Ivela phi inkanuko?(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Esi siqwenga savela ekuqaleni Quora : Wazi njani ukuba ulufumene uthando lwakho?
Uninzi lwethu lukholelwa kubugqi obubizwa ngokuba 'ngumnqweno'. Ukuba nje ndinokufumana ukuthanda kwam, siyalila. Ukufumana ukuthanda kwam kuya kundonwabisa.
Ewe, uthando luyinyani, kwaye lunamandla kakhulu. Kodwa phantse yonke into abantu abayikholelwayo malunga nokuyifumana ayilunganga.
Umthetho 1: Umnqweno uvela empumelelweni
Zonke iimvakalelo zethu zikhona ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo. Siva indlala yokuqinisekisa ukuba asilambi. Siziva sigcwele ukuqinisekisa ukuba asigqabhuki. Kwaye siziva sinomdla wokuqinisekisa ukuba gxila kwimizamo yethu kwizinto ezisivuza kakhulu .
Khawufane ucinge xa uqala iklasi yokudanisa. Ufumanisa kulula. Uyaqonda ukuba ungcono kunabanye, kwaye uyakhawuleza. Olo vuyo lonyukayo uluvayo luthando lwakho, kwaye olo thando lukwenza ubuye uzokufumana okungakumbi, ukuphucula izakhono zakho, kunye nokudibanisa amandla akho. 
Umzamo ngokuhamba kwexesha(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Utshaba lomnqweno kukukhathazeka. Ukuba uhlala usokola ngento ethile, awusoze uyithande. Ufunda ukuyikhusela ngokupheleleyo, eqinisekisa ukuba ngekhe uphucule. 
Umzamo ngokuhamba kwexesha: Ukukhathazeka(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Uninzi lwabantu lukufumana oku ngasemva. Bacinga ukuba sifumanisa ukuthanda kwethu, kwaye loo nto isenza ukuba silunge kwinto ethile. Eyona nto ifumanisa ukuba ulungile oza kuqala. Umnqweno uvela kwimpumelelo.
Umgaqo 2: Ubuntwana kulapho ukuthanda kuya kufela khona
Kwithiyori yobuntwana inika ithuba elihle lokuzama yonke into, ufumane iitalente zakho, kunye nazo, ukuthanda kwakho.
Kodwa cinga okomzuzwana ukuba le nkqubo ibekwe bucala kangakanani ngokuchasene nawe. Yithi isikolo sikuvumela ukuba uzame izifundo ezingama-20, zikubeke ngokwamanqanaba abanye abantwana. Ayisiyonto ilungileyo leyo. Uninzi lwabantwana, ngokwenkcazo, malunga nomndilili. Kwaye akunamsebenzi nokuba siyiphucula kangakanani imfundo, kuba abantu kufuneka bazive behlukile ukuze bazive benomdla, kwaye ukuphucula imfundo kumane kunyusa umndilili . 
Ukuphucula imfundo kumane kunyusa umndilili.(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Yithi ungomnye wabo banethamsanqa, kwaye ungoyena uphambili kwiklasi yakho yezibalo ezincinci. Inkqubo yemfundo iya kuhlala inyusa ubunzima bakho de ufumane inqanaba- njengekholeji- apho ungasafaniyo kwakhona. Nokuba uyinyani are ngokungathandabuzekiyo intle kakhulu, nje wena zive nje umndilili, uyakufumana uthando lwakho lutyibilika.
Kwaye ukuba unethamsanqa. Ungathini ukuba ukuthanda kwakho bekuko ubugcisa? Ukusukela ebutsheni ukuba inkanuko iphazanyiswa ziziphumo zayo zentlalo. Kunzima ukuziphilisa ngokupeyinta yithi abazali bakho. Umzala wakho wenza kakuhle ukusuka kubunjineli. Kutheni ungeke ufane naye? Ke ngoko ubeke iinkanuko zakho kwelinye icala, uzivumele zibune.
Kubemi beebhiliyoni, kuyacaca ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu onokuba mkhulu ngendlela engaqhelekanga kwizifundo ezimbalwa. Ungathini ukuba ubuchule bakho bokwenyani ekubhaleni intetho, okanye kumdaniso wokuyila, okanye ukwenza amagqabantshintshi e-YouTube ngamagama evidiyo? Akukho nanye kwezo zinto ikwiSilabhasi.
Kwaye ke uninzi lwabantu lukhula ngaphandle kokuthanda nantoni na.
Umgaqo 3: Umnqweno unokwenziwa
Kunokukunceda ukwazi ukuba abona bantu baphumeleleyo ebomini khange bakhethe ukuthanda kwabo eshelufini. 
Umnqweno unokudalwa(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabona bantu baphumeleleyo emhlabeni bayeke imfundo ngokupheleleyo. Hayi kuba bezizidenge - kodwa ngenxa yokuba befumene ezinye iindawo apho babenezakhono ezingaphaya kwemfundo .
Bazenzela ukuthanda kwabo.
Liqhezu elincinci labantu kuphela elinokulindela ukugqwesa kwizifundo ezixineneyo ezisenzela ubuntwana. Kwaye ukhuphiswano kweso sithuba ngokusisiseko 'wonke umntu ehlabathini oye esikolweni', okungancediyo amathuba ethu.
Kodwa ukuba ujonga ngaphandle kwelo sithuba, uya kufumana ukhuphiswano oluncinci, kunye nezinye iindlela onokukhetha kuzo. Kwaye yile ndlela ucebisa ngayo amathuba okufumana ukuthanda kwakho.
Inketho 1: Yenza into
Xa usenza into entsha, uyila into onomdla kuyo.
Unokuyila ama-cushion anezinto ezintsha, okanye ubhale amabali kaBatman, okanye uqale iakhawunti ye-Twitter enikezelwe kwezopolitiko. 
Qamba into onomdla kuyo(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Izinto ezintsha aziphikiswa. Ngokwenza into entsha, wenze amathuba akho okuba ubalasele kude, phezulu kakhulu.
Ngoku kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba oku akubeki ecaleni kuMgaqo # 1: uthando luvela empumelelweni. Ke ukuba iakhawunti yakho entsha ye-Twitter inabalandeli aba-5 kuphela emva konyaka, ngekhe ubenomdla kakhulu ngayo. Ukuba ubunezigidi ezi-5, ngewuwuyekile umsebenzi. Kuya kufuneka ufumane impumelelo ekuvuseleleni uthando lwakho . 
Impumelelo ivuselela uthando(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Kodwa ubuncinci uziphucule kakhulu iingxaki zakho, kuba ukhuphiswano lwakho lilinganiselwe. Bambalwa kuphela abantu abaya kuthi nika ukuzama into entsha. Kwaye unokuba ungomnye wabo, ngokuqala nje.
Uyabona le patheni kuyo yonke i-greats yembali. Umfundi obizwa ngokuba nguMarko ngekhe abe ngoyena msasazi wehlabathi ubalaseleyo. Kodwa waqala ukwakha iiwebhusayithi ezipholileyo, kwaye wafumanisa ukuba ulunge ngokungaqhelekanga koku kuba Abadwelisi beenkqubo abangcono kunqabile ukuba babe nesibindi sokuzama . Kwenzeka nje ukuba olunye ulingelo lwakhe lube yi-Facebook.
Inketho 2: Khokela umkhwa omtsha
Indawo endala nezinzileyo kukuba, kuya kuba nzima ukukhuphisana. Izigidi ziye zafika phambi kwakho, kwaye ukuthoba amathuba okuma ngaphandle, kuya kuncipha amathuba okuba uzimisele.
Kodwa kusoloko kukho umda omtsha ozalwayo, indawo apho wonke umntu engenakho ithemba ngokungakwaziyo, kwaye nezakhono ezithobekileyo zinokuba nomtsalane. 
Ukukhokela umkhwa omtsha(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Yithi wawusekwishumi elivisayo owaqala ukwenza iividiyo zikaYouTube, emva ngo-2005. Ukhula ulandela ngokuthozamileyo, kwaye impumelelo yakho ekhulayo iyonwabisa. Ngelixa ilizwe 'likhulile' lalisele lifumanise ukuba iYouTube yayiyi-Kind-Of-A-Big-Deal ene-4 yezigidi zeembono yinke imihla , uye waba yinkosi enomdla wobugcisa obungenakubaluleka.
Asiyontsomi leyo. Kukho iintaba ze-YouTubers eziphumeleleyo, kwaye uninzi luqale ngendlela efanayo: phambi komntu wonke . Kuyafana nakwiibhlog zokuqala, rap, kunye nabaqambi bevidiyo.
Ukuba unokufumana into entsha ekhula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ufumane ubuchule kuyo kwangoko, uyakufumanisa kulula ngokungaphaya ukugqwesa ngenxa yokunqongophala kokhuphiswano. Kwaye luthando lwakho olutsha apho.
Inketho 3: Fuse mediocrity
Umda omnye wemfundo yenzelwe ukunciphisa izakhono zakho. Imfundo ngokubanzi ifumana eyona nto yakho ibalaseleyo, kwaye iyityhala loo nto ukuya kuthi ga apho unokuma khona: 
Inkqubela phambili kwimfundo(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Ingxaki uninzi lwethu, ngokwenkcazo, ayinakuba yeyona ilungileyo nakweyiphi na indawo enye. Kodwa sinokubalasela kwindibaniselwano yethu .
Yithi ungumculi ophakathi, onesidima. Awuyi kuba nethemba elininzi ngesidanga sobugcisa, kwaye awunakufunda 'uburharha' njengesifundo. Kodwa unokuba ngumzobi wekhathuni.
Okanye uthathe umfundi ophakathi, kunye nobuchule benkqubo ethile, kunye nezakhono zokuthengisa ezifanelekileyo. Loo mntu ngokumangalisayo ukulungele ukuba ngumphathi wabanye ababengcono kunabo nakweyiphi na kwezo ndawo.
Abona bantu baphumeleleyo baphantse bangachazwa ngesakhono esinye. Zidibanisa izakhono, zihlala zingabinazo nezakhono ezizodwa, kodwa bayenzile i-fusion yabo ukuba ibe yekhethekileyo . USteve Jobs wayengengonjineli ibalaseleyo emhlabeni, umthengisi, umyili okanye usomashishini. Kodwa wayelunge ngendlela eyodwa ngokwaneleyo kuzo zonke ezi zinto, kwaye wazidibanisa zaba yinto enkulu kakhulu.
Le yeyona ndlela yokugqibela kufuneka ufumane ukuthanda kwakho: dibanisa izakhono kwinto enexabiso ngakumbi . Khumbula, uthando luvela empumelelweni. Ukuba indibaniselwano entsha ikufumanela iziphumo ezingcono, isenokuba luthando lwakho apho.
Kutheni kubalulekile ukuthanda
Umnqweno unomtsalane. Njengokuba uthando luza ekukholelweni ukuba ulunge ngokungaqhelekanga kwinto ethile, ukuba nenkanuko yeyona ndlela inyanisekileyo yokuthetha, ngendlela, ndiyamangalisa. 
Umnqweno unomtsalane(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Umnqweno uya kwenza ukuba abantu bakulandele. Iya kucenga abantu ukuba bakholelwe kuwe. Kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, uthando luya kucenga ngokwakho . Umnqweno yimvakalelo ejolise ngokukodwa ekwenzeni ukuba uphambane kwaye usebenze iesile lakho kwenye into kuba ingqondo yakho ikholelwa ukuba inokulinyikimisa ilizwe lakho. Oko, njengothando, yimvakalelo ekufanele ukuyilwela.
Kwaye njengothando, into esiyithandayo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba siyishiye inceba yekamva. Ukuba awukafumani ukuthanda kwakho okwangoku, yenza izinto ezintsha, ukhokele iindlela ezintsha, kwaye udibanise indibaniselwano entsha. Kodwa ungaze uyeke ukujonga.
Amakhonkco ahambelana:
- Zeziphi izinto eziphambili kuluhlu lwakho lwamabhakethi?
- Ngaba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba abantu bangazigcini iinjongo zabo zobomi?
- Ubutshintshe njani ubomi bakho kwisigqibo esincinci?
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