Kungekudala uRebecca Hackemann, umculi oneminyaka engama-32 ubudala, wayenomhla wesithathu ophazamisayo kunye nohlobo lwebhanki adibana nalo kwiNerve.com. Uphumile xa uNks.Hackemann wabonisa imizuzu engama-20 emva kwexesha emva kwengxaki ethile kuloliwe ongaphantsi. Uyazi, awungekhe ufike emva kwexesha ngolu hlobo, uncume iimbaleki, umntu oneminyaka engama-42 emva kokuba ehleli phantsi waxolisa kakhulu. Awazi ukuba yenzani kum ngokweemvakalelo, uqhubeke. Iyandichaphazela, kwaye ndiyifumanisa iphazamisa. Kwixesha elizayo, kuya kufuneka siqiniseke ukuba ufike ngexesha.
Inxalenye yokwenza nexesha lam elidlulileyo, wongeze emva kokuba bebeke iiodolo zabo.
Ibhanki ibonakalisa umzuzu owothusayo kubudlelwane bezesini apha eNew York: ukusasazeka okuxhaphakileyo kwendoda ye-emo (okanye mhlawumbi ngokufanelekileyo, inkwenkwe ye-emo). Imvelaphi ibhekisa kwi-floppy-limbed, inyani ye-indie-rock, inyani eqokelele isantya ngexesha likaClinton lokuva-iintlungu. Ngoku ifike ngokuthe gca emathangeni amabhinqa aseManhattan anezothe njengoNks Hackemann.
Ukuba akakwazi ukundiphatha ngokufika emva kwexesha, angakwazi njani ukuphatha into enkulu? Ubuze umhla wakhe wokulahla ngoku. Ukuba wophule ngokwasemphefumlweni kuloo nto, uya kucinga ukuba lo mntu ubuthathaka kakhulu.
Inkwenkwe ye-Emo okwangoku ibonakalisiwe kwiscreen esikhulu kwi-Tobey Maguire's Spider-Man 2. Kwimeko yokugqibela ye-movie, uKirsten Dunst, njengo-MJ ozeka kade umsindo, uthi, Yiya kumfumana, umbulali, ngothando unike iqhawe intsikelelo yakhe yokuphuma alwe nolwaphulo-mthetho oluninzi kunokuba agqibe ubudlelwane babo. Kwaye washiya enye indoda esibingelelweni! Kutheni uSpidey engenzi nje isenzo?
Ngenxa yokuba uSperman ngokungafaniyo noSuperman, uBatman kunye neTerminator-yinkwenkwe ye-emo. Ayisiyo yokuba ungumfazi okanye isitabane ngokufihlakeleyo. Ulungile, kulungile. Kodwa olu hlobo lutsha lomntu othe tye olukhohlisayo luyakhohlisa. Ujongeka eyindoda ngokwaneleyo, kwindawo ethandabuzekayo, ejonge kwicala lobukhwenkwe. Kodwa ubuthathaka, uvakalelo, uphantsi koxinzelelo lweemvakalelo kunye nokuzilolonga. Uthetha ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Okuninzi. Uloyiko kunye neminqweno yakhe eyimfihlo, uxinzelelo losapho, uxinzelelo malunga nokuba angaze enze iqabane, okanye ayifumane loo ncwadi yesivumelwano, okanye intloko ukuba umbutho ongenzi nzuzo-zonke izihloko ezikhululekileyo ze-emo boy. Uya kuvakala ebuthathaka. Une-ethe-ethe kodwa uhlala enovakalelo kwiimvakalelo zakhe kunalezo zomfazi ohleli ecaleni kwakhe esidlweni. Usenokuba uyayiphunga i-pinot noir kwaye uyazibuza ukuba kutheni inkwenkwe yakhe ye-emo iqhuba ixesha elide kangaka ngaye. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba into awayecinga ukuba ibumbekile kuqala yayikukuba nemvakalelo yokuzibamba yakudala?
Amakhwenkwe e-emo adumileyo abandakanya isoka lokwenyani lika-Ms Dunst (ngokwexesha lokushicilela) uJake Gyllenhaal, umphathi weGarden State-inkwenkwezi uZach Braff kunye nendoda yaseColdplay / indoda kaGwyneth Paltrow uChris Martin, obhiyozele ukuzalwa kwentombi yabo u-Apple ngokuthumela Ividiyo yedwala ye-spoof enamazwi abhalelwe usana lwakhe. Ndizakuba lapho ngobunzima nobunzima, uyacula. (Ngaba unokucinga ukuba uMick Jagger wenza into enjalo?) Ndiza kucoca yonke inda nabagulayo.
Yayimhlazisa! Utshilo uSchuyler Brown, umkhangeli we-Euro RSCG kunye negal eyodwa.
Njani, aba bafazi bayabuza, ungaphupha njani ngokubamba uhlobo lwenkwenkwezi ye-rock xa nkqu neenkwenkwezi zerock ziziphatha ngale ndlela?
Ndineminyaka engama-30, kwaye umxholo wencoko phakathi kwabafazi abalingana nam, UNks. Brown uqhubeke, uthi: Amadoda ayifumana nini yonke imithwalo?
'Umncinci, uThenda, ukuBonakala usesichengeni'
Ndicinga ukuba amakhwenkwe e-emo ayinxalenye yemeko yasemva kobufazi, kodwa ayibonwabisi abafazi, utshilo uRachel Elder, umbhali ozimeleyo ofumene udumo ngoFebruwari ngokuthumela i-intanethi e-intanethi ngokuchasene nento awayeyibiza ngokuba zii-whimpsters. Zibuthathaka kakhulu-kodwa zikulungele nokuqhuma! Wongeze watsho.
UConstance Wyndham, umgxeki wezobugcisa oneminyaka engama-24 ubudala ohlala kwilali eseMpuma, naye uyigxekile indima edlalwe ngabasetyhini ekwenzeni uhlobo lwe-emo-boy. Yonke le nto iwela phantsi kwecandelo elibanzi lokonakaliswa kobufazi, utshilo.
Kwinqanaba elithile, nangona kunjalo, aba bafazi bayaqonda ukuba inkwenkwe ye-emo ibanjwe kwimeko enzima. Uyazi ukuba lixesha lokukhula, kodwa uyakhathazeka ukuba ngandlel 'ithile akaxhotyiswanga ukuze abe yindoda endala ngokupheleleyo. Ngaphandle koko, ngaba abafazi abafuni ukuba amadoda abelane ngakumbi? Kukho umgca ococekileyo aba bafana bahambayo, kuba abantu basetyhini bahlala beyithanda indoda ebuthathaka, ngakumbi uhlobo lomculi onobuthathaka, utshilo uNkskz.
Kodwa inkwenkwe ye-emo ayisiyiyo indoda kamama yakho ebuthathaka. Akayena uAlan Alda, onqabileyo kancinci, njengoSharon Graubard, umlawuli woyilo we-ESP Trendlab, inkampani ethengisa umkhwa, wachaza. Ungathetha naye kwaye aveze iimvakalelo, kodwa ndiziva ngathi indoda entsha ye-emo inobugcisa ngakumbi, imbongi ngakumbi, inobomi obungaphakathi kakhulu.
Ah, ubomi bangaphakathi. Oko kuthetha ntoni, ngaphezulu kwayo nayiphi na enye into, kukuba uyaphikisana-kwaye ufuna umfazi onje nge-MJ ukuba amxhase, amncede agcine intloko yakhe ithe tye kwaye, ngaphezulu kwako konke, amphulaphule njengoko eqhubeka njalo njalo njalo. . Ubuncinane ngale ndlela kwi-Spider-Man 2 ebhaliweyo-ebhaliweyo, kufuneka iqatshelwe, liqela elikhokelwa yinkwenkwe ye-emo yoncwadi uMichael Chabon.
Kodwa apha emhlabeni eGotham, ibali elahlukileyo liyavela, kubafazi basaba ii-emos ngemihlambi.
Sinike amadoda iphepha-mvume lokuba babe neemvakalelo ezingafihlisiyo, kwaye bayithatha babaleka nayo, bambamba uNkosazana Brown, owathi waqala ukufumanisa amakhwenkwe e-emo xa wayelandela umkhondo we-metrosexual. Besonwabile sichonga abafana ababedibene ngesondo, utshilo. Ekuqaleni kwakuthandeka: ‘Ndidibana phi nomnye?’ Kwathi ngenye imini umsinga wajika, kwaye yonke into endandiyiva ngabafazi yindlela amadoda abo awayebuthathaka ngayo. Amakhwenkwe e-Emo, wathi, awafani ncam ne-metrosexuals: 'I-Metrosexual' ineempawu ezingamampunge, ngelixa amakhwenkwe e-emo enxibe iintliziyo zawo kwimikhono yawo.
Ayisiyiyo yonke into abayinxibileyo. Amakhwenkwe e-Emo ayaziwa ngokuthanda ii-T-shirts ze-vintage ezithambileyo, i-floppy, ii-flip-flops kunye nee-jean zabafazi ezisezantsi ezibonisa uluvo lwe-fuzz ye-pubic. Kufana neenwele ezinde kwaye ungenise kwaye unovakalelo, utshilo uNks. Graubard. Ukuba lulusu ngaphandle kwezihlunu yinxalenye enkulu yalo.
Ungayixelela inkwenkwe ye-emo, ngokukaNks. Graubard, ngokulunga kwempahla yakhe. Banxiba ibhatyi eshwabeneyo. Inika ithenda encinci, inkwenkwana, ukubonakala ngathi kusesichengeni ngokungathi bazigqithile iimpahla zabo, utshilo.
Yeyona nto intle kakhulu efakwe ngumfoti uRyan McGinley, oneminyaka engama-26 ubudala, owenzeka ukuba abe li-gay ngokwakhe, kodwa owenze umsebenzi omninzi ngokufota imifanekiso yabahlobo bakhe abakhangeleka bebuthathaka, amakhwenkwe kodwa beqinile eMazantsi eMpuma. Umsebenzi wakhe waboniswa eWhitney kunyaka ophelileyo, kwaye incwadi yakhe encinci yemifanekiso iyathengiswa e-agnes b. iivenkile.
Okanye, kunjalo, i-emo-boy aesthetic iyaboniswa kulwandiso olungapheliyo lweebhendi ezibonelela ngokunyanisekileyo, ukukhangela isandi kubomi benkwenkwe ye-emo-uWilco, Amehlo aqaqambileyo, i-Idlewild, i-Death Cab yeCutie ... uluhlu alupheli.
‘Ndinencanca Encinci’
Abasetyhini abaye bathetha ngamakhwenkwe e-emo baxelwa ukuba bacinywe kukungachazwa, ukungonwabi.
Xa umnini-bhanki wabiza uNkosazana Hackemann emva komhla wabo wesithathu wokugula, wathi, Uyazi, ndingumnxibelelanisi, kwaye ndizisa izinto.
Kwakuninzi kakhulu ubudlelwane bokuthetha kwangoko kakhulu malunga nantoni, uxelele uMbonisi. Kwakunemvakalelo yokuba yena elawula kancinci ngendlela: Ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, ukuba ndibambezelekile kancinci, uya kwenzakala ngenene. Ibeka olu xinzelelo olukhulu kuwe. Kwaye ufuna ukuziva ukhululekile xa ukunye nomhla. Leyo yayiyeyona mvakalelo imbi kuyo. Kwamenza wabonakala ebuthathaka kwaye engathandeki emehlweni am, kwaye mhlawumbi wayephazamisekile kancinci.
UVictoria, u-bartender othe tyaba e-Village Idiot, waqhala amehlo xa ekhumbula umhla wakhe wokugqibela nenkwenkwe ye-emo: Ngaphambi kokuba siphume wathi kum, 'ndilungile kubudlelwane, kodwa ndinomncinci Ilungu lobudoda. '
Umfana undixelele ngexesha lethu lokuqala ukuba unepenisi encinci! Kwatsho uLorrie, umhleli oneminyaka engama-35. Kutheni ungayenza loo nto? Kubi ngokwaneleyo ukufumana indlela yendalo, kodwa kukuthanda uThixo! Emveni koko wakhupha incwadi yokubhalela apho wayenemibuzo abecinga ukuyicinga, kwaye wacela ukundifundela imibongo kunye noMarx. Emva koko uye wandityhala nge-imeyile, ndiye ndacaphuka. Kwakucacile ukuba wayehlala ecinga ukuba angakhusela umhla wesibini ngokuchaza indlela endiziphethe ngayo, uqhubeke. Usenokuba wayecinga ukuba kububulumko kwaye kuyathandeka ukucinga ukuba imida yam yeemvakalelo iphambili ekrwada endifuna ukuba ayichithe.
Indoda ye-Emo ayikholelwa ekubambeni. Enye into ewela phantsi 'kolwazi oluninzi,' utshilo uLorrie, kwaye, ngelishwa, kuye kwathiwa kum nangaphezulu komntu omnye emva kwesondo, 'Uxolo ngokuthatha ixesha elide-bendenza i-masturbated kakhulu xa bendinayo mntwana. '
Esinye isilumkiso sokulala ngendoda ye-emo senzeke kwiveki ephelileyo kwisiqendu seenyawo ezintandathu phantsi, xa uClaire Fisher ekugqibeleni waqhekeza iqokobhe lakhe wamema uJimmy oshushu.
Ndinomhla noMateyu Barney we-LAC-Arts [isikolo sakhe sobugcisa], nangona ndingeyiyo iBjörk ye-LAC-Arts, uxelela umntakwabo.
Emuva endlwini kaJimmy, esi sibini siqala ukwenza ibhedi yakhe. Ndixelele into oyithandayo, utshilo, njengoClaire, ngaphezulu, iingono entanyeni yakhe.
Ndiyakuthanda, uyaphendula.
Hayi, ndixelele into othanda ndiyenze, utsho.
Ewe, yenza nje nantoni na oyifunayo kwaye ndiza kukwazisa ukuba isebenza njani kum, uyaxola.
UJimmy uqala ukothuka: Kutheni ungandixeleli?
Jonga, andinalo uluhlu lokutshekisha ekufuneka ndilwenzile, uphendula umva.
Utshintsha kwaye abhabhe phezu kwakhe. Uyathanda ukuba neengono zakho zidlalwe?
Hayi ukuba kuya kufuneka sithethe ngayo, utshilo.
Yeyiphi enye indlela ekufanele ukuba ndiyazi ukuba mandenze ntoni apha, Claire? uyabongoza.
Undixelela ukuba awunayo? uthi.
Ngandlela thile, uClaire usika entliziyweni yomcimbi we-emo-boy: Ngaba amadoda ayakwazi ukuba novakalelo ngaphandle kokuza njengodinisayo, angenzi nto kodwa afune i-wimps?
Ngokufanayo, ngaba uClaire akanakubaxolela ngakumbi? Ngaba wayengenakufunda ukuba sesichengeni ngokunyaniseka kungekuphela kokungabi namava, kodwa ezinye iinzame zokuba ngabafazi abathandayo abafazi abathi banqwenela?
'Abafazi Bakho Kungquzulwano.'
Inyani yile yokuba ababhinqileyo babonakala benemingcele ephantsi kakhulu yokunyamezelana kokungazithembi kwamadoda kunye nokutshintsha kwemood.
UGqr Judy Kuriansky, ugqirha wengqondo waseManhattan kunye nombhali weSikhokelo esigqibeleleyo seDiot sokuDibana, unombono onobubele kwinkwenkwe ye-emo.
Olu luhlobo lwendoda abafazi ababekhala ngayo kwaye becela iminyaka, watsho kancinci ekhuza. Ndenze uphando olungenakubalwa malunga noku: Emva kweminyaka engama-20 yokubuza ukuba zeziphi ezona mpawu zintathu ziphezulu ezifunwa ngabantu basetyhini endodeni, into ephuma kakhulu ebafazini kukuba bafuna umntu onxibelelana ngakumbi, umntu onobuzaza nothando. Iyangcangcazela. Bafuna isihloko seempawu ezihamba kunye nomntu onxibelelana ngakumbi othetha iimvakalelo zakhe ngakumbi, osondele ngakumbi, ovulekileyo ngakumbi.
Kuyavela ukuba iingxaki ziqala phi. Ngenxa yayo yonke loo nto, abafazi bayaphikisana ngandlela ithile, utshilo uGqirha Kuriansky. Kwaye yile nto ibeke amadoda kwi-tailpin. Into endiyiva emadodeni yile: ‘Undicelile ukuba ndibenje, kodwa kusekho iqela labafazi abasaya kwinkwenkwe embi.’ Ndikufumanisa kuphazamisa kakhulu. Ndinovelwano emadodeni afumanisa ukuba ayabhidisa.
Kodwa uGqirha Anna Fels, ugqirha wengqondo wase-Upper East Side kunye nombhali weeNgcingo eziFunekayo: Amabhongo kubuNtombi obuTshintsha ubomi, wehla ngakumbi kwicala lamanenekazi.
Ndingathi ngokwembali, kwaye ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, enye yezinto ezichaze ubufazi-ngakumbi kwinkcubeko emhlophe, ephakathi-ngabafazi bamamela amadoda kwaye babe ngabaphulaphuli, inkqubo yabo yenkxaso, kwaye bacele ngokuthe ngqo incinci ukubuyisa, utshilo. Kubekho isabelo esingafaniyo sokuqwalaselwa kwazo zonke iintlobo zamadoda ezifuna kwaye zithathe njengezifaneleyo.
Ngokubhekisele ekunyukeni kwenkwenkwe ye-emo, Amadoda ahlala ecinga ukuba afumana isabelo sengonyama sexesha lomoya, utshilo uGqirha Fels. Kungenzeka ukuba le yifashoni entsha kwindlela abalawula ngayo ixesha lomoya: Ukuba le yindlela abasetyhini abayifunayo ngayo, ndiza kuthetha ngale migaqo. Kodwa kukucinga okufanayo ukuba baya kuthetha ngakumbi, bamamele ngakumbi, baxhaswe ngakumbi.
Ukuba abasetyhini abayi kwenza ukumamela, kuhlala kukho iinyangi. Mane ubuze ibhendi yentsimbi enzima, iMetallica, okwangoku kwi-multiplex kwi-Metallica ebhaliweyo: Olunye uhlobo lweMonster, oluya kuthi lube yimanifesto ye-emo-boy eyiyo.
Yintoni umntu acinga ngayo, ukubukela i-headbanging vomit-rockers beqokelelene kwitafile yenkomfa, besitya iziqhamo kwaye bethetha izinto ezinje, Ayisiyonto oyithethayo, imalunga nendlela endiziva ngayo? I-dissonance engaqondakaliyo iseti, ukubukela amadoda akhulileyo anxibe ibhulukhwe kunye neetattoo ahlawula i-40,000 yeedola ngenyanga ukuncipha obazisa kwiimvakalelo zabo ezicinezelwe ixesha elide kwaye ubanike i-blanche ye-carte ukucacisa zonke iimvakalelo zabo zokugqibela.
Aba bantu baduma xa babeneminyaka eli-17 ngokuba ziimpawu zobundlongondlongo-bazivale ngokupheleleyo, bengathethi ngeemvakalelo zakho, kuba nje bengamadoda alukhuni. Ke zonke ezi ngqumbo kunye nemiba eyakhiwe ngaphezulu kwesiqhelo kule minyaka ingama-20 idlulileyo, kwathi nje ukuba umntu othile angene ebomini bakhe azame ukubanika izixhobo zokunxibelelana, bahlala beyithambekele, utshilo uJoe Berlinger, umbutho umlawuli wolunye uhlobo lweMonster (inkwenkwe ye-emo-bhanyabhanya ukuze ifune abalawuli ababini!).
Ndicinga ukuba bangowona mzekelo ubalaseleyo wabona bantu banzima abajonge ngaphakathi. Kuyathakazelisa indlela ebachaphazele ngayo emculweni, wongeze watsho uMnu. Aba ngabafana abanzima abacula umculo onzima malunga nokudiliza onke amaziko kunye nokusekwa okukujikelezileyo okukungcungcuthekisayo. Ngokusisiseko, lowo ngumyalezo wabo kulutsha olungachazwanga. Ndandinomdla wokubona, ndihleli apho kunyango naba bafana, ngaba ii-icon zobundlongondlongo be-band eyaziwayo ngokuchasene nolawulo lwasebukhosini, ibhendi ebangelwa kukungasebenzi kakuhle, ukungqubana kwe-egos-ukuba uyasongxolisa ukungoneliseki, ukuba uthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho, ukuba ucima idangatye lomsindo elibaqhubileyo, bendizibuza ukuba yayiza kwenza ntoni emculweni. Kwaye, okubangela umdla kukuba, umculo unomsindo ngakumbi kunangaphambili.
Ewe kunjalo.
Ukongeza kumculo, ukuvula amasango ezikhukhula kunefuthe elithandabuzekayo kumalungu ebhendi: Banokuvuma okuninzi okumehlo abo; isiselo esinxilisayo phakathi kwabo singena kwi-detox; imitshato yabo iyasinda-kakuhle, ubuncinci de kube kwenziwe uxwebhu.
Ukusukela nge-Matshi, njengoko iphepha lesithandathu laxela ngolwe-Lwesibini, umlobi wegubu uLars Ullrich kunye nenkosikazi yakhe, uSkylar, bohlukene.
-ingxelo eyongezelelweyo nguNoelle Hancock noJessica Joffe
