Le yeyakhe nabani na ozama ukuhlakulela umbono oqinisekileyo ngelixesha apho ukungakhathali okungathethekiyo kubonakala ngathi kuya kuvuzwa, kokubini ngokuhoywa kunye nemali.Iipelisi Kubonakala ngathi naphina apho ujonga khona kwezi ntsuku, lonke ikhonkco onqumlayo, zonke iifoto ezithunyelwayo, zonke zisebenza njengezikhumbuzo zokuba awonelanga, kwaye ke, awanelanga . Ukugcina kunye noJones 'akukho nto intsha, kodwa iziphumo zentlalo zale ndlela yobomi zibonakala ngathi ziyaqina kwaye zikhawulezile ukutyhubela amashumi eminyaka, ngakumbi kwimidiya yoluntu. Nali ibali lokuba ndaye ndagxila njani ekuxabiseni ngaphezulu kokuqokelela.
Ngo-2009, ndandilinde iitafile, ndingazibulali ncam ngokwasezimalini, kodwa ngobunye ubusuku ndikhumbula ngokukodwa ukuba isibini sahlala phantsi kwicandelo lam kwaye owasetyhini wafumana iitapile ezibhakiweyo njengengeniso yakhe. Ndacinga ngaphakathi kum Damn, at least I'm not that break. Siyazingca kungekuphela yile nto sinayo, emva koko, kodwa nendlela ethelekiswa ngayo nabanye abantu.
Ngentsasa elandelayo ulwaneliseko lwam lokuphazanyiswa lwaluphazanyiswa xa ndavuka ndifumana umyalezo wombhalo ovela ebhankini yam. Ibhalansi yam ye- $ 0.00 ibisezantsi kunaleyo ndivumile ukuba ndiyakuyigcina apho. Iminyaka yam yokuphila njenge quasi yabantu abadala (kuxa unamatyala kunye noxanduva kodwa usengumntu osisidenge) ebendibambile. Ndiphukile. Ndandinobubi ngakumbi kuneetapile ezibhakiweyo.
Andizukuthengisa ngebali lotshintsho olukhulu okanye indlela endiqonde ngayo ukuba ihlwempu yayintle. Akunjalo. Kodwa lo mzuzu wawutshintsha ubomi kum. Ndizifumene kwiintsuku ezimbalwa kamva kwindawo yokunyathela kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, ngokoqobo nangokomfuziselo, ndiziphinda-phinda kwakhona ndifuna imali. Ndidinga ukwenza imali eninzi, njengangoku. Andizukuyenza apha, ndifuna enye imali. Ndayidinga imali kodwa kwafika kum ke indlela ekukuhlekisa ngayo ukuba bendicinga ukuba imali iza kusombulula konke iingxaki zam. Ukuba ndingonwaba ngesiquphe ukuba ndiphumelele, ukuba ndinokuza necebo lokuziphosa, konke kungalunga. Ngamafutshane, imali isombulula ingxaki enye kuphela; ingxaki yemali. Kwakukho ubuncinci ezinye iisilinda ezi-5 ekwakudingeka ukuba ndizidubule kuzo ukuba ndinqwenela ukuba nobomi obunempumelelo nobonelisayo.
Into endiyenzileyo kukuqala ukubhala izinto phantsi (ezingabizi mali). Ngalo lonke ixesha ingcinga exabisekileyo yavela entlokweni yam, kwaye bendicinga ukuba inokunceda omnye umntu (okanye mna kamva xa ndiyilibele) ndiyibhale phantsi. Ndingatsho ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kwakungekho ngcinga ibenye entlokweni yam engakhange ndiyibhale phantsi kwifowuni yam iminyaka elishumi. Kwaye ndaqala ukubuguqula ubomi bam. Ndabuyela ezinyaweni zam ngokwasemalini, ndatshata umfazi wam amaphupha am, ndikhuphisana nomdlalo wokwakha umzimba, ndaba nabantwana, ndathenga indlu, kwaye yakha ubukho ekuhlaleni apho ndifikelela khona ngaphezulu kwesigidi sabalandeli yonke imihla. Kuyavela ukuba ukuzithemba akuveli ekubeni nemali eninzi. Endaweni yoko, ukukhulisa ukuzithemba okuphezulu kunokukunceda ufumane umvuzo ongaphezulu, kuba uqala ukuziva ungumntu ofanelwe kukhuseleko lwezemali. Ubeka umsebenzi, kutheni ungavuni umvuzo?
Yinjongo yam ngoku ukwaba ezo ngcinga ndikholelwa ukuba zibalulekile kuye nabani na ozama ukuhlakulela umbono oqinisekileyo ngelixesha apho ukungakhathali okubonakala ngathi kuvuzwa, kokubini kunikwa ingqalelo kunye nemali.
1. Sinoyolo isityebi esitsha.
Ukubawa kukuxelela ukuba awusoze wonele nangona sele unezinto ezingaphezulu kunangaphambili. Anditsho ukuba imali imbi, kwaye andinakuma xa abantu besithi imali yingcambu yabo bonke ububi. Imali imnandi ukuba nayo kwaye ubuncinci, ikunika ukhetho oluninzi. Into endiyithethayo nangona ndisithi sonwabile isityebi esitsha kukuba akukho nto ingaphandle kwakho ekufuneka ichonge indlela oziva ngayo ngawe ngaphakathi. Ayililo inani elikwiakhawunti yebhanki, hayi inani kwisikali, hayi inani labalandeli bakho, njlnjl. Ndiyabazi abantu abaninzi abophukileyo abonwabileyo, kwaye ndibazi abantu abaninzi abanemali engaphezulu kunaleyo bebesazi wenzeni ngabo babelusizi. Ndinexesha lobomi bam ndihleka elunxwemeni ngebhotile yamanzi, kodwa ndiyayazi nendoda eyophayo yafa kumgangatho wemabhile kwindlu efudumeleyo yaseNew York emva kokusela ivodka iiveki ezintathu zilungile. Ngokuqinisekileyo imali iyimfuneko, kodwa isiponji sinokugcina kuphela amanzi amaninzi. Emva kwenqaku elithile lokugcwaliswa kwemali, imali eninzi ayilingani nolonwabo ngakumbi. Ukuba ujonga uMaslow's Hierarchy of Needs, ufuna kuphela imali kumqolo ongezantsi.
2. Intshukumo ngaphandle kwengcinga idala umonakalo.
Ukucinga ngaphandle kwesenzo kudala ixhala. Yenza ingcinga kunye nezenzo zamaqabane alinganayo ngelixa usika intetho ngaphandle kwesivumelwano.
Ukuba ujonga ngeenxa zonke, ubona abantu abaninzi bekuxelela into abaza kuyenza, ngelixa bengenzi nto ininzi. Abantu abanayo ingxaki yokukhuthaza. Banokulandela ngengxaki. Kulula ukuba yonke into ifakwe kwingcinga yokwenza into elungileyo ngokwakho, kodwa ukuba awulumkanga, uya kufumana ulwaneliseko oluninzi kwi-dopamine oyifumanayo xa uzixelela ukuba uya ejimini, kwaye awusoze uyenze apho.
3. UThixo akayona ipilisi yeentlungu.
Le yinto endihlala ndiyiva umhlobo wam wakudala uJack esithi ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye abantu bafumana intsingiselo iyabhideka rhoqo. Indlela endiyithathe ngayo yile; UThixo akayona ipilisi yeentlungu, kuba iintlungu zilingana nokukhula, kwaye uThixo akangombulali okhulayo. Zininzi iipilisi zeentlungu apha phandle eziza kunciphisa ukungonwabi okwethutyana, kodwa ukuba nje uthembele kubo ukumelana nentlekele okanye uloyiso, ngekhe ungene ngaphakathi ngokupheleleyo ukufumana iimpendulo, kwaye ngenxa yoko ukukhula, ukhangele . Ukuba usebenzisa i-vices okanye uziphathe ngendlela engenanto ukuze ujongane neengxaki zakho, uya kuzifumana usengxakini enkulu kungekudala. Ndihlala ndicinga ngesityalo esivela kwiRocky Horror Picture show. Iqala konke okuhle ekuqaleni, kodwa njengoko eyondla ngakumbi nangakumbi, iya ikhula ngakumbi nangakumbi, yiyo loo nto kufuneka itye ngakumbi nangakumbi ide iqhube ngokupheleleyo ubomi bayo. Kwenzeka into efanayo xa usondla into engekhoyo. Lambisa indlala, uve iintlungu, ufumane isifundo, kwaye uqhubeke.
4. Musa ukufumana itattoo yokufihla ukugruzuka.
Ndabhala oku emva kokuba umhlobo wam ezibulele. Ndikuvile ukuzibulala ekubhekiswa kuko njengesisombululo esisigxina kwingxaki yethutyana. Into kukuba, xa uxinezelekile ngokwezonyango, ayiziva ngathi yeyethutyana, kwaye kubonakala kuphela kwendlela yokuphuma kwelinye icala. Andibangi ukuba ndinonyango lokuzibulala, kodwa kuye kwathi qatha kum ukuba kuya kuba sisidenge ukufumana umvambo ukufihla umvumbo.
5. Umtshato ayisosiphelo sokukhangela uthando.
Kukuphela kokukhangelwa komntu omthandayo. Ukukhangela iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuthanda loo mntu sele kuqalile.
Abantu abaninzi bawubona umtshato njengesiphelo sobomi obulungileyo, ngokungathi ukudibana nabantu ongabaziyo kwi-intanethi esekwe kwindawo yinto enjalo. Njengaso nasiphi na isihlunu, uthando kufuneka lwakhiwe, kwaye lukhathalelwe. Kudala ukuba abahlobo bakho bakunike ubunzima xa uzama ukushiya iqabane lakho, ngoku bakunika ixesha elinzima ukuba uzama ukuhlala nabo. Kwiminyaka yokulahlwa kwayo yonke into, kunzima nangakumbi ukusebenza kubudlelwane. Ndizama ukungathathi okanye ukunika ingcebiso ngomtshato, kodwa bekukho icebo elinye endilinikiweyo endilinika nabani na oya kumamela, kwaye ayikokohlwaya iqabane lakho. Ukuba iqabane lakho lishiya ikhandlela livutha laza layokulala, ubunokwenza ntoni? Ngaba ubuya kuyiphephetha okanye uye kubavusa ubuze ukuba kutheni bezama ukubulala lonke usapho? Ewe, bendihlala ndisenza le yokugqibela. Vuthela nje.
6. Inkanuko ikwenza uzenze ngathi azikho iingxaki, uthando lukuvumela ukuba wamkele ukuba zikhona.
Inkanuko sesinye sezona ziyobisi zinamandla ehlabathini. Ndibonile abantu abaninzi bepeyinta iiflegi ezibomvu eziluhlaza ngenxa yokwanelisa eyona minqweno yenyama. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, sayilwa ukuba sidlulise imizila yethu yemfuza kwaye sigcine uhlanga loluntu luphile, ngamanye amaxesha sisesichengeni sethu, kodwa andizikhathalelanga iimpawu zam ezilumkisayo zam kwiminyaka yam yokuthandana, kwaye ndibone abanye besenza ngokufanayo. Umfazi wam akangomntu ufezekileyo, kodwa uzama nzima ukuba ngcono yonke imihla, nam ngokunjalo. Uthando lwam ngaye lundivumela ukuba ndamkele iziphene zakhe, ndisazi ukuba uyazazi kwaye uyasebenza kuzo. Ukubonisa iziphoso zakhe kuye amaxesha ngamaxesha kwaye akwenzi kwanto (ngaphandle kokuqala umlo). Wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ngezixhobo anazo. Ukuba ngenene ndifuna ukumnceda, ndingazama ukumnika izixhobo ezitsha.
7. Ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto kukufuna ukugqibelela ungasekho.
Imibuzo emibini endiyibuzwa kakhulu yeyokuba Ndifumana njani imilo? kwaye ndiyakha njani iakhawunti yam ye-Instagram? kwaye impendulo yam ihlala ifana, qala ngoku kwaye ungayeki de waneliseke. Emva koko wonwabele eso sigaba kancinci, kwaye ubuyele emsebenzini. Akukho ndawo inokuthabathela indawo ukungqinelana. Akukho nkqubo unokuyithenga kwaye akukho khilimu unokuyigcoba emzimbeni wakho ukwenza amashumi eminyaka yokungahoywa. Uninzi lwabantu namhlanje lufana nabantwana abahlambayo ngomsindo ngaphambi kwamadokotela wamazinyo, bezama ukwenza iinyanga, okanye iminyaka, yokungahoywa. Qala, ungayeki, emva koko uqhubeke. Ukugqibelela kukwazi ukuba into ayizukulunga ngokwaneleyo ngaphambi kokuba uqalise, kwaye ukuzibekel 'amangomso izinto kukubeka ixesha ukuqala kuba uyazi ukuba ayizolunga ngokwaneleyo. Zombini ziyakhubazeka, kwaye zinokunyangeka zombini ngento enye; isenzo. Fumana. Iyahamba. Ngoku.
UGeorge Resch ngumbhali we Sinoyolo isityebi esitsha (kunye nama-207 amanye amaxesha ebhalbhu) , yeyiphi yincwadi egcwele inkuthazo enkulu yokuluma, ukungeniswa ngaphakathi, kunye nokuhlekisa okufunyanwa kumawaka amanqaku awathathayo ngelixa ebhala malunga nokuhamba kweminyaka eli-10. Ungayithenga apha: Sinoyolo isityebi esitsha kwiAmazon . Unokufumana uGeorge kwi-Instagram (apho achitha ixesha lakhe elininzi kwi-intanethi): @iamfanlalisa
