Umfazi-hayi umbhali-ngokungaphumeleli ubhiyozela umhla wokuzalwa kwakhe.Unsplash / UMarion Michele Lunini Usuku lakho lokuzalwa? umyeni wam Al kutshanje ubuzile.
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Uqikelele umhla olungileyo (kwitrayi yesibini), emva koko wavuma, andazi unyaka.
Ndicinga ukuba kuthetha ukuba unguye hayi uceba into ekhethekileyo kwiminyaka yam engama-40? Ndibuzile.
Umyeni wam oneminyaka eyi-35 uvale umlomo wakhe. OH THIXO!! wakhala, wangathi uqonda nje ukuba uhleli ecaleni kwesidumbu.
Emva kweyure, ndisabonakala ndothuswa yiminyaka engama-40 ezayo, uAl wandifumana kwigumbi lomntwana wethu waza wathabatha apho wayeyeke khona.
Khange undixelele ukuba le yenzekayo !!
Ngaba bendifanele?
Kucacile ukuba ndinobunzima ngale nto !!
Kucacile.
Awunayo jonga 40 !!
Ubuncinci ndiyifumene.
Kwaye emva koko, Singabaxelela abantu ukuba uneminyaka engama-38? Awufuni ukuba nama-38 kwakhona?!
Njengokuba umyeni wam wayephuma erocker, ndaye ndahlala kwam, ndibambe umntwana wethu oyinkwenkwe ngelixa ndiziva ndihlekisiwe kunokuba ndicaphukile. Ngokuqinisekileyo, izimvo zakhe zazicaphukisa, kodwa yonke le nto yayihlekisa. Okungakumbi ukuya kwinqanaba, bendiqonda ukuba uvela phi. Inyaniso yokuba ndineminyaka engaphezu kwemine ubudala kuye kuye ibisoloko isishiya sobabini kancinci kwaye, ubuncinci esiphelweni sam, ibangele ukungazithembi. Okonyuse umbuzo, akufuneki Mna Ngaba ibiyeyona iphambili yokufaka ibhegi yeLa Mer? Kodwa ke waqhubeka wathi— Kwaye inkwenkwe yaqhubeka! -Kukhona ndaye ndayiqonda indlela endandingothuki ngayo. Ngethuba lokuqala ukusukela oko ndamazi, kwelona xesha lingenakwenzeka, bendinomnqweno wokufihla ubudala bam.
Abasetyhini, ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo, bamkela ama-40. Amadoda nabafazi ngokufanayo babekelwe imeko yokuba bakholelwe ukuba, xa kufikwa kumabhinqa, omncinci ungcono kwaye ama-40 lubisi oluphelelwe lixesha. Mangaphi amadoda atshintshiselana namaqabane abo angasemva kwama-40 ngenguqulo encinci? Bangaphi abantu ababhinqileyo abasebatsha abancinci kakhulu ukuba bangathathelwa ingqalelo ngomzuzu omnye, emva koko bathathwe njengengcali engasebenziyo elandelayo? Ukuba ujonga ngokusondeleyo iinkokheli zemibutho yethu, iifemu zethu zomthetho, ilizwe lethu, uya kubona uninzi lweenwele ezingwevu, kodwa phantse ikakhulu emadodeni. Abasetyhini bajongene nomngcipheko wokwenyani wokuba-bezikhona ngaphambi kokuba sibe nethuba lokuba nantoni na.
Ke, siyasokola ukubonakala simncinci. Ukugcina iminyaka yethu ingacacanga. Mhlawumbi siyaxoka. Kuba ukuba sityhila inyani, abantu banokujonga kufutshane neziphene zethu, okanye mhlawumbi bayakuyeka ukujonga kwaphela. Okubi ngakumbi kukuba, phambi kolu xinzelelo lwangaphandle, asinabubele nakuthi. Rhoqo sibagxeki bethu, siziva singafaneleki kwaye siphelelwe lixesha endaweni yokuba nombulelo ngomnye unyaka kwaye sizingce ngento esiyenzileyo endleleni.
Nangona kunjalo ndandixoxa ngobudala bam esidlangalaleni nomyeni wam omncinci kakhulu, ndaziva ndibhetele kunangaphambili. Ngokuqinisekileyo, mna wajonga bhetele kuma-25, kodwa yintoni endandinayo ngaphandle kweempundu ezintle? Ndichithe iminyaka yam engama-20 ndizama ukufumana amabanga, ndawufumana umsebenzi, ndizingqina kwifemi. Ndichithe iminyaka yam engama-30 ndizama ukufumana inkuthazo, ukufumana ii-byline, ukuhamba ngomtshato, ukuhlawula izindlu nomhlaba, ukufumana umntwana. Ngoku ndikwi-cusp ye-40, kwaye ndiyenzile yonke into. Andinakuthi ekugqibeleni ndibeke iinyawo zam phezu kwesingqengqelo seHardware yokubuyisela endiyibethele ngaphezulu kweminyaka elishumi kwaye ndonwabele umzuzu? Ngaba kuya kufuneka ndichithe iminyaka engama-40 ndisebenza nzima ukuzenza ngathi andinguye ama-40?
Sukundilahlekisa-andinazicwangciso zokunqumla iinwele zam ezinde okanye ndiqale ukuyokuthenga ukuze ndonwabe, kwaye yonke into ndiyenza njengeklasikhi yokubuyisela imichiza kunye nekhrimu yasebusuku eyothusayo. Yi le hayi Umama wam 40. Ndisafuna ukuba yeyona nto ndiyithandayo, yiyo leyo, emva kwayo yonke into, endiyichithe kwiminyaka engama-40 edlulileyo ndizama ukulima Kodwa ingqondo yam imalunga ngokwenene ukuba ngcono, hayi ukuzenzisa ukuba mncinci. Kwiminyaka engama-40 ubudala, ndimdala kakhulu ukuba ndingenza into enye: ukudlala ukudlala ngenkohliso ngesidima sam. Kungenxa yoko le nto ndigqibe kwelokuba i-40 yile intsha ingama-40.
Kwiveki emva koxinzelelo luka-Al, kunye nosuku lwam lokuzalwa oluzayo ekugqibeleni kwi-radar yakhe, besithumela umyalezo malunga nenxalenye yodwa yombhiyozo wam-usuku e-spa, esalon, naphina apho imilenze yam eneminyaka engama-40 ubudala ingandiphatha.
Izinto zencwadi. Yitya izinto. Yonwaba, wabhala. Ujika i-40 kube kanye kuphela.
Ke ngoku:
Ndaye ndahleka-kunzima-kwaye ndishiya ngasemva i-30s yam ngoncumo ebusweni bam obugqunywe yiLa Mer.
