Isipho somtshato: Yintoni ekufuneka uyithengile, malini ukuchitha kwaye ungayihoya iRegistry?

Ayisiyiyo kuphela ixesha lomtshato ngokusesikweni kuthi, kodwa kunjalo nangowona mtshato mkhulu wonyaka. Kwaye nangona ungakhange umenywe kumtshato kaHarry noMeghan, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uneminyhadala yomtshato oza kuya kuyo kungekudala. Umndilili waseMelika uya ubuncinci imitshato emibini ngonyaka , kwaye uchitha ngaphezulu kwe- $ 1,000 ngomnyhadala kwisipho, isinxibo, uhambo kunye nendawo yokuhlala.

Ke ubuninzi bohlahlo-lwabiwo mali ekufuneka ulunikele kwisipho somtshato kwaye yintoni efanelekileyo efanelekileyo yokuyinika? Ngaba kufuneka unamathele kwirejista yomtshato okanye unokunika nje ikheshi? Ukuba uziva uxinezelekile ngokucinga ngako, awuwedwa. Uphando lwakutsha nje lubonakalisile Iipesenti ezingama-47 zabantu baseMelika uxele ukuba ufuna uncedo kwimilinganiselo yesipho somtshato. Ukukunceda ekukhokeleni kule micimbi, nantsi eminye imibuzo exhaphakileyo yesipho somtshato kunye nendlela yokuhamba ngazo.

Ufanele uchithe malini kwisipho somtshato?

Iindwendwe ezininzi zicinga ukuba imali yesipho kufuneka isekwe kwiindleko zomntu ngamnye, ngeplate nganye, nangona kunjalo amarhe ayinyani. Kuya kuba yinto engenakwenzeka ukulinganisa zonke iindleko isibini esizihlawulayo emtshatweni. Undwendwe kufuneka endaweni yoko lukhethe isipho abanokufikelela kuso. Ngelixa uninzi lweendwendwe zaseMelika zichitha phakathi kwe- $ 100 kunye ne- $ 300 kwisipho somtshato, isipho sakho akufuneki sibe nexabiso elikhulu lemali, kwaye kunokuba yinto ecingayo kunye nothando endaweni yoko. Akuqhelekanga ukuba ilungu lentsapho okanye umhlobo osondeleyo ahlawule ngaphezulu isipho kwisibini, ukuba uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali luyavuma, kunokuba umntu ongekho esondelene naye angayisebenzisa.

Ngaba ukuba ne-Plus enye kuthetha ukuba kufuneka uchithe okungakumbi kwisipho somtshato?

Ukuba uzisa enye kunye, akukho xinzelelo lokuphinda kabini isipho sakho sosuku lomtshato. Endaweni yoko, nikezela ngesipho esabela isixa esifanelekileyo ngokusekwe kubudlelwane onabo nesi sibini. Oko kuthethiweyo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuchitha ngaphezulu kwisipho ukuba uzisa umntu kunye (iqabane, umhla, abantwana). Ukuba uzisa umntu, soloko uqinisekisa ukuba isimemo sakho sikumema ngokucacileyo ngokudibanisa kunye. Ukucela ukuzisa undwendwe lomtshato olongezelelekileyo akukaze kucetyiswe, njengoko isibini sinokuthi sisekele uluhlu lwabo lwesimemo kwizinto ezinje ngendawo yendawo okanye uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali, kwaye ukucela ukudityaniswa kungababeka kwindawo enzima.

Ngaba ihlala ilungile? Ungamniki umntu isipho somtshato?

Ukuba uhamba ngomtshato oya kuyo kwaye uchitha imali ukuya emtshatweni, kusafanelekile ukuthenga isipho. Nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokutsiba umtshato ngokupheleleyo, i-etiquette ihlala ifana—IIsesesimilo esihle ukunika umntu isipho ukubonisa umbulelo ngokumenywa kusuku lwabo olukhulu.

Ngaba uhlala ufuna ukuthenga isipho kwiRegistry yoMtshato?

Kuyacetyiswa ukuba iindwendwe ziyeke ukubhalisa, njengoko zenziwe sisibini ngokukodwa ukuze iindwendwe zibe nesikhokelo malunga nokuzithenga. Ukuba akukho nto kwirejista ofuna ukuyinika, wamkelekile ukuba unike isipho esicatshangelwe endaweni yokuba uyazi ukuba esi sibini siya kusithanda kwaye sonwabe.

Ukuba unqwenela ukwenza isipho semali kuba uyazi ukuba esi sibini siyakuxabisa kakhulu, kulungile ukunika imali ngeemvulophu, ngetsheki, okanye nangokubhalisa. Imali yobusi, ezithi ziwebhusayithi ezivumela iindwendwe ukuba zingene kwiholide yabatshatileyo, yenye yeendlela ezithandwayo. Ngokwesiko, umbono emva kwerejista yomtshato yayikukuthenga izinto isibini esifunekayo ukugcwalisa ikhaya labo lokuqala lomtshato, njengoko izizukulwana ezidlulileyo kwakuthathwa njengokungafanelekanga ukuhlala kunye ngaphambi kokuba batshate. Kumaxesha anamhlanje nangona kunjalo, izibini ezininzi zihlala kunye kumakhaya angaphambi komtshato, kwaye ke sele zinayo yonke into eziyifunayo. Kule mihla kufanelekile ukuba iindwendwe zithathe inxaxheba ekupheni ngale ndlela.

Kwababini abanesisa abanayo yonke into, usenokubabona babuza, endaweni yezipho, ukuba banikele ngegama labo kwisisa esikhethiweyo. Yile nto iNkosana uHarry kunye noMeghan Markle abagqibe kuyo. Ngokwesiqhelo uya kunikwa ikhonkco okanye igama lesiseko ukunika imali ukubhiyozela usuku lwabo olukhulu.

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