Ngokusisiseko oku kuphindaphindiwe. (Ifoto ngePixabay, uRyan McGuire) Kudala-dala, phambi kokuba kubekhona i-Intanethi, abantu abaneengxaki babeza kufuna iingcebiso kwiingcali ezichongiweyo. Banokukwenza oku ngokubhalela kwiphepha-ndaba okanye kwikholamu efana no-Abby Othandekayo.
Kodwa kule mihla, awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube yingcali kunye neqela labahleli ukukhupha iingcebiso kubantu ongabaziyo- kwaye ukuba nguwe ofuna ingcebiso, umbuzo wakho awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ulunge ngokukodwa. Enkosi kwimimangaliso yeReddit, into oyifunayo kukufikelela kwikhompyuter kunye nokukwazi ukuchwetheza.
Okumangalisayo kukuba, uninzi lwabantu luyalisebenzisa eli thuba ngokufuna ingcebiso kulo I-subreddit enesihloko esithi Ubudlelwane . Kubonakala kuyinto entle - abahlengi kwakhona, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngabantu abasizisileyo ukuziphindezela kwi-porn , Iibhokhwe kwaye ezinye zezona zihlekisi zangaphakathi uzokuze uhlangane nazo .
Okothusayo kukuba, nangona kunjalo, uninzi lweengcebiso ziqinile - hlukana nesoka lakho elihlukumezayo, uyeke ukulala ngeefowuni zabanye abantu, nibe nencoko enzulu nentombi yakho exokayo. Elona cebiso lililo lelokungcola okanye uphume kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo, apho abahleli kwakhona beqhubela phambili abafuna icebo lokuba bathathe inyathelo abaziyo ukuba liyimfuneko, ezantsi ezantsi.
Kananjalo, wonke umbuzo omnye-nokuba ubonakala kangakanani-ufumana ubuncinci iimpendulo kubalungisi abaxhasayo. Ngemihla yeekholamu zengcebiso zesiko, kuphela kwezona zinto zinyanzelekileyo (funda: ngokwenyani) izicelo ziya kuthathwa ukuze zipapashwe.
Ke iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba nokuba uhamba ngantoni, lonke iqela labantu lihleli kwi-r / kubudlelwane, banomdla wokukuxelela indlela omele uhambe ngayo. Kwaye ukuba ungummeli nje onomdla, uyakufumana umdla onomdla wokuba bangakanani abacebisi abakwaziyo ukuzihlengahlengisa izenzo zamaqabane abo angalunganga, amalungu osapho kunye nabantu abasebenza nabo.
Ingxaki kuphela kukuba unokufumana ubunzima ekujongeni kude. Nalu uluhlu lwemisonto emnandi esiyifumene kwi-r / ubudlelwane:
• Umfazi Ayikwazi ukuyeka ukulala ngefowuni yesithandwa sakhe kwaye ufuna ukwazi ukuba ungamisa njani.
• Intombi yalo mfo ndamxokisa malunga nokuthatha inzalo iinyanga kwaye akazange amlahle okwangoku!
• Ukuzithoba okwandisiweyo kumntu othi Uziva kakubi ukuba wabethwa ngumntu othandwa ngumhlobo wakhe otyebileyo. Ayilotyala lakhe ukuba uyathandwa. Abahlengi kwakhona banika iingcebiso ezintle kule meko; bathi kufuneka axelele umhlobo wakhe ukuba aqwalasele into encinci ekuthiwa ayityebanga. Oku kuvakala ngathi yindlela entle yokuchitha ubuhlobo.
• Umfana osemncinci ekubonakala ukuba akazange adibane nomntu omdala ngaphambili idinga ingcebiso ngendlela yokujongana umakhulu wentombazana yakhe enobuhlanga.
• Intombazana eyayithandana nale ntombazana yengqondo Kukujonga igama lakhe kunye namagama abasebenzisi ngethuba lokufumana ividiyo ye-porn yakhe. Abahlaziyi bafumanisa ngokuchanekileyo oku njengezenzo zokuziphatha kwaye bamxelele ukuba ayeke lonke unxibelelwano naye.
• Umntu othile unomntu osebenza naye nokuba likhoboka leziyobisi okanye shithead nje , kwaye ufuna ingcebiso ngendlela yokwenza abaphathi bakhe baqonde ukuba unoxanduva.
• Isoka lomfazi ubesenza ukuziqhelanisa nokuthumela imiyalezo ngefowuni kulo lonke ubudlelwane babo. Oku kwaphelela ekubeni alale ebhedini yesibhedlele kwaye ameme enye intombazana ukuba ize kumtyelela kwaye ayibuyise imithambo ngelixa intombi yakhe isemsebenzini. Abahlengahlengisi bayaqonda ukuba isoka limrholile ukuba akholelwe ukuba uyaphanjaniswa. Bayamcebisa ukuba amyeke.
• Lo mfo ufuna ukulahla intombi yakhe ukuze ibe yi-vegan . Akukho mntu umbeka ityala.
• Iminyaka emihlanu kubudlelwane babo kunye neenyanga ezintathu emtshatweni wabo, umntu obhinqileyo uyavuma umyeni wakhe ukuba wamqhatha xa beqala ukuthandana. Uyibiza ngokudlwengula, emva koko ubuya umva. Kwakhona, akakhulelwanga ... Kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba abekho hayi ukhulelwe. Ewe. Imvumelwano yeReddit kukuba kufuneka ebalekile.
• Uneminyaka eli-19 ubudala ufumanisa ukuba umhlobo wakhe oneminyaka engama-20 uyathandana kunye notata wakhe emva kokujonga incwadi yakhe eyimfihlo ye-Intanethi. Uzama ukuzimisa kwaye utata, ngombulelo, uyala ukulala umhlobo wentombi yakhe. Kubonakala ngathi inkohliso.
• Umfazi oneminyaka engama-23 ubudala uphume kukuhamba emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nesoka lakhe elineminyaka engama-45 ubudala. Bahamba ngokuhamba rhoqo. Uyema kancinci athathe ikaka ecaleni kwendlela rhoqo. Kungenxa yokuba unzima ukucwangcisa ishedyuli yakhe yeembiza. Intombi eyintombazana iyakwamkela oku.
Uqaphela inja ekhutshiweyo kufutshane kwaye azise isoka lakhe. Ugqibezela ukungcungcutheka kwaye uyonqena. Emva kwexesha, xa egodukayo, umjongela phantsi aze amngxolise. Uyazibuza ukuba ikhona into ayenzileyo engalunganga. Ngombulelo, abantu baseReddit bachonga ngokuchanekileyo isoka njengesixhaso esikhohlakeleyo kwaye bacebisa ukuba amlahle.
Kodwa wayehlala elungile, uqhanqalazo lokuqala lweposta. Omnye umhleli ucacisa ukuqala ngokuthe ngcembe kokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo ngolu hlobo: Ukuba uthe wafaka isele kwimbiza enamanzi abilayo, liza kutsibela ngaphandle kwangoko. Ukuba unamathela isele embizeni yamanzi kwaye uyizise kancinci emathunjini ayiyi kuba njalo. Ityala livaliwe.
• Le ibonakala ingeyonyani, kodwa isenomdla ngenxa yokuphendula kukaReddit. Umfazi ujinga nesoka lakhe xa yena ngequbuliso utsala iikawusi ezimdaka kunye nentambo emdaka kuye usisi ‘Iingubo ezimdaka zokuhlamba iimpahla zithintele . Emva koko uqala ukwenza izinto ezingaqhelekanga kwaye ungene kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Intombi leyo ivula umnyango wegumbi lokuhlambela kwaye ifumanisa ukuba iyaphulula [usisi] ipanty yakhe kwilungu lobudoda ngelixa inuka kwaye incamisa iikawusi ezimdaka. Intombi ayiqinisekanga ukuba ithathe manyathelo mani.
Ukunyaniseka kwesi sithuba, ngelixa sithandabuzekayo, akubalulekanga. Eyona nto iphazamisayo yile nto ithethwa ngabagqabazi. Uninzi lwabo luvakalelwa kukuba kuya kulunga ukuba inkwenkwe ebigcine i-thong kamva kunokuba iye kwigumbi lokuhlambela kwangoko. Ngenye indlela, njengoko umntu esitsho, ndingayiqonda ukuba ibiyimpahla yakho yangaphantsi, kodwa yeyodadewenu?
Ngaba le yinto ehloniphekileyo ngoku, eba iimpahla zangaphantsi ezimdaka zabanye abantu kwaye uzifake epokothweni ukuze ukwazi ukuzithambisa kwilungu lakho langasese emva kwemini? Ukuba kunjalo, ngaba ngandlela thile singenza ukuba oku kungabi yinto? Kuba ayothusi loo nto, bafo. Ngaphandle kwecala lokungena ngasese kunye nokunyaniseka kwayo yonke into, iimpahla zangaphantsi azikho simahla.
