Umthetho kunye noMyalelo: SVU Ukuwisa i-transgender. (I-NBC).
Le yayiyinto enzima ukuyibukela, kwaye hayi ngenxa yezizathu umntu anokucinga ngayo - kwakungekho gazi, akukho gazi, kungekho sigqubuthelo sobubi.
Amaxesha amaninzi nge SVU yinto efana nomzimba odadayo, ilungu eliqhawuliweyo okanye isenzo sombulali wengqondo owenza ukuba isisu sakho sijike, kodwa hayi kweli xesha. Kule meko, kukubheja okukhuselekileyo ukuba uninzi lwe-wincing yakho luvela kukungaqondi indlela onokuziva ngayo okanye ukuba ngubani oza kuyingcambu ukuze uphumelele.
Ewe, loo nxalenye 'yokuphumelela' iligama elingalunganga kule meko. Ekugqibeleni, bekungekho kwaphela abaphumeleleyo, kunjalo.
Esi siqendu se SVU, inelungelo ITransgender Bridge, ibonise iintsapho ezimbini ezidityaniswe yintlekele eyoyikekayo eshiye umntwana omnye eswelekile kwaye omnye evalelwe, konke ngenxa yempazamo embi, enye ngelishwa engenakuphinda yenziwe.
Xa iqela lamakhwenkwe akwishumi elivisayo libona ulutsha oluzihambele ngokwalo, uAvery, epakini, bamngcikiva ngokungapheziyo. U-Avery akalwi nabo ngenkuthalo nanjengoko bambambayo kwaye bezama ukuphakamisa isondo lakhe. Inye kuphela into ayenzayo kukuzama ukubuyisa ikhamera ebayithathileyo kuye. Xa u-Avery equbuda kumfana omncinci, uDariyo, uyamphendula ngokumtyhala. Uyakhubeka phezu komda webhulorho kwaye awele phantsi engazi nto emhlabeni iinyawo ezininzi ezantsi.
Njengokuba u-Avery elele esibhedlele ephuke umlenze, uDariyo, eziva kabuhlungu ngokwenzekileyo, uzama ukuxolisa ngenqaku kunye neminye imizobo ebonisa ithemba lakhe lokuba uAvery uza kumxolela. Njengokuba kubonakala ngathi uDariyo no-Avery bayakufikelela kwinqanaba lokuqonda, uAvery unengxaki yokuwa aze afe.
Ukujonga ukwenza umzekelo kaDariyo, i-ADA (hayi iBarba!) Igqiba kwelokuba izame umntu oneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu ubudala njengomntu omdala. Nditsho nobungqina obuvela kutata ka-Avery ukuba akufuneki avalelwe, ukuba u-Avery wayekholelwa kuxolelo, uDariyo wagwetywa iminyaka esixhenxe, ukuba aqale asetyenziswe kwiziko lolutsha nasemva kokuba egqiba i-18, kwintolongo yabantu abadala.
Yintoni eyenze ukuba esi siqendu sibenomdla kukuba ngelixa limalunga nolwaphulo-mthetho lokwenyani kunye neenkqubo zolwaphulo-mthetho ezilandela olo lwaphulo-mthetho, ngokwenene isifundo ngakumbi malunga nokudibana kwendlela yokunyamezelana nemfesane; apho unyamezelo lilingana nokwamkelwa okulula kunye nemfesane lilinganisa ukuqonda kwenene kunye novelwano.
Kwakunomtsalane ukubukela zombini ezi ntsapho, kunye nabacuphi (ingakumbi uCarisi), behamba ngala manqanaba ukusuka ekuthini bangene kuvelwano lokwenyani. Yinto leyo ekungekho lula ukuyibonisa kwinkqubo ethatha iyure, ngakumbi ngaphandle kokuba ushumayele ngokuphandle ngayo.
Eyona nto yaphakamisa eli fakelo nangakumbi yayikukuphononongwa kwento ethethwa ligama elithi 'ulwaphulo-mthetho lwentiyo'. Kumabali amaninzi abandakanya olu hlobo lwesenzo, kukho umboniso wokwenyani wokwenza ingozi. Oku kwahlukile kuba kwakungekho ngokucacileyo kwisigqibo sikaDariyo sokulimaza uAvery. Ekukhanyeni koku, ngaba ngenene oku kungabizwa ngokuba ‘lulwaphulo-mthetho lokuzonda?’ Ngokucacileyo uDariyo akazange ‘amthiye’ uAvery okanye nantoni na ngaye, akazange nje ayiqonde. Kubonakala ngathi uninzi lwabantu luyavuma ukuba ukungaqondi kakuhle into ayithethi ukuba ayilingani ukuyicaphukela. Kodwa, phantsi komthetho, naliphi na inyathelo elibangela ukwenzakala komnye umntu kudidi olukhuselweyo linokutshutshiswa njengolwaphulo-mthetho olunenzondo.
Enye into kweli bali eyayinomdla kakhulu ukuyibona yayiyinto yokuba uDariyo wayengumfana ozisolayo ngenene, owavuma ngokulula kwinto ayenzileyo kwaye wayekulungele ukwamkela iziphumo zezenzo zakhe. Okulusizi kukuba, loo ntshukumo, eyimpazamo yomzuzwana, yabangela ukusweleka komnye umntu kwaye yaguqula indlela yobomi bakhe. Kodwa, yayikukuzimisela kwakhe ukuba ngumnini wento ayenzileyo kwaye abonise ukuzisola okuyinyani okwamenza wahlonitshwa ngabalinganiswa kweli bali naphakathi kwababukeli ababandakanyeke kule ngxelo.
Ukunqongophala kokuqonda, ukuthatha izigqibo ngendlela engafanelekanga kunye nokuthatha amanyathelo ngokungakhathali- zizinto esinokuthi siziqonde sonke kwaye sinxibelelane nazo. Ngubani phakathi kwethu ongazange abuze into okanye umntu ngendlela engathandekiyo, okanye enze ngokungakhathali ngendlela eya kuvela kakubi? Ngethamsanqa, ixesha elininzi kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha zingacinganga azikhokeleli kwityala lolwaphulo-mthetho… kodwa, ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha ayazenza.
Udubulo lokugqibela lwesi siqendu, olwalubonisa umama kaDariyo xa wayebukele unyana wakhe ekhokelwa, wathetha kakhulu. Ngokwesiqhelo, isakhelo sokugqibela sibonisa enye okanye ezingaphezulu SVU abacuphi abacinga ngento esandula ukwenzeka kunye nefuthe eliza kuba nalo ukuya phambili. Kule meko, bekunamandla ngakumbi ukubona lo mzali efuna ukuqonda, ezibuza ukuba ukudideka ngaphakathi kwengqondo yonyana wakhe kungakhokelela njani kwisigwebo sentolongo esiya kuhlala de ubutsha bakhe budlule kuye. Yinto enzima ukuba nabani na ayiqonde, nokuba ungakanani ngeminyaka, kodwa nangona oku kunokuba buhlungu kuzo zombini iintsapho zika-Avery kunye noDariyo, ithemba kukuba ngokujonga ezinye ukudideka ezimalunga nobuni besini kunye nokunikezela indlela yokuqonda apho Iya kuba mbalwa ize inciphe imeko yokuxhaphaza kunye nolwaphulo-mthetho lokutshutshisa. Yinjongo ephezulu kodwa leyo wonke umntu anokuvuma ukuba kufanelekile ukuyilandela.
