Izicathulo ezifanelekileyo kufuneka.UKaitlyn Flannagan Ibiyeyona njongo yam ukuba ngaphakathi Umdlali odlalayo , umgca wokuhlahlela kunye nako konke. Ngethamsanqa, amarhe okuba iklabhu entsha ye-Playboy iyavula kwi-NYC kulo nyaka. Hayi indlela ekufaneleke ngayo, ngoku ukuba iMelika isendleleni eya ekubeni yindumasi kwakhona! Emva phayaa xa amadoda ayenyanisile, amadoda nabafazi abanegazi elitshisayo babelungile-kulungile, benencasa kwaye bebahle.
Ekuvukeni kokusweleka kukaHugh Hefner, ndikhubeke kwisincoko sikaGloria Steinem seminal Bonisa Iphephancwadi i-The Bunny Tales, ebhala iintsuku ezili-11 azichithe efihliwe kwiKlabhu yaseNew York Playboy Club, eyapapashwa ngo-1963. kwiziko elaziwayo. Ukuhamba ngomgca ococekileyo, uSteinem wathi inguquko kwezesondo yayizokungaphumeleli ukuba ngamadoda kuphela awayevumelekile ukuyichaza-kuyo yonke inkxaso encomekayo kaHefner yokuthetha ngokukhululekileyo, inguquko kwezesondo, amalungelo oluntu kunye noluntu lwe-LGBT.
Phew , intle into yokuba 'isilumkiso sakhe sama-60s senze ukuba uluntu lutshintshe indlela! Amadoda ngokuqinisekileyo awenzi nzuzo ekuxhatshazweni kwemizimba yabasetyhini kule mihla. Kodwa ekuqwalaseleni le ndlela yomsebenzi, ndineemfuno ezithile-ukuba kwenzeka ukuba ii-Playboy Bunnies zibanjelwe imimiselo nemiqathango yamandulo yengqesho njengoko kuchaziwe kwisincoko sikaSteinem. Sikwixesha langoku, lasemva kohlaziyo; Ndiza kuba ngumvundla, kodwa nantsi indlela umfazi wale mihla awufumana ngayo umsebenzi.
1: Musa ukundinxiba izithende eziphakamileyo. Ndifuna ukunxiba iiteki ngenxa yokuba zintle, zinomtsalane kwaye ikhululekile . Kwaye ukuba amadoda ayazithanda izithende kakhulu, banokuzinxiba iiyure ezininzi ngelixa bebaleka bekhonza amanye amadoda. USteinem wayecelwa ukuba anxibe izithende ezineesentimitha-nantoni na esezantsi yayikukuzenzekelayo. Steinem ubhale wathi, ndingene ngokupheleleyo ezinyaweni. Kungenxa yokuba babebuhlungu. Ziyaqaqamba njengamazinyo kwaye zidumbile andinakukwazi ukufumana iiteki.
2: Izambatho azifanele zisikwe kwilungu lobufazi ukuze ndibeke emngciphekweni wokufumana i-UTI . USteinem ukhumbula iimpahla ezazithintele kakhulu ukuba wayengashukumi kwaye wayenxiba iibhandeji zokugquma amanxeba akhe. Ndabuyela kwigumbi leBunny, ndajika iimpahla zam ndaza ndahlala ndingashukumi ndidiniwe ukuba ndingashukuma. Ukuhlala kuye kwenze ulusu ngokuchanekileyo kulusu lwam kwaye uziphu ushiye ubushushu phezu komqolo wam. Ndikhalaze ngokuxinana kwesinxibo kumvundla ohleli ecaleni kwam, nawo ongashukumiyo. 'Ewe,' utshilo, uninzi lwamantombazana luthi imilenze yawo iba ndindisholo ukusuka edolweni ukuya phezulu. Ndicinga ukuba icinezela kwimithambo-luvo okanye into ethile.
3: Ndidinga ikhefu lokuncuma. Emva kweeyure ezininzi ezinzima zomntu okholisayo, iimbombo zomlomo wam zifumana, kakuhle, zidiniwe kwaye andinakukugcina. Imivundla kufuneka ihlale ibonakala isisitabane kwaye ichwayitile (‘… cinga ngento eyonwabisayo okanye ehlekisayo… eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yorhwebo lwakho bubuntu’) nangona kukho konke ukuxhalaba, kubandakanya nenkqubo yedemerit.
4: Kwenzeka ntoni kwinkqubo yedemerit? Kutheni uqhuba inkampani ngoloyiko nokohlwaya? Ndacinga ukuba inguquko yesondo imalunga nothando nenkululeko? Ndiyathetha, ngenxa yokuba umsila ka-Steinem otyhafileyo wawunamabala ekubambeni komntu onamafutha, oko bekungafanelekanga yena ingxaki. (I-FYI, imisila emdaka yayisisenzo esiqhelekileyo, ukwehla kwentlawulo.) Kodwa kwiindaba ezimnandi, ubuncinci akazange ayibambe ngepisi!
5: Hlaziya imigangatho yakho yobuhle. USteinem ukhumbule intombazana encinci eneglasi eziluhlaza kunye nemilenze etyebileyo Umdlali odlalayo kuvavanyo lwe-bunny olwadlula ngenkohlakalo. Kwaye ngoku, wayesenethemba. ‘Andinayo ifowuni,’ iiglasi eziluhlaza zatsho kalusizi, ‘Ngaba kulungile ukuba ndikunika ifowuni katatomncinci? Uhlala eBrooklyn, naye. '' Uyayenza loo nto sithandwa, 'utshilo uMiss Shay… ..' Ndifuna ukuba yibhaskithi kakhulu, utshilo iiglasi zeblue, 'ndiyifunde kumagazini esikolweni.'…. 'Utat'omncinci akekho ekhaya imini yonke,' yatsho le ntombazana, 'kodwa ndiza kuya endlini yakhe ndihlale emnxebeni.' Uyenza loo nto, sithandwa, watsho uMiss Shay… .. 'Ndingabiza utshilo iiglasi eziluhlaza. ‘Ungayenzi loo nto, sithandwa,’ utshilo uNkosazana Shay, ‘ siza bize wena.'
6: Andiyonto yorhwebo, kwaye andinakubuyiselwa. Njengokuba uSteinem ebalisa ibali eliyimvelaphi yomlinganiswa wakhe, uMaria Ochs, waxwayiswa, Asithandi ukuba amantombazana ethu abenemvelaphi…. Sifuna nje ukuba ulingane nomfanekiso we-bunny. Kwaye xa iqela leemvundla zazama ukulungiselela ukuhlawulwa okungcono (yayincinci kunentengiso), zahlangatyezwa ngokungahoywa okufanayo. Ngelinye ixesha sihlangene sonke saza sathi siyayeka ukuba abasihlawulanga ngaphezulu, kodwa bathi, qhubeka ngqo, baya kuqesha nje amantombazana amaninzi… Awungekhe uphumelele. Yayifunxa, kodwa yiya, Umdlali odlalayo hamba!
7: andizukuhambelana neresiphi yakho efanelekileyo yebhanny. USteinem wafumana inkcazo kwibhodi yeendaba. Umvundla… njengomfana odlala naye, yintombazana ekufutshane. U-… mhle, unqweneleka, kwaye ungumntu olungileyo othanda ulonwabo…. Siza kwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukukunceda ukuba ube-yiBunny-ube yeyona ntombazana inomona eMelika, esebenza kwezona ndawo zinomdla nezikhazimlayo emhlabeni. Ngenxa yokuba onke amaphupha amantombazana aseMelika, ukuba ngumvundla onomdla! Apha, bunny, bunny, bunny! Yonke intombazana ibuhlungu kukunxiba iindlebe ezomileyo, ukugcoba ubuso kunye nokwenza isifuba sayo kunye neKleenex, iingxowa zeplastikhi ezomileyo zokucoca, umqhaphu wokufunxa, umsila weBunny osikiweyo, irabha yegwebu, uboya begusha, iihafu zeKotex, izikhafu zesilika kunye iikawusi umthambo. Yonke into? Ngaba umvuzo omncinci kunye nendoda ebambekayo, ii-martinis ezine ngaphakathi, uphefumla ezantsi kwentamo yakhe? Kwaye xa uSteinem ebuyisa umva ekhwankqisiwe (abathengi babengavumelekanga ukuba bachukumise imivundla) indoda eyayilwa yathi, Ucinga ukuba ndizele ntoni apha, inyama egcadiweyo?
8: Kwanele ngemithetho elawula abasetyhini kunye nemizimba yabo. ( Umthetho 1) Nangona iiBunnies zazingavumelekanga ukuba zithandane nabaxhasi, bakhuthazwa ukuba babenabanini beNombolo yokuPhambili (i-Playboy Execs, iintatheli kunye neeVIP). Omnye umvimbi wagxothwa xa wayexelela i-Number One Key ukuba iye kuye. Yhu! (Umgaqo 2) Oo-Bunnies babemenyiwe kumatheko amakhulu e-wig kodwa babenokuzimasa kuphela xa bebodwa (Umgaqo 3) Imivundla yayingavumelekanga ukuba ibandakanyeke kubunongogo, kodwa nangona kunjalo, yayimiselwe ukusilela. U-Hefner waqesha amadoda afihlakeleyo ukuba axhase imali ukuze abanjiswe. Ugxothiwe! usolusapho uthi, njengoko egcina inqanawa yakhe iqinile. Kodwa ukuba, apha i-bunny, i-bunny, i-bunny idlala ngemithetho yakhe, ilizwe lakhe liya konwaba, lihlale limnandi kwaye lihlala linomdla. Ngaba ndim ndedwa, okanye ngaba oku kuvakala ngathi yiStockholm Syndrome? Uyazi, apho ixhoba liziva likhuselwe kwaye libopha kunye nomcinezeli walo?
9: Ungacingi ukuba ungaya kuzo zonke izicakakazi Tale kum. Iibunny zanyanzelwa ukuba zibone ugqirha we-Playboy obandakanya i-pelvic, uvavanyo lwangaphakathi. Ugqirha, igorha, indoda enama-60 enesikhumba esipinki esimhlophe sosana [ithe], ‘Ke uzakuba yinyani… Ndisandul 'ukubuya ndisuka eMiami. Iklabhu entle ezantsi phaya. IiBunnies ezintle. USteinem akazange akwazi ukuzinceda kwaye wamxelela ukuba ukuvavanywa kwezifo ze-venereal kubonakala kuyothusa. Wayengafuni ukufakwa kuyo. 'Ukhathalele ntoni', utshilo, 'simahla kwaye ilungele wonke umntu ... Sihlala sifumana ukuba amantombazana aphikisana nayo ngamandla anezizathu ezithile. ’Ewe, uthini ngesi sizathu, impundu, andifuni ukuba nonke nibe kwindawo yam yokuthambisa!
10: Umthetho wam weshumi ngowakho, Hugh. Okanye mhlawumbi kungaphezulu kokuncoma. Ndiyakuncoma ngokuma komhlaba ukuba bonke abantu basetyhini, ngokwenene, badalwe belingana. Omnye bunny wavuma. Ungumnumzana wokwenene. Akuphathe ngokufanayo nokuba ubulele naye okanye.
Ngethamsanqa, njengoko abasetyhini bengasadibani nesini uGloria Steinem wanyamezelwa kwiiNdaba zeBunny, olu hlaziyo lincinci kumgaqo-nkqubo akufuneki lube yingxaki. Ayikho into efana nokungalingani ngokwesini kwakhona! Ndiyabulela uthixokazi ngeli hlabathi lihle kangaka litshintshele ekubeni ngcono kwaye uHillary Clinton nguMongameli.
Kwaye ngoku, Umdlali odlalayo , njani malunga nomsebenzi?
UJasmine Lobe ngumbhali, umdlali weqonga, umfuziselo, owayesakuba ngumtyibilizi, New Yorker, J Spot umlobi we-NY Braganca. Mlandele ku-twitter: @jasminelobe
