Ulwa njani nobuxoki bokuba ukuswela oku kulingana nokufa ube ungazi nokwazi oko?Iipelisi Phantse wonke umntu kuluntu lwethu unamava ohlobo oluthile lokuqhutywa yimvakalelo abangakwaziyo ukuyilawula. Usenokunyanzela uhlaziye iphepha lakho likaFacebook, uthenge izinto ongazidingiyo, ufliphe abantu ekugcwaleni, okanye ube nesiselo esinye kuphela nangona udlulile kumda wakho. Njengabanyangi abaye baphatha abantu abaninzi abaziwayo eHollywood, siye sabona zonke iindlela zolawulo lwempembelelo-yinto esizibonele ngokwethu kwaye siyiqonda kakuhle. Kodwa xa sisiva iifowuni zethu zisithi zazisa i-imeyile engenayo okanye isicatshulwa, siziva njengenye yezinja zikaPavlov-kufuneka silwe nomnqweno wokuyijonga, nokuba sibandakanyeka kwinto efuna ingqalelo yethu yonke.
Sonke sinezizathu zokuzinikezela kwezi zinto. Kuphazamise nje okomzuzwana. Ndifanele umvuzo. Ngomso ngokuqinisekileyo ndiza kutyhila iphepha elitsha. Kodwa ngokunikezela kwezi zizathu, eneneni sithatha inxaxheba ekutshatyalalisweni kwethu.
Ukutshatyalaliswa kunokuvakala kunzima. Ukuphelelwa lilodwa kukodwa-idizethi engekho ekutyeni kwakho, ukuthenga ngaphezulu komda wakho, ukubukela iividiyo zeYouTube xa kufanelekile ukuba usebenza-ayizukubonakalisa ubomi bakho. Kodwa yiloo nto enxaxhileyo ngokusilela kwethu ukuzeyisa. Ngokwenza ukuba unikezele kumnqweno omnye ongenabungozi emva komnye, senza into eyingozi ngakumbi: indlela yokuphila yokuzanelisa.
IXABISO LOKUZIXOXA
Kukho indleko ezinkulu kule ndlela yokuphila: itshabalalisa ikamva lakho. Nantoni na ofuna ukuyenza kwikamva ifuna ukuba ulibazise ukuzanelisa okwangoku. Masithi iphupha lakho kukufumana unyuselo lomsebenzi. Ukwenza oko kwenzeke, maninzi amanyathelo onokuthi ufune ukuwathatha, njengokuhlakulela ubudlelwane nabantu abaphezulu abangakunceda, uthathe iiklasi zangokuhlwa ukuze ufunde ngezakhono oza kuzifuna, okanye ukubeka ixesha elongezelelweyo kwiiprojekthi zangoku ungazithengisa xa kufika ixesha. Lonke inyathelo lendlela, unokuhendeka ukuba uye kusela nabahlobo, ubukele inkqubo yeTV oyithandayo, okanye uye ezivenkileni. Kodwa kuphela ngokuchasa ezo ntshukumisa onethuba lokufezekisa iphupha lakho.
Oku kuyinyani nokuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni. Umbhali ochitha iiyure engenangqondo ekhangela umnatha akanalo ixesha okanye inkuthazo eseleyo ukuba abhale. Umyeni ojonga ngokungamanyala iphonografi uphulukana nomdla kubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nomfazi wakhe. Amalungu osapho ahlala ethe nca kwiifowuni zawo ngexesha lesidlo sangokuhlwa aphulukana namandla abo okunxibelelana okunentsingiselo kunye.
Ukuzihlaziya kuwachitha amandla owadingayo ukuze ufumane into oyifunayo ebomini. Yintoni ekhohlisayo ngokunikezela kwiminqweno yakho kukuba ikukhupha ngedriphu-ngokuthe ngcembe ungazi. Ngokwembali, le nkqubo ibonwa njengomsebenzi womtyholi kwindima yakhe njengomhendi. Uyakukhohlisa ngezinto ezimnandi, nganye engabalulekanga. Ulinda ngomonde njengokuba unika ixesha nexesha. Ngokuthe ngcembe, uya ulahlekelwa ngamandla okuxhathisa izilingo zakhe. Okokugqibela, uhlawula elona xabiso liphezulu: kusemva kwexesha ukuya fezekisa into obuyifuna ebomini .
UBUXOKI OBUGCINA US UKUZINYANISA
Ngelishwa, ulawulo kunqabile. Sisukile kwinkcubeko yokuzincama nokuzilungisa saya kokuzihlaziya okumsulwa, okungaphazanyiswa. Yonke imihla, sihlaselwa zizibhengezo zisikhuthaza ukuba sanelise iminqweno yethu: Unxano yinto yonke. Thobela unxano lwakho. Yenze. UBetcha akanakutya enye kuphela.
Le miyalezo iyasiphembelela, kodwa ayinakususa intando yethu yokumelana. Kufuneka kubekho enye into-into ngaphakathi-esenza ukuba sithinteke kubo. Eyona ndlela yokufumana amava kukubukela okwenzekayo xa uzama ukuthintela iminqweno yakho. Zama oku:
- Zibuyisele kwimeko yokulangazelela owakhe wahlangabezana nako ngaphambili. Yiva indlala engonelisi ekuqhubela ukuba ufumane nantoni na oyifunayo.
- Ngoku khawufane uzibambe — uzithintele ekufumaneni le nto uyifunayo.
- Qaphela ukuba uphendula uthini: uziva njani ukuba uyaliwe into oyifuna kakubi kangaka?
Usenokuba uziva ulusizi, uxhalabile, ukhathazekile, okanye unomsindo. Kodwa nokuba uziva njani, uninzi lwabantu luyothuka yindlela ekubuhlungu ngayo nokucinga ngokuzibandeza. Kuyamangalisa kuba kusengqiqweni, uyazi ukuba uza kuyigqitha. Ukuba uyazinqanda ekuphakameni, ukuba nesilayidi esongezelelekileyo sekhekhe, okanye ukuthenga into kwi-intanethi, kuya kulimaza okwethutyana, kodwa iintlungu ziya kuphela. Ngethuba elifutshane, uya kuhamba kwaye ulibale nokuba ubuyifuna. Ke Kutheni kubuhlungu kangaka ngalamzuzu wokuzincama ?
Impendulo: Inxalenye yesiqu sakho — amandla angummangaliso angaphakathi kuwe — akuqinisekisile ukuba uyaxoka: Ukuhluthwa into akunyamezeleki. Awunakho ukufikelela kuyo. Ayibobuxoki obu ubaziyo. Kodwa eli candelo lenkqubo yakho yokucinga ayisebenzi kwindawo evulekileyo, apho ungalwa nayo ngengqondo. Ilawula wena ungabikho zingqondweni. Kwelo nqanaba, iyakuqinisekisa ukuba ukuswela luhlobo lokufa-into ongasokuze uphinde uyifumane.
Ukuba awuyikholelwa le nto, jonga umntwana omncinci oxelelwe ukuba akanakuba nento ayifunayo-inokuba yinto yokudlala, isiselo esinoshukela, okunye ukukhwela emqolo, okanye enye into. Ngephanyazo woyiswa ziimvakalelo zentlungu enkulu kunye noxinzelelo. Ngaphantsi kwezantsi, ukholelwa ukuba ilahleko ayinakulinganiswa.
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Ulwa njani nobuxoki ukuba ukuswela kukulingana nokufa xa ungazi nokwazi oko?
Kuya kufuneka uqale ngokuthatha imbono eyahlukileyo yentswelo. Ayisiyiyo le nto ucinga ukuba iyiyo. Ukuhluthwa into ayisiyiyo isiphelo esisigxina, ukufa ongasoze uphinde ubuye. Yinto eyahlukileyo. Ukuncitshiswa sisango ebomini obungakumbi. Awunakho ukunyamezela kuphela, yindlela yokuphila ngokugqibeleleyo kunokuba wawucinga ukuba kunokwenzeka. Nje ukuba uphile ngayo, ukuswela kuyakukhulula ekubeni likhoboka leentshukumisa zakho.
Kodwa akwanelanga ukukholelwa oku; kufuneka ube namava ayo. Oko kufuna utshintsho kugxilwe. Sihlala sigxila ngaphandle kwethu, kwinto esizinciphayo kuyo: isini, isiqwenga sobucwebe, isandla sokugqibela se-poker, njl. Nokuba siyakwazi ukuzikhwebula kwinto esiyifunayo, sihlala sigxile kuyo , sinqwenela ukuba sibe nayo kwaye sizive siphangiwe. Oku kusigcina silungisiwe kwihlabathi langaphandle.
Ukuzihlangula kwinkanuko, kuya kufuneka uzame enye into eyahlukileyo: xhathisa impembelelo yokubaleka kwaye ujonge ngaphakathi kwindawo engekhoyo. Awazi kwanto malunga nayo (ukuthintelwe ubomi bakho bonke), ke hlala uzolile ngayo. Isenokukothusa. Ngapha koko, xa ujonge ngomonde enzonzobileni, uqala ukuqonda into obungayilindelanga. Into evakala ngathi yindawo emnyama, engenanto, indawo efileyo ikhanyisa ngobomi. Kufana nesibeleko, sikhulelwe amandla.
Ungazami ukwenza ingqiqo ngoku, jonga ukuba ungazibonela ngokwakho. Zama oku kulandelayo:
- Zibeke kwimeko efanayo yokuhluthwa oyenzileyo kwimithambo yokugqibela: ufuna into embi kakhulu kwaye uthintelwe ekubeni uyifumane. Yenza iimvakalelo zokuhluthwa zikhulu kangangoko unakho.
- Ngoku yiyeke le nto uyifunayo. Ulibale ngayo ngokupheleleyo. Njengoko usenza, yiba nomfanekiso-ngqondweni wokuba lonke ilizwe elingaphandle liyanyamalala; ayisengomthombo wolwaneliseko kuwe.
- Jonga ngaphakathi kuwe. Yayiyintoni imvakalelo yokuhluthwa ngoku yindawo enkulu engenanto.
- Jongana nayo. Hlala uzolile kwaye uzolile ngokugqibeleleyo. Hlala ugxile ekusileleni kwaye ubone okwenzekayo .
Uninzi lwezigulana zethu, xa zisenza lo msebenzi, ziqala ukuziva zishukumisa, intshukumo kwindawo engenanto, ngokungathi kukho into ezantsi phaya. Oko kuvuselelekileyo kukudibana kokuqala kwendyebo yangaphakathi enokukuzalisa ngaphakathi. Njengoko uhlangabezana naloo mthombo ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ufumanisa ukuba ukuvinjwa into oyifunayo ayikukubulala kuphela, kukunxibelelanisa nomthombo ongaziwayo, ongaphakathi. Nantoni na ofuna ukuyifeza-bhala incwadi, wakhe ishishini, ube ngumzali osebenzayo- iyenzeka kuba lo mthombo wamandla okudala ongapheliyo ngoku uhamba ngawe.
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