Ngaba ufuna ukufikelela kumfana oye wayeka ukuthumela imiyalezo?

Indoda yentengiso, indoda esandula ukuqhawula umtshato-esebenza-kwintengiso yandibuza kwakhona kwiveki elandelayo kumhla wokuqala. Kwakhona, saba nokuhlwa okumnandi, isidlo sangokuhlwa esimnandi saza sabuyela endaweni yam. Ndaziva ndikhululekile xa ndinaye yayothusa. Ukuzama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba mandiyeke kwaye ndonwabele izinto kwakungekho kufikelela kum, nangona kunjalo. Iimvakalelo zam zazikhala ukuba into ayikho 100% eyiyo.

Indoda yentengiso ivakala ilungile! utshilo umhlobo wam ocebisa ngengcebiso uMadge, xa besigqibile iklasi kwiSoul Cycle. Ndiyamthanda. Ubonakala emnandi kakhulu!

Ndiyamthanda naye, kodwa izinto zihlala zingahambi kakuhle ngoku. Wandikhuza uMadge ngokucinga kakubi. Unogada uphakamile, ndacacisa. Ixesha esilichithe kunye belindimnandi kodwa kunzima nokuqikelela ukuba ucinga ntoni. Ukuba kukho nantoni na efana neemvakalelo zam emva komtshato, kuya kuba nzima kuye ukuba amkele umntu omtsha - ngandlela zonke.

Ndikhumbule emva kwiintsuku zokuqala ze-singledom, ndiziphosa kwezinye iimeko zokuthandana ezingathandekiyo, ngokuhlala ndizifumana ndicinga ukuba ukubona nabani na kwakuyimpazamo. Nangona ukuphelisa umtshato wam yayikukukhetha kwam, akuzange kundenze ndichulumance ngako. Ukufuna ukuba buhlungu yinto yokwenene.

Ukuqwalaselwa kokuqala kwamadoda kwakumnandi kum njengomntu oqhawule umtshato. Ukufumana ukuphazamiseka kwenza ukuba kube lula ukuyeka ukwamkela umtshato wam kwakuphelile kwaye ndandingatshatanga ngokwenene. Le yayingeyonto intle ukuba ndibekhona kwaye kwakungumzabalazo wokwenene kum ukuqonda ukuba yintoni engahambanga kakuhle kubudlelwane bam kwaye ndibone ukuba kutheni imihla emitsha ingakhokeleli ndawo. Kwakungekho ixesha elilula. Kwakukho u-barista owayenenzondelelo engaphaya ngokundiluma nokushiya ezinye iipanty zabasetyhini ejikeleze indlu yakhe. Emva kokudinwa ngokoqobo nangokomfuziselo kwisofa engaphezulu kwexabiso elingenaxabiso, ngumhlobo oyindoda, owayengenguye umntu owayekhathalele ukuba nam ebomini babo, intliziyo ebuhlungu yalandelwa kwakhona. Ukudana okufanayo kwakubonakala ngathi kukunxibelelana nokunxibelelana kwam nendoda yeNtengiso.

Emva kokuba uqhagamshele kunye nomhlobo, kukho into eguqukayo kwiinguqu kubudlelwane. Rhoqo, ngumfazi oqala ukuphosa ajikeleze isigidi kuthekani ukuba yimeko kunye nemeko entlokweni yakhe, ibiyiyo kanye le ndiyenzayo. Imvakalelo yokungonwabi yoloyiko ibuyile njengeetekisi ezivela kumntu we-Ad emva kwemihla emibini-ngoku zazisiba mbalwa. Wayengenguye uhlobo lomfana oza kukhupha umntu umoya, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo wayebuya umva.

Mhlawumbi uxakeke ngokwenene. Umsebenzi wakhe unzima kakhulu. UHillary, umhlobo owayesazisile kwakhona emva kweminyaka emininzi, wathi, ezama ukucinga ngezizathu zokuba kutheni engakhange abonakale efuna ukuphinda ahambe nam. Ndiyazi uyakuthanda.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, wayendithanda njengomntu ongumntu kodwa kunjalo nangemanicurist yam.

Kwakungekho umhla wesithathu. Indoda yentengiso ngequbuliso yayixakeke kunanini na ngaphambili, eyayilindelekile, emva kwayo yonke loo nto yayilusuku lwanamhlanje uDon Draper. Kwakulixesha lokwamkela ukuba nje wayengekho kum emva koko.

Sasingabahlobo abaphuma amaxesha ambalwa kwaye bagqibela ngokutshixa imilebe kwiminyaka kamva. Andinakuba ndaphambana, ukuba ikho into, ibindonyanyisa into yokuba ndiwele kuye kuba yayiyinyaniso leyo. Andifuni kulinda ixesha elide, ukuzikhathaza kunye nokukhathazeka emva kweeveki ezintathu zokungeva kuye. Ewe kunjalo, ekugqibeleni ukumthumelela isicatshulwa kubonakala ngathi kuphela kwento ekufuneka yenziwe.

Ndiva ukuba awungabinakuhlangana kwakhona nam. Ukuba kunjalo, ungandixelela. Ilungile. Ndicinga ukuba uyamangalisa kwaye uyonwabile, kodwa ndiyazi ukuba uhambe kakhulu kulo nyaka. Ke ndiyilahla phaya.

Ukuphupha ngale mpendulo kwangoko: Ewe ndifuna ukukubona! Uxolo bendixakekile. Masiphume ngokuhlwanje. Endaweni yoko, ukuphoxeka kungene ngempendulo yakhe xa ebhalela: Ndiyabulela kakhulu ngaloo nto. Ndithe saa, kwaye andiqinisekanga nje ukuba ndiyakubona ngoku.

Ndalila, ndandicaphuka, kodwa ndinombulelo kwangaxeshanye. Andifuni ukumthiya, iimvakalelo zam zazingumxube wosizi, ukwaliwa nokudideka. Kwakukho nesiqabu ekufumaneni eyona nyaniso. Kuzo zonke izinto endizaziyo, sasikwindawo yabahlobo ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye yindlela awandibona ngayo ukusuka ekuhambeni. Nangona impendulo evela kuye yayingelo phupha, yayinyanisekile. Wayengayazi imbono yam okanye umnqweno wam wokubonwa ungaphezulu komhlobo omnandi wokudibana.

Ndifuna ukumthiya uAd Man, utshilo uMadge. Ngokwenyani andinakucinga ngaso nasiphi na isizathu sokuba kutheni.

Musa ukumthiya. Ulungile, kodwa loo nto indenza ndidane ngakumbi. Uninzi lwabafana luza kundidibanisa. Emva kwento eyayibonakala ngathi ngamashumi eminyaka yokuthandana kwimimandla esempuma nasentshona, lo yayingenguye umfana wokuqala owanikwa ithuba lokukhetha ukuphuma. Kodwa yayilixesha lokuqala ukuba nabani na ebelungile ngokwaneleyo ukuba angandixhasi.

Ngaba uza kuhlala unxibelelana naye? Kubuza uMadge.

Ingayiyo. Ndahleka. Masithi siza kubona. UMadge wandibamba ngengalo.

Menze kakuhle macala onke!

Ngomzuzwana odlulayo, loo mihla mibini kunye nendoda eyintengiso yayinencasa encinci yento ubudlelwane obunokubonakala ngayo, kum. Ndayiphakamisa kakhulu ibha, ukuba nomntu ofumana impilo elungileyo owayemnandi, enobubele kwaye enomdla. Ngelo xesha lifutshane kakhulu, bendinethemba lokuba okomzuzwana kukho into ebinokubakho kwaye iimvakalelo ziyafana. Mhlawumbi ndiza kuyifumana kwakhona ngenye imini, ngokulungileyo.