Loluphi uhlobo loqhagamshelo lomphefumlo olungeleyo?Unsplash / Mayur Gala Uluntu lwethu luqhubela phambili nembono ethandwe kakhulu yothando. Sifuna ukufumana iqabane elenza intliziyo yethu icule, elenza ukuba sibile sibile, sicinge ngokungapheliyo, ngubani esiba nomdla wokutshata, kwaye siphupha ngokuba nosapho kunye. Inye kuphela ingxaki kuyo yonke le nto: Uchulumanco, ukuphupha, uqhagamshelo olunamandla, isini esivusa ingqondo, ukutyeba, njl. ubudlelwane bokwenene . Isoloko isifundo.
Kuthathe iminyaka emininzi ukuyibona le nto. Lonke ulwalamano endakha ndalufumana luqala ngomtsalane obonakalayo womzimba olandelwa yikhemistri engenakuphikwa ekwenza ufune ukunyibilika emzimbeni omnye nomnye ngonaphakade. Ikhawuleza ikhule ibe yintabatheko enzulu. Ihlabathi libonakala ngathi liyanyamalala ngelixa nisongelwe ezingalweni zomnye nomnye.
Kwenzeka into engenakuphepheka: Intabatheko ikhokelela kukungazithembi, umona, isimilo esilawulayo, umdlalo weqonga kunye nesiphithiphithi ngokweemvakalelo kuba uqala ukuqonda ukuba loo mntu ngumntu wakhe kwaye awulawulwa nguwe. Kuya kubakho ukuphakama okuphezulu kunye nezantsi. Uya kuthanda kwaye ulwe ngenzondelelo. Uloyiko lwakho lokuphulukana nonxibelelwano olunxilisayo lwenza ukuba wenze izinto ongazange wacinga ukuba ungazenza. Ubunzulu buba bukhulu kakhulu: Ukulwa, ukungaqondani, ukunxibelelana, umsindo kunye noloyiko kubangela ukungabikho kongenakucimeka kubudlelwane kunye nokuqhekeka okulandelayo. Ke ukungcungcutheka kwimidiya yoluntu kuthabatha indawo kwaye ukungaziphathi kakuhle kuthatha inqanaba elitsha. Uzibona ukhathele ngokwasemoyeni nasemphefumlweni kodwa uthandana nalo mntu kangangokuba awunakuphulukana naye. Balilizwe lakho. Ngaphandle kwabo, umhlaba wakho uyawa. Uqala ukuziva ngathi awunakuhlala nabo okanye ngaphandle kwabo. Ixesha liyahamba. Uqala ukuqonda ukuba olu nxibelelwano luyinto enomtsalane obulalayo. Uyazi ayikwenzi wonwabe, kodwa awungekhe ufumane amandla okuyiphelisa. Uziva umthanda kakhulu lo mntu kangangokuba ungade umncame.
Makhe ndikuxelele into: Olu ayilo thando. Esi sisifundo.
Ucinga ukuba uyathandana nalo mntu, kodwa sisifundo othandana naso. Uya kuqhubeka ukutsala lo mntu de usebenze ngokuba kutheni ubatsalile kwasekuqaleni. Kukho into enamandla akho ekufuneka isetyenzisiwe. Isimanga kukuba ayikokuba malunga nokuba nalo mntu kwaphela; imalunga nokufunda isifundo lo mntu akhoyo ukuze akufundise. Lo mntu waziwa njengomphefumlo womphefumlo oguqukayo.
Ukucacisa, umntu oswele umphefumlo ngumntu esinonxibelelwano naye. Yindibaniselwano evakalelwa kukuba yelinye ilizwe. Sineendidi ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zabaphefumlelweyo: abomphefumlo bethutyana kunye nabaphefumli bokuqala. Kodwa iintloko phezulu…
Musa ukutshata umphefumlo wenguqu!
Uninzi lwethu luyelela kumlinganiso womphefumlo otshintshayo kuba uyonwabisa kwaye ubudlelwane bunamandla kakhulu. Lunxibelelwano olungenakuphikwa. Kodwa ayisiyiyo indibaniselwano esempilweni-de kube kusebenze ngokufanelekileyo. Uninzi lwethu aluwenzi umsebenzi wokuba kunye nomphefumlo wenguqu; siyazibophelela kubo kwaye silindele ukuba isebenze. Ukutshata nomphefumlo otshintshayo kufana nokutshata isifundo. Yiyo le nto imitshato emininzi iphelela kuqhawulo mtshato. Abantu abaninzi batshata isifundo endaweni yokufunda kuso.
Funda ukufumanisa umphefumlo wokuqala.
Olu hlobo lonxibelelwano lomphefumlo luyahambelana kwaye lulungelelanisiwe. Ihamba ngokulula. Uziva ungenamsebenzi kwaye usapho; ingathi lo mntu ngumhlobo wakho osenyongweni okanye usapho. Uziva uqondwa ngokunzulu, ukhathalelwe, kwaye uxhaswa. Uziva ukhululekile ukuzibonakalisa njengokuba unjalo. Uyaluthemba olu nxibelelwano. Uyazi ukuba soze ikushiye. Awusoze uzibuze ukuba esi sihlangu siza kuwiswa nini. Nobabini nobelana ngendlela efanayo yobomi, umdla kunye nezinto ozithandayo. Kukho uluvo lokuba lo mntu uziva ngathi-njengekhaya.
Olu nxibelelwano luziva lwahluke kakhulu kunxibelelwano lwenguqu. Ayinamdlalo kwaye ngenxa yoko inokubonakala ngathi iyadika. Ukuba ulangazelela ulonwabo lomphefumlo wotshintsho, awukakulungeli ukuqala. Ngoprayimari, uqhagamshelo ngokwesondo lulungile kodwa alunabhombu. Ke, ukuba ujolise kubudlelwane bezesondo obunomdla kakhulu, ngaphandle kweetshathi, eyona nto iphambili ayisiyakho. Iiprayimari inolunye unxibelelwano olunzulu oluvumela ubudlelwane ukuba bukhule ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ineentlobo zonxibelelwano ezakhelwe kuyo ezakukusa ebudaleni: unxibelelwano lokomoya, unxibelelwano ngokwasengqondweni, kunye nonxibelelwano olukhethekileyo lomdla. Oku akuthethi ukuba ubomi besondo kunye neprayimari abulunganga; ayisiyiyo nje indibaniselwano ekhokelayo.
Uninzi lwabantu luhamba lusuka kumlingane womphefumlo wokuqala.
Benza impazamo yokufuna ikhemistri, ukonwaba kunye nokuthanda, kodwa enyanisweni abakulungelanga unxibelelwano olusempilweni lweprayimari. Bafumana i-soulmate ephambili iyadika kwaye abafuni ukuzibophelela kuba bacinga ukuba banokwenza ngcono. Ke bahamba bemka nomphefumlo wabo ophambili bekhangela amava otshintsho ayakukhanyisa umlilo wabo.
Ubuhlobo bomphefumlo wamabanga aphantsi busebenza nje. Ubudlelwane botshintsho lomphefumlo.
Lonke ulwalamano lufuna umsebenzi, kodwa unxibelelwano oluphambili kulula. Ukunxibelelana nokuzisa ubudlelwane kwinqanaba elilandelayo kuyindalo. Amaqabane omphefumlo otshintsho afuna umsebenzi omninzi ukuze agqithe ukungasebenzi kakuhle kunye noxinzelelo lweemvakalelo.
Kuyenzeka ukuba uhambise umphefumlo womphefumlo otshintshayo ubekwe kwisimo sokuqala somphefumlo, kodwa kunzima kakhulu kwaye kufuna ulwazi olululo lwamaqabane kunye nokuzinikezela kwindlela ekwabelwana ngayo yokuphilisana. Ukuze uhambise utshintsho kutshintsho oluphambili, iqabane ngalinye kufuneka lazi umsebenzi kunye nezifundo abasebenza kunye nazo kwaye benze owabo umsebenzi kubo. Le nkqubo inokuthatha iminyaka-ukuba ayingamashumi-kwaye ifuna unxibelelwano, ukuba semngciphekweni kunye nomonde. Ayifane yenzeke. Abantu ngokubanzi bafuna olu hlobo lonxibelelwano kodwa kunqabile ukuba benze umsebenzi wokulugcina luhamba ixesha elide.
Olu hlobo lwe-metamorphosis lusenokuba nzima kuba abomphefumlo otshintshayo abaze bangene nzulu kubudlelwane babo. Ezi ntlobo zobudlelwane zichazwe kwii-chakras ezisezantsi (ngokusekwe kukutsala ngokwasemzimbeni, imali, ikhaya, isini, i-ego, imfundo, inqanaba lentlalontle, inqanaba lomsebenzi, njalo njalo) kwaye kunqabile kakhulu ukuba ungene kwii-chakras eziphezulu, njengentliziyo I-chakra kunye ne-chakras zokomoya apho kwenzeka khona ukukhula komntu. Ezi ntlobo ze ubudlelwane Zisekwe kwisiseko esingaphezulu.
Ukuba sempilweni kwakho, kokukhona uya kufikelela kumbala womphefumlo otshintshayo.
Umsebenzi omninzi owenzayo ngokwakho, kokukhona awunamdla kwidrama evela kumphefumlo wotshintsho womphefumlo. Njengoko unyuka uphakama kuphuhliso lwakho lobuqu, ukunyusa kwakho ukungcangcazela kuphakama kwaye utsala imiphefumlo ephezulu yokungcangcazelisa ngohlobo lwemiphefumlo ephambili. Okukhona uqhubeka nokuguquka kwindlela yakho, kokukhona uya kuyamkela le miphefumlo iphambili ebomini bakho. Ekugqibeleni uyidibanise yonke. Uqala ukuqonda ukuba abomphefumlo bethutyana bahamba phezu kwebhulorho besiya kwisigaba esilandelayo ebomini bakho, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo yeyomphefumlo. Loluphi uhlobo loqhagamshelo lomphefumlo olungeleyo?
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