Ngaphandle kokubonakaliswa komzimba okucacileyo, ingxaki yokutya i-anorexia amanosa sisifo esizimeleyo kunye nesifihlakeleyo. Amantombazana asokola odwa, esilwa ukulawula imizimba yabo ngokujonga kakhulu malunga nento abayifaka kuyo. Nokuba abazali noogqirha bayasokola ukuvelana, bahlala bephela bechitha ixesha elininzi namandla abo bexhalabile kwaye bezama ukutya i-anorexic. Njengamava anorexic angaphantsi nangaphantsi kwenkxaso, ixhoba lesifo esele sikho sodwa siphelela emoyeni siziva sodwa.
Kokulungileyo nokubi, i-Intanethi iyitshintshile le nyaniso isisiseko. Malunga ne-400 ye-self-styled pro-anorexia (okanye ipro-ana) iiWebhusayithi ezikhoyo ngoku kwi-Intanethi. Zindawo apho amantombazana kuwo onke amabakala esi sifo esiya kufuna abantu abanovelwano kwaye azive amkelekile. Kodwa eyona nto ibakhathazayo oogqirha kukuba ezi ndawo zihlala zikhuthaza amantombazana ukuba amkele izifo zawo, ukuba anciphise ubunzima bawo, kunokuba afune unyango. Ezinye zeendawo zizichaza njengokhetho olukhethiweyo okanye olunyamezelayo, kwaye zinamagama anjengePhepha eli-Thin, indlala yokufezekisa kunye no-Ana ngokhetho.
Ithoni iyahluka ukusuka kwisiza ukuya kwisiza, kodwa uninzi lubandakanya izinto ezifanayo: iifoto zothotho lweemodeli zokumisa kunye nabadlali (uKate Moss ukuyo yonke indawo); Iingcebiso zokwehla kobunzima (Yima ngenyawo kwaye ushukume rhoqo. Ukujonga ngokungathi kunjalo okanye ukujija utshisa iipesenti ezili-10 ngaphezulu kweekhalori); iingcebiso zokufihla indlela ubani aziphethe ngayo (Shiya isitya esimdaka silele ujikeleze indlu rhoqo emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa ukuze oogxa bakho bakungxolise. Le yindlela yokuziphatha eqhelekileyo… kwaye iyakwenza ngathi uyatya); izixhobo zokubala zomzimba; imiyalelo enje ngeNto engcamleki kamnandi njengeziva ezibhityileyo; oolindixesha bemihla ngemihla; kunye neebhodi zemiyalezo ezivulekileyo apho amantombazana athetha ngokukhululekileyo nangokufutshane-ngokungaziwa malunga nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo.
Ukusebenza nokusefa ipro-ana kunye ne-pro-ed (yesifo sokutya) iiWebhusayithi zinokuba luhlobo lonyango kumantombazana amaninzi, kodwa ugqirha wezengqondo uSteven Levenkron, owabhala ibhayibhile yeanorexic, Eyona Ntombazana incinci eMhlabeni, ngo-1978 kunye neAnatomy yeAnorexia ngo-2000, ixhalabile kukuba ezi ndawo azizilungisi iindlela ezibaluleke kakhulu zokugula.
Ingxaki yile, maninzi amantombazana anyangekayo, utshilo uMnu Levenkron. Kodwa xa bengena kwezi ndawo, bayanyangeka kancinci. Amantombazana aqhuba ezi ndawo anesizungu, kwaye endaweni yokuzibiza ngokuba bayagula, baziva ngathi banomsebenzi. Ukulawula iwebhsayithi kuvelisa inkohliso yokulawula isikhululo sikanomathotholo-baziva ngathi bathembekile kwihlabathi. Kwaye uninzi lwazo alunabomi ekuhlaleni, kwaye ithemba labo kukufumana ezinye ianorexics. Kodwa kukudibanisa amandla amandla: Ilukuhla amantombazana kwianorexia, kwaye yenza ukuba intombazana ebalekayo izive inesithukuthezi.
Namhlanje kwakungqwabalala, iqala ngokungena incwadana yemiyalezo yeWebhusayithi ye-pro-ana. Ndandiqhuba kakuhle, nasendleleni yokugqibezela ukubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo. Kodwa ndizifumana ndiziva ndinyanyeke ngokupheleleyo. Ndiyaphela yile mvakalelo yokungoneli ngokwaneleyo kwaye iyandibulala. Andikwazi ukudlula kwaye ndiyayithiya. Ngale ntsasa bekungafani ke ekuseni, ndiye ndavuka ndifuna ukuba ngomnye umntu. Ndiyathetha, bendihlala ndifuna ukuba ngomnye umntu, umntu ongcono, kodwa eli xesha lahlukile, loyikisa. Ndavuka ndafuna ukufa. Ndilile kabuhlungu ngale ntsasa kangangokuba ndicinga ukuba kwanele ukuhlala iminyaka eliwaka. Xa ndaye ndazenzela ngokwam ndaya kwisibuko esipheleleyo kwaye ndalahleka kwakhona. Uye waba yintoni kum. Ndiyeke ngokupheleleyo kwaye zonke iinjongo zam zityibilika. Ndikhulu kakhulu.
Uninzi lweendawo zibandakanya ukungazichazi ukuba zinokubangela isimilo esenzakalisayo. Indawo enye eyabanjwa ngumfundi oneminyaka eli-18 ubudala kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo eCalifornia ifundeka ngolu hlobo: Isilumkiso! Le yindawo ye-pro-anorexia. Ukuba unengxaki yokutya okanye uziva unokuthi ukhathazeke okanye ubangelwe lulwazi kule ndawo nceda ushiye. Nceda ungasebenzisi kakubi ulwazi olukule ndawo. Yenzelwe ukunceda ukunciphisa umzimba, hayi ukuzibulala. Ungavumeli ingxaki yakho yokutya iphume esandleni. Andizukubekwa tyala ngezenzo zakho. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba umntu ngamnye kufuneka azikhethele ngento ayifaka emzimbeni wakhe kwaye le webhusayithi kukunceda ukufundisa abantu malunga nezinto abanokukhetha kuzo. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba abantu abanengxaki yokutya kufuneka babe nelungelo lokuqhubeka nokuziphatha kwabo ukuba bafuna njalo. Ukuphazamiseka kwindlela yokutya kukujongana neendlela ezithile, nokuba zikhona ezingalunganga, kodwa zihlala ziyindlela yokugqibela. Zisetyenziswa xa kungekho enye into esebenzayo. Ukuba ususa indlela yomntu yokujongana nemeko abasayi kuphinda baphile. Nceda uqaphele ukuba le ayisiyiyo indawo yokufa. Kukunceda abantu abahlupheka ngenxa yeanorexia ukuba bafumane ubuhlobo kwindawo apho bangazukugwetywa khona. Qonda, olu ayilulo uhlobo lokutya oqhubeka ukuphulukana neepawundi ezintlanu. Sisifo esibi kwaye kukho iziphumo nakuluphi na ukhetho olwenzileyo. Nceda ulinganise ngononophelo ukhetho lwakho. Enkosi.
NgoJulayi 2001, uMbutho weSizwe weAnorexia Nervosa kunye neNgxaki eziHlangeneyo zabuza iiseva ezinkulu ezinje ngeYahoo, eyayibambe ngaphezulu kwe-100 iisayithi ze-pro-ana, ukuba zivale. Bayenzile, kodwa yexeshana nje, njengoko abanini befumene ezinye iiWebhusayithi okanye iiseva zabucala njengemikhosi.
NgokukaMbutho weSizwe wokuPhazamiseka kokuTya, izigidi ezintlanu ukuya kwishumi lezigidi zamantombazana nabasetyhini, kunye nesinye isigidi samakhwenkwe kunye namadoda, banengxaki yokutya eMelika Kwipesenti ezingama-90 zabasetyhini, esi sifo siqala phakathi kweminyaka eli-11 neli-22. izifo zineepesenti ezingama-30 zokufumana kwakhona ngokupheleleyo; phakathi kwe-5 kunye ne-20 yepesenti iya kufa kuyo-phakathi kwamazinga aphezulu okusweleka aso nasiphi na isifo sengqondo. I-Bulimia, okanye i-mia, ihlala ikhula kwiminyaka yeshumi elivisayo, kwaye ixhaphake kakhulu, ichaphazela iipesenti ezi-1 ukuya kwezi-3 zabasetyhini.
Umamkeli-projekthi ogama linguKessa uthe wakhubeka kwiWebhsayithi yakhe yokuqala ye-pro-ana kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo, kwaye ngelixa imifanekiso yamantombazana ayingozi ayemoyikisa, waziva ethanda ukwazi.
Ukuphazamiseka kwindlela yokutya kuhlala kuzihlukanisa kakhulu izifo, kwaye ngelo xesha ndandingenabahlobo abaninzi, utshilo uKessa. Ndijongene nemicimbi yam yokutya, kwaye ukuba yipro-ana kwabonakala ngathi ngumbono omkhulu. Ndaziva ngathi izakundinceda ndizenzele abahlobo ngelixa indenza ndibe mhle. Kude kube namhla, eyona nto ndiyithandayo malunga ne-pro-ana world yintsingiselo yoluntu. Simanyene ngokwenene. Siyaxhasana kwinto yonke, nkqu nokuchacha.
UKessa wathi emva kwethutyana, wazikhathaza kwiifoto zabafazi ababhityileyo kwaye waziqinisekisa ukuba zintle.
Ndiza kujonga ezi modeli kwaye ndizixelele kaninzi ukuba zintle kwaye zigqibelele, kwaye nam ndingangazo. Ekugqibeleni, nditsho namantombazana abhityileyo andoyikisayo, utshilo.
Wayegcina iphepha kwi-Intanethi elamkhokelela ekubeni aqale indawo ye-pro-ana. Kwakufuneka ayitshintshe idilesi yesiza ngalo lonke ixesha abazali bakhe beyifumana, kodwa kamsinya nje akuba neminyaka eyi-18, wafumana ikhadi lokuthenga ngetyala kwaye wathenga indawo yakhe.
Injongo yam kwiWebhusayithi yam kukwenza ukuba abantu abanengxaki yokutya bazive bengaphantsi bodwa kwaye bakwazi ukwenza ukhetho lokungangcono-kwaye bamkelwe kwindawo enye kwilizwe lethu lokugweba, utshilo uKessa.
UClara (ayilogama lakhe lokwenyani) uthe une-anorexic ukusukela oko wayeneminyaka emi-3, kwaye wayifumana kunina, owayedla ngokupheka iitoni zakhe zokutya kodwa angaze akutye. UClara uya kwikholeji eNew York kwaye usebenza okwethutyana njengomculi wezinto zokuzilungisa kwivenkile yesebe. Unesithandwa sakhe, kodwa inye kuphela intokazi engumhlobo wakhe. Uqhuba indawo ye-pro-ana.
Ndiyayithanda, ndiyithanda kakhulu, kuba ungadibana nabantu abatsha yonke imihla, utshilo uClara. Umntu uza kuthi nje abe nguwe aze athi, 'Ngaba nifuna ukuqala ukuzila ukutya kwangolo suku lunye?', Kwaye niyathetha omnye nomnye malunga nokuzila ukutya nokuba kuqhubeka njani kwaye ukuba sivumelekile na ukuba sidle. Kwaye ukuba sithatha isigqibo sokuzivumela ukuba sidle iminqathe enye, siyakutya iminqathe kunye.
UGqr.Rachel Russell, ugqirha ojolise ekuphazameni kwindlela otya ngayo eDanbury, eConn., Ubona iisayithi ze-pro-ana njengomboniso onyanisekileyo wento eyi-anorexia, egcwaliswe yimbambano.
Kukho umnqweno wokuhlala, utshilo uGqirha Russell. Kodwa kukho nohlobo lokufuna ukuthambisa iintlungu zabo, ezinje, ‘Jonga oku-ndiza kukwenza ujonge le!’ Kungenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi ababalulekileyo ebomini babo abayazi intlungu yabo.
Ucinga ukuba kuya kuba yimpazamo ukugxotha iziza.
Xa unengxaki yokutya, ukwazi ukuthetha nantoni na malunga namava kubalulekile kwinqanaba elithile, utshilo. Ndikwacinga ukuba kubalulekile ukuba abantu bakwazi ukufikelela kumava abanye abantu-kunokuba nefuthe lokuzibona esipilini.
UHolly Hoff, umlawuli weenkqubo kwi-National Eating Disorder Association, akavumelani noko. Ufuna ukuba iziza zivinjelwe.
Saqonda kwangoko ukuba inyani yokuba olu lwazi lukwi-Intanethi kwakufana nokubeka umpu ogcweleyo ezandleni zomntu ozibulalayo, utshilo uNks Hoof. Wongeze ngelithi iisayithi ziyonyusa uxinzelelo kumantombazana angafayo ukuba abhityile.
UNora (ayilogama lakhe lokwenyani) ngumfundi omncinci oneminyaka eli-16 ubudala kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo eNew York, owathi wayethumela kwiziza zepro-ana ukusukela oko umama wakhe wafumana i-Intanethi kunyaka ophelileyo. Wayecacile malunga nento eyamkhokelela kwi-anorexia: amatyeli amabini okuphathwa gadalala xa wayesemncinci. Ucacisile ukuba kuba ebenzakele, uziva enelungelo lokuqhubeka nokukhathazeka.
Yinto yokuzingca, utshilo uNora. Ndifuna nje ukubandezeleka ngoku. Andifuni kufa-ndifuna ukuveza ubuhlungu bam.
Kubuntu buqu kubomi bokwenyani, uqhubeke. Ke ngokuyibeka kwi-Intanethi, ndiziva ngathi ndinokuyifumana ngokwaneleyo kwaye ndiyikhuphe kwaye ndiziva ndingcono ngayo ngaphandle kokuthuthuzela omnye umntu ngobuqu. Kungenxa yokuba andizinzanga ngokwasemoyeni ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingayenza loo nto, kwaye kunjalo nangabo.
UNora uthe akanamnqweno wokudibana nabantu athetha nabo kwi-Intanethi, kuba woyika ukufumanisa ukuba baxokile.
Ndiyoyika ukufumanisa ukuba umntu owathetha nam wandithuthuzela kwaye wadibana nam uyintombazana etyebileyo, utshilo.
UNora wahlulahlulahlulahlulahlulahlula ngokwamaqela amathathu ngokubanzi: Kukho abantu abazibulalayo, abazibopheleli nje ukuphila; abantu abaphikayo kwaye abacingi ukuba baya kufa; kwaye abantu njengam, abayiqondayo ukuba kukho ingxaki kwaye abazi ukuba bangadlula njani kuyo, utshilo.
Into abanayo bonke ngokufanayo yindawo yokuvelisa eneekhompyuter kunye ne-Intanethi ebavumela ukuba baphephe ukujongwa ngabazali babo. Enye yeWebhusayithi iyalumkisa: YENZA YONKE UBUNGQINA…. Sayina uphume kwibhokisi yakho yeposi kwaye ucime imbali ngaphambi kokuba uphume kwi-Intanethi. Uyazi ukuba idilesi izizalisa njani ngamanye amaxesha? Khawufane ucinge ikhonkco eliya ku-www.anorexicweb.com xa u [sic] mama uzama ukurenta imoto kwi-intanethi.
UNora uthe usebenzisa idilesi ye-imeyile eyimfihlo ukuthetha nabantu, kwaye usebenzisa iWebhu ngesikhangeli asibonwa ngunina kwikhompyuter yabo.
Akayonto enjalo ikhompyuter, utshilo uNora. Ungumgcini zincwadi ebefanele ukuba ungumdanisi, yiyo yonke loo nto athetha ngayo.
