3ebusuku.(Umzekeliso: Irene Rinaldi) Tyonke into engamashumi amathathu yaqala xa mna neqabane lam sasinomdla wokuphonononga ezesondo zethu kunye, UDimo Trifonov , Ingcali kwezobugcisa kunye nomsunguli 3ebusuku , uxelele uMqwalaseli. Wayeneemvakalelo ngentombazana, kwaye wayengazi ukuba andixelele njani. Uye wandibhalela ke ileta, ndaphendula nge 3nder. Ndiqale njengendawo yokudlala yabantu abafuna ukuzihlola.
I-3nder, eyaziwa ngokuba yiTinder for threesomes, idibanisa i-kinky, ii-singles ezinomdla kwaye ezivulekileyo kunye nezibini ezikungqongileyo, ezinokuthi emva koko zijoyine incoko yeqela. Ngelixa eyona njongo iphambili kukucwangcisa i-threesomes, uMnu Trifonov ukholelwa ukuba i-3nder ayikhawulelwanga kubantu abafuna i-threesomes, okanye izibini ezinesiporiyamu zikhangela isithathu kubudlelwane bazo. Ukuthandana kwePoly okanye amava nje, akunamsebenzi ukuba ingqondo yakho ivulekile kwizinto ezintsha, utshilo uMnu Trifonov. Abasebenzisi abaninzi abatshatanga, amadoda athe tye afuna nje ukutsiba izinto ezimnandi ezilindelweyo kwii -apps zakudala zokuthandana. 
Iifowuni ezintathu ze-3nder.(Ifoto: 3nder)
Ukuvulelwa kwezinto ezintsha sisaci esidibene ne-3nder bios kunye nemiyalezo ethe ngqo yabantu. Xa bebuzwa ukuba abantu bafuna ntoni kwi-3nder, eyona mpendulo ithandwayo yayingabahlobo abaneengqondo ezivulekileyo, okanye abantu abavulekileyo kumava amatsha. I-Tinder kunye ne-OkCupid inokuba ziindawo ezikhuselekileyo zokukhangela abanye ngeencasa zinye, la Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyi , Kodwa nabani na okhe watshintshela ekunene uyazi ukuba kulula kakhulu ukubaleka abe ngumlingane osebenza naye okanye umhlobo wobuntwana. Kwi-3nder, wonke umntu uyazi ukuba babhalisela ntoni-akukho thuba lokwenza ngathi wenze impazamo.
Ndilapha kwabathathu okanye mhlawumbi nokuba ndidibane nentombazana enye engaphambani ngokupheleleyo, eneminyaka eyi-22, umsebenzisi we-heteroflexible usixelele ngomyalezo kwi-3nder. Zonke eziapps zibonakala zinempazamo kuba wonke umntu kuzo unemicimbi yokungazithembi, ubuncinci kumava am. Ewe, amashumi amathathu angamangalisa, kodwa kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka ukusebenza, ngakumbi kwi-app.
Ngokuka Mnu Trifonov, malunga neepesenti ezingama-35 zamalungu e-3nder zizibini ezitshatileyo, ngaphezulu kweepesenti ezingama-40 zeeakhawunti zezibini ezenziwe liqabane labasetyhini. Kuphela ziipesenti ezisi-8 zezibini ezingabantu abangamadoda nabasetyhini, kwaye iipesenti ezingama-34 zamalungu azichongi njengezithe tye. Oko kushiya i-app igcwele amaqabane angamadoda / amabhinqa, kunye nabantu abaninzi abathandana besini esahlukileyo… kukho ii-unicorn ezimbalwa, igama elidumileyo lokuba ngumfazi oqinisekileyo ukuba mhle, u-heteroflexible okanye ulala nomntu ongatshatanga naye onethemba lokujoyina isibini. 
Xa ezintathu isihlwele.(Ifoto: Erika Stone / Getty Izithombe)
U-Alexandra *, oyinzalelwane yaseLos Angeles kwi-3nder, wayezinikezele, ubudlelwane bobufanasini awabubiza ngokuba ngumqobo, de wafudukela eNew York ekuqaleni kwalo nyaka. Kwakungekokude ndiyokuthenga iiringi yokuzibandakanya apho ndaye ndaqonda ukuba andikakulungeli ukuncama yonke into ngomtshato. Ndiqale ukusebenzisa iTinder kwi2015 emva koqhawulo-mtshato wam kwaye ndikuthanda ukonyusa ukuzithemba kunye nenkululeko yokuthandana ngokungakhathali, utshilo. Ndicinga ukuba kukho imfuno enkulu 'yee-unicorn' phaya kunye nonikezelo oluncinci olukhethekileyo, oluziindaba ezimnandi zomntu onjengam, ongathanda ukujoyina esinye isibini.
Mna Schippers , unjingalwazi onxulumene nezentlalontle kunye nezifundo zesini kunye nokuziphatha ngokwesini kwiYunivesithi yaseTulane, wabhala okulandelayo Ngaphandle komtshato womntu omnye: I-Polyamory kunye neKamva lesini sePolqueer . Kwinqaku lakhe lezemfundo le-NYU Press, I-3nder kunye neeNdlela eziThathu zokuCinga Ugqirha Schippers ubhale wathi, Ngokokumelwa kwe-3nder threesomes, esi sibini sitshatile kwaye umntu omenyelwe ebhedini yakhe ngumfazi… Ziphi ezi threesomes zibandakanya amadoda amabini kunye nomfazi omnye? 
Intombazana engathandekiyo ehleba intombazana emashumi mathathu, eneenkwenkwezi ukumkanikazi okwishumi elivisayo uHilary Duff.(Ifoto: Intombazana ehleba)
Ugqirha Schippers ukholelwa ukuba i-3nder yenza okuncinci ukususa intsomi ye-F / F / M threesome yodumo kwinkcubeko edumileyo, nokuba ikhona Intombi ehlebayo okanye kwi Izinto zasendle. Akukho meko kwimeko yesiqhelo yesithathu apho umfazi kwisibini esitshatileyo aqala ukubukela isenzo senkwenkwe-phakathi-kwendoda phakathi kwendoda yakhe okanye isoka lakhe kunye nomnye umntu… 3nder ikhona ukuzalisekisa iphupha lomntu wonke othe tye-threesome with two abafazi.
NGAPHAKATHIhile 3nder izisa ngaphezulu ulwazi malunga ne-polyamorous relaubudlelwane kunye nokunikezela ngesihloko kwingxoxo mpikiswano, kwabanye abasebenzisi kumnandi nje kwaye bafumana amava angaqhelekanga ngokuhlwa.
Indoda eneminyaka engama-26 isayine emva kokuyibona kwiVidiyo ebhaliweyo malunga nokuthandana okwangoku. Akanomdla kubudlelwane be-polyamorous kodwa uyayixabisa inkululeko yenkululeko ye-3nder. Ndisayine ngesizathu esinye esenzileyo: ukutsiba zonke izinto ezintle eziza nezinye iinkqubo zokuthandana, ucacisile. Udiniwe ukuthetha ngezinto ezingenamsebenzi-Ngubani okhathalayo ukuba ndivile Ilemonade kwaye Iimbono ? Ngaphandle kokuba lawo ngamazwi akho akhuselekileyo, gcina ushukuma-kwaye uziva amabhinqa kwi-vanilla ukuthandana apps swayipha ilungelo lokuqinisekisa inkangeleko kunye neprofayili kunokuba unxibelelane ngokwenyani.
Bendihlala ndibona amakhwenkwe am athandana nam eGrindr kwaye ndacinga, 'Dang, bekuya kulayita ukuba besinayo loo nto kwilizwe elithe tye.' Kwaye voila, nantsi ke sikwi-2016. Kwaye elona candelo lililo kukuba, amantombazana nawo anengcwangu. njengabafana. Shoot, ndiza kususa i-heteronormativity kunye ne-binarism yesini kuloo nto: Wonke umntu ngokulinganayo, utshilo, echaza ngokweenkcukacha isihlanu sakutsha nje awasisebenzisa usebenzisa iapp. I-3nder inokuthi ichazwe njengeTinder for threesomes, kodwa kubasebenzisi abathile, yiTinder nje ngaphandle kwesiqhelo sentlalontle. * Amanye amagama atshintshiwe.
