USophie noAnna babesazana - bobabini babengabasesikolweni kwisikolo sabucala eBrooklyn-kodwa babengazange badibane de umhlobo wabo wabamema bobabini ukuba baye kwi-snowboarding upstate kwindlu yelizwe lakhe ebusika ophelileyo. Baye bahlala bencokola emveni kokuba wonke umntu eyolala.
Sichithe ubusuku bonke sifumanisa ukuba sithandana njani nomculo ofanayo, utshilo uSophie, oneenwele ezinde ezimdaka, ezimdaka kunye namehlo anzima anamehlo angaze avuleke ngokupheleleyo. Wayemtsha kwaye emhle kwaye engaqondakali, ngeenwele zakhe ezimnyama-bonke abafana bathontelana kuye.
Ngobusuku bangoLwesihlanu obulandelayo, baya endlwini ka-Anna, bagqogqa ikhabhathi yotywala yabazali bakhe, kwaye bagqibela ngokuhla benyuka ezantsi kwiBroadway, bethetha nabantu abangabaziyo kwaye begigitheka. Babebambene ngezandla kwaye bewolana, kwaye ngaxesha lithile, uAnna wayencike ngefestile yevenkile xa uSophie wafaka iingalo zakhe entanyeni yakhe wamanga.
Ubeke izandla zakhe entanyeni yam wandiphuza, ibinguye ke, utshilo uSophie.
Baye badumisa ikhabhathi yokubasa kwitheko lomhlobo wabo eBrooklyn kwaye balwenza lonke uhambo lokuya apho.
Uninzi lwee-kisses azinantsingiselo, utshilo u-Anna, ojongeka njengohlobo olungemnandanga lukaKatie Holmes. Kodwa kukho ezo zimbalwa ezizalisa nje kwaye zikwenza uzive ushushu kwaye wonwabile.
USophie noAnna (amagama abo atshintshiwe) bafika kwilitye elimnyama lomhlobo wabo kwaye bajoyina wonke umntu emhadini, bahlala phantsi ngapha nangapha komfana uAnna.
Besincamisana kuye, emva koko sobabini saqala ukumanga, utshilo uSophie.
Besibonakala ngaphandle malunga nayo, utshilo uAnna. Yayiyinto eyoyikisayo. Kodwa kukho le nto malunga nokonwabela-kwaye uyenzele ingqalelo. Kwaye bobabini.
Emva koko, u-Anna noSophie baqhubeka nokuchitha lonke ixesha labo kunye-kodwa nangoku babebandakanyekile ngokwasemzimbeni, zange bazicinge njengama-lesbians. Bobabini babesazi ukuba ukuthandana kwabo kuya kuthi kuphele ukuba omnye wabo wadibana nomfana awayefuna ukuthandana.
Ngelixa uninzi lwamantombazana aseNew York enokuthi enze njengabathandana bobabini ukuba bahlekise kwaye batsale abafana abancinci, kukho iqela elithile labasetyhini abancinci abafumana into kwi-sex bond bond abangayifumaniyo kulwamkelo lomfana ophakathi kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. . Ngelixa i-LUG's (abathandana nabo bade bagqiba) yaba lixesha lokuhlekisa ngeminyaka yoo-1990-yayisetyenziswa kwabafazi beekholeji ababelala nabasetyhini ekhampasini kodwa babenokunxibelelana ngokukhawuleza namadoda afanelekileyo ngokwasentlalweni bakugqiba ukushiya ikholeji-imeko ibonakala ngathi isebenze ngendlela kwisihlwele esincinci. (Ubuncinane phakathi kwamantombazana. Amakhwenkwe anomdla wokuzama esidlangalaleni amanye amakhwenkwe anokuzifumana bekwiqela elincinci kakhulu.)
Imini yonke, iveki yonke, inyanga yonke: Zininzi iindidi zamantombazana athandana namanye esikolweni sam, utshilo uTina, omncinci kwisikolo sabucala kwi-Upper East Side. UTina waqala ngamava okuncamisa iintombi zakhe kwibanga lesixhenxe, kumatheko okulala.
Amantombazana akumgangatho ophakamileyo avavanya ngakumbi iqabane abacinga ukuba likhuselekile, utshilo. Kufana nokuziqhelanisa nabafana. Kodwa amantombazana akwizikolo zamabanga aphakamileyo ayenza ngakumbi ngeenjongo zobutsha. Amantombazana amaninzi athandwayo ayayenza. Baqonda nje ukuba yinto abafana abacinga ukuba ishushu, kwaye bayisebenzisela inzuzo yabo. Kulungile ngokupheleleyo. ukuba ngumlingani wesini sokwenyani, kodwa abantu abathandana nabathandanayo bahlala beyintombazana engazithembiyo evakalelwa kukuba ayibalulekanga kwaphela ngaso nasiphi na isizathu-kwaye ndiyazi ukuba ndiluhlobo lwesandi njengoGqirha Phil.
Ayisiyonto inkulu kangako into leyo, utshilo uTanya Lewaller, umongameli woPhononongo, iklabhu ejongene nemicimbi yezesini kunye nezesondo, eHunter College High School e-Upper East Side. Ndiyazi ukuba amantombazana athandana nabantu abathandana nabesini-yile nto bayithandayo ngokwesondo-kwaye ndidibene namantombazana enza zombini. Kupholile ukuba abantu bangazama ngayo, kwaye kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo banokuzama ukufumanisa ukuba baziva njani ngayo kunye nolwazelelo lwabo. Kwaye kulungile ukuba olu luluntu oluvulekileyo malunga nalo. Ivakala njengesiqhelo eHunter, kodwa wakube uphumele ngaphandle kweSixeko saseNew York, ayiqhelekanga.
Ndicinga ukuba yamkelwe esixekweni kunelizwe, kuba zikhona ezinye iindlela ezizezinye, utshilo uTina. Kuvakala ngathi kuhle, kodwa kuyinyani. Ngehlobo lasehlotyeni enkampini, onke amantombazana amancinci asezidolophini andibiza ngokuba ndithandana nabantu abathandanayo ukuba ndikhulule phambi kwabo ebhedini yethu.
UAnna noSophie bayavuma ukuba bayonwabele ingqwalaselo eza nokuba sisibini samantombazana kunye namantombazana kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo.
Esikolweni, bathi ndiyile ntombazana i-wannabe-lesbian straight uzama ukuphola, utshilo uAnna. Kwaye mhlawumbi, uyazi, bendinjalo. Abantu babeka phambili kakhulu kule minyaka yethu ukuba kumnandi ukuba lulwelo-kodwa ke wonke umntu usenalo ugcino olufanayo ebesikade sinalo.
Kusekho imincili enkulu oyifumanayo ukuba yile ntombazana, intombazana eyenza loo nto, utshilo uSophie. Naxa wonke umntu okujikelezile ekulahla.
Indawo yenkcubeko ephathelene nesini itshintshile, kwaye ndicinga ukuba kuvumelekile kakhulu ukuba li-gay-ish kunangaphambili, utshilo uJennifer Baumgardner, umbhali-mbambisene weManifesta: Abasetyhini abasebatsha, ubuNina kunye neKamva. Ayisosigxina ngokusisigxina, kodwa isini. Ke ndicinga ukuba ulutsha luzama ezi zinto. Ukuba uke waya kwiikonsathi ze-Ani DiFranco, zizaliswe ngamantombazana amantombazana aphakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 ukuya kwengama-20, kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba uninzi lwabo aluzukuphelisa isini.
Amantombazana athandana nentombazana ayanda ngokumangalisayo kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya enje ngo-1999's Cruel Intentions (apho abalinganiswa bakaSelma Blair noSarah Michelle Gellar babelana ngophuko olucothayo nolwenza ngabom amaFrentshi) kunye neFemme Fatale yangoku, apho umlingiswa kaRebecca Romijn-Stamos alukuhla uRie Rasmussen.
Ndicinga ukuba ulutsha luhlala lufuna ukuya emaphethelweni, utshilo uJudith Ruskay Rabinor, Ph.D. Xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo, indawo yokuya kuyo yayiyiYurophu. Ngoku ngumnqwazi omdala lowo, kwaye bafuna ukuya eKammandu. Siphila kwixesha elivumelekileyo ngokwesondo, kwaye amantombazana aziva enamandla ngokwaneleyo kwaye afuna ukuzama. Kwaye amantombazana amaninzi alumkele ukuzibophelela kubafana. Amantombazana ahlala ewancama amandla abo xa beqala ukuthandana. Ndicinga ukuba amantombazana athandana kakhulu, kwaye xa intombazana ibandakanyeka nentombazana, le ntombazana ayiyiyo nje 'iDuh' enkulu. Intombazana iyathetha kwaye iyakhathala kwaye imamele. Ayisiyiyo imvukelo-yeyokuhlola, kwaye yinto yendalo.
UNks Baumgardner uthe uyakholelwa ukuba inkululeko ininzi ekhoyo yokufumanisa ukuba ngubani na ngesondo, kungcono.
Kubekho inkqubela phambili ukuba baziva ngathi banokukhetha ngakumbi kunye nokukhetha. Mhlawumbi kukho ukuguquguquka kokungalingani ngokwesondo kwisikolo sabo-apho amantombazana azive ngathi akaze abe namandla aphezulu, okanye ukuba baya kuba ngamahule xa belala ngesondo. Okanye abazi ukuba ukuba nobudlelwane bezesondo kunye nothando kunye nokulingana ngokwesondo kuyimpilo kwaye kuyakhulula. Ngandlela thile unokucinga, xa usenza intombazana kunye nentombazana, ukuba zeziphi ezi zinto zixineneyo kwinkcubeko efana namabele kunye nolusu oluthambileyo-zinjani. Ufumana ukuchasa umntu ngendlela efanayo nokuchaswa ngamadoda.
Ngobusuku bangoMgqibelo obudlulileyo, malunga nonyaka emva kokuba uSophie noAnna badibene kwindlu ye-ski, uSophie, uAnna, isoka lika-Anna uThomas kunye nentombazana egama linguEliza-ngoku bonke abancinci kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo sabucala-babedityaniswe kumgangatho wegumbi lokulala likaSophie. kwigumbi labazali bakhe eGramercy Park. USophie wayejikeleza uEliza, omnye wabahlobo bakhe abasenyongweni, emnika umva wokubhabha kunye nokudlala ngeenwele zakhe ezimhlophe. UAna wayelele ngentloko kwimilenze kaTomas.
Andikho malunga ngqo kunye nesini, utshilo u-Anna, ndicinga ukuba xa ubona into ekhethekileyo emntwini, yiyo yonke loo nto ibalulekileyo. Ndizifumene ngokubanzi ezo zinto zikhethekileyo kubafana, kodwa mna noSophie sasixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwaye sixhomekeke ngokupheleleyo komnye nomnye, kwaye ndandimthanda kakhulu.
Ndichithe yonke imihla yobomi bam noAnna, utshilo uSophie. Kwaye ndamphatha ngokungathi ndiphethe umfana. Xa engazukunditsalela umnxeba, bendiya kuba ngathi, ‘Kutheni engafowni nje?’ Ndandintle kakhulu.
Ndicinga ukuba apho ubundlobongela buba lula khona apho abantu bonwabile, utshilo uSophie. Abantu bayaqonda ukuba ukuba le nto inkulu kangaka ayisiyonto imbi kangako, kwaye ukuba sinako ukusuka ekuhlaleni nentombazana ukuya kuba kunye nomfana ukubuyela kwintombazana enamanzi, ke yonke into iba lulwelo ngakumbi. Nanini na xa ndidibana namantombazana, ndiziva ndinamandla. Kwaye xa ndihlangana nabafana, ndiziva ndinamandla ngakumbi kunam.
Uyayiva nje, uqhubeke. Kwiminyaka elishumi eyadlulayo, amantombazana akule minyaka yethu angaba neentloni ukuba angaze abanjwe, kodwa ngoku amantombazana amaninzi ayayisebenzisa, njengemeko yokubonwa njengebhombu epheleleyo yesondo. Kukho amantombazana athandana namanye, kukho amantombazana afuna ukuhoywa, kwaye kukho amantombazana afana nam, afumana nje abantu enditsalelekileyo kubo kwaye ndixhumane nawo. Ndiyathetha, jonga abahlobo bam-bahle kakhulu. Ngokucacileyo unomdla kubo, kuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabo.
USophie ungene egumbini lakhe lokutshintsha iimpahla zakhe okwesine. Uye wavela enxibe ijean exineneyo yolusu kwaye wawa phantsi ebhedini yakhe.
Ndicinga ukuba amantombazana ancamisayo ukuvula abafana ngokungathandabuzekiyo, uthe. Ndiyabona indlela abasabela ngayo omnye komnye-bachitha ixesha labo elininzi befaka i-lip gloss kunye ne-push-up bras nayo yonke loo jazz. Amantombazana aya kwisikolo sam samabanga aphakamileyo afuna ukuba ngumfanekiso-ogqibeleleyo wentombazana eyintombazana, kuba yile nto abafana abathandwa kakhulu kuyo-ngamantombazana ayintombi kwaye aphuphuma ngobufazi. Awayithandi ngokwenene amantombazana athetha ingqondo yawo.
USophie uthe uqinisekile ukuba uyakuhlala ezikhohlisa ngamantombazana, nokuba sele emdala, kodwa ukuba akanamdla wokuzazisa njengongowesini.
Ndingacinga ukuba amantombazana angamafanasini esikolweni sethu ayimfihlo kakhulu ngayo, utshilo. Ndiyazi intombazana ekwibanga le-10 engasayi kuyithetha nakubani na-kuba bayamkholelwa. Ndicinga ngathi, abantu bayamisa nje ukungakholelwa kwabo.
Ubudlelwane ngokwasemzimbeni buka-Anna noSophie baphela ngentwasahlobo ephelileyo, malunga nexesha uSophie adibana nalo mfana awayefuna ukuba sisoka lakhe. UAnna waqala ukuthandana nomfana okwibanga lakhe kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kamva. Kodwa bobabini bahlala bengabahlobo abasenyongweni.
