Anthony. Ndathandabuza ukubuza lo mbuzo. Ngaba ukhona umntu onxulumene noCasey Anthony? Ndithe kwiqela lama-20 labasetyhini. Ndiyathetha, nonke? Ukuba wenza iyelenqe lokubulala umntwana wakhe, ngaba ukhona umntu onokuqonda ukuba uvelaphi?
Ndingathanda ukuba ndibuze kwiqela ukuba baziva besondelene kakhulu noJeffrey Dahmer. Hayi, yayisisivumelwano jikelele.
Kodwa ngokuzolileyo, ngokukodwa, umntu ngamnye uchaze ukuba banokuqonda ukuba ukuba ngumama kunokuba nzima, kwaye kufanelekile ukuba uCasey akwazi ukuphuma aye kufumana umvambo kuba wayeziva enje.
Jonga umhlobo wam wasebeza wathi, Jen, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba wayesemncinci kangakanani. Uneminyaka engama-25 kuphela ngoku.
Owu, ngenxa yezulu, ndiphendule, si 25. Wayephume kukhuphiswano 'lomzimba oshushu' kwiiveki ezimbalwa emva kokusweleka kwentombi yakhe. Ngubani owenza lonto?
Kodwa yile nto i-20s yakho ixhaphakileyo, uphendule ngokuzolileyo. Ukhuphiswano kukhuphiswano lomzimba olushushu.
Ndiqale ukucinga ngento endiyenzileyo kusuku olungaphambili kwaye ubuninzi bento endinokuyenza ukuba ndinomntwana. Ndicinga ukuba ndingatshona uninzi lomvuzo wam kwi-nanny yexesha elizeleyo okanye kukhathalelo lwemini, ndingaya eofisini ndiyokutya isidlo sasemini. Kodwa kunzima ukuthethelela usithi ukhetha ukubona X Amadoda: kwiklasi yokuqala kunokuba uchithe ixesha nosana lwakho.
Kodwa ngaba ukuba ngumama akufuneki kukugcwalise ngovuyo olukhulu kangangokuba loo minqweno ingabikho?
Umhlobo wam uKoa, umhleli kwindawo yabazali Umama uyabhala, Ityala lika-Casey Anthony lisikhumbuza ukuba oomama bahamba ngokwenkcubeko yethu benesazisi esisodwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo. Ufanele ukuba uthathe ubungqina obunobungqina bengelosi.
Kodwa mhlawumbi ukuba ngumama ayingomzuzu wobomi bakho. Mhlawumbi usaphupha malunga nokuba kunganjani na ukukhuphisana kukhuphiswano lomzimba olushushu. Ngaba iyakukhathaza?
Xa ndandineminyaka eyi-11, iklasi yam yesiNgesi yanikwa isabelo sokugoduka kunye nodliwanondlebe nabazali bethu malunga nosuku olumnandi ebomini babo. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba utata wathi, Mhla ndatshata nomama wakho, eyayiyimpendulo eyiyo. Inkwenkwezi egolide, Tata.
Emva koko ndabuza kumama.
Ewe, wathi, bendihlala eNew York. Ndandineminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Ndaye ndaphuma ndaya ngaphandle-yayikukuwa-ndathenga i-pretzel kwenye yeenqwelo zabathengisi. Kwaye indoda ye-pretzel indivumele ukuba ndiyifumane ngaphandle kwetyuwa, kuba andiyithandi ityuwa. Kwaye kwakulungile. Kwaye ndiwuthanda nje umsebenzi wam. Kwaye ndandikuthanda ukuba seNew York. Kwaye ndaqonda, nokuba ngelo xesha, ukuba ngalo mzuzu, ndandonwabile ngokupheleleyo.
Ndacacisa ngoncedo, Ufanele ukuba uthi, 'Mhla wazalwa, ntombi yam entle.'
Owu, watsho umama, emva koko wayeka ukuphonononga umsebenzi wam wasekhaya wezibalo umzuzwana kwaye wajonga.
Hayi, waphendula ngokuchwayita, hayi, yayingenguye. Ngokuqinisekileyo into ye-pretzel. Yiya naleyo.
Ngelo xesha, ndamxelela ukuba ngumama ombi kwaye ndahamba ndaya kukroba isincoko esinomsindo ngendlela ayithanda ngayo i-pretzel ngaphezu kokuba endithanda. Ewe, ukuba bendilifundile inqaku ku Imeyile yemihla ngemihla kwiveki ephelileyo enesihloko esithi Ngaba Ndisisilo Sokunqwenela Ukuba Andizange Ndibe Nabantwana? Ngendiyazi ukuba wayengenguye umama ombi ngokucinga ngobuqili ngobomi obukhululekileyo nobunomoya opholileyo. Ngendiyazi ukuba wayeyingcwangu.
Inqaku lalithetha ngomfazi onento engama-50 owakhulisa amakhwenkwe amabini kodwa akazange abenalo ixesha lokwenza ikhondo lomsebenzi okanye lokuya eyunivesithi. Ngoku wayezibuza ukuba ubomi buza kuba njani ukuba ebesenza izinto ngokwahlukileyo. Oku kubonakala ngathi zizinto uRobert Frost azigubungele kakhulu ngo-1920, kodwa ndazijonga izimvo.
Iyandonyanyisa lento yalomfazi. Ukuba ubomi bakho 'bebungeyiyo le nto ubuyifuna,' bekufanele ukuba unayo a) zange waba nabantwana okanye b) ukhaliphe ukuze ubanike iintsapho ezithanda abantwana ngaphandle kwemiqathango. — URachel, eNgilane 7/2
Ukuba umama ubuninzi besiphakamiso esimnyama-okanye-mhlophe-ukuba awuvumelekanga ukuba uve nantoni na ngaphandle kokubulela kakhulu ukuze usikelelwe ngononophelo lwabantu abancinci abathi, masinyaniseke, abakwazi ukwenza incoko yobukrelekrele kwaye rhoqo bazithethelele ngokwabo-ke mhlawumbi iyaqondakala into yokuba ufuna ukusaba.
Nditsalele umama umnxeba. Ngaba wayekhe wafuna ukuphuma?
Uye wathula umama. Kwakukho ixesha elinye endandifuna ukukushiya. Ubuneminyaka emi-3. Sibe kwindawo yokutyela yamaTshayina. Wonke umntu wayediniwe. Kwakunzima. Utata wayengakuthandi ukutya. Kwaye sagqiba ndaza ndathi, 'Siya emotweni, ngoku,' kwaye wahamba waya kwelinye icala. Ndaze ndathi, ‘Hayi, hayi, hayi, kunje,’ kwaye walala phantsi waqalisa nje ukukhwaza. Kwaye ndacinga nzulu, ‘Ndiza kuhamba ndimke ndingabuyi umva.’ Kwaye ngalo mzuzu ndandifuna. Kodwa andizange.
Ndixelele umama ukuba njengomvuzo ogqityiweyo wokungandishiyi kwiminyaka engama-22 eyadlulayo, ngexesha elizayo xa eza eNew York ndiza kumthengela onke ama-pretzels.
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