Ukuba ufuna ixesha leveki okanye lemihla ngemihla kunye neqabane lakho, qiniseka ukuba uyabaxelela.I-Pixabay Usebenza ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye ngempelaveki ukwikhompyuter okanye udiniwe kakhulu ukuba angenza nantoni na. Ndivakalelwa ngathi sisiporho. Kunqabile ukuba sinxibelelane, akaze abuze ukuba ndinjani, kwaye akaphenduli kwizicatshulwa zam. Xa ehamba nabahlobo, andizange ndimenywe. Andiqondi. Ndenza yonke into kwaye andifumani nto. Yintoni endiyenzayo engalunganga? umthengi wam uyabuza.
Yiyo kanye le uyenzayo ngokungalunganga, ndiyaphendula.
Awusoze ufumane into oyifunayo ngokwamkela into ongayifuniyo.
Ulonwabo alusebenzi ngaloo ndlela, kwaye emva koko, nobomi abwenzi. Ukuba ufuna enye into kodwa wamkele enye, uthumela imiqondiso exubeneyo. Ngokwamkela isimilo esingamkelekanga, uxelela iphela-kunye neqabane lakho-ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha iyakusebenzela kwaye awudingi tshintsho. Ke, ewe, akukho nto itshintshayo.
Umxhasi wam uyanyanzelisa, ndifuna ukuba nobulungisa kuye. Unendawo enexinzelelo kakhulu ekuqaleni. Ufuna inkxaso. Akayifuni imbandezelo yam.
Kwaye kuthini ngawe? Ingaba udinga ntoni? Ndithi.
Ndidinga iqabane lokwenyani- umntu owabelana nobomi kunye nam, ulingana nam kwaye unika kangangoko ndinako.
Awufumani uthando olufunayo ngokunika omnye umntu; uyifumana ngokuzinika.
Le nyani ibhombu yangcwaba kwiminyaka eyadlulayo ukuqala kwam ukuyibona. Ndibuze kumthengi wam, Uyazithanda? Kuba ukuba ubuzithanda ngokwenyani, ngekhe uvume ukuphathwa ngolu hlobo. Ukuba ufuna umntu akuhloniphe, kufuneka umbonise ukuba uyakufanelekela ukuhlonitshwa.
Ukuba awufuni kunyathelwa, susa i-doormat kwinyathelo elingaphambili.
Ngamaxesha amaninzi, asiqondi ukuba sine-doormat yethu ngaphandle kwinyathelo lethu elingaphambili. Sonke sifuna ukuba ngabantu abalungileyo kwaye senze into elungileyo ngabanye, kodwa cinga ngako: ukuba ubeka i-doormat ngaphandle ngaphambili, abantu baya kuyinyathela, hayi ngenxa yokuba bakhohlakele okanye bakhohlakele, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uyibeke apho. Ayinamsebenzi into yokuba uyibeka apho ukuze yamkelwe. Kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba awunakugxeka abanye ngokuhamba ngapha nangapha komnyango wakho ngenxa yokuba uwunikile. Kwaye ukuba iyanikezelwa, abantu baya kuyisebenzisa. Ke, ukuba awufuni ukuba ngumnyango wenyawo, thatha i-doormat kwinyathelo langaphambili.
Abantu abalungileyo abafuna uthando olulungileyo bayazi ukuba iza ngokuseta imida enzima.
Njengoko besesitshilo, awufumani uthando ngokunika uthando kwabanye. Uyifumana ngokuzithanda ngokwaneleyo ukuba uchaze imida malunga nento oza kuyamkela kwaye awuyi kuyamkela. Nje ukuba usete loo mida, imigaqo yomdlalo icwangcisiwe.
Ndidibane naye emgceni okanye awukwazi ukudanisa nam.
Nantsi imantra: Nanku umgca, le yimida yam. Yile nto ifuna ukuba ndibenobudlelwane nawe. Ukuba ufuna ukudanisa nam, kuya kufuneka udibane nam emgceni. Andizukufikelela ngaphezulu komgca ukukutsala, kwaye andizukubuya umva emgceni. Le yimida yam. Ngaba ukulungele ukudanisa?
Nje ukuba loo mida isekwe, imigaqo yomdlalo icace gca.
Ngoku ekubeni omabini amaqabane eyazi imida, baya kuyazi xa beza kuwela enye. Imida yenza umdlalo unyanzelise kwaye unomdla. Benza iqabane ngalinye ukuba lixabise ngakumbi kwaye lihloniphe ubudlelwane kuba kufuneka basebenze nzima ukufikelela kulungelelwaniso.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukuphumelela umdlalo ebephulukene nawo; wonke umntu ufuna ukusebenzela ukuphumelela kwakhe.
Yindalo yomntu. Ukuba wenza umdlalo ube lula kakhulu, akukho mntu ufuna indebe. Ukuba ufuna umntu akuthande, zithande kuqala kwaye ubeke imida. Ukuba awuyibhengezi imida, uyenza lula iqabane lakho kuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba asebenzele ukufumana uthando lwakho. Uzibekela ukulahleka ngenxa yokuba uqinisekisa ukuba awuyi kufumana iimfuno zakho, kuba awuzange uziveze.
Ukuba wenza wonke umsebenzi kubudlelwane, akukho nto iseleyo ukuba bayenze.
Xa usenza umdlalo ube lula, ubonelela iimfuno zeqabane lakho kwaye uzikrwelele ecaleni. Ke, ayisiyi kuphela ukuphumelela umdlalo ekungafunekanga ukuba basebenze kuwo, kodwa ngoku udiniwe, uphelile kwaye unomsindo. Ukuba wenza wonke umsebenzi, akukho nto ishiyekileyo ukuba iqabane lakho liyenze, kwaye ngekhe ubabeke ityala ngaloo nto.
Awuyifumani into ongayicelanga.
Akukho mntu unoxanduva lokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho ukuba awuzichazanga ngokwaneleyo ukubaluleka kwazo. Ngokuchaza imida yakho, ucela ukuba iimfuno zakho zifezekiswe. Musa ukulindela ukuba iqabane lakho liyazazi iimfuno zakho-ungathethi nto kwaye awuyi kufumana nto.
Nazi iingcebiso ezintathu zokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho kubudlelwane:
- Yazi ukuba awusoze uyifumane into oyifunayo ngokwamkela into engamkelekanga. Cacisa gca malunga nento oya kuyamkela kwaye yintoni ongayi kuyamkela. Yazi ukuba ayikwenzi umntu ombi ukuba uzimele kwaye uchaze imida yakho. Kuthetha ukuba uyazithanda ngokwaneleyo ukuba ubeke unyawo lwakho phantsi kwaye ucele imeko ebhetele, enothando ngakumbi.
- Veza iimfuno zakho ngendlela yokuba omnye umntu akuve . Musa ukubeka imida ngomsindo, ngqwabalala. Thetha into oyifunayo ngobubele, ngokwakha nangemfesane. Akukho mntu unokukugxeka ngokuba uneemfuno, kodwa banokukugxeka ngendlela othetha ngayo nabo.
- Kulungele ukuhamba ukuba awukwazi ukufumana iimfuno zakho. Ayisivelisi ukutyhala umntu ongayi kukwazi okanye ongenakukunika into oyifunayo. Kuya kufuneka ubuye umva kwimeko kwaye uyinike indawo. Ngokuzithanda kwaye uphume ngaphandle kwe-equation okwethutyana, uya kuthi ekugqibeleni ufezekise iimfuno zakho-nokuba kungoyena mntu okanye omnye umntu. Isithuba nexesha liyaphilisa.
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