Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kamva, ndeva ukuba ufudukele eMidwest. Ndifumene ingxelo ebanzi ethe chatha evela kubahlobo abathandanayo abebephume baya apho: Wayenomsebenzi kwiphepha lendawo, ebeneqela elitsha kwaye esenza kakuhle. Kwaye ndahlala kwindlu eyoyikekayo. Kunye nabantu abahlala nabo ngenene. Wayesazi wonke umntu edolophini. (Sele ?!)
Bendonwabile ngaye, kodwa bekukho nenxalenye encinci yam yokuva ulutsha evakalelwa nokuba yeyiphi na into echasene ne-schadenfreude yiyo-endaweni yokuziva ndonwabile kwilishwa lomntu, ndaziva ndicatshukelwa lithamsanqa lomntu. Kutheni le nto wayengenakufumana umzekeliso wakhe kunye ngelixa thina babethandana? Kwaye, ingcinga engonwabisiyo: Ngaba ngandlela thile wam impazamo? Mhlawumbi, ndiye ndaqonda, bendimbonile njengomntu onamandla kodwa efuna nje ukulungiswa kancinci. Kodwa ke wayenjalo uhlobo lokucaphukisa kangangokuba wakwazi ukwenza konke ukulungelelanisa emva besiza kohlukana.
Yimpembelelo yebhabhathane: Ngenye imini uyimbumba eyongezwe ngembiza ngokungaxhonyi emsebenzini wakhe we-barista, ecela i-brunch kuba uneedola ezingama-37 kuphela kwiakhawunti yakhe yokujonga, echitha ubusuku bakhe edlala umculo (iqela lakhe liza kuqala ukudlala imiboniso kwakhona kungekudala ) kunye nokutya iifriji zamasi, emva koko, kwiinyanga ezintandathu emva kokwahlukana, ujike waba yi-Monarch: ulahlekile iiponti ezingama-20, unomsebenzi wobugcisa bokuzoba, iqela lakhe lidlala iBowery Ballroom kwaye Unentombi entsha (inde, blond, enxibe into ebonakala ngathi yijezi engama-282 kaVanessa Bruno omjonge ngokulangazelela uStuart noWright) othetha ngaye xa ungena kuye kwi-brunch , yindlalifa yekliphu yephepha.
Ke ngomoya woSuku lweValentine, ndibuze abanye ababhinqileyo endibaziyo ukuba ingaba bakhe babenalo na ifuthe lebhabhathane. Abambalwa babanga umva: Hayi, amasoka am olahlekileyo ahlala esilahlekile emva kokuba sahlukene, yatsho enye. Omnye wandixelela: Ndiyenza kakuhle, emva koko baya ezantsi emva kokuba sohlukene, bekhomba kwi-ex esebenza kwimicimbi yabasebenzi kwidolophu enesidima kumantla eNew York. Kwaye owesithathu: Ndinayo into yokuba amadoda abethe ezantsi emva kokuba bethandana nam, nto leyo emnandi / ebuhlungu / enomvuzo. … Kuyathuthuzela noko ukwazi ukuba 'bandanda' kunye nam.
Amanye amanenekazi, nangona kunjalo, onke ayeqhelene nale meko. UMichelle, umfundi wezomthetho oneminyaka engama-26, wandixelela ngomfana awayethandana naye kwikholeji egama linguSteve owayeshushu njengesihogo, kodwa wayengakhazimli ngokukodwa. Waye kwiqela le-wrestling kwi-scholarship, kodwa wayeka ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba baqale ukuthandana. Wayeyintloko ye-pre-med kodwa wafumana uninzi lwee-C, ke ngokuqinisekileyo wayengazukuba ngugqirha. Ndimqinisekisile ukuba atshintshele kwimbali / umthetho wangaphambili. Ndikhumbula ukuhlela elinye lamaphepha akhe anamaphepha angama-20 — kwandithatha iiyure ezili-11. Ibiyi eyoyikisayo .
Enkosi ngoncedo lukaMichelle, amabakala kaSteve aphuculwe. Uthathe ii-LSATs amaxesha ambalwa ukufumana amanqaku afanelekileyo ukuze angene kwisikolo somthetho esifanelekileyo, kwaye, watsho uMichelle, andizange ndicinge nto-de kwaba lixesha emva kweminyaka, xa wafumanisa ukuba uphumelele umphezulu weklasi yakhe, wayengumhleli kuphononongo lomthetho kwaye wafumana umsebenzi kwinkampani yezomthetho yamazwe aphesheya. Ebe ngokupheleleyo Ukubengezela xa sasithandana, kwaye ngoku konke akwenzayo ngumsebenzi kwaye uphumelele. Andazi ukuba yenzeke njani loo nto!
Ubudlelwane bukaMichelle buhamba ngendlela eqhelekileyo, apho umfazi, ebona indoda njengeprojekthi, azama ukuyiphucula, ngaloo ndlela ekhokelela kwinzondo kulwalamano xa umfazi evakalelwa kukuba indoda ayiphucuki ngokwaneleyo, kwaye indoda iziva iphangiwe kwaye yehlisiwe.
(Ayikuko ukuba ndithetha ngamava okanye nantoni na.)
U-Liz (ayilogama lakhe lokwenyani), umbhali oneminyaka eyi-31 ohlala eBrooklyn, wayenobudlelwane obufanayo noJosh. Bendihlala ndizama ngamandla ukuphucula, utshilo uLiz. Wayedandatheke ngokwenene kwaye wayengayi kunyango. Kwaye ekugqibeleni ndandithanda, kuya kufuneka ubuyele umva. Kwaye wayefana, ndiyazi, kodwa ngekhe ndenze idinga. Ndaye ndafumana i-Therapist kwaye ndenza idinga Ndiye ndaziva ndinoluvo lokuzixabisa-ndiyintombazana eyenza lo mfo ndonwabe ngakumbi .
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