakhulu ubulungisa ukuba sisebenzisa iimeko ezinqabileyo, ezintsonkothileyo okanye ezingacacanga njengesizathu sokungahoyi okanye ukungakholelwa abatyholwayo kwezinye iimeko.
Elinye itshantliziyo endandenze udliwanondlebe nalo ngelixa ndibhala eli bali landixelela, Ukuba abantu abalungileyo abanjengoGeorge Takei bayaphazanyiswa ngempazamo kumnatha we #MeToo, mhlawumbi elo lidini ekufanele ukuba bakulungele ukulenzela injongo.
Nokuba kufanelekile ukucela abantu ukuba benze ezo ntlobo zemibingelelo kufuneka ibe yingxoxo-mpikiswano uqobo. Kodwa inye into icacile: Ukuba sivumela umthetho wobulungisa ujikeleze kakhulu kwaye ubuxoki buthelekise ulwaphulo-mthetho oluncinci okanye ukungaqondani ngezityholo ezibi zokuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, loo mibingelelo inokuba lula.
Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni na phakathi kweBrunton kunye neThai kuyo yonke le minyaka idlulileyo, isifundo esikhulayo apha isenokuba kukuba uluntu lwethu kudala lusilela kumaxhoba ezityholo zeSexual Harassment kunye nolwaphulo mthetho, ukulungisa oku kungabikho kokusesikweni, ngelixa sihleli nje, kuya kuqhubeka kunzima.
Andimgxeki uBrunton ngokuziva ephosakele okanye ngokulinda yonke le minyaka ukulila. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba engangqinelaniyo kwiiakhawunti zakhe oko akuthethi ukuba masitsibe kwisigqibo sokuba akukho nto yenzekileyo konke oku. Amaxhoba ahlala etshintsha iinkcukacha, ngenxa yokothuka okanye inkumbulo yokungaphumeleli.
Andimtyholi uTakei ngokuziva egwetywe ngokungafanelekanga, okanye, kwiminyaka engama-80 ubudala, ngokungamkhumbuli uBrunton.
Kodwa umbuzo uhlala: Senza ntoni ngamabali anje ngoku?
Andifuni kuvakala ngathi ndinempindezelo enkulu, kodwa, ndithetha, uyafuna ukubuyela emntwini onje owenze into enjalo, uBrunton wandixelela. Ukuba oko kungcolisa igama labo kancinci, kulungile, yile nto uyifumanayo ngokwenza oko ukwenzileyo.
Yintoni ofanele uyifumane kwinto efana noBrunton athi wayithatha u-Takei? Ngokwenza inkalipho yokuhamba ngomhla, kwavela ukuba, ingaba ufuna ukuba ngabahlobo? Luhlobo luni lwedini ekufuneka licelwe xa umtyholwayo eziva ekhathazekile kodwa esithi konke kunokuba kukungaqondani?
Ngaba igama lakho kufuneka liye kuluhlu kunye nabadlwenguli kunye nabaxhaphazi? Ngaba kufuneka uphulukane nobomi bakho? Ngaba ilizwi lakho lezopolitiko alihambanga? Ngaba ibali lomsebenzi wakho wamalungelo oluntu kufuneka lisuswe ezincwadini? Ngaba isityholo kufuneka sivele kwindawo yakho yokungcwaba?
UBrunton wayengakufuni konke oko; uthi wayefuna nje ukukhuthaza umhlobo wakudala ukuba afikelele kwaye athi uxolo ngemeko engafunekiyo. Zonke ezinye izinto zikwithi ukuba sithathe isigqibo.
Ukunika ingxelo kunye nomsebenzi wokujonga imvelaphi ngeli bali wenziwa ngoncedo oluvela kwi-Hatch Institute, isiseko sobuntatheli esingenzi nzuzo, sinombulelo omkhulu kumhleli uBrad Hamilton.
