Amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe yingqiqo ethethelela okanye ayithathe lula into yokuziphatha kwamadoda kuwo onke amabakala ophuhlisoUCarolina Sanchez B / Unsplash Kukho ibinzana eliye landikhathaza ubomi bam bonke. Undilandele ukusuka kwi-5 yamthiklasi yokuzivocavoca kwinqanaba lokufumana umsebenzi wam wokuqala njengomcebisi kubomi bam bangoku eSan Francisco-isixeko saseMelika esinenkululeko: Amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe.
Kukuthetha okujolise ekuphenduleni ukuba kutheni inkwenkwe ithethe okanye yenza into engekakhuli, yobuntwana, okanye echasene nokulindelweyo ngumntu omkhulu. Nangona kunjalo ngokungakhathali sinokulisebenzisa eli binzana, lithwala ubunzima, obungaziwayo.
Amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe yingqiqo ethethelela okanye ayithathe lula into yokuziphatha kwamadoda kuwo onke amabakala ophuhliso. Isebenza njengophawu oluqinileyo eluntwini-ukwahlula izinto esizilindeleyo kubafazi kulindelo lwethu lwamadoda. Libinzana elithi, ngeendlela ezininzi, lithathe ingcambu yokungalingani ngokwesini.
Nantsi indlela esebenza ngayo:
Njengabantwana, siya kwimisitho yosapho yokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa. Bonke abantwana bayacelwa ukuba bancedise ekuhlambeni izitya. Amantombazana ayafola ekhitshini ngelixa amakhwenkwe egxadazela ngaphandle ukuya kudlala imidlalo, ngaphandle kwesicelo soncedo. Emva koko bonke abantu bayancwina, Ah, singenza ntoni? Amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe!
Njengokuba sikhula, iziphumo zezenzo esizithethelelayo zibaluleke kakhulu kwaye zihlala zibi ngakumbi. Njengamashumi amabini anethoba, abafazi bakuva eli binzana ngokuvakalayo kwinkcubeko yokuhlangana: Bekufanele ukuba uyazi ukuba ufuna ukulala nawe - ungumfana. Amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe!
Yeyona ingqiqo efumana eyona mbonakalo yayo kule ntwasahlobo Ukulawula ngokuchasene noBrock Turner, indoda eneminyaka eli-18 ubudala eyadlwengula umfazi emva kwepati. Ityala lafumana ingqalelo ebanzi emva kokuba u-Turner efumene iinyanga ezintandathu entolongweni njengesohlwayo sokonakalisa ubomi. Ijaji yaziva ukuba nantoni na enzima kakhulu yayingqwabalala kuba u-Brock wayeyimbaleki ehonjisiweyo eStanford owayezama nje ukonwaba kancinci kwaye ethatha izinto zide kakhulu ngenxa yakhe ukunxila . Ijaji ayitshongo, kodwa usenokuba nayo: Amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe. Akukho mfuneko yokuba sibaphendule ngezenzo zabo - ngamakhwenkwe nje.
Le ayisiyiyo ingxoxo yokuqala yodlwengulo ekhampasini ukuba ithathelwe ingqalelo ngamakhwenkwe iya kuba yingqondo yamakhwenkwe. Kwiminyaka emibini kuphela eyadlulayo, owayesakuba ngumongameli we-alma mater yam wacebisa ukuba ayeke udlwengulo, Abasetyhini kufuneka basele nje kancinci ukuze bakwazi ukulwa namadoda angaziphathi kakuhle. Abazalwana bobuzalwana ziinkokheli kwikhampasi! Ngamanye amaxesha basela kakhulu kwaye baziphathe kakubi, kodwa ke, amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe!
Njengobuchwephesha obutsha, ndihlala ndihlangana nesimo sengqondo esifanayo kwindawo yokusebenzela. Amava am omsebenzi ngoku athatha amashishini ambalwa-ukubonisana nolawulo, ukugaya kunye netekhnoloji- kwaye zonke zinokuhluka kwayo. Xa uDonald Trump waphinda wothusa umhlaba kule veki iphelileyo nge Ukuhlomla okungakumbi , Andikwazi ukunceda kodwa ndive i-echoes yeencoko zangaphambili kunye nabesilisa abasebenza kunye nabathengi kule minyaka kwizimvo zikaTrump. Inkcazo kaTrump iyaphazamisa, kodwa ayiqhelekanga. Kuthiwa kwiintlanganiso; kuthethwa ngakumbi nangakumbi ngeeyure zokonwaba. Ihlala ixolelwe, ihlala ihoywa. Yikhontrakthi yokuthengisa endilahlekileyo emva kokungahoyi ithemba lam lasebusuku ngoLwesihlanu iitekisi ezinxilileyo zindicela ukuba ndidibane. NguMninimzi woQinisekiso lwaBasetyhini owayeka ukundicebisa emva kokuba ndalile isimemo sakhe sokuchitha ubusuku kwigumbi lakhe. Ewe bebengafuni ukwenza ishishini nawe, bafuna ukulala nawe. Kodwa bekufanele ukuba uyazi ngcono - amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe!
Eli xesha lonyulo, asinakuyiphepha le ngqondo. Amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe inokuba sisilogeni esingekho semthethweni sephulo likaTrump. Amagqabantshintshi kaDonald Trump asandula ukubhencwa, amanyala ayenyanyeka, ayacaphukisa, kwaye akanakuzithethelela. Ayilolwimi nje- lolwakheimbono. Kukuqonda kwakhe okusisiseko, kunye (nokusilela) kwentlonipho, kwabasetyhini.
Ngabaphi abafazi? Bonke abafazi. Umama wakho. Umtshana wakho. Usisi wakho. Intombi yakho. Wena.
Olu ayilulo ulwimi okanye imeko yezentlalo ekufuneka siyinyamezele kumgqatswa wobongameli-intloko yelizwe enokubakho. Ukanti siyabona kwaye siva abaxhasi bakaTrump ngokukhawuleza babalekela ukuzikhusela ngokumemeza, uBill Clinton wathetha kakubi!
Andithandabuzi ukuba uBill Clinton uthethe kakubi. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ajoyine umgca omde weenkokheli zopolitiko nezamashishini abathe bathetha okanye benza kakubi. Kwaye amazwi akhe mhlawumbi axolelwa ngokupheleleyo. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba asibabeki tyala abantu ngolwimi lwabo okanye ngezenzo zabo.
Ngenxa yokuba yinkcazo nje. Kukuchukumisa okunobuhlobo nje. Yintlekisa nje. Ngenxa yokuba amakhwenkwe aya kuba ngamakhwenkwe.
Le ngqondo ayamkelekanga. Njengenkcubeko, kufuneka siyeke ukucinga oku, ukuthetha oku, nokwenza ngoku.
Awuzudlala phandle ukuba awukagqibi ukuvasa izitya nosisi wakho.
Awuyi kuqhuba iyunivesithi ukuba uqhuba inkcubeko yokudlwengulwa.
Awuyi kukhokela kwihlabathi lasimahla ukuba uziqhelanisa nokuziphatha gwenxa .
Amakhwenkwe awayi kuba ngamakhwenkwe nje ukuba siwaphendulile ngento abanoxanduva lwayo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngalo lonke ixesha. Amakhwenkwe awayi kuba ngamakhwenkwe ukuba sifuna ukuba bakhule babe ngamadoda.
Njengoluntu, siyaqala ukuyamkela ixabiso labasetyhini . Siyazi ukuba banako ubunkokeli obungaqhelekanga . Siyazi ukuba zi nyanzela ukuphindaphinda kuqoqosho . Kodwa siya kuqhubeka ukuqhubela phambili kuphela xa sifuna ukuba amadoda abe ngamadoda, hayi amakhwenkwe.
Ukuphumeza ukulingana kufuna ukuba sithathe amanyathelo. Sinokwenza inkqubela phambili ukuba:
Siyeka ukuvumela intetho enenzondo. Siyayeka ukuthethelela indlela eliziphethe kakubi ngayo. Kwaye, ukuba siyayeka ukunciphisa iziphoso kumakhwenkwe iya kuba ngamakhwenkwe.
U-Selena Strandberg wayengumcebisi wangaphambili owafika kwihlabathi lokuqalisa eSilicon Valley. Ukholelwa ngamandla ekusebenziseni ishishini njengesixhobo sokukhawulezisa inkqubela phambili yelizwe.
