Konke malunga nezenzo ozithathayo okanye ungazithathiyo xa kuvela isiphelo.Unsplash / Iiseshini zikaMorgan Ndiwuthiyile umsebenzi wam. Iyamunca umphefumlo wam, utsho umthengi wam osebenza njengomgcini zincwadi.
Wenza ntoni ngayo? Ndiyabuza. Kudala ungonwabanga kulomsebenzi okomzuzwana, kodwa andikubonanga utshintsha nto.
Andenzanga manyathelo aphambili. Ndiyayicaphukela le nto ndiyenzayo, kodwa ndiyayithanda intlawulo, utsho. Ndiyakholelwa kwilishwa. Kudala ndilinde indalo iphela ukuba indizise kwinyathelo elilandelayo. Ndiyazi ukuba kuyakwenzeka, ngoko ke kufuneka ndinyamezele.
Ukuba ulindele indalo iphela ukuba ikuzise kwindawo engcono, uya kuba ulinde unaphakade.
Indalo iphela ayizukuphila ubomi bakho; kuxhomekeke kuwe ukulawula ubomi bakho. Ikamva aliyi kukusindisa. Ukwenza izigqibo ezilungileyo, kufuneka uqonde umohluko phakathi kwekamva kunye nenkululeko yokuzikhethela. Ubomi ngumlinganiso obuthathaka phakathi kwezi zimbini.
Ikamva likulethela amathuba, kwaye inkululeko yokuzikhethela yiyo egqiba ukuba uyawathatha na okanye hayi.
Ikamva ikamva elicwangciselwe wena, kodwa kukuwe ukuba wenze into ngayo. Beka enye indlela, ikamva linokubakho ebomini bakho. La mathuba enziwe ngocoselelo, kwaye uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngawaphi amathuba oza kuwaxhakamfula.
Ikamva lihlala likunika ukhetho olungaphezulu kwesinye, kodwa ukhetho olukhoyo aluqinisekiswanga.
Amanqanaba okhetho phambi kwakho, kodwa kuya kufuneka usebenzise inkululeko yakho yasimahla ukufikelela phezulu kwaye ubambe enye.
Konke malunga nezenzo ozithathayo okanye ungazithathiyo xa kuvela isiphelo. Ikamva lizibonakalisa ngeendlela ezininzi. Mhlawumbi intshayelelo engacwangciswanga emntwini okanye i-imeyile engahleliwe evela kulwazi oluqhelekileyo. Inokuba yintlantsi yempembelelo oyifumanayo ngokuva incoko okanye umbono ongena kuwo kumdlalo bhanyabhanya owubukeleyo. Ikamva lihlala likubonisa ngamathuba amaninzi-lilinde nje ukuba ukhethe olifunayo.
Ukuba uku-autopilot, uyakuphosa umnxeba.
Uninzi lwethu aluyazi intlebendwane efihlakeleyo yekamva kuba silele ebomini bethu. Sikwi-autopilot-sivuka kusasa, siye emsebenzini, siye ejimini, sigoduke, siye kulala, emva koko sivuke sikwenze kwakhona. Sibuhlungu kakhulu kwinyani yethu kangangokuba kunqabile ukuba sive ikamva linkqonkqoza. Siphosa amathuba kuba silele.
Xa usengxakini, wena unakho vimba umnxeba wekamva.
Xa uziva ubambekile kwaye umile, ubeke intloko phantsi kwaye uzivalele ngaphandle kukhetho olutsha. Ngentloko yakho phantsi, awukwazi ukubona ukuba izama njani ukufikelela kuwe. Intlungu yakho ithintela ukukwazi kwakho ukuyifumana.
Awonwabanga mva nje. Awuphumi, awuhlali, awusapheki, kwaye awude uthandane. Uzandisa njani? Ulimema njani ikamva? Ndibuza kumthengi wam.
Andingo. Ndijongana noxinzelelo ngokulala kakhulu, utsho.
Ukuba uqhubeka nokuziphatha, akukho nto iya kutshintsha. Ikamva aliyi kuba nakho ukufikelela kuwe ngamathuba amatsha. Kuya kufuneka uvuleleke ekwenzeni utshintsho okanye awusoze uve ukunkqonkqoza okumiselweyo, ndiyamxelela.
Ukuba uphinda iipateni ezizenzekelayo, unokulibazisa umnxeba wekamva.
Awunakulibona ikamva ukuba uhlala usebenzisa inkululeko yakho yokuzikhethela ukuphinda iipateni ezonakalisayo. Ukuba ufuna into yokutshintsha, kuya kufuneka wenze into eyahlukileyo.
Uyakhumbula ukugqibela kwakho ukudandatheka? Ndiyabuza.
Ewe, yayiyiminyaka emibini edlulileyo xa ndandithandana ne-ex yam, uyaphendula.
Ngokuchanekileyo. Le yipateni yakho: Usebenzisa inkululeko yakho yokuhlala ixesha elide kwiindawo ezingalunganga. Uzama ukubanyanzela ukuba basebenze. Esi sicwangciso senza ukuba uxinezeleke. Nangona imeko nge-ex yakho yayikophula intliziyo, awuyi kuvuma. Usebenzise inkululeko yakho yokuzikhethela ukuzigcina kwindawo ebuhlungu kakhulu. Ngokwenza njalo, uye wanciphisa ikamva kuba ubungakulungelanga into entsha.
Awunakho ukutshintsha ikamva lakho, kodwa inkululeko yakho yokuzikhethela inokuyihlehlisa.
Nangona ubunokuthi ube nentloko phantsi iminyaka, ikamva liya kuhlala lizibonakalisa de ube ukulungele ukufikelela phezulu kwaye wamkele. Ikamva alikuncami. Awunakuze uphulukane noko kwenzelwe wena, kodwa unokukubambezela. Umzekelo, ukuba uphose umntu oza kuba kunye naye, uya kubuyela kumava akho kamva. Yindlela elisebenza ngayo ikamva.
Nguwe olawula ubomi bakho; ayilawulwa nguwe. Ikamva yinto eza kuza kuwe ebomini, kwaye inkululeko yokuzikhethela yile nto ukhetha ukuyenza ngayo. Awunakufumana into oyifunayo ebomini, kodwa uya kuhlala ufumana oko ukhetha. Uza kukhetha ukwenza ntoni ngekamva lakho xa kusiza unkqonkqoza?
Nazi iingcebiso ezintathu zokugoba ikamva endaweni yakho:
- Nika ingqalelo ebomini bakho-uzama ukukuxelela into. Ikamva lisoloko likuzisela amathuba; Kuya kufuneka ubenolwazi ngokwaneleyo ukuze uzibone. Yehlisa isantya kwaye unike ingqalelo ukuze ungaphoswa ziimvuselelo ezibalulekileyo zekamva.
- Kufuneka wenze okanye akukho nto iya kutshintsha. Ikamva likulethela izinto ezinokwenzeka, kodwa alinakukwenza uzithathe. Sukuhlala ebhentshini kwaye ujonge amathuba ahambayo. Ukuba awenzi, awufumani.
- Ukuba uziva ngathi ubetha intloko edongeni, yeka. Usenokuba usebenzisa inkululeko yakho yokuzikhethela ukunyanzela umphumo ongakulungelanga. Ukuba uzama ukunyanzela utshintsho kodwa akwenzeki, akuthethi ukuba kwenzeke. Hamb 'umshiye.
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