Ndazithembisa ukuba ndiza kupompa le drafti ngaphambi kokuba ndizenzele isandwich. Inike le yure enye intsingiselo eyongezelelweyo.Iipelisi Uyawazi umbuzo. Ngowona mbuzo wokugqibela. Umbuzo wokuba mna nawe kunye nomntu wonke siye salala ebusuku sicinga ngawo. Umbuzo ozisa iindawo ezilinganayo ziyamangalisa kwaye woyike kwiingqondo zethu ezibuthathaka. Kutheni silapha? Iyintoni ingongoma yako konke? Yintoni injongo yobomi?
Ewe, ngethamsanqa, ndiyifumene ngelixa bendisejimini ngale ntsasa. Ndiqinisekile ukuba yisandwich ham. Kwaye, anditsho njalo kuba ndilambile. Kukho inkcazo apha. Ndizakuyicacisa, ndicofe izihloko zebait kwaye zonke, kuyo, oh, kwimizuzu esibhozo elandelayo okanye njalo.
Okokuqala, ngaphambi kokuba sibuze ngokufanelekileyo Iyintoni intsingiselo yobomi? Kufuneka siqale silungise into efihlakeleyo kunye nenye into ebaluleke ngakumbi. Ngokufanelekileyo, yintoni intsingiselo ?
ITHETHA UKUTHINI? (KUNYE NEMINYE IMIBUZO EKWENZA UFUNA UKUGQIBELA UMNTU EBUSWENI)
Yintoni intsingiselo? Oko kunokukubetha njengenkaba eyoyikisayo kunye nefilosofi ephezulu. Kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ndiyakumema ukuba ucinge nge ham sandwiches okomzuzwana, kwaye unamathele nje kum umzuzu. Kuba kubalulekile.
Ithetha ntoni into kwinto kuthetha into ethile? Njengabantu, kufuneka ukuba sihlale siqhoboshela intsingiselo kuyo yonke into eyenzekayo ebomini bethu. 
Jonga umntu uye wakhwela iliwa efuna intsingiselo!Iipelisi
Umama uyandiwola, kufuneka kuthetha ukuba uyandithanda. Umphathi wam wandincoma, kufuneka kuthetha Ndenza umsebenzi olungileyo. Kuzoba kushushu ngomso, kumele kuthetha Ndinganxiba itanki yam ephezulu yespongeBob ukuya esikolweni.
Intsingiselo ngumbutho esiwudonsayo phakathi kwamava amabini okanye izehlo ezingqondweni zethu. X iyenzeka, emva koko Y yenzeka, ke siyayicinga loo nto kuthetha I-X ibangela uY. Z ukuba yenzeke, kwaye siyaphuma kwaye sizive sibi, ke ngoko sicinga ukuba uZ uyanya.
Iingqondo zethu ziyila zithetha indlela ezenziwa zizinja ngayo - ziyayenza imnandi kwaye aziqondi nokuba ziyayonakalisa ikhaphethi. Iingqondo zethu ziyila intsingiselo njengendlela yokuchaza zonke I-crazy shit eyenzekayo kwihlabathi Ukusijikeleza. Oku kubalulekile, kuba kusinceda siqikelele kwaye silawule ubomi bethu.
Kodwa masibe yinyani: intsingiselo kukwakha ngengqondo okungahambelaniyo. Abantu abangama-50 banokubukela isiganeko esinye kwaye bazobe iintsingiselo ezingamashumi amahlanu ezahlukeneyo ukusuka kweso siganeko. Yiyo loo nto kukho okuninzi bexoxa ngezopolitiko . Yiyo loo nto amangqina okuzibonela engathembekanga enkundleni. Yiyo loo nto abahlobo bakho ngamanye amaxesha ezona mpundu zinkulu -Ngokuba loo ntsingiselo wabelana ngayo, kubo, yayithetha into eyahluke mpela.
Ubuchopho bethu buqhwaba kunye iintlobo ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zentsingiselo:
1. Isizathu / Iziphumo zeNtsingiselo : Uyayikhaba ibhola, ibhola ihamba. Uxelela umhlobo wakho ukuba iinwele zakhe zimbi, umhlobo wakho uyakuqhwaba ebusweni. Wenza u-X, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo unokuthenjwa, u-Y uya kuba neziphumo.
Sonke sifuna Unobangela / isiphumo sentsingiselo ukuze siphile. Isinceda siqikelele ikamva kwaye sifunde kwixa elidlulileyo. Isizathu / Iziphumo zentsingiselo ikakhulu zibandakanya iinxalenye ezifanelekileyo zengqondo yethu. Inzululwazi, umzekelo, kukukhangela okungapheliyo kwesizathu / nesiphumo sentsingiselo.
2. Intsingiselo engcono / embi Ukutya kulunge ngakumbi kunendlala. Ukwenza imali kungcono kunokuqhekeka. Ukwabelana kungcono kunokuba. Intsingiselo engcono / embi kakhulu inento yokwenza nohlobo lwexabiso lethu- into esiyibona ibaluleke kakhulu kwaye iluncedo kubomi bethu.
Intsingiselo engcono / embi kakhulu ixhomekeke ikakhulu kumalungu eemvakalelo zethu. Ngokubanzi yintoni kusenza sizive simnandi yinto esicinga ukuba ilungile okanye ingcono.
Zombini ezi ntlobo zentsingiselo zavela kubuchopho bethu ukusinceda siphile. Ngamawakawaka eminyaka, abantu kwakufuneka bakhumbule apho ukutya okuthile kungafunyanwa khona, indlela ezahluka-hlukeneyo izilwanyana ezaziza kusabela ngayo xa zizingelwa, indlela imozulu etshintsha ngayo nendlela yokufunda umhlaba. Baye bafuna ukwazi ukuba yintoni eza kubenza bamkelwe phakathi kwesizwe sabo, yintoni enokuthi inyanzele ukuthandwa ngabahlobo kwaye bafumane ukuvunywa kuloo mntu u-sexy / gal kwilaphu elijikelezayo ngaphaya.
Ke ngaloo ndlela, intsingiselo yeyendalo Isixhobo sokukhuthaza . Yindlela indaleko eqiniseke ngayo ukuba siyenziwa. Intsingiselo iqhuba zonke izenzo zethu. Xa kukho intsingiselo enkulu eqhotyoshelwe kwinto ethile, njengomntwana wethu uyagula kwaye ulambile, siya kuya kubude bobuyatha ukuze senze izinto zilunge. Abantu bahlala behamba bade bancame ubomi babo ngenxa yentsingiselo ebalulekileyo (bona: inkolo , yonke imfazwe). Intsingiselo yile lonto esebenzayo ekuhambiseni abantu.
Kwelinye icala, xa siziva siswele intsingiselo kubomi bethu, xa ikaka ingabonakali ngathi ayinamsebenzi, xa kungacacanga ukuba zenzeka njani okanye kutheni izinto zisenzeka kuthi, thina sukwenzanto . Sihlala esofeni kwaye sijiwuza izithupha zethu kwaye sijonge iziqhwala eziziphindayo ngelixa ukukhalaza kwi-intanethi malunga nokuqhwala okuqhwalelayo.
Kodwa nantsi umkhabi (kwaye ndiyafunga ukuba ndizakufika kwisandwich): intsingiselo sisixhobo esimele ukusilima ebomini bethu.
Intsingiselo ayisiyonto ikhona ngaphandle kwethu. Ayisiyonyani yendalo iphela elindele ukufunyanwa. Ayingomzuzu ‘we-eureka’ ozukileyo oza kuguqula ubomi bethu ngonaphakade.
Intsingiselo ifuna isenzo. Intsingiselo yinto ekufuneka sisoloko siyifumana kwaye siyondla. Ngokuhambelana.
Intsingiselo ifana namanzi ezempilo yethu yengqondo. Ngaphandle kwayo, iintliziyo neengqondo zethu ziya kufiphala size sife. Kwaye njengamanzi, intsingiselo ihamba ngathi-into ebalulekileyo namhlanje ayisiyiyo eyayibalulekile kwiminyaka eyadlulayo; kwaye into ebalulekileyo ngomso ayizukufana naleyo ibalulekileyo namhlanje. Intsingiselo kufuneka ifunwe kwaye igcwaliswe rhoqo.
Ngokwenyani yokwenyani, intsingiselo yobomi ke kukudala intsingiselo.
Ke umntu uyenza njani intsingiselo? Iindlela ezimbini:
1. Sombulula iingxaki . Eyona ngxaki inkulu, kokukhona uya kuziva unentsingiselo. Umsebenzi omninzi owenzayo kule ngxaki, kokukhona uya kuziva unentsingiselo. Ukusombulula iingxaki ngokusisiseko kuthetha ukufumana iindlela zokwenza umhlaba ube yindawo engcono kancinci. Ngaba kunokuba lula ukulungisa indlu egugileyo kamama wakho ogugileyo. Okanye intsonkothe njengokusebenza kwimpumelelo enkulu kwi-physics.
Inqaku apha alifanelanga kukhethwa. Kulula, xa siqala ukucinga ngendlela esingabalulekanga ngayo kwisikali sendalo iphela, ukuqala ukucinga ukuba akukho sizathu sokwenza nantoni na ngaphandle kokuba siza kusindisa umhlaba okanye into. Oku kukuphazamiseka nje. Kukho iitoni ezincinci, iingxaki zemihla ngemihla eziqhubeka ngakuwe ezifuna ingqalelo yakho. Qalisa ukunika.
2. Nceda Abanye . Le yeyona biggie. Njengabantu, sinentambo yokuphumelela kulwalamano lwethu. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba impilo-ntle yethu iyonke ibotshelelwe ngokunzulu kumgangatho wobudlelwane bethu, kwaye eyona ndlela yokwakha ubudlelwane obunempilo kukunceda abanye. Ngapha koko, ezinye izifundo ziye zafumanisa ukuba ukunika izinto kude kusenza sonwabe ngakumbi kunokunika izinto kuthi. Yiya kubalo.
Kananjalo, kubonakala ngathi kukuqhekeka kwiingqondo zethu ukunceda abanye abantu kusinika ukuqonda okukhulu kwentsingiselo kunye nenjongo. Inye nje into onokuyithetha ngokwakho, Ukuba ndithe ndafa, ke umntu ubhetele kuba bendiphila, kudala loo mqondo wentsingiselo onokukuqhubela phambili.
UMGIBE WOKUZIBEKA IINJONGO
Abantu abaninzi bafumana intsingiselo ngayo ukumisela iinjongo ngokwabo. Bafuna i-ofisi yekona, imoto enkulu, izihlangu zebhulukhwe ezintle. Inika isizathu sokuvuka kusasa, isizathu sokugqobhoza iesile emsebenzini. Inika into ebenza bazive bebalulekile kwaye bajonge phambili kuyo yonke imihla.
Kodwa iinjongo ziyikrele elintlangothi-mbini. Kufuneka ulumke.
Iinjongo zizixhobo ezifanelekileyo inkuthazo yokwakha . Ingxaki kukuba, iyodwa, ayinangqondo kwaye ayinanto.
Ngaphandle kokuba kukho ngoba emva kwenjongo egcwele intsingiselo, injongo ngokwayo iya kubonelela ngolonwabo lwexesha elide okanye ukoneliseka.
Ngaba wakha wazibona iimbaleki eziqaqambileyo emva kokuthatha umhlala-phantsi? Okanye umntu ogqiba wenza izigidi zakhe ziba lusizi ngokunzulu kuba engazi enye into wenze ngobomi bakhe ?
Iinjongo ziyingozi kuba intsingiselo abayinikezelayo xa usebenza kubo yintsingiselo ethathiweyo wakube uzifezekisile.
Kungenxa yoko le nto zonke izinto ezingaphezulu Njengokwenza iibhiliyoni zeedola, okanye ube neRoll Royce, okanye ubuso bakho butywinwe kwiphepha elingaphandle lemagazini konke kukhokelela kuhlobo lokonwaba olunzulu kunye nobomi obufutshane- kuba intsingiselo ayinzulu kwaye ihlala ixesha elifutshane.
Kuya kufuneka kubekho isizathu esinzulu seenjongo zakho. Ngaphandle koko, iinjongo ngokwazo ziya kuba zingenanto kwaye zingenaxabiso ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Qaphela ukuba ziimbaleki ezinqwenela ukuba ziintshatsheli kwimidlalo yazo ngesizathu esithile esikhulu - ukwakha isisa, ukuqala ishishini, ukutshintshela komnye umsebenzi-abaphethe umhlala-phantsi ngokugqwesileyo. Qaphela ukuba ngoosozigidigidi abachitha ubomi babo besebenzela kwisizathu esinzulu esihlala sinomxholo nje ukuba zonke iinjongo zabo zihloliwe kuluhlu lokutshekisha.
Kodwa ezinye iinjongo akufuneki nokuba zibe nkulu kwaye zibe nomtsalane.
Thatha isandwich ham. Ndihleli phantsi ndibhala eli nqaku ndilambile. Leyo yingxaki ebomini bam. Kwaye ndathembisa ngokwam ukuba ndiza kupompa le drafti ngaphambi kokuba ndiye ndizenzele isandwich. Inike le yure enye intsingiselo eyongezelelweyo.
Kwaye uyazi ntoni? Mhlawumbi umfazi wam ulambile kwaye ndingamenza naye. Uyazi, yenza umhlaba ube yindawo engcono kunye nayo yonke into ebambekayo ngelixa ndilapho.
Ke yintoni intsingiselo yobomi? Ewe, kum, ngoku, yisandwich ham. Iyintoni eyakho?
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