UJeanne Safer wenza ikhondom yegolide.(UMFANEKISO: USam Ortiz woMjongi) Iliso ngeliso linokubangela i-glaucoma kwihlabathi liphela, kwaye ukuxolela kunye nokulibala kunokuba yinto yokuziphatha ebekekileyo, kodwa xa umntu ebetha yonke intliziyo yakho, uninzi lwethu luphupha indlela kaMuhammed Ali: Uyayibulala inja yam, kungcono uyifihle ikati yakho.
Iimvakalelo zempindezelo ziyindalo. Kwaye ngoku, banesitampu esinciphileyo sokuvunywa. Kwi Ikhondom yegolide kunye nezinye izincoko kuthando olulahlekileyo kwaye lwafunyanwa , ugqirha wengqondo UJeanne Safer iphuma ngokuqinisekileyo ixhasa impindezelo esempilweni.
Impindezelo inegama elibi, ucacisa uNks. Safer, 68, umfazi omncinci oneenwele ezisikwe ngokusondeleyo kunye noncumo olubanzi lukaDalai Lama. Cinga ngo-Amy Fisher, imbeko yokubulala, izithethe zomlingo omnyama. Sicinga ukuba impindezelo yinto embi.
Kodwa impindezelo-okanye iintlobo ezithile zayo-inokunceda ukupholisa amanxeba, utshilo. Kuxhomekeka nje ekubeni umntu ofuna impindezelo ethembele ekufezekiseni.
Kukho intelekelelo yokuba uza kufumana, kwaye awunakufumana, UNks Safer uthi. Awunakho ukuhlehlisa okudlulileyo.
Ngobunye ubusuku, malunga neshumi elinambini labantu baseNew York bafika eLounge eTheku Ivenkile yeKofu ukuze bathathe inxaxheba kwiseshoni yonyango kunye noNks Safer, kunye nomyeni wakhe weminyaka engama-35, umbhali-mbali (kunye nowayesakuba ngumbhali wemihlathi ye-Braganca) uRichard I-Brookhiser. Ubalisa umzekelo wokuziphindisela emgceni. Umfazi othotyiweyo, umyeni wakhe ebethandana nomqeshwa wabo bobabini, usike itilapia wayifaka kwiradiyetha yemoto yomnye umfazi, eshiya ivumba elibi elonakalisa isithuthi. Thetha ngevumba lomntu wasetyhini.
Oko mhlawumbi kumda phakathi kokuziphindezela okunempilo kunye nokungenampilo, UNks Safer uyavuma. (Ilungu labaphulaphuli laveza ukuba imeko ye-tilapia-in-the-car lityala lolwaphulo-mthetho. Ndiyamazi umntu osentolongweni kuba wabeka iqanda komnye umntu [ekhupha] -kwaye basweleka.)
UNks Safer akakukhuthazi ukubhujiswa kwabantu abaninzi. Kodwa unomdla wokuphepha ezenzekelayo -Utshabalalo: Oko kukuthi, ukunceda abantu bayeke ukulibala emva komntu obaphethe kakubi, nokuba ungumhlobo okanye umthandi. Uyakhumbula ukuba xa wayeneminyaka eli-19 ubudala ejija kwiYunivesithi yaseChicago, wawela umfundi oqaqambileyo oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, owamfaka kwiNutribullet yeemvakalelo. Ekugqibeleni waqonda isimilo sakhe xa wayecela ingcebiso ngokulukuhla omnye umfazi.
Impindezelo-okanye iintlobo ezithile zayo-inokunceda ukupholisa amanxeba, utshilo uJeanne Safer
Ngomsindo, ngobuchule wazisa ngendelelo yakhe. Wathenga ipeyinti yegolide yokutshiza, wakhupha iTrojan ngaphandle kwebhokisi kwaye wayivumela i-aerosol ukuba isebenze ngomlingo wayo. Emva koko waphawula imvulophu ebuthathaka kwaye wakuthumela kumfana wakhe wakudala.
Kwakukho into ekhululayo ngokumangalisayo malunga nokwenza le nto, utsho. Uqhanqalazo lweprophylactic luye lwamvumela ukuba afune amandla kwakhona kwaye enze nelizwi lakhe ukuba live okokuqala. Iikhondom zegolide, uthi zithetha kakhulu kunamazwi.
Oko bekufanele ukuba kunjalo. Kodwa ngelishwa ubukrelekrele bakhe bumonwabisile umamkeli. Uye wafowna wathi ufuna ukumbona. Ngokwenyani kwiskripthi, akavumanga. Kwaye wathi amagama amane amnandi kulwimi lwesiNgesi: Ndizokulinda.
Ukuba wayengekho 19 kwaye kakuhle, intombazana, ngewayemphephe ngempumelelo kuye. Kodwa abathandekayo abonwabileyo babelana ngobusuku bokugqibela bethando-kwaye akazange ambone kwakhona. Kuthathe iminyaka engama-49, kwaye ukubhala le ncwadi, ukumkhupha ngokupheleleyo.
Isisombululo esiyinyani yayikukuba ndizame ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ndi… ndivumele umntu andiphathe kakubi. Awunakho ukwenza umntu akuthande, njengengoma kaBonnie Raitt.
Uninzi lolwalamano lwethu olutshabalalisayo, utshilo, luvela ekwenziweni kwakhona kobudlelwane obunezinto zakudala, ikakhulu nabazali bethu, nkqu nezona zilungileyo.
Ngaphandle kokuba ujongane neemvakalelo, ngekhe ukhululeke, utshilo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlehlise okudlulileyo-kufuneka nje uyiqonde.
Kwaye ukuba ex-paramour kuvela ukuba ukhokele ubomi obungaphantsi komtsalane, konke kungcono. UNks Safer kutsha nje uGoogled owayengumhle ngaphambili. Kwaye yabona! Inkwenkwezi encinci eqaqambileyo ayiphumelelanga okuninzi. Wajonga ifoto yakhe imizuzu eli-15 elungileyo ngaphambi kokuba amqonde. Wayeyindoda endala engenazinwele, utshilo.
Kwaye yayiyeyona mpindezelo intle kunazo zonke.
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