Wonke umntu eManhattan uyazi umfazi omangalisayo, ongazange atshate.Unsplash
Ngesidlo sasemini ngolunye usuku, bendihleba gadalala ngendoda endisandula ukudibana nayo. Sasixoxa ngabahlobo bethu bobabini, isibini esitshatileyo. Wayemazi umyeni, nam ndazi umfazi. Andizange ndidibane nomyeni, kwaye ndandingazange ndimbone umfazi kwiminyaka (ngaphandle kokubaleka kuye ngamanye amaxesha esitratweni), kodwa njengesiqhelo, bendisazi yonke into ngale meko.
Kuza kuphela kakubi, ndatsho. Wayengenangqondo. Ihobe. Ungene evela eBoston, kwaye wayengazi kwanto ngaye kwaye waxhuma kweli thuba. Wayesele edlulile kwidumela. Akukho mntu eNew York ngewayemtshatile.
Ndihlasele inkukhu yam eqhotsiweyo, ukufudumeza umxholo. Abafazi eNew York yazi . Bayazi ukuba kufuneka batshate nini, kwaye kulapho bayenza khona. Mhlawumbi baye balala nabafana abaninzi okanye bayazi ukuba akukho nto iya kwenzeka ngokwenene kunye nomsebenzi wabo, okanye mhlawumbi bafuna ngokwenene abantwana. Kude kube lelo xesha, bayibekela ixesha elide kangangoko banakho. Ke banayo loo nto Okomzuzwana , kwaye ukuba abayithathi… ndanyusa amagxa. Yiyo leyo. Amathuba kukuba, abanakuze batshate.
Omnye umntu owayesetafileni, iqabane lotata odumileyo ohlala eWestchester, wayejonge kuthi esoyika. Kodwa kuthekani ngothando? Ubuze.
Ndamjonga ndisizela. Andicingi njalo.
Xa kuziwa ekufumaneni iqabane lomtshato, iNew York inezithethe zayo ezikhohlakeleyo, ezinzima kwaye zinobuchule njengenoveli kaEdith Wharton. Wonke umntu uyazi imithetho-kodwa akukho mntu ufuna ukuthetha ngayo. Isiphumo kukuba iNew York ikhulise uhlobo oluthile lomfazi ongatshatanga-onobuqili, onomtsalane, ophumeleleyo ongazange atshate. Ukwi-30 okanye i-40 yakhe yamva nje, kwaye, ukuba ulwazi olunobuchule lilungele nantoni na, ngekhe atshate.
Oku akukho malunga neenkcukacha-manani okanye ngaphandle. Sonke siyazi malunga nomdlali odlalayo ophumeleleyo owatshata umyili wefashoni entle isibini seminyaka emdala kuye. Kodwa xa umhle, uphumelele, usisityebi kwaye wazi wonke umntu, imigaqo eqhelekileyo ayisebenzi.
Ungathini, kwelinye icala, ukuba uneminyaka engama-40 kwaye umhle kwaye ungumvelisi kamabonwakude okanye unenkampani yakho ye-PR, kodwa usahlala kwisitudiyo kwaye ulale esofeni esongwayo-i-90 elingana noMary Tyler Moore? Ngaphandle koko, ngokungafaniyo noMary Tyler Moore, uye walala nabo bonke abo bafana endaweni yokuba ubakhabale nge-12: 02 AM? Kwenzeka ntoni kwabo bafazi?
Kukho amawaka, mhlawumbi amashumi amawaka amabhinqa anje esixekweni. Sonke siyazazi ezininzi zazo, kwaye sonke siyavuma ukuba zilungile. Bahamba, bahlawula iirhafu, baya kuchitha i-400 yeedola kwisibini seembadada zeManolo Blahnik.
Akukho nto igwenxa kwaba bafazi, utshilo uJerry, 39, igqwetha lezolonwabo elithe latshata omnye waba bafazi bakrelekrele, mdala kuye ngeminyaka emithathu. Abaphambani okanye banemithambo-luvo. Akunjalo Umtsalane obulalayo . Uye wema uJerry. Kutheni ndisazi abafazi abaninzi kangaka abangatshatanga, kwaye akukho guys ezinkulu? Masijongane nayo, abafana abangatshatanga eNew York bayancanca.
IiM & M's
Nantsi intengiselwano, utshilo uJerry. Kukho iwindow yethuba lokuba abafazi batshate eNew York. Kwenye indawo iphakathi kweminyaka engama-26 nama-35. Okanye mhlawumbi ingama-36. Sobabini savumelana ukuba ukuba umntu obhinqileyo utshatile kube kanye, unokutshata kwakhona; kukho into malunga nokwazi ukuvala isivumelwano.
Kodwa ngequbuliso, xa abafazi beba nama-37 okanye ama-38, kukho yonke le nto… izinto , uthe. Impahla. Babekude kakhulu. Imbali yabo iyasebenza ngokuchasene nabo. Ukuba ndandingatshatanga kwaye ndafumanisa ukuba umfazi uphume noMort Zuckerman okanye uMorty ( Unobumba umlimi osebenzisanayo uRobert Morton) -i-M & M's-uyilibale. Ngubani ofuna ukuba ngowama-20 kuloo mgca? Kwaye ke ukuba batsala naziphi na ezinye ze-stunts, njengabantwana ngaphandle komtshato okanye ukuhlala kwi-rehab-yingxaki leyo.
UJerry ubalise ibali: Kwihlobo ephelileyo, wayekwisidlo sangokuhlwa esincinci eHamptons. Iindwendwe zazikwiTV nakwimiboniso bhanyabhanya. Yena nenkosikazi yakhe babezama ukulungisa imodeli eneminyaka engama-40 ubudala kunye nomfana osandula ukuqhawula umtshato. Aba babini babethetha, ngequbuliso kwavela into malunga no-Mort Zuckerman kunye no-Chuck Pfeifer. Ngequbuliso uJerry nenkosikazi yakhe babebukele lo mfo ecima. Kukho uluhlu lwezidanga ezinobungozi eNew York, utshilo uJerry, kwaye bayabulala.
Emva kwemini, ndibalisa ibali kuAnna, oneminyaka engama-36 kwaye onomkhwa wokungavumelani nayo yonke into ethethwa ngamadoda. Bonke abafana bafuna ukulala naye, kwaye uhlala ebahlafuna ngokungabi nzulu. Uthandana neM & M kwaye uyamazi uJerry. Xa ndambalisela ibali, wakhwaza. UJerry unomona nje. Ungathanda ukufana naba bafana, ngaphandle kokuba akanamali okanye amandla okukhupha. Khuhla umphezulu kwaye wonke umntu waseNew York ufuna ukuba nguMort Zuckerman.
UGeorge, 37, ibhanki yotyalo-mali, ngomnye umntu obona i-bachelors enetyhefu njengengxaki. Aba bantu-ugqirha wotyando, oko Amaxesha umhleli, umntu ophambeneyo ongumnini wezo kliniki zokuchuma-bonke bakhupha iphuli efanayo yabasetyhini kwaye ayikaze iye ndawo, utshilo. Ewe, ukuba ndadibana nomfazi owayephume kunye nabo bonke abo bafana, andizukuyithanda.
Abantwana — okanye iingubo zangaphantsi?
Ukuba unguDiane Sawyer, uya kuhlala ukwazi ukutshata, utshilo uGeorge. Kodwa nabafazi abangoo-A noo-A + bangaphoswa. Ingxaki kukuba, eNew York, abantu bayazikhethela ukuya kumaqela amancinci nancinci. Ujongene nesihlwele sabantu abanelungelo elikhulu kwaye imigangatho yabo iphakame kakhulu.
Kwaye kukho bonke abahlobo bakho. Jonga wena, utshilo uGeorge. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo nangabahlobo oye waphuma nabo, kodwa sihlala sikunika ikaka ngabo.
Yayiyinyani leyo. Onke amasoka am athandana nawo ayemangalisa ngendlela yawo, kodwa abahlobo bam babefumene iimpazamo kubo bonke, ngokungenanceba bandihlafuna ngenxa yokunyamezelana nazo naziphi na izinto abazibonayo, kodwa engqondweni yam zixolelwe. Ngoku ndandisele ndedwa, kwaye nabahlobo bam babonwabile.
Kwiintsuku ezimbini kamva, ndabaleka ndaya eGeorge kwitheko. Konke malunga nokuba nabantwana, watsho. Ukuba ufuna ukutshata, kukuba nabantwana, kwaye awufuni ukuyenza nomntu omdala kunama-35, kuba emva koko kuya kufuneka ube nabantwana kwangoko, emva koko kuphelele apho.
Ndithathe isigqibo sokujonga noPeter, i-42, umbhali endiye ndaneentsuku ezimbini naye. Wavuma noGeorge. Konke malunga nobudala kunye nebhayoloji, utshilo. Awunakuqonda nje ukuba ungakanani umtsalane wokuqala kumfazi oneminyaka yokuzala umntwana. Kumfazi osele ekhulile, 40 mhlawumbi, kuya kuba nzima kuba awuzukuziva unamandla, umtsalane wokuqala. Kuya kufuneka ubabone kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ufune ukulala nabo, emva koko malunga nenye into.
I-lingerie yesini, mhlawumbi?
Ndicinga ukuba umba wabasetyhini abangatshatanga, abantu abadala yeyona ngxaki inkulu kwisiXeko saseNew York, uPeter waqhawula, emva koko wongeza ngocoselelo, Inika intuthumbo kubafazi abaninzi, kwaye uninzi lwabo luyala.
UPeter ubalise ibali. Unomfazi ongumhlobo, 41. Wayehlala ehamba nabafana abathandekayo kwaye wayezonwabisa. Emva koko wahamba nomfana owayeneminyaka engama-20 kwaye ehlekiswa ngokungenalusini. Emva koko waphuma wahamba nomnye umfana o-sexy oneminyaka yakhe kwaye wamshiya ngequbuliso yena
ayikwazanga ukufumana enye imihla. Wayenesifo esipheleleyo somzimba. Wayengakwazi ukugcina umsebenzi wakhe kwaye kwafuneka abuyele eIowa ukuze ahlale nonina. Oku kungaphaya kwamaphupha amabi onke amabhinqa, kwaye ayilo bali elenza amadoda azive kakubi.
Inguqulelo kaRoger
URoger, 39, wayehleli kwindawo yokutyela e-Upper East Side, eziva kamnandi kwaye esela iwayini ebomvu. Uqhuba ingxowa-mali yakhe kwaye uhlala kwiPark Avenue kwigumbi lokufundela elithandathu. Wayecinga ngento endizakuyibiza I-Mid-30's Power Flip.
Xa ungumfana omncinci kwi-20 kunye nasekuqaleni kwe-30, abafazi balawula ubudlelwane, uRoger ucacisile. Ngexesha lokuba ube yindoda efanelekileyo kwiminyaka engama-30, uziva ngathi uyatyiwa. Ngamanye amagama, ngequbuliso umfo unamandla onke. Inokwenzeka ngokukhawuleza.
URoger uthe ebeye kwitheko le-cocktail kwangoko ngorhatya, kwaye, xa engenayo, bekukho abafazi abasixhenxe abangatshatanga abaphakathi ukuya kwiminyaka eyi-30, bonke be-Upper East Side blonde, benxibe iilokhwe ezimnyama, kunye nobukrelekrele kunelandelayo . Uyazi ukuba akukho nto ungathi ayilunganga, utshilo uRoger. Kubafazi, kukuphelelwa lithemba kudityaniswe nokufikelela incopho yabo yezesondo. Yindibaniselwano eguqukayo kakhulu. Uyabona oko kujongeka emehlweni abo-ukuphatha ngayo nayiphi na indleko exutywe nembeko esempilweni yokungena kwemali-kwaye uziva ngathi baya eLexis naseNexis kuwe nje ukuba uphume kwigumbi. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu, uninzi lwaba bafazi lunomdla ngokwenene kuba khange bahambe nje batshata. Kodwa xa indoda ibona oko kujongeka emehlweni abo… ungaziva njani unomdla?
Buyela kuPeter, owayesebenza ngokwakhe ukuba atyholwe nguGeorge Clooney. Ingxaki yile okulindelweyo . Abafazi abadala abafuni ukuzinza kwinto ekhoyo. Abakwazi ukufumana abafana abapholileyo kwaye kubalulekile, ngoko ke bathi isikrufu-ndingathanda ukuba ndedwa. Hayi, andimsizeli nabani na onolindelo angenako ukuhlangabezana nalo. Ndiva lusizi ngabantu abalahlekileyo abangazukujongwa ngaba bafazi. Eyona nto bayifunayo nguGeorge Clooney. Akukho namnye umfazi eNew York ongakhange alahle abafana abali-10 abahle, abanothando kuba babetyebe kakhulu okanye babengenamandla ngokwaneleyo okanye babengenabutyebi ngokwaneleyo okanye bengenamdla ngokwaneleyo. Kodwa abo bafana banomdla kakhulu ababhinqileyo ababambe umdla kubo banomdla kumantombazana akwiminyaka ye-20.
Ngoku, uPetros wayesele ekhwaza. Kutheni le nto aba bafazi bengatshati mfo otyebileyo? Kutheni bengatshati ibhafu enkulu, etyebileyo yesinqatha?
Abahlobo Abalungileyo, Amadoda aLousy
Ndawubuza lo mbuzo kumhlobo wam uAndrea, 35, intatheli. Ndiza kukuxelela ukuba kutheni, utshilo. Ndiye ndaphuma nabanye baba bafana-abo bafutshane, batyebile kwaye babi-kwaye ayenzi mahluko. Baye bangabongi kwaye bazingca njengabo bahle.
Ngexesha ufika kwiminyaka yakho yama-30 kwaye awutshatanga, ucinga, kutheni kufanele ndihlale? UAndrea uthe. Uthe usandula ukwala umhla kunye nomntu ofanelekileyo ofanelekileyo, osandula ukuqhawula umtshato ebhankini eneminyaka engama-41 ngenxa yokuba ukungachazeki kwakhe bekukuncinci. Umnwe wesalathiso, wancwina.
Emva koko u-Anna wangena. Wayefumana nje imali yokwenza ifilimu yakhe yokuqala ezimeleyo kwaye wayevuya. Le ngcamango yabasetyhini abakwazi ukutshata? Inengqondo encinci, andinokwazi nokujongana nayo. Ukuba ufuna ukufumana aba bafana, kufuneka uthule. Kufuneka uhlale apho kwaye uvale kwaye uvumelane nayo yonke into abayithethayo.
Ngethamsanqa, umhlobo wam uVirginia, 35, wafowunela wandichazela ukuba kutheni abafazi aboyikisayo bengonwabanga ngokuba bodwa, kodwa nabo abazimiselanga ngako. Oo busi, uye waphola wangena emnxebeni. Wayonwabile kuba wayeke walala naye ngobusuku obudlulileyo kunye nomfundi ona-24 wezomthetho. Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba amadoda eNew York enza abahlobo abakhulu kunye nabayeni abathandekayo. EMazantsi, apho ndivela khona, sinentetho: Kungcono ukuba wedwa kunokuhamba kakubi.
Le kholamu yapapashwa okokuqala kuhlelo lukaDisemba 26, 1994 Umqwalaseli waseNew York.
UCandace Bushnell waqala Isini kunye neSixeko njengekholamu kwi Umqwalaseli waseNew York ngo-1994; emva koko yaba yincwadi kunye noluhlu kwi-HBO.
