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Ukuba kukho enye into ekufuneka siyeke ukuyenza njengabemi beendaba zosasazo, iphakamisa ulwazi. Sinolwazi oluthe kratya malunga nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kwihlabathi ngoku kunakuyo nayiphi na indawo kwimbali yoluntu enkosi hayi kwi-Intanethi kuphela, kodwa kunxibelelwano olukhawulezileyo olunikezelwa yimidiya yoluntu. Ngelishwa ukwazisa nje kwawo nawuphi na umbandela awenzi nto, kuba wonke umntu uneengxaki zakhe ebomini kwaye ngaphandle kokuba kukho into ebachaphazelayo, iya kuyishiya ngokukhawuleza i-radar yabo. Oko akuphelisi ezi ntshukumo zivela kwimithombo yethu yeendaba zosasazo ngenjongo yokuthimba ingqalelo yethu nangona. UKony, umceli mngeni webhakethi ye-ALS, kwaye ngoku zi-22 pushups zeentsuku ezingama-22 zokwazisa nge-PTSD kumagqala emfazwe.

Nokuba abantu banenxaxheba kangakanani ekuthatheni inxaxheba, konke kukuyekelela (okanye ukucofa ukuba ukhetha elo xesha). Into malunga nokunyuka kwama-22 kwimiceli mngeni yeentsuku ezingama-22 kukuba inyusa ulwazi oluncinci kakhulu ngengxaki. Inika abantu ubalo olubonakala luphezulu kakhulu, njengesiqhelo aluchanekanga kwaphela. Ke ngoku? Ayixeleli abantu ukuba banganceda njani, apho banokunikela khona, okanye banokwenza nantoni na ngaphandle kokubeka umntu kwividiyo kuyo yonke imithombo yeendaba yokuncokola esenza ama-22. Isihogo, ukuqala isikhalazo kunye nokufumana iisiginitsha ezizigidi kunokuba luncedo ngakumbi, kuba ubuncinci bezopolitiko bayaziqaphela izinto ezinjalo.

I-White House kufuneka ijonge nasiphi na isikhalazo esiphakamisa ikhulu lamawaka asayinwe ngeentsuku ezingama-30-yinto ethi ukuba ifezekisiwe, iyakuthathwa lilo lonke usasazo lweendaba. Ngelishwa eli phulo likwimo yalo yangoku ngokusisiseko ngumceli mngeni webhakethi ye-ALS 2.0, apho wonke umntu eya konwaba kwaye atyumbe abanye ukuba baqhubeke nekhonkco, ngaphandle kokuchaphazela nantoni na. Okubi nangakumbi, umyalezo sele udidekile. Okokuqala yayiyi-22 yokunyusa ukwamkela ukuzibulala kwamagqala angama-22 ngosuku ukusuka kwi-PTSD. Ke yayi malunga nokwazisa nge-PTSD. Ngoku abantu bayakwandisa ukuzibulala kunye nempilo yengqondo ngokubanzi.

Yintoni abahlali abangayiqondiyo kukuba ayisiyiyo nje malunga ne-PTSD ekubeni ungquzulwano. Amagqala amaninzi ahamba nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo xa beshiya inkonzo nabo. Ndalwa needemon zam xa ndayeka emkhosini, kwaye ndicinga ngento yokuba ndijoyine i-26, xa ndandinamava kwilizwe eliqhelekileyo. Kwakungafani nokuba ndingumntwana ohluphekileyo ojoyine ngokuthe ngqo ukuphuma kwesikolo kwaye ndingenalo nofifi lokuba ndisebenza kanjani ngaphandle komkhosi xa ndihamba.

Nditsho nokucinga ngale nzuzo, kwakunzima ukuba ndibhekisele kuninzi lwabo babephethe ukuqesha xa ndisiya kudliwanondlebe lomsebenzi. Babedla ngokundibuza imibuzo engenantsingiselo, engenangqondo kum eyayingadibani nento endinokuyenza kwisikhundla okanye amava endinawo. Ndaziva ngathi ndihlala kwihlabathi apho wonke umntu wayethetha olunye ulwimi, ndinokucinga nje ukuba kunokuba kunjani kulomfo owaziyo kuphela ngobomi basemkhosini. Ndiyabona abafana nangoku ukuba ndandisemkhosini kunye nabo, ndibuza kumajelo asekuhlaleni ukuba bafanele benze ntoni na ukufumana lo msebenzi okanye loo msebenzi. Abakwazi ukwenza intsingiselo yokuhlekisa kwintengiso yemisebenzi yoluntu ngenxa yokuba beqhele intetho kwaye benze izinto zengqondo yobomi emkhosini.

Makhe ndikuxelele, loo ndawo ekugqibeleni Igazi lokuqala , apho uRambo aqhekeza khona kwaye ekhalaza ukuba ebephethe izixhobo zezigidi zeedola, kwaye xa ephumayo akakwazanga ukufumana umsebenzi wokupaka iimoto, akukho kude kakhulu. Ngenye imini ndandingumqeqeshi weempawu zobukrelekrele, ngokulandelayo ndandisebenza umsebenzi wokuthengisa kwivenkile yeenkampu kunye nabaneminyaka eli-16 ubudala abasesesikolweni. Ndinamava eminyaka emi-6 kwicandelo lezobuntlola kwezomkhosi ngesidanga sokuqala kunye nesidanga senkosi. Ndiyabazi abantu abakwizikhundla ezifanayo ebekufuneka bathathe imisebenzi kwiivenkile ezinkulu, njengezandla zasekhitshini, zonke ezantsi zezikhundla ezenziwa lulutsha.

Uya kuba semsebenzini apho uluntu lukuhloniphayo kwaye lujonge kuwe, kwaye apho uyazi ukuba wenza umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu, obalulekileyo, ukuba ungabi mntu uhleli kwi-cubicle, ugcina ishelufu okanye uhlambe izitya. Konakalisa kakhulu, kuba akukho mntu uyiqondayo into ohamba kuyo. Awunakho ukuthembela kwiqela lakho, kuba awuyonxalenye yeqela kwakhona. Uzahlulwe wedwa ehlabathini, kwaye ukudakumba kungabeka ngokukhawuleza okukhulu. Ukuba awunabo abantu abakungqongileyo ukuba bangenelele kwaye bancede, konke kungaphela kakubi kakhulu.

Hlala ukhumbula ukuba ngamava am, kwaye andikhange ndibenakho ukuthatha inxaxheba kungquzulwano phesheya kwezilwandle. Wonke umsebenzi wam wenziwe kwilizwe lam lasekhaya kwaye bendinokuhamba ngokulula. Kubafana ababuyayo kungquzulwano-ngakumbi abo benzakeleyo kwaye baphume baphume kwindawo yemidlalo yeqonga ngelixa iqela labo lisekhona, imiba yezengqondo ekufuneka kujongwene nayo yimiyalelo yobukhulu obukhulu.

Khawufane ucinge ukonzakala kakhulu, ukubuyela kwilizwe lakho emva koko ube wedwa esibhedlele kangangeeveki. Abahlobo bakho abazokuza kukubona, bonke bahlala ngapha besilwa. Abantu abaza kundwendwela mhlawumbi abayenzi rhoqo, kwaye ngekhe uvule kubo kuba abayiyo emkhosini kwaye abayiqondi. Kwaye kwabo bafana, kuyadideka ngakumbi xa begqiba ekubeni bathathe inxaxheba ekubeni babe ngabemi, kwaye bafumanisa ukuba akukho nto ngaphandle kwabo ngaphandle kwemisebenzi yenqanaba lokungena elinokwenziwa ngumlisela. Kuya kufuneka bajongane nokudideka kokuqesha abaphathi abangabonakali ngathi bayayiqonda indlela ekuchukumisayo ngayo ukuba umntu angenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo kwaye abe yimpumelelo ephezulu embindini wendawo yemfazwe .

Unganxibelelana njani nomntu olona suku lunzima lwalo nyaka uphelileyo walichitha kwilizwe elinoxolo, eliphucukileyo kwiofisi enemoya, xa eyakho yayiziikhilomitha ezingama-20 000 kude nelizwe lakho kubushushu be50 degree, phantsi komlilo omkhulu kunye nokugcinwa kwemali kusekho iindlela off, umhlobo wakho otshaywayo ziimitha ezi-5 kude nawe mhlawumbi ukulala iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye akukho ndawo yokufihla intloko?

Kodwa eyona ngxaki inkulu endinayo ngama-22 okunyusa umceli mngeni weentsuku ezingama-22 kwimidiya yoluntu kukuba ayenzi nto ukunceda ukusombulula ingxaki xa kulula kakhulu ukuba umntu enze into ethi eneneni kuya . Ndingumntu wokugqibela ukuluma kunye nokuncwina malunga nengxaki ngaphandle kokubonelela ngesisombululo kuyo, nazi ezinye izinto onokuzenza ukunceda amagqala onokuthi wazi ukuba ajongene ne-PTSD okanye uxinzelelo:

1. Nikela nantoni na onokuyenza kwizibonelelo ezinceda amagqala.
2. Thetha kumagqala emini ngoSuku loMagqala okanye nge nayiphi na imini, kwaye umamele into abaya kuyithetha. Ukuba bafuna ukuthetha malunga nokuba lalilikhulu kangakanani ixesha labo enkonzweni, kulungile. Ukuba bafuna ukuthetha ngendlela abamthiye ngayo urhulumente, kulungile. Ukuba bafuna ukuthetha ngendlela imfazwe eliqela ngayo kwaye bazitshisile zonke iimbasa zabo, kulungile. Bazuze ilungelo lokuthetha ngalo ngaphandle kwesigwebo kwaphela. Bafanelwe i-catharsis eza nokuthetha ngamava abo nokuba wena okanye omnye umntu uyavumelana noluvo lwabo. Ukuba awuvumelani nabo, luma ulwimi lwakho. Khumbula - bahlala amava, awuzange.
3. Yiba khona kumagqala owaziyo, kwaye ubandakanyeke ebomini. Lungiselela abanye abakwisangqa sakho ukuba benze okufanayo. Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu amagqala ajongana nazo xa ebuyela ekhaya evela kungquzulwano yinto yokuba bemkile ekubeni neqela labantu abachitha lonke ixesha labo bekunye kwaye benomqolo wokuba bodwa kwigumbi, kwilizwe apho elowo ngokwakhe. Leyo yindlela yokupheka yentlekele.
4. Yeka ukubenza bazive ngathi bangamaxhoba. Susa igama kwisigama sakho. Yintoni amagqala afuna ngaphezulu kwayo nantoni na ukuze azive eluncedo kwaye efuneka. Ukubaphatha njengamaxhoba kukhuthaza isimo sengqondo sokuqhubeka nokuhlaselwa kunye nokwahlukana nomntu ababefudula benguye. Kwi-WWI & II, amadoda abuyela ekhaya ayedingeka kwiindawo abahlala kuzo ukuze babuyele emsebenzini baphinde bakhe. Kule mihla amagqala alahlekile, kuba asisenabahlali kwakhona, kwaye abasaziva besiyafuneka. Uninzi lwabo baya emfazweni ngenkulungwane ye-20 ngootishala, abatywini, abagcini zincwadi. Abantu ababehlala eluntwini kwaye banokubuyela kulo kwaye benze umsebenzi wabo emva kokuphela kwemfazwe. Ijoni elinobuchule alinakukwenza oko - akukho nto bayenzayo ekhaya kwaye akukho luntu kubo lokuba yinxalenye yalo.
5. Funda incwadi kaSebastian Junger Uhlanga , esiya kwizizathu ezininzi zokuba kutheni sibona amazinga aphezulu kwi-PTSD kumagqala, xa amaxhoba emfazwe engaphantsi kakhulu xa kuthelekiswa neemfazwe zenkulungwane yama-20. Ngamaphepha angama-136 kuphela kwaye uya kuyidla kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, ke akukho sizathu. Ukufunda le ncwadi kuya kukunika ulwazi ngakumbi ngemicimbi yamagqala kunokuba ubukele okanye uthathe inxaxheba kwimiceli mngeni engama-22.

Kwii-vets zam endikunye nazo ezikhoyo ukwenza i-22 push up challenge, ukuba yile nto ufuna ukuyenza, yiya ngamandongomane. Ufumene ilungelo lokwenza ilizwi lakho livakale ngaloo ndlela ukuba ubona kufanelekile kwaye ndiyasihlonipha isigqibo sakho. Ndingacebisa ukuba kunokubakho iindlela ezingcono zokwenza nangona kunjalo- kukho ividiyo entle eyenza ujikelezo losasazo lwe-vet eyondliwe ngumceli mngeni wama-22, kwaye elinye lamagqabantshintshi licebise ukuba into ebhetele be vets ukuba bangene kwividiyo kwaye bathethe ukoyisa imizabalazo yabo.

Ndingayixhasa ngokupheleleyo loo nto, kuba iyaxhobisa kwaye ijolise kwimpumelelo kunye nokugqwesa kwabantu basemkhosini, endaweni yokukhuthaza ukuba lixhoba. Nokuba ufuna ukungena kwividiyo kwaye uthethe ngamava akho kumzamo wokufundisa uluntu ngokubanzi ngumbono omkhulu, kuba okwangoku, ukondla wonke umntu kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo kugcwele ngabantu abenza i-push ups, ke umyalezo ulahlekile ngokupheleleyo . Ukuqwalaselwa kwabantu kukufutshane kwimbali ngoku, ke xa bebona umntu esenza i-22 yokunyusa, bayaqhubeka nokuskrola ngaphandle kokumamela nokufunda.

Ividiyo emfutshane xa uthetha ngamava akho nangona? Oko kunamandla, kwaye oko kuphakamisa ulwazi, kuba yonke i-vet inebali elahlukileyo, kwaye amabali abamba umdla wabantu.

UPeter Ross uyayila kwakhona i-psychology kunye nefilosofi yelizwe leshishini, imisebenzi kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla. Ungamlandela kwi-Twitter @ yeyoku .