Umbono endingalindelanga ukuba ndiwubone kulo mboniso.HBO Phezolo ndibone ukuphela kwe Amantombazana , umboniso oza kungena kwimbali kamabonwakude njengenye yeekomidi ezahlulahlula ixesha lonke ngaphandle kokwenza ubuhlanga obufanayo malunga nawo onke amanye amahlaya kuyo yonke iminyaka. Kutheni le nto u-Lena Dunham wabonisa malunga nabahlobo abane be-narcissistic kunye nokungazi kwabo, ngamanye amaxesha benyanisekile kodwa ekugqibeleni-njengoko safumanisa kwisiphelo sangokuhlwa sangokuhlwa-ukuzama okungenampumelelo ukwenza uphawu lwabo emhlabeni kujike kube yintonga yombane? Ngenxa yokuba abanye bethu bengakhange babone kwaye abanye bachonge i-TOO encinci kunzima?
Njengokugqibela kwesiphelo sangokuhlwa sangokuhlwa-uHana wahamba ukusuka eNew York ukuya ekubeni ngokwenene ukhulelwe kwindawo yakhe entsha yokuhlala (ethi, damn, isikolo asikabikho kwiseshoni okwangoku! Indlela yokukhuthaza, nenekazi!), Ukuhla nje ukuya kusikwa kweenyanga ezintlanu kamva kunye nonyana wakhe omtsha uGrover ongavumiyo ukusela ubisi lwebele ngqo kwingono (kulapho sifumana khona isihloko sesiqendu sokugqibela somboniso, ukuLatching) -ndive… akukho nto. Yeyiphi eyokuqala kum!
Kuba, njengoGuelda watsho , abantu abaninzi kwi Amantombazana Idemo ekujongwe ukuba ayiyi kuthi-kwaye mhlawumbi ayisoze-ivume ukuba nabo njenge umboniso.
Ewe, abalinganiswa banelungelo. Bacinga ukuba umhlaba kufuneka ube nobulungisa kwaye ulungile kwaye banetalente kwaye baya kuthi ekugqibeleni bafumane iindawo zabo kuwo. Kule ntlawulo, ndinetyala elinye kuphela: ayisiyiyo le nto sixelela abantu ukuba bacinge eMelika? Kuvakala ukuba ilungelo lilungelo eliphambili le-psychology xa uyindoda esebenza kwishishini-ungayi jonganga umongameli wethu-kodwa umbi xa ungowasetyhini omncinci, ozithembileyo ofuna ukusebenza kubugcisa.
Andinakuvuma ngakumbi. Kuvakala ngathi samizdat nokuba ubhale iposti yebhlog ye-Intanethi usithi Uyazi, ukubhala ku Amantombazana yayimile intle, ukuqondisa kwakubalasele, kwaye ndifuna ukufumanisa ukuba ndingayithenga phi ihempe likaHannah kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva. Ihempe yentshulube! HBO
Isini kunye neSixeko , Kusoloko kunelanga ePhiladelphia , Abahlobo , Seinfeld , Indibano , Ukungafihli, Uthando, Iqela lokuKhangela … Akukho nanye kule miboniso ihluphekileyo kunogumbe wezinto ezingenamandla, iingqumbo ezizele ngumsindo endleleni Amantombazana Wenzile, nangona uninzi lwabo lwalunabalinganiswa abambalwa kwindima eziphambili. Akukho mntu uhlasela iliso xa uPatrick Wilson ejika abe sisikhohlakali esirhwebeshela u-Juno ukuba abuyele endlwini yakhe njengengcuka enkulu embi Ipipi enzima ( okanye, gosh, I dunno, khumbula kuyo Inobuqhophololo 2 -Liliphi icala elikwicala, lelona bhanyabhanya libalaseleyo ) , kodwa abantu ndisakhalaza malunga nokuba yayingenakwenzeka njani into yokuba ugqirha oshushu, osisityebi angade athethe nokuthetha nomntu one-BMI ka-Hannah Horvath.
Enye into enzima malunga nokubhala malunga nomboniso Amantombazana kukuba uziva ungenanjongo: ukuthatha kwakho umdlalo oshushu kumdlalo wokugqibela kukhuphisana nesincoko sikaJia Tolentino malunga nokubheja umboniso kwi ENew Yorker , Uphengululo lukaJames Poniewozik kwi INew York Times , UJen Chaney e Ixhalanga kwaye ipesenti ye-10 yesondlo sakho sikaFacebook ayisiyiyo malunga nendlela esiza kufa ngayo kwimfazwe yenyukliya ngomso. Oko kuya kuthi ke kunike esi sincoko ukuba singabalulekanga kwaphela kwaye andizukufumana-imeyile malunga naso, uthixo uyavuma.
Into endiyithethayo yile, Amantombazana soloko enobuhlobo obunzima bexesha lokulinganisa iminqweno yabaphulaphuli bakhe (abantu ababukele umboniso kwaye babetyale ngokwasemphefumlweni kwaba balinganiswa) kunye ne-bullseye Ujoliso kuDunham kufuneka ajikeleze emqolo kwiintsuku ezingama-365 zonyaka. Kwaye ngandlela thile Amantombazana , ethi nakumaxesha ayo angenanjongo ahlala endiqhekeza, yandenza ndalila kwaye yandenza ndanxibelelana kancinci kakhulu, andizange ndizive ngathi izama ukuthetha into enkulu kunombono wayo weteleskopu kula manenekazi mane nabafana abajikelezayo . Kude kube leli xesha lokugqibela, nini, ngcono okanye okubi, ikaka ibinyanisile.
Ke ngoku ukuba ndiyikhusele into endiyikholelwayo ukuba ngumboniso omkhulu, nazi ezinye izinto ezichaziweyo malunga nobudlelwane bam nayo: Ndaya e-Oberlin kunye no-Lena Dunham (wayemnandi kwaye emhle; wayengamazi kakuhle) ; Ndakhe ndabukela ii-Oscars kunye naye kunye nomama wakhe kunye nomntakwabo kubazali bakhe eTribeca loft (I wanna say eight years ago?); ngaxesha lithile, uDunham wolula isandla kwaye wacela ukundibhatala (kunye namanye amanenekazi aphumelele kakhulu, apholileyo) ama-200 eedola kumfanekiso weselfie enesini kweso siqendu kwisizini ephelileyo xa uHana efumana iifoto ezinganxibanga kwifowuni kaFran's (Jake Lacy). Ndiyithathile loo mali kwaye ndalahleka ukuba andijonganga isakhelo esithile sesiqendu ngesakhelo ukuze ndikrobe ii-boobs zam ezikwiTV.
Ngelo xesha lokuqala, ndayihleka iesile ndacaphula Amantombazana ingayeki. Kuphela kusemva kwexesha, emva kokuba wonke umntu ovela e-alt-ekunene ukuya ekhohlo-ka-Bernie e-Oberlin alum afumana ithuba lokufunda yonke into abecinga ukuba ngumboniso-kwaye ngokwandisa, u-Lena-wayezama ukuthi, nokuba zange babone ngaphezulu kwesiqendu esinye, sokuba ndifunde ukugcina umlomo wam uvaliwe kwaye ndigcina izimvo zam eziphakamileyo malunga nalo mboniso kum.
Kodwa emva koko kwafika ixesha lokugqibela lika Amantombazana , eyayigqibelele ngokwentelekiso kwaye inomdla (kude kube kukuphela kobusuku bokugqibela, kunjalo); ethe yajongana nemicimbi enameva endaweni yokuyinyathela ngokucocekileyo; Eyona nto ibivakala ngathi 'lilizwi elizimeleyo lokuchaza isizukulwana sethu' ekugqibeleni lalifumene amava obomi aneleyo anokuzibamba nawo, ithi, umbhali wenoveli owaziwayo Ngokucacileyo isekwe kumntu wokwenyani ukuba indenze ndaqonda into.
Rhoqo ixesha lonyaka ukusukela ekuqaleni kwalo, Amantombazana ngokuthe chu ityibilika ingadibani kunye nohlobo lokungabinamazinyo malunga nemicimbi yobomi bokwenyani hayi ngenxa yokuba ababhali bayo okanye umdali wabo babephelelwe zizinto abanokuzithetha kodwa ngenxa yokuba xa uqhubeka nokwenza umboniso phantsi kolu hlolisiso, kulula ukuba ungatsho kwanto. Ukuvumela abalinganiswa bakho badlale ekugxekeni kwabo bonke ngokubenza babe mandundu: banamalungelo ngakumbi, bahlekisa ngakumbi, akunakwenzeka ukuba bathathe ngokungathí sina okanye benze unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo kunye.
Eli xesha lokugqibela le- Amantombazana , bonke abalinganiswa bakhulile, kodwa ukukhula kwabo kwenzeka kwiscreen, ubukhulu becala, phakathi kwamaxesha onyaka. Kufana noDunham noJenni Konner, besazi ukuba umboniso uyaphela, wathi yiFuck kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuhamba namathumbu abo, abo bazithiyayo bagwetyelwe. U-Jessa wafunda indlela yokutya ipayi ethobekileyo (isilumkiso sombhuqi: woyikeka kuyo, kodwa ukuba alungile uJemima Kirke akabonakali ngathi uyayitya ipayi ebomini bakhe bonke). UMarnie… naye utya unomyayi omninzi ngeli xesha lonyaka, kodwa kukuzilolonga okumnandi kwi-shaudenfreude. (Nangona, njengoDunham, ingxaki ka-Allison Williams kukuba indima yakhe kumdlalo uhlala udibana nomdlali weqonga omdlalayo, kodwa ndicinga ukuba Phuma uhambe indlela ende ekulungiseni loo nto.) UShoshanna, wayehlala ephathwa njenge-mascot yomntwana ngabo bonke abanye Amantombazana , wothusa wonke umntu ekugqibeleni ngokuthetha nendlovu egumbini ngexesha lesiphelo. Mhlawumbi kufanele ukuba siyibize nje, yena u-Adderwawawe phambi komtshato wakhe we-quickie… isipili esifanelekileyo kumzala wakhe omdala kwisizini yokuqala. UEliya wangena kwiBroadway emva Nye uphicotho Ikwayiloo mini inye i-anchor yakhe edumileyo ye-TV yavela emnyango wangaphambili, icenga ukuba ibuyiselwe kwaye andiboni mntu ubhala ngendlela engekho ngqiqweni ngayo lonto wayenjalo. UAdam waye… ekugqibeleni akabalulekanga? URay… shit, ndiyalibala ukuba kwenzeke ntoni ngoRay. Ngaba yena noShoshanna batshata?
Kwaye kukho noHana. UHannah, obonakala ngathi ufumene indlela kwihlabathi, onobukrelekrele, uvelwano kunye nokuvuthwa ekugqibeleni-ekugqibeleni-ukubamba ukuya kuthi ga ngoku kudlula owesibini, owesithathu nowesine kwi-Woke eBrooklyn. ( Aba bantu , btw.) Yeyiphi, ewe, xa naye efunda ukuba ukhulelwe.
Ndingakunika uluhlu lwezizathu zokuba eli cebo lingasebenzi kum, ngakumbi: kutheni uHana engacingi nokucinga ngokuqhomfa xa esiya kuMzali oCwangcisiweyo ngomhlobo wakhe (okhupha isisu ekugqibeleni) kwisiqendu sesibini uthotho? Ngale nto ndithetha kuphela ukuba uHana ngokucacileyo ungumkhethi; ayikuko ukuba ukungena kubuzali obuCwangcisiweyo ukuxhasa umhlobo kuthetha ukuba ubhalisela ukufumana iZitampu ezili-10, kwaye ukuKhupha kwakho isisu okulandelayo kuthi! iipunchcards zokuba uMzali oCwangcisiweyo waziwa kakhulu.
Kutheni uHana ade ndifuna ngumntwana? Kutheni umntu khetha ukuba ngumama ongatshatanga osekwe kubusuku obunye kunye Ubusuku be ? Kutheni eza kuthiya unyana wakhe ukuba nguGrover? Ngenxa yokuba umyaleli we-surf emnkqonkqozile wayene-IQ ye-Muppet wamxelela? Kwakutheni ukuze awuthathe loo msebenzi wokufundisa entla, xa yena uyazi ukuba ilizwe le-liberal academia-kunye nazo zonke izilumkiso ezinxulumene noko kunye ne-microaggressions-azilunganga kuye?
Unokwenza impikiswano yokuba uHana njengomlinganiswa akanankathalo, uchasene kwaye uchasene, ke ukuba isiphelo esicacileyo sesiphumo sokukhulelwa kwakhe kufuneke Ku Nokuba sisisu okanye ukwamkelwa komntwana abengowomnye umntu okanye abantu ngokusemthethweni, uza kwenza ngokuchaseneyo, kuba. (Bona kwakho: Iimvakalelo zikaHana malunga nokuhlawulwa ukuze ubhale umxholo oxhasiweyo, ukuba nesoka elihle kunye nokugqiba isikolo segrad ngokuchasene neemvakalelo zikaHana malunga nokuhlala nesithandwa esasithandana nesakho esikunike i-HPV uninzi lwaphakathi kwiminyaka yama-20.) 'Akukho ngqiqweni ukuba kutheni uHana ngequbuliso angathi phithi kukufumana olu sana kwaye alikhulise lodwa: akafuni utata, uPaul-Louis kulo mfanekiso; uzanelisa nje ngephupha lika-Adam-as-surrogate-utata kwisiqingatha sesiqendu, kwaye ulwamkela ngokukrokra kuphela uncedo oluvela kuMarnie kumzamo wokugqibela, wokugqibela wokuphumelela ugqatso lomhlobo. (Ingcebiso eshushu, uMarnie: Xa bonke abanye abagqatswa beshiya phakathi, uphumelela kuphela ngokuphulukana nabo. Kodwa, bathathe apho ungabafumana khona, ndiyaqikelela.)
Andiyithandi i- Amantombazana isiphelo, kodwa andicingi ukuba ikumboniso. Ukuba ndinyanisekile, andinakukwazi ukuzithoba ngesigqibo sikaHana kuba andikakulungeli ukwenza into ayenzileyo… kwaye ngekhe ndibenjalo. Amantombazana , kunye noHannah Horvath, banokuthi ekugqibeleni baligqibe inqanaba lam lokukhula, eyam i-narcissism kunye nokuzazisa.
Injalo loo nto, ingxaki Amantombazana Isiqendu sokugqibela, ngokoluvo lwam, sesokuba isigqibo sikaHana sokufumana umntwana sesinye sezona zinto zibalaseleyo — kwaye eyona ixhaphakileyo — esiyisebenzisa njengenkcubeko ukuphawula utshintsho ukusuka ebusheni ukuya ebuntombini, phakathi kwabo bahamba kunye abo bayifumene injongo yabo. UHana akaseyintombazana; ngokusemthethweni ungumama; umfazi. Ke, ukuhambisa umzimba wangaphambili walo mlinganiswa: Wenza ntoni loo nto Mna ?
