Nantsi iNyaniso enzima: Ukuba kuya kufuneka uzibuze, azikho kuwe

Soloko kufuneka asebenze, ke ndiza kumbona kube kanye ngeveki. Ngokuqhelekileyo emva komsebenzi wokutya ngokukhawuleza kwaye emva koko ubuyele kwindawo yakhe yesondo. Akukho buhlobo-yinto engathandekiyo kwaye engenalo uthando. Akanxibelelani nam kwaphela. Ngempelaveki, uchitha lonke ixesha lakhe nabahlobo bakhe, kodwa andikhe ndimenywe. Kwiinyanga ezine, andikaze ndidibane nabahlobo bakhe, abantu endisebenza nabo okanye amalungu osapho. Andiqondi kuba undixelela ukuba uyandithanda kodwa olu ayilo thando, utsho umthengi wam omhle ongama-30 oyintombazana.

Ulungile. Olu ayilo thando, nditsho kuye. Uzamile ukuthetha naye?

Uyaphendula, ndizamile, kodwa uyacaphuka. Uthi, 'Kutheni sisoloko sithetha ngobudlelwane? Kutheni le nto kufuneka ibenzima kangaka? ’Emva koko utyhila ngokupheleleyo kwaye uthi akaqinisekanga ngam. Uthi angandithanda kodwa angathandani nam. Undixelela ukuba undifuna ebomini bakhe ngonaphakade kodwa ukuba akaqinisekanga ukuba kujongeka kanjani. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Akandiniki nto njengembuyekezo yalo lonke uthando lwam olungenamiqathango, inkxaso kunye nentsebenziswano. Ndiziva ndidiniwe ngokwasemoyeni.

Lixesha lokuba uhambe.

Ukuziva ungqubana yindlela emnandi yokuthi ‘Ndizama ukukufunela indawo ebomini bam kuba awungoyena uphambili.’ Inguqulelo: Abekho kuwe. Nawuphi na umntu ozihloniphayo akufuneki abeke phambili umntu ongaqinisekanga ngazo. Abantu abazihloniphayo bazithanda ngokwaneleyo ukuba bazi ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba bahlale kwindawo yesibini. Bayazi ukuba ibhaso lokuqala lilinde kwikona.

Kungcono ukuhlala wedwa kwaye uzive ukhululekile kunokuba kubudlelwane kwaye uzive ulilolo.

Abantu abazithandayo abazibandakanyi nabantu ababenza bazive kakubi. Ukuba unika ngaphezulu kwakho kunokuba ufumana, iqabane lakho alifanelanga ukuba nawe ebomini babo. Ukuba loo mntu akongezi ixabiso ebomini bakho, kutheni elapho? Basendleleni nje.

Bathi abazenzi ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo.

Xa abantu bekuxelela ukuba bangobani, bakholwe. Musa ukucinga ukuba uza kuzitshintsha. Xa umntu ekuxelela ukuba unombandela wokuzibophelela, ngenene bathi, andiqinisekanga ukuba ndifuna ukuzibophelela kuwe. Nabani na onemicimbi yokwenene ayazibophelela kodwa ofuna ukuba kunye nawe akasayi kunika olo lwazi kwangaphambili; Bayazi ukuba kuya kuwenzakalisa amathuba abo kunye nawe. Ke ukuba bazinikela ngokuzithandela, abekho kuwe. Bayisebenzisa njengomda.

Bathi baxakeke kakhulu ngumsebenzi ukuba bangafaka imali kubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo.

Umntu okuwe uya kuhlala efumana ixesha lokukhuthaza unxibelelwano nawe. Sonke sixakekile, kodwa senza ixesha lothando. Uthando yimvakalelo yomntu. Ukuba nantoni na, ikunika amandla ngakumbi, ikwenza ukuba usebenze ngcono nasemsebenzini. Ke ukuba baxakeke kakhulu ngumsebenzi ukuba bangachitha ixesha kunye nawe, abayonto ingena kuwe.

Bachitha ixesha elininzi nabahlobo kunawe.

Ukuba bakhulisa unxibelelwano nabanye abantu kodwa hayi nawe, ayizizo ezo kuwe. Xa umntu ekukhathalele, uya kuqala. Baya kuhlala befumana indlela yokukhulisa unxibelelwano lwabo nawe. Ukuba abanakufumana ndlela yokwenza ixesha nobabini nabahlobo babo, umsantsa phakathi kwento abayifunayo nento oyifunayo inkulu kakhulu ukuba woyiswe.

Bathi abayithandi imiboniso yoluntu yothando.

NONQABA: Abafuni abantu bazi ukuba nindawonye. Baxhalabile ukuba abantu baya kucinga ntoni kwaye ukuba kunye nawe kuya kunciphisa ukhetho lwabo. Newsflash: Abekho kuwe.

Benza izicwangciso ngomzuzu wokugqibela.

Ukuba abalihloniphi ixesha lakho ngokwaneleyo ukuba bakucele umhla ngaphambi kwexesha, abayongena kuwe. Ukuba banxibelelana nawe ekupheleni kosuku, ihlala iyifowuni. Banciphisa ixesha lakho kunye kwiiyure zokuziphatha ngokwesondo kunye nokulala. Ukuba ifikile impelaveki kwaye khange umenywe ukuba uchithe ixesha kunye nabo, abakhethi ukuchitha ixesha labo kunye nawe. Nokuba bangazithethelela ngantoni, abekho kuwe.

Ukuba abakubizi, bakuthumele imiyalezo okanye bakubuze, kukho isizathu.

Abekho kuwe. Oku kuyinyani ngokukodwa kumadoda. Amadoda aziinkokeli zendalo. Ukuba ufuna ukubona umntu wasetyhini, uqala isenzo. Ke ngoko, ukuba akathathi manyathelo, akanamdla. Bafazi, ukuba uzama ukuthatha inyathelo kwaye akakulumi, akanamdla.

Qaphela ii-nothings ezimnandi.

Zingaba mnandi, kodwa azithethi kwanto. Yonke loo miyalezo ine-emojis yentliziyo ayimiseli incoko yababini eyiyo. Ukuba ii-nothings ezimnandi zigqiba uqhagamshelo lweemvakalelo esele zikhona, unayo, kodwa ukuba akukho nto emva kwabo, vumela ii-nothings ezimnandi zibe muncu. Ukuba umntu uxhomekeke kumanqaku amnandi kunxibelelwano, abananto bangayithetha kuwe.

Ukuba abanakukuvulela, abafuni ukukuvulela.

Ungatsho ukuba abafumaneki ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa ukuba abavuli, kungenxa yokuba abafuni. Xa befumana umntu abaziva bekhululekile kunye naye, baya kufumana amandla okwenza incoko. Kude kube lelo xesha, yeka ukuzama ukuba bavule kwaye babelane ngokwabo. Ukutyhala kwabo eludongeni akuyi kubalukuhla ukuba banxibelelane nawe.

Ukuba bazama ukukutshintsha, abafuni wena.

Ukuba bayagxeka okanye bagweba, abafuni wena. Bafuna ukukutshintsha kuba befuna ukuba ngomnye umntu. Hamb 'umshiye. Abekho kuwe.

Ayisiyo malunga nento abayithethayo, imalunga nento abayenzayo.

Jonga izenzo zabantu. Banokuthetha enye into kodwa benze enye into. Ulibale ngesithembiso sohambo oluya eSt. Maarten okanye umtsalane wesidlo sangokuhlwa kwindawo yokuhlamba iimpahla yaseFrance. Ukuba akukenzeki, ayizukwenzeka. Ngokukhawuleza ufunda ukuba ubudlelwane bumalunga nezenzo hayi amagama, ngokukhawuleza unokuqhubeka kwaye ufumane ubudlelwane bamaphupha akho.

Yeka ukulinda umntu abe yile nto uyifunayo. Qala ukufowunela lowo sele uyile nto uyifunayo.

Akusoloko ufumana le nto uyifunayo; ufumana oko ukhetha. Azisoloko ziyinto enye. Yeka ukuzama ukufumana ubisi elityeni.

Nazi iingcebiso ezi-3 zokujongana nomntu ongekho kuwe.

1. Yeka ukwamkela iimvuthu. Zithande ngokwaneleyo ukuba uhambe. Ukwamkela imvuthuluka ebantwini ibaxelela ukuba awuzithandi ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungacela okungcono. Ezo mvuthuluka azikonelisi; zigcina ulambile ngakumbi. Kungcono ukubanikezela ukuze uqale ngaphezulu ngengqondo ecacileyo.
2. Kuya kufuneka uphumelele ukuphumelela. Ukuba abekho kuwe, qhubeka. Kuya kufuneka ulahlekelwe yinto engasebenziyo ukuze ufumane oko kuya kuthanda. Awunakho ukuba nobabini. Qiniseka ukuba ufanelwe ngcono kwaye vumela indalo iphela ikuncede uyifumane.
3. Uthando olukhulu luyayazi indlela yokukulwela. Ukuba iyinyani kuwe, iya kulwa. Ukuba uvumela into ihambe ingakusebenzeliyo kwaye ingabuyi ikulwele, ibingasokuze ibe yeyakho ixesha elide. Sebenzisa oku njengovavanyo lweasidi. Ukuba yinyani, iya kubuya ikulwele. Ke, ekugqibeleni iya kuba lithuba lakho lokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngubani ophumeleleyo.

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