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Njengomntu okhe waqhawula umtshato kwaye uyatshata kwakhona, ndinganikezela ngokuzithemba:

Uthando alwanele. Tshata umntu ozisa okona kulungileyo kwaye uyokuma ecaleni kwakho ngokukuko.

Ubomi buza kwenzeka. Uya kutyhafisa. Uya kulwa. Uyakuthi udibanise iingcango ezimbalwa kwaye uthethe into eyoyikisayo ongayithethi ngokwenyani.

Yiloo nto eyenzekayo xa singabantu. Sineziphene. Ukulindela ukugqibelela, i-rainbows kunye ne-glitter akunangqondo.

Nanini na xa isibini sisixelela, Asisoze silwe, ndiyazi ukuba basengxakini.

Akukho mntu unokubonakala emhle, enekhaya eligqibeleleyo, abantwana abagqibeleleyo, umsebenzi, izihlobo kwaye wonwabe ngalo lonke ixesha. Ndikholelwe, ndizamile.

Uza kulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, ube neengxaki zemali, ushiyeke usapho, ungcwaba isilwanyana sasekhaya, uphulukane neenwele, ube nemibimbi, urhudo, ugabhe, ulibale into enesiporho, ubeke unyawo lwakho emlonyeni, ushiye isitulo phezulu kwaye uphalaze izinto esofeni.

Umtshato usuku olunye, umtshato ubomi bakho bonke.

Ndicwangcisa umtshato ngoku. Ndiyifumene gown yam yomtshato namhlanje. Lixesha elinomdla kakhulu kwaye ingqwalaselo enkulu ingena kwizinto ezifana nelokhwe, abatshakazi, izimemo, amatheko, iintyatyambo, ukutya, umculo, indawo, njl.

Mhla utshata ukhangeleka ungoyena mhle. Kuthatha iiyure zokulungiselela kunye nokucwangcisa ukubonakala zilungile njengoko sisenza ngomhla wethu womtshato, kwaye konke kuphantsi kwentaba ukusuka apho.

Kuyonwabisa kakhulu, kodwa ayibubo ubomi bakho. Ubomi buhamba ubuthongo bakho kwaye uchitha ikofu kwikati. Kwesinye isibini ndiyazi, wakuba umtshato uphelile, kwakungekho nto. Bakuba betshatile, khange bahlalisane kuba khange baphazanyiswe leli theko likhulu. Babengenanto bathetha ngayo.

Ndonwabile kakhulu ukubona abahlobo bam kunye nosapho, ndiphosa eli theko lihle, ndibangumtshakazi (ilokhwe yam iyamangalisa), kodwa ndonwabe kakhulu ukutshata nendoda endiyithandayo. Ndijonge phambili ebomini bethu kunye kwaye siguga kunye, hayi umtshato.

Yilwa ngokufanelekileyo.

Uya kulwa. Ayinakuphepheka.

• Musa ukuzisa ixesha elidlulileyo. Umlo weveki ephelileyo ubuyiveki ephelileyo. Ukuba wayekukhohlisile kwiminyaka emihlanu eyadlulayo kwaye umxolele, akunamkhawulo. Ukuba wophule imug yakho oyithandayo kwinyanga ephelileyo, mayiyeke.
• Ungaze usebenzise amagama ahlala uhleli okanye awusoze. Ngonaphakade. Umzekelo, UHLALA ushiya izitya esinkini kwaye UNGAZE uncede nenja. Zange? Hayi kube kanye? Ngokwenene? Kwaye ukutyhola, ukusebenzisa wena kuhlaselo. Endaweni yoko, zama, ndiyakhathazeka xa izitya ezimdaka zisesinkini kwaye inja ingatyiswanga. Ingandenza ndikhululeke ngakumbi kwaye ndonwabe ngakumbi ukuba ndifumana uncedo kwezi zinto zimbini.
• Musa ukuthetha, mamela. Kuyakhathaza xa uthetha kwaye uyazi ukuba omnye umntu uceba indlela yakhe entloko. Ungaphendula uthini ukuba awumameli?

Awusoze utshintshe okanye ulungise mntu. Ngonaphakade.

Ukuba kukho indlela yokuziphatha efuna ukuguqulwa, kufuneka itshintshwe ngumntu obonisa indlela yokuziphatha. Akukho sihlandlo sokukhalaza, ukucenga okanye ukugrogrisa esiya kwenza ukuba umntu atshintshe.

Ayiloxanduva lwakho ukutshintsha nabani na ngaphandle kwakho. Funda ukujongana nale ndlela yokuziphatha okanye ungoyiki. Okanye ungatshati. Okanye uqhawule umtshato.

Uya kutshintsha kuphela xa evuma ukuyiqonda nokuzilungisa ngokwakhe.

Ningabantu ababini abahlukeneyo kwaye akulindelwanga okanye nifanele nicinge, nenze okanye niziphathe ngendlela efanayo.

Yiba ngumntu wakho. Gcina izinto ozithandayo, umdla kunye nabahlobo. Iqabane lakho kufuneka likuxhase kwaye likukhuthaze oku, ukuba akwenzi njalo, kungekudala uza kuba nenqala, ube nomsindo kwaye ungonwabi. Oku kuhamba ngeendlela zombini. Makhe aye kumqolomba womntu kaPookie ayokubukela umdlalo. Sebenzisa ixesha ukwenza into ofuna ukuyenza. Kuya kufuneka ephindise ukuze ube nexesha lokukhaba i-Jill kwi-tennis okanye ufunde umba wamva nje Eda ucacise kutheni oku kuyimpazamo e Starbucks ngathi ukukhula.

Abantwana baya kutshintsha yonke into nokuba bathembisana kangakanani ukuba abayi kuyenza.

Xa isibini siba kathathu, ubomi buya kutshintsha. Awungekhe ubenomntu omncinci, onukayo, ongxolayo, okhalayo, olambileyo, umntu ojijayo ongasoze akuvumele ukuba ulale kwakhona uhlala endlwini yakho kwaye akukho nto itshintshayo.

Uya kuphikisana malunga nokuba ngubani onomsebenzi wosana kwaye kutheni ungakhange uhlambe iintsuku ezintathu. Inkosikazi yakho iya kuba neemvakalelo, yoyike kwaye isenokuba yinkonzo yobisi ekufowunelwa kuyo okwethutyana. Umyeni wakho uya kubhideka, oyike, abe novalo, abe noxinzelelo kwaye aqale ukunxiba ibhlukhwe kunye neflip ezindala eziya evenkileni.

Oku kuqhelekile. Ubomi buya kutshintsha, kodwa, ekugqibeleni, uya kufumanisa ukuba yintoni esebenzayo kuwe kunye nendlela yokuntywila kwezothando kwakhona.

Kuya kufuneka ufumane imeko yakho entsha njengabazali, hayi nje isibini esitshatileyo.

Ngekhe uphume uye kwiiklabhu ezishushu kakhulu kwiimpahla zoyilo kwakhona, kodwa uya konwaba umntwana amane ancume athi, greebo, ukuba uyokwaneliseka kukuba nohlobo olutsha lwepati olubandakanya uku-odola isiTshayina kwi nth ixesha, ukubukela iiruns ze Abahamba befile kunye nokulala iiyure ezine eziqinileyo.

Ukuba ulwa rhoqo malunga nento ethile, sombulula ingxaki.

Umzekelo, ukuba uphikisana nokucoca indlu, jonga iimali zakho kwaye ufumane indlela yokwenza inkonzo yasekhaya ifike kube kanye okanye kabini ngenyanga.

Ukuba uphikisana ngemali, cwangcisa uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali okanye ufumane umgcini zincwadi. Ukuthintela iqabane lakho ekuchitheni imali ngokufanelekileyo okanye ukulawula iimali akulunganga emtshatweni.

Ukuba ulwa ngokungabi naxesha lakho wedwa ngenxa yabantwana bakho, cwangcisa ixesha eliqhelekileyo kunye neqabane lakho xa enokubukela abantwana iiyure ezimbalwa kwaye ungaya ejimini. Qiniseka ukuba unika elinye iqabane ithuba elifanayo.

Ukuba iseyingxaki, qasha umntu ogcina umntwana okanye ufumane uncedo kumhlobo.

Ishedyuli yothando kunye nesondo.

Oku kuvakala kungathandeki, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha sibaxakeke kakhulu kwaye sinoxinzelelo silibale ukuba shushu kangakanani omnye komnye.

Ukwenza ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu ubusuku bosuku okanye ucwangcise ukuhamba kunye nokubamba izandla kukudibanisa kwakhona. Kumnandi ukuziva ukhethekile kwaye utsalelekile kwiqabane lakho oye wadlula kulo kuphela eholweni endleleni yokucoca abantwana ukugabha okanye ukukhangela iikawusi ezicocekileyo.

Isibini sinokusebenza, ukuba ngumzali kunye nekhalenda yezentlalo inokuba igcwele, kodwa, ukuthatha ixesha lomtshato wakho kunye nothando lomzimba kubalulekile. Kuthatha umsebenzi.

Ezinye izinto akufuneki zabelwane ngazo.

Ndiyamthanda umntu endiza kutshata naye kwaye uyandithanda, kodwa andifuni ukuba andibonise ukuba ingakanani indlebe ye-wax ayicocileyo kwaye andizukumbonisa ukuba ndinga pop njani zit ngesandla esinye.

Uvala ucango lwangasese. Sonke siyayazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, kodwa akukho mfuneko yokuba ndiyibone okanye ndiyinukise. Andizikhuphi amashiya am phambi kwakhe. Andinantloni okanye andinantloni, kodwa kulungile ukuba amashiya am ahlala elungisiwe (ngomlingo).

Oku akukho malunga neentloni okanye ukwenza ngathi sigqibelele okanye ukufihla izinto omnye komnye. Imalunga nokugcina imfihlakalo iqhubeka.

Akadingi ukundibona nditshintsha itampon kwaye andifuni kubona iqhosha lesisu sakhe. Kwakhona, ukuba siyagula okanye senzakele okanye sifuna uncedo ngayo nayiphi na le nto, yahlukile. Bendizosula impundu yomntu endiza kutshata naye ukuba uyandifuna. Okwangoku, ndiza kukhuhla ulusu olufileyo kwiinyawo zam ngasese, enkosi.

Ukutshata kuthetha ukwamkela wonke umntu, iimpazamo zabo kunye nokubi, hayi nje iindawo ezilungileyo.

Ukufumana umntu okhupha eyona nto ibalaseleyo kwaye eme ecaleni kwakho yeyona nto iphambili.

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