IRebecca Land Soodak (Ifoto nguLaura Mozes) URebecca Land Soodak kufuneka athathe amanyathelo athile okhuseleko xa efuna umongikazi wokugcina abantwana bakhe abane. Kwenye, kufuneka alumke angafaki igama lakhe okanye i-imeyile kwidilesi yakhe ye-Craigslist.
Andifuni ukuba bandifikele kuGoogle de sithethe emnxebeni, utshilo uNksk. Land Soodak Umjongi kusasa nje ngolwe-Lwesithathu ekhayeni lakhe elikwi-East 87th Street. Abantwana babesesikolweni, kwaye indlu enophahla yesibini yokuhlala, iindonga zayo zinemizobo yakhe-enemibala, imifanekiso e-Elizabeth Peyton yabantwana abanemibono ephuphayo-yayithe cwaka.
Kwaye bahlala be-Google, watsho.
Inoveli yokuqala kaNks. Land Soodak, UHenny esofeni , ipapashwe yiGrand Central kule veki, kodwa abafaki-zicelo abakhutheleyo nabo kusenokwenzeka ukuba bahlangane ne-Upper East Side yomama ibrashi emfutshane engaziwayo. Ngo-2008, ubomi bakhe basekhaya baba yiforamu yeforam yobuzali yokugweba-abahlali kunye ne-snarky edolophini kwiibhlogi zeendaba, xa u-Craigslist wakhe onobukrwada efuna intengiso yenanny yaya kwintsholongwane.
Ndisebenza ekhaya, ke ufumana uvuyo lokuzingelwa ndim imini yonke, iposi iyalumkisa, Kwaye uzenza ngathi uyandithanda, kuba ndinobuzaza kakhulu. (Kodwa unxibe kakuhle kwaye wazi konke, indibaniselwano ephumeleleyo ndiyakuqinisekisa.)
INew York Times wabhala malunga nesibhengezo, ebonakalisa umdla kwezentlalo kuNkosk. Land Soodak's uhlalutyo lweseti yomzali ogqibeleleyo. (Ayisiyiyo ngqo indlela aphume ngayo kwisiqwenga sabo.) Ekuseni uJoe kwaye UGqr. Phil wammema ukuba aqhubeke. Yonke imihla i-Intel, uIzebhele, iYeBeMom kunye nabaphawuli bayikrazula. U-CNN wabiza umyeni wakhe wambuza ukuba ngumntu onothando na.
Sisaqhubeka nokwenza imiboniso yeTV yokwenyani, utshilo uNksk. Land Soodak. Ngesakhelo sakhe sobisi kunye neenwele ezinqunqileyo zepunky, wajonga ngakumbi iBravo kuneTLC kuthi.
Bendihlala ndicinga ukuba xa abantu beva imbono yam baya kuvuma nam, UNks Land Soodak uthe ngexesha lakhe kwiziko losasazo lweendaba. Yimpambano leyo, ngoku. Asinguye wonke umntu ocinga ukuba kulungile. ukuthi 'Abantwana bam yintlungu esile.'
Yeyiphi kanye indlela intengiso yakhe ayifunayo, eyakhupha usuku olunye olunomsindo ngo-Agasti, yaqala. Njengoko wayechwetheza, unyana wakhe oneminyaka eli-9 ubudala wayejikeleza intombi yakhe eneminyaka emi-6 ubudala ngengalo. Wayeyonwabele inkampani yeengelosi ezixabisekileyo ezingaphazanyiswanga ihlobo lonke kwaye wayengenakukhathazwa kukujonga ukupela. Wayediniwe kwaye enomsindo.
Uluhlu luchukumise inqwaba yemithambo-luvo. Kwakungenakuphikisa malunga nobutyebi (andifuni ukufihla ibhegi yam yokuthenga eBergdorf), inkolo malunga ne-methylphenidate (ukuba ugweba malunga neRitalin ye-ADHD, okanye ucinga ukuba izinto ezinjalo zibangelwa siswekile eninzi, kwakhona, yenza isivumelwano sedolophu), kwaye yaphela kwinqaku lokuhamba.
Kulungile, ukuba usafunda le ntengiso, wabhala, oko kuthetha ukuba ndingumbhali onesidima kwaye mhlawumbi ndingasifumana esi sivumelwano sencwadi ndisilangazelelayo.
Kodwa uNksk Land Soodak wayesele enethamsanqa njengombhali. Wathengisa izincoko ezimbalwa kwiSalon ngabahleli ababandayo. Ufumene iiarhente zoncwadi ngokundwendwela iwebhusayithi yababhali ebathandayo kunye nokudubula ii-imeyile kwiiarhente zabo. Akukho mntu wathenga lo mbhalo-ngqangi, kodwa umntu owayeqeqeshwe wayeloba isampulu yakhe-izincoko kunye nebali elifutshane- ngaphandle kwenqwaba yamatye kwaye wacela ukubona ezinye.
Emva kokuba iposti yeCraigslist iye yangena kwintsholongwane, iiarhente zazikhwaza ukuba zithathe umama Iidayari zeNanny . Ngo-Septemba ka-2008, UNks Land Soodak waya eBorder wathenga iincwadi ezimbalwa malunga nokubhalwa kweentsomi. Ubhale inoveli kwigumbi lokungenela lendawo yokuzivocavoca, kwigumbi lokulinda ngaphandle kwezifundo zevayolin zabantwana, nakwigumbi lokuhlambela eline-4 eBloomingdale, apho kukho iisofa kunye nendawo yokuphuma kwaye bekungafuneki athenge nto.
Kuyabiza ukuba nekhofi ngalo lonke ixesha, utshilo.
Xa egqibezela umbhalo obhaliweyo owawuza kuba UHenny esofeni Ngo-2009, wayinika uElizabeth Kaplan, iarhente eyathi yabonisa umdla kuye ngaphambi kokuba ibe yinto ye-Intanethi. Kwakungekho iidayari zomama, kodwa intengiso yeCraigslist yayigqityiwe. Kwinoveli, uKara, okwangumama wase-Upper East Side, ujongisa ukukhubazeka kokufunda kwentombi yakhe, ukuzithoba komongikazi kunye nomnqweno wendoda yakhe, lonke eli xesha bezama ukuzigcinela ngokwabo ukuze bafumane ubuchwephesha obucinezelweyo obude.
Kuyamkeleka eluntwini ukuhlekisa ngabafazi abamhlophe abazizityebi, ngakumbi oomama abazizityebi abamhlophe, ucacisile. Ndicinga ukuba ayilunganga.
Ibali likaKara lifumana i-ballast yeemvakalelo kwizahluko ezibekiweyo ngexesha lobuntwana kunye neentsuku zekholeji eColumbia, xa ewela kunye neqela lama-acolyte aseBasquiat kodwa azifumana esoyikiswa ngobugcisa ngumfana athandana naye, u-Oliver, oqhubeka nokuba ngumzobi odumileyo.
Ndandinomdla wokwenene kwimbono yokuba kuthatha ntoni ukuzichaza njengegcisa, utshilo.
KuKara, kwathatha ukuqinisekiswa ngabahlobo bakhe ukuba mdala ukoyisa ukungazithembi okwatyalwa ebuntwaneni bakhe. NgeNkosazana Land Soodak, kwathatha isifo.
Ugqirha weengqondo oqeqeshiwe, wafudukela kwisixeko saseNew York esuka eAlbany ukuze afumane inkosi yakhe e-NYU. Emva kokwenza umsebenzi wokuthweswa isidanga kwiZiko i-Ackerman, wabek 'esweni abahlali beZiko loFundo lwaBantwana le-NYU kunyango losapho ngasemva kweglasi ezimbini.
Xa yena nomyeni wakhe, uMitchell Soodak (ongumnini we-Union Square Wines), baphuma kumzi wabo we-East Village baya kwidolophu ene-duplex, wavula indawo yabucala ezantsi.
Xa i-ADHD yafunyaniswa kunyana wayo eneminyaka eyi-5, wafunda malunga nokuphazamiseka okunxulumene noko kwaye wafunda ukuba imiba yokunqongophala kwengqwalaselo kunzima ukuyichonga kumantombazana. Ukuba banobuqili kwaye bayathobela, banokufumana ixesha elide. I-ADD yafunyaniswa kuNks. Land Soodak kungekudala emva koko.
Waqala ukuthatha amayeza nge-22 kaDisemba, kwaye ngomhla weKrisimesi, wathatha ibrashi yepeyinti. Wayengenalo uqeqesho olusemthethweni, kodwa wayekhumbula ukukhathazeka kwakhe kwiklasi yobugcisa besikolo esiphakamileyo. NgoRitalin, kwahlukile, utshilo. Bendisenza izigqibo endaweni yokwenza nje into ebiziva ilungile. Elo yayilixesha elimangalisayo kum.
Nangona wayebakhathalele abaguli bakhe, waqala ukucinga ukuba unyango lwengqondo lwalungekho apho amandla akhe kufuneka abe khona.
Kukwakhona neeyure ezininzi kangaka ngosuku. Ndiza kulalisa amantombazana am kwaye ndihambe ndize kubona izigulane, kwaye kwakusanomvuzo kodwa into endifuna ukuyenza yayiyipende.
Wayeka unyango, kamva waguqula ithala elingaphantsi wasenza studio sakhe.
Ndikwindawo elungileyo xa ndinokuba nenyani, ndingafezekanga kwaye ndingumntu, utshilo.
UNks Land Soodak umelwe yiGalari 71, kodwa akapeyinti kakhulu ukusukela oko abaphawuli be-Intanethi bafumba kwimizobo yakhe yokupapashwa kwintengiso yeC-Craigslist. Uye wazinikela ekubhaleni ngokusisigxina.
Udumo kwi-Intanethi aluzange lwenze kube nzima kuNks. Land Soodak ukufumana umntwana. Emva kwengxoxo yokuqala, uqinisekisa ukumnika igama elipheleleyo, emema abantu abanokuqeshwa ukuba bamkhangele. Emva koko, iposti isebenza njengendawo yokuthetha kunye novavanyo lwe-litmus.
Ngokwesiqhelo abantu bathi bacinga ukuba kuyahlekisa.
Indlu yasimahla yesitudiyo kwisakhiwo saseSoodak ayenzakalisi nayo.
UNksk. Land Soodak, ukukhuphela i-minutiae ekukhuliseni abantwana okwangoku lilungelo kunye nefuthe lobufazi, indlela yokugxotha kungekuphela nje igumbi lomntu (njengesincoko saseVirginia Woolf esencinci uKara kwinoveli), kodwa nakwindawo yengqondo ukwenza ubugcisa kwaye, ngamaxesha okuwa, fumana ukukhuthazwa kwimiboniso yegalari, okanye uhambo olude, olude.
Ubamba ipaneli ngobuchule kunye nokuba ngumama eStrand ngoMeyi I-Orenji nguMnyama oMnyama umbhali uPiper Kerman noJillian Lauren, umbhali, monologist kunye nomfazi we-Weezer bassist uScott Shriner.
Ukuze ube ngumzobi, kuya kufuneka uthi hayi, watsho. Kuyo yonke into. Ukuya kwi-PTA, ukuya kwimibhiyozo yemihla yokuzalwa, ukwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni.
Akazinikeli kwizikolo zabantwana bakhe, nangona ebulela abazali abenza ukwamkelwa kwenoveli. Abanye abazali bayazi xa abantwana babo baneemvavanyo okanye ixesha elimiselweyo- hayi uNksk. Land Soodak.
Yho, shit, watsho, egigitheka, njengoko ekhumbula isiqendu samva nje. Unyana wakhe wamxelela ukuba ufuna itsheki yomnyhadala weqela lokuqubha angazi nto ngalo. Wakhangela i-imeyile yakhe, wabhukuda, wakhangela, wakhupha i-imeyile ethi intlawulo yeedola ezingama-30 ibifanele ukufunyanwa ngoLwesithathu. Unyana wakhe wanyanzelisa ukuba ibe ngaphezulu koko, nangomvulo.
Ndifana, 'Ithi apha, $ 30, ngoLwesithathu ebusuku,' utshilo. Ndiza ekhaya kwaye ufana 'Mama, uyibhalile itsheki kumntu wonyaka ophelileyo.'
Olo shiti lwenzeka ngalo lonke ixesha apha.
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