Nokuba wenza ntoni: Zenze ube luncedo.UDariyo Foroux
Ndingumntu wokugqibela ukuthi ubomi bulula. Andiqondi ukuba kunjalo kwaphela. Kodwa inye into endiyifundileyo kwiminyaka yakutshanje etshintshe yonke into.
Indlela ocinga ngayo imisela isiphumo sobomi bakho. Kodwa ukucinga kunzima. Kungenxa yoko le nto singakwenzi rhoqo ngokwaneleyo. UHelen Keller uthe kungcono:
Abantu abakuthandi ukucinga, ukuba umntu ucinga, kufuneka afikelele kwizigqibo. Izigqibo azihlali zimnandi.
Ndiza kukubonisa iingcinga ezili-15 ngobomi eziya kuguqula ngonaphakade indlela ophila ngayo. Ulungele? Masihambe.
1: Cinga kakhulu, yenza kancinci
Ngaba ufuna ukwakha inkampani enkulu? Guqula ubomi babantu? Yenza igalelo kwihlabathi? Ufumana isigidi seerandi?
Ungaze uvumele nantoni na ikuthintele xa ucinga ngezimvo.
- Kunzima kakhulu.
- Abanye abantu sele beyenza.
Ke ngoku? Unokujolisa phezulu. Awunanto ilahlekileyo. Qinisekisa ukuba wenza into encinci. Faka umsebenzi kwaye uhlale usebenza. Into oyifunayo kukuphumelela okukhulu. Kodwa xa ujonge ezantsi, iziphumo zihlala ziphantsi.
2: Iingxaki yimibuzo engaphendulwanga
Andisifumani isizathu sokuba abantu baphazamiseke xa behlangabezana nengxaki. Le yeyona nto imbi kakhulu! Ngalo lonke ixesha ufumana uxinzelelo kwingxaki, usonakalisa ubomi bakho. Akuyomfuneko kwaphela ukuba ukhe uphume.
Khumbula oku: Ingxaki ayisiyonto ngaphandle kombuzo ongaphendulwanga. Ngoko hlala uzolile. Fumana impendulo.
3: Yakha ubudlelwane kwisiseko esomeleleyo
Nazi izizathu ezingalunganga zokuba kubudlelwane: Imali, uloyiko lokuba wedwa, ukuxhatshazwa, ukufuna ingqalelo. Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buyasondela, kwaye uzame ukubuphucula amaxesha amaninzi, lixesha lokuba uqhubeke.
Uthando alunachaseneyo. Xa uthanda umntu, awunakumthiya ngaxeshanye. Isiseko salo lonke ubudlelwane kufuneka sisekwe: Uthando, intlonipho, inkxaso, ukuthembana, umonde, inkampani elungileyo, ukuhleka, usizi, kunye nenkxaso engakumbi.
4: Akukho nto ebomini isimahla
Nokuba uyijikelezisa njani, uhlala uhlawula into ngemali, ixesha (eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu onayo), okanye ezinye izixhobo.
Ubomi lishishini. Kwaye oosomashishini abakhaliphileyo bachitha izixhobo zabo ngobulumko. Njani? Kubalwa. Ungaze uchithe izixhobo (ngakumbi ixesha).
5: Ungaze woyike ukwenza izigqibo
Usenokucinga ukuba akukho sigqibo konke konke esinokukwenzakalisa, kodwa uyaphazama. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu malunga nokwenza izigqibo kuxa ungatsali i-trigger.
Ukulinda, ukuhlehlisa, ukuthandabuza, ukuphanda kakhulu - ayiloncedo konke oko. Hlanganisa isenzo sakho, kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuqina nanini na xa kufuneka usenzile. Kwaye xa uthathe isigqibo esingalunganga, xolisa, kwaye wenze esinye isigqibo.
6: Thatha isigqibo sokuba yinkokeli namhlanje
Ngamanye amaxesha uyinkokeli, ngamanye amaxesha ungumlandeli. Unokuba yinkokeli emsebenzini, kwaye umlandeli ekhaya. Akukho nto igwenxa kuloo nto. Kwaye ukuba yinkokeli akunanto yakwenza nesihloko sakho.
Uyakwazo oko ngu gwenxa? Xa wonke umntu ejonge omnye komnye kuba akukho mntu ufuna ukuthatha uxanduva. Thatha isigqibo sokuba uya kuthatha uxanduva. Apho uya khona: Uyinkokeli ngoku.
7: Ukuvelisa iziphumo
Inye kuphela into ekuncedayo ukuba ushiye nantoni na uye kwinto: Umsebenzi. Andikhathali nokuba usebenza ngobuhlakani kangakanani, kusafuneka ubeke umsebenzi.
Qinisekisa ukuba uxabise ukusebenza kwayo yonke into . Iziphumo zibalulekile. Yenza izinto kwaye uqhubele phambili kwinto elandelayo.
8: Zibone njengomthengisi
Wonke umntu ungumthengisi. Xa uthandana, uyazithengisa. Kuyafana xa ufaka isicelo somsebenzi.
Xa uthengisa, yenza ngokucacileyo, ukuthembeka, kwaye ukuya kwinqanaba. Musa ukuchitha ixesha lakho kubantu abangakuthandiyo. Ukuthengisa akukho malunga nokuba bangaphi abantu abangafuni wena okanye imveliso yakho. Imalunga nokufumana abantu abathi yenza .
9: Ukuba ufuna ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho, phucula izakhono zakho
Ukuba awukholelwa kuwe, ungazami ukuyikhangela kwizithuba ezikhuthazayo, kwiintetho, okanye ezincwadini.
Uphucula kuphela ukuzithemba kwakho ngokulunga kwinto ethile. Uphumelela njani? Ngokufunda, ukwenza, ukubona iziphumo, nokuphinda le nkqubo iminyaka. Ukuzithemba kwakho kuya kukhula kancinci yonke imihla.
10: Xabisa abahlobo bakho
Sizizilwanyana zasentlalweni. Xa sisodwa, sifa msinyane. Unokucinga ukuba awudingi bahlobo, kodwa uyayenza. Ke yibani nobubele omnye komnye. Kwaye hlonipha ukuba abahlobo bakho banobomi bobabo.
Ngokukodwa xa ukhula, kwaye unoxanduva ngakumbi (kunye nexesha elincinci). Izinto ziyatshintsha. Abantu bayatshintsha. Kodwa uqhagamshelo luhlala.
11: Musa ukukholelwa yonke into oyibonayo
Siphila ngokujonga kum! Ndijonge! umhlaba. Wonke umntu ufuna ukuba nodumo kwaye benza yonke into ukugcina ukubonakala.
Musa ukukholelwa onke amabali empumelelo owabona kuyo yonke indawo. I-YouTubers, iimodeli ze-Instagram, oosomashishini abazizigidi: Babonakala begqibelele. Kodwa ubona kuphela ngaphandle. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumgxeki. Musa ukuthatha ukubonakala kweenyani.
12: Funda ukuthanda ukugxekwa
Xa umntu ethatha ixesha lokukugxeka, kuya kufuneka ubulele. Ngoba? Ngamafutha kuwe.
Ungasebenzisa ukugxeka ukuphucula wena, imveliso yakho, okanye inkonzo yakho. Okanye, ukuba ukugxekwa akukho ngqiqweni, kunokukwenza ube nomsindo, ekwayinto elungileyo. Olu hlobo lomsindo luluncedo. Ndizakubabonisa!
Ungaze ube yi-wimp. Thatha ukugxekwa njengentshatsheli.
13: Ukuba awukwazi ukukhathalela umzimba wakho, awunakukhathalela nantoni na
Nokuba uyathanda okanye awuthandi, awuyilawuli ngokupheleleyo impilo yakho. Ungayiphembelela ngokutya impilo, ukuzilolonga, kwaye ungasebenzisi umzimba wakho njengendlu yangasese.
Vuka nje kwi-esile lakho uhambe, wena mvila ndini. Kwaye andithethi ngokuyigcina iintsuku ezimbalwa. Hayi, yenze yonke imihla yobomi bakho obunempilo. Kuba ukuba awukwazi ukwenza lonto, yintoni unako wenza? Yibone njengokuziqhelanisa namaxesha anzima obomi kuba womelele, kokukhona ungcono.
14: Ulonwabo lukhetho
Ulawula iingcinga zakho. Oko kuthetha ukuba uthatha isigqibo malunga nento oyenzayo ngobomi bakho. Ukuba awonelisekanga, unomsindo, okanye ukhathazekile, yiyo yonke loo nto.
Ndihlala ndicinga: andinakuze ndonwabe. Ndidinga ukuba sisityebi, ndibenemoto yodidi, kwaye ndithenge indlu enkulu.
Kodwa bendicinga konke okungalunganga. Unokonwaba ngobomi bakho bangoku. Konke okudingayo sisigqibo. Kwaye xa kuphucuka, uya kuhlala wonwabile.
15: Yenza into
Xa usenza into (ayinamsebenzi nokuba yintoni), wenza into esebenzayo. Usombulula ingxaki okanye wonwabise abantu.
Endaweni yokusebenzisa ulwazi oluninzi, iimveliso, kunye nokuzonwabisa okuvela kwabanye, chitha iqhezu lelo xesha ekwenzeni into ngokwakho. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze into ngokwakho, ungayenza nabanye.
Nokuba wenza ntoni: Zenze ube luncedo.
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