Amagama amane alula aya kuwuqhuba umyalezo.Unsplash / Soren Astrup uJorgensen Ukuphelisa izinto nomntu osandula ukuqala ukumbona kunzima. Akungomtshato, ngoko awukwazi ukuwaqhawula. Awungowesibini, ngoko awukwazi ukwahlukana nabo. Kwaye, ngokobuchwephesha, anibonani ngokusesikweni nokuba, ngoko ke isihogo uyirhoxisa njani le nto?
Ndifumene ibinzana elifanelekileyo.
Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ezidlulileyo, bendisenza i-GBF yam endiyithandayo (umhlobo osenyongweni): ndincedisa umhlobo wam ukubhala iitekisi. Njengengcali yoqhakamshelwano emini kunye nothotho lwasebusuku ebusuku, ndihlala ndisisibonelelo sabahlobo bam kweli sebe.
Umhlobo wam waya kwimihla emibini nomfana awadibana naye kwiTinder okanye kuBumble okanye nantoni na. Umhla wokuqala wawulungile; wayemhle kwaye wayonwabela incoko, wavuma ke ukumbona kwakhona. Emva komhla wesibini, wathi wayengaziva kakuhle, kodwa wahlala enomdla kwaye wamthumelela umsonto weetekisi ezibonisa umnqweno wokuphinda ndimbone-kwaye kungekudala.
Ewe, oh. Unzima.
Akuzange kube lula ukuxelela umntu ukuba awunamdla. Yiyo loo nto abantu abaninzi benesiporho. Kudliwanondlebe kunye Inkqubo ye- IWashington Post Isazi ngemvelaphi yomntu, uHelen Fisher uthe, Uninzi lwabantu olunoloyiko lwengxoxo… idrama… nezityholo.
Ukoyika ukonzakalisa iimvakalelo zomntu ikwasisizathu sokuba abantu bazame ukubathobela lula kwaye bathethe izinto ezinje, masibe ngabahlobo kwaye masihlale sinxibelelana xa bengaqondanga.
Le yindlela umhlobo wam awayefuna ukuphendula ngayo, kodwa wayefuna ngokwenene ukuphelisa izinto ngokupheleleyo.
Ulunge kakhulu.
Andingo.
Ndamnika umgca owamisa le nqwelo moya yobudlelwane ngaphambi kokuba igwetywe kufuneka ichithwe kwi-Hudson River.
Umhla : Molo apho! Ndibe nexesha elimnandi kunye nawe ngokuhlwanje. Kukho igalari yobugcisa evula lo Lwesihlanu kufutshane neofisi yakho. Ufuna ukuya emva komsebenzi?
Impendulo : Hayi, enkosi ngesimemo nangokuhlangana nam phezolo nangoMvulo, kodwa khange ndizive ndidibene kwaye ndingathanda yiyeke apha . Ziphathe kakuhle.
Viola! Amagama amane alula. Yishiye apha.
Ngoku, uphumile. Khange wenze izicwangciso zokuxhoma kwakhona ngelixa ngokufihlakeleyo unethemba lokuba akukho namnye oya kulandela. Kwaye anivumelanga ukuba ngabahlobo. Cinga ngazo zonke izicwangciso obekufanele ukuba uzenqabile ngazo zonke izizathu oya kuzenza.
Hayi ngeli xesha.
Kodwa uza kuthini ukuba uyatyhala? Ewe uya kuthi; uyabamba. Akayi kukuvumela ukuba ubaleke ngokulula.
Izinto ezimbini ezikhawulezayo. Okokuqala, awusoze unike isizathu sokuphelisa izinto ukuba le yimeko yokungahlali kunye nezibonelelo okanye umntu ophume naye kunye namaxesha ambalwa. Ayifuneki. Ukuba unika isizathu, uya kuzama ukuyilungisa kwaye enze izithembiso angazigciniyo.
Ndiza kunxiba ikhologne encinci.
Ndizolungisa izinyo lam eligoso.
Ndiza kumshiya umfazi wam.
Yhe Kulungile. Yivile konke ngaphambili.
Okwesibini, nantsi indlela yokusebenzisa eli binzana kwakhona ukuqhuba umyalezo ekhaya.
Ndonwabile kakhulu. Enkosi, kodwa ndingathanda Ndithanda ukuyishiya apha .
Okokugqibela, ndicebisa ukuba uvimbe kwaye ucime inani labo ukuze ungaze uphinde uve kubo.
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