Abantu bayayithanda imbono yokwenza utshintsho ebomini.(Ifoto: UMateyu Wiebe / Unsplash) Esi sithuba savela kuqala Quora : Ukuba umntu ufuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakhe, leliphi inyathelo lokuqala anokulithatha?
Abantu bayayithanda imbono yokwenza utshintsho ebomini. Bacinga ngokwabo ngokukhaphukhaphu iiponti ezilishumi kwaye ekugqibeleni baziva bezithembile. Bacinga nzulu ngokuba ukuzithemba kwabo okutsha okuza kubachaphazela njani ukuhlangana kwabo kunye nendlela eya kuphucula ngayo yonke imiba yobomi babo. Ukuba baqeqeshwe ngokwaneleyo ukuba benze utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila kwaye kukhokelela ekuphulukaneni neepawundi ezilishumi, baya kufumanisa inyani ekrakra-ukungazithembi kwabo kuya kuhlala kukhona.
Ndifanele ndazi, ndichithe iminyaka emihlanu ndiguqula umzimba wam — uphelele ngeminyaka yamathambo aphukileyo, imithambo, kunye negumbi likaxakeka lokundwendwela amagumbi angxamisekileyo — yinto ethathwa ngokuba yeyobuhle. Ndatshintsha ndasuka kumntwana onamafutha athambileyo woyika nokuthatha isweatshirt yakhe elunxwemeni lwaseCalifornia ndenze umatshini wemisipha ofihliweyo oya kwiminyhadala yomculo ezimfutshane ezimfutshane kunye neeCalvin Klein. 
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Ndacinga ukuba ukutshintsha umphandle kuya kutshintsha ingaphakathi lam. Ezinye izinto zitshintshile — ndafunda indlela yokuma ngendlela eyiyo noqeqesho olugqithisileyo. Ndifunde indlela yokutya ngendlela efanelekileyo, indlela yokuqeqesha nokuphakamisa ngobuchule obugqwesileyo, kunye nendlela yokuluhlela usuku lwam ukuze ndigqibelele. Ukutya kwam okuhlanu, ngaphandle kokugungqa iiprotein ezimbini, kwakulungisiwe kwaye kugcinwa kwibhokisi enkulu yesidlo esineesutikheyisi eyayilingana nesigubhu sam samanzi esingakhathali nokuba ndikungqongile.
Ndiyekile ukutya kwiivenkile zokutyela. Ndizinqande ekubeni ndisele utywala. Ndayeka ukuhlala ebusuku kakhulu. Ukuba uzimisele ngokwakha umzimba, kuya kufuneka ubeke ubomi bakho kwimidlalo.
Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zitshintshe indlela endicinga ngayo kwaye zandinika ukuzithemba okukhulu. Ndaziva ndomelele kunabantu abaninzi kwaye ndandisazi ukuba ndisebenze phantse wonke umntu endimbonayo, kodwa ukungazithembi kwam komelela.
Ngaphandle kokujongeka ngcono kunangaphambili, ndaziva ndincinci. Xa ndijonga esipilini ndabona umntu ongafumani shredred as his friends with different body types. Ndiqaphele ukuba, nangona ndizilolonge ngakumbi kwaye ndingqongqo kwindlela enditya ngayo, abahlobo bam abanee-genetics ezahlukileyo babekhangeleka ngcono kwaye begcina amanqatha asezantsi omzimba.
Le ayisiyiyo imeko yomntu othile ongahambisiyo ofaka inani elifanelekileyo lomsebenzi, lo ngumntu owayehlala kwaye ephefumla imboni yokwakha umzimba kunye nomzimba wamadoda. Oku kuvela kumntu ochithe iminyaka ngaphakathi kolu shishino, ehamba kwimiboniso, efunda iincwadi, eqesha abaqeqeshi, ecinga ukukhuphisana, kwaye engayekisi kwinto yokwakha umzimba ogqibeleleyo. Zingaphezulu kweeyure ezimbini ejimini suku ngalunye. Kungaphezulu kokupheka izidlo ezintlanu ngosuku iintsuku ezisixhenxe ngeveki. Ingaphezulu kokuchitha amawaka eedola kwiprotein kunye nezongezo. Konke oko kwaye ngaphezulu kweminyaka emihlanu ilungile, yonke loo nto ingajonganga kuhle njengabantu ababefaka umgudu omncinci kwaye bengafumani kukhuseleka okuyisiseko endandiziva mihla le.
Utshintsho olukhulu kubomi luhlala lusilela ukulungisa imiba esisiseko. Kuphela emva kokuzibandakanya kunyango nasekuqhubekekeni ngeemvakalelo zangoku nezakudala apho ndakwaziyo ukutshintsha imiba enzulu eyayindigcina ndikwimeko engapheliyo yolonwabo. Uninzi lwabantu aluzange luthathe manyathelo okwenza utshintsho oluhlala luhleli, bahlala beleqa ukuzalisekiswa ngeendlela ezingasokuze zibe neziphumo ezinqwenelekayo.
Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakho, nantsi into ekufuneka uyenzile:
1. Jonga ukuba kutheni.
Sesiphi esona sizathu ufuna ukusitshintsha? Qala kumphezulu uze ungene nzulu. Zibuze ukuba unethemba lokuzuza ntoni ngokwenza iinguqulelo. Amaxesha amaninzi iindlela ezithile zokuziphatha, iingcinga, okanye iimvakalelo esingazithandiyo kwaye esingafuni ukuziveza zingcambu yomnqweno wethu wokutshintsha. Nokuba ungazitshintsha kangakanani, de uye kujongana nemicimbi enzulu, iipateni ezindala ziya kuziphinda. Yahlula imikhwa yakudala kunye nempilo ngokufumana isibindi esifanelekileyo sokujongana nezinto ofuna ukuziphepha.
Mbini. Cwangcisa.
Ngoku ujonge imicimbi yokwenyani efuna ukulungiswa, cinga ngeyona ndlela yokuqhubeka. Ukwenza isicwangciso akuyomfuneko, kwaye abanye abantu baxhamla ngokuthatha inyathelo emva koko bafunde ekuhambeni, kodwa ndiyakonwabela ukwenza isicwangciso kuqala. Phuhlisa uluhlu lwezinto onokukhetha kuzo, cinga ngeziphumo, kwaye emva koko umisele okuhle kunye nokubi kukhetho ngalunye. Khetha isicwangciso esisebenza ngcono kuwe.
3. Fumana uncedo.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukufumana abantu kwikona yakho ukukunceda wenze utshintsho oluhlala luhleli. Olona tshintsho lubalulekileyo aluzi ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokulula, luyakhiwa kwaye luphuculwe kwisithuba seenyanga kunye neminyaka. Xa unethiwekhi yokuxhasa abaqeqeshi bobomi okanye iinyangi eziqeqeshelwe ukukunceda usondele ebomini ngenye imini, iyakunceda ubeke phambili kwaye ufumane umbono kuhambo lwakho lokuzalisekisa. Ukufumana uncedo ayingomqondiso wobuthathaka, luphawu lwamandla.
Zine. Qalisa ukuhamba.
Akukho nto ibalulekileyo ngaphandle kokuba uthathe inyathelo! Ukuqalisa lelona nyathelo linzima kwaye emva koko uthatha amandla okuqhubela phambili. Fowuna. Yenza nantoni na ekufuneka uyenzile ukuqala ukudala utshintsho oluqinisekileyo. Utshintsho oluhlala luhleli lwenziwa nzima ngakumbi yinkqubo ohlala kuyo-abantu obakhathaleleyo abafuni ukuba utshintshe kuba xa usenza njalo, kuya kufuneka bajongane nemiba efanayo kwaye banokungakulungeli ukuqhubeka nokukhula. Ukuba awuthathi mngcipheko, awuyi kubakho umvuzo ekuzikhuliseni.
5. Cinga.
Emva kokuba uqalile kuhambo oluya kukuzalisekisa, jonga indlela utshintsho olunzulu olunefuthe ngayo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho. Xa utshintsha usisiseko sobukho bakho, utshintsho luye ngaphandle lubhekise kumbonakalo wangaphandle kwaye lube nefuthe kumava akho emihla ngemihla. Qaphela utshintsho oluncinci oluvela ekujonganeni nemiceli mngeni yakho enzulu kwaye uqinise isibindi osifunayo ukuze uqhubeke nokuhamba kolu hambo.
Utshintsho olukhulu luyathandeka. Sisoloko sicinga ngokudala utshintsho olukhulu kubomi ukunqanda imiba esisiseko eqhuba umjikelo wokungakhathali kunye nokungonwabi. Njengokongeza nje umaleko wesikrweqe semisipha akuzange kutshintshe ukungazithembi kwentliziyo yam, ndiyazi ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukwenza utshintsho olulungileyo, kuya kufuneka ungene engcanjini. Kusebumnyameni bobunzulu bethu kuphela apho sifumanisa ukukhanya kwethu amandla .
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