UAmanda Leighton njengoEmma noNowa Centineo njengoYesu Adams Foster.IGilles Mingasson / Ifomathi yasimahla Xa kuziwa kwidrama yosapho, Ukukhuthaza Ukugqithisa kwayo. Ayilusapho lwakho 'oluqhelekileyo,' kodwa yintoni usapho oluqhelekileyo kule mihla?
Ngokwenyani besifuna nje ukubalisa ibali ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokwenza usapho, utshilo uthotho loMvelisi oLawulayo uJoanna Johnson.
Yazalwa ke le ngcelele, umdlalo weyure enye malunga nomxube wosapho olwahlukeneyo lwabantwana abafikisayo nabakhuliswa ngoomama ababini, uStef Adams Foster, ipolisa elizinikeleyo, kunye nenkosikazi yakhe, uLena Adams Foster, isekela lesikolo inqununu. Usapho lwabo luquka unyana ka-Stef's biological kumtshato wangaphambili, uBrandon; amawele abo, uMariana noYesu; kunye nabantakwabo, uJude kunye nodadewabo ka-Callie.
Into eyenzekileyo besikhe safumanisa ukuba kukho abantwana abangaphezu kwama-400,000 kwinkqubo yoononophelo kwaye sabona manani malunga nokuba bangaphi abo bengenamakhaya okanye bavalelwe. Ke sive ukuba ngumcimbi obalulekileyo kwaye sifuna ukubalisa ngamabali osapho olunabantwana abazelweyo, abamkelweyo nabakhulisayo, uyachaza uJohnson.
Uqhubeka evuma ukuba ebengayiqondi into yokuba ukhathalelwe kwaye akacingi ukuba uninzi lwabemi luyayenza nalo. Eli hlabathi, nazo zonke iingxaki zalo neemvakalelo zalo, zibangela ukuba ubalise amabali anomdla kakhulu.
Ngelixa uthotho lwaluthetha ngemicimbi emininzi eshushu, uJohnson uthi injongo yokuqala ye- Ukukhuthaza kwakungazukuba ngumboniso oqondayo ekuhlaleni. Siphonononga imicimbi engundaba-mlonyeni eguquke ngokwasemzimbeni iphuma kolu sapho siyenzileyo ngoomama ababini, abantwana abamkelweyo nabakhulisayo kwaye lusapho lweentlanga ezahlukeneyo ngokunjalo. Sithetha nje ngamabali malunga nale ntsapho kunye nazo zonke izinto ezijongene nazo nje ngokuba yintsapho. Ukuba ngenene siwumboniso oqondayo ngokwasentlalweni, khange sizimisele ukuba njalo, saba nje yile nto.
Kuba indawo ephambili kolu ngcelele sisibini esithandanayo, uJohnson wayesazi ukuba kuyakubakho ukubuyela umva kwezinye izinto, kodwa uthi ayiyitshintshi le nto yokubhala nakancinci. Simane sigxila ekubaliseni ibali. Ukuba abantu bathetha izinto ezingathandekiyo siyayihoya. Sizama ukonwabisa nje, kodwa inxenye yaloo nto kukuvuselela iingcinga kunye nengxoxo. Ukuba senza njalo, ke siwenzile kakuhle umsebenzi wethu.
Njengothotho lwamazwe amaninzi, uJohnson uthi ababhali baqhubeka Ukukhuthaza yazi ukuba ukubhala kulutsha kwahluke kakhulu kunokubhalelwa abantu abadala. Iingqondo zolutsha zihamba ngophuhliso olukhulu kunye nokutshintsha okukhulu kwehomoni. Zonke ezo zinto zibangela ukuba babe neemvakalelo, bangalindeli kwaye bangxami. Uzibhala ngokwahlukileyo kunabantu abadala kuba bahlala bephindaphinda iimpazamo ezifanayo ngenxa yokuba bengafundi izifundo zabo ngendlela yabantu abadala. Kunganzima ukubukela kodwa yiloo nto eyenzekayo kubomi benene.
Njengabantu abadala ababhala malunga nolutsha, uJohnson uthi yena kunye nabasebenzi bakhe bakukhuthalele ukuyilungisa. Senza uphando oluninzi. Sithetha nootitshala, iingcali kwezempilo, ukuthotyelwa komthetho, kwaye sithetha nabantwana abaninzi. Siphanda ngenkuthalo yonke into. Sifuna ukuyifumana ngokuchanekileyo kunye nelizwi elifanelekileyo kunye neethoni. Ilizwi kunye neethoni zibalulekile njengamagama athethwa ngabalinganiswa bethu.
UJohnson uyazi kakuhle ukuba nabalandeli bokwenyani kolu luhlu ngamanye amaxesha banokungavumelani nolwalathiso lomboniso, kodwa oko kuyilo oluthile, utshilo. Ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukuba baphambane-leyo yinxalenye yokubalisa. Ufuna ukuba bakhwaze, ‘kutheni besenza loo nto?’ Oko kubenza batyale imali. Andoyiki ukuba umntu uphambene. Asizitshintshi iindaba zethu zamabali ngokusekwe kwingxelo, iya kuba bubudenge kuba kufuneka ube nembono kwaye ube nokholo kwingxelo oyidibanisayo.
Ngeli xesha lonyaka, uJohnson utyhila, enomxholo acinga ukuba wonke umntu unokunxibelelana nawo. Kuninzi ngentlawulelo. Mhle wonke umlinganiswa ohamba nohlobo oluthile lwenguqu apho azama khona ukuphinda athenjwe ngomnye umntu. Ndicinga ukuba oku kuyenzeka kubantu abaninzi kwaye ungakuqonda ngenene ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubalinganiswa njengoko ubabukele besokola.
Kuluhlu lomnqweno kaJohnson wangoku kukuba abantu abaninzi babukele uthotho. Ndiyazi ukuba uninzi lomxholo phaya ngoku, kodwa umboniso wethu awusuki. Yidrama yosapho, kodwa ayifani nenye owakha wayibona. Ndicinga ukuba umboniso wethu ufanelwe ngabaphulaphuli abakhulu. Ndifuna abantu baqonde ukuba ayisiyomboniso nje wolutsha. Ndicinga ukuba sibhalwa ngale ndlela ukuze abantu bathande ukucinga ngathi kodwa babe zizampula kuwe. Ukuba ufuna ukubukela into entsha, enomdla, evuselela inkanuko kwaye isuka entliziyweni, jonga umboniso wethu.
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