(Ifoto: OkCupid)
Ndibethe xa wonwabile, kwaye ukuba AKUKHO mntu uya kumamela, ndithumele umyalezo malunga nayo -Ross Ulbricht
Xa sinyathela ngomsebenzi odandathekisayo wokuthandana kwi-Intanethi, iiprofayili zethu zinika ezona zinto zithandekayo, zisondeleyo, kunye nezifunwayo-ingqokelela yeenyani zokuzonwabisa kunye nemibuzo ethandabuzekayo ebekwe yacaca kubantu abangaziwayo.
Kule veki, sifumene umbono kwiprofayili ye-OkCupid yomtyholwa kwi-online silk Road king Ross Ulbricht xa ubomi bakhe bokuthandana baburhuqiwe phambi kwejaji kuthotho lwee-imeyile. Kuzo zonke iiakhawunti ezivela kwiintatheli nakumagosa anyanzelisa umthetho njenge-cryptographic mastermind, okanye ukukhubeka kwentliziyo owayegculela umhlaba ngobomi bolwaphulo-mthetho, i-OkCupid yakhe ime njengenye yezona ngxelo zibanzi zale ndoda ngoku ka ngokwakhe.
Ke le ntatheli yathatha isigqibo sokuntywila kwiprofayili kaMnu. Ulbricht ukuze afumane le ndoda ngokwakhe, inguqulelo ayigcinele umntu asenokuba usondele kuye. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, wayefuna ukuba ulwalamano lwakhe olulandelayo luhlale ubomi bakhe bonke. NguRoss Ulbricht wemibuzo yobuntu ka-OkCupid-uluhlu lwemibuzo u-OkCupid abuza ukumisela ukuba uyadibana nomntu. Xa usiya kwiprofayili yomntu, ungabona iimpendulo zomntu kuwo nawuphi na umbuzo ondilungeleyo ukuziphendula. Undibonise okwakho, kwaye ndiza kukubonisa okwam.
Sangena ke saphendula yonke imibuzo kaRoss. Malunga neeyure ezine, ndingene ndayiphendula ngokwenyani imibuzo yakhe engama-394 ukutyhila kutyhilwa ubungqina bakhe obuncinci, obuthi ngamanye amaxesha butyhile amanye amanqaku abhaliweyo xa efuna ukucacisa iimpendulo zakhe.
Oko sikufumene ngoRoss: Unzulu, unemfesane, ucocekile kwaye uvulelekile kulingo. Njengokuba evaliwe njengoko ebesaziwa esidlangalaleni, wayefuna ukwazi umntu, nokuba loo mntu wayengalungelelananga ngokugqibeleleyo kunye nexabiso lakhe. Uqinile kwiinkolelo zakhe, kodwa uyanyamezela, uyathandeka kwaye unengqondo evulekileyo. Uyathandeka kakhulu ukuba uchitha ixesha elaneleyo ngolwazi lwakhe, kwaye wayenethemba lokuba uya kuthandeka kakhulu-konke okuvela kwiprofayili engazange ayityelele ukusukela ngo-Septemba ka-2013, malunga nenyanga phambi kokuba abanjwe.
Ngoku, igama lesilumkiso: Ezi nkcukacha zinokubonakala zinobunono kwaye zisondele, kodwa luhlobo lwemibuzo ye-OkCupid. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ayisiyiyo inkoliso yabantu abazibuza ukuba ingaba uchebe iinwele zomnye umntu okanye akunjalo iya kuba yinto evulekileyo de bacelwe.
Oko kwathiwa, masiqale ngokuhambelana ngokwesondo, apho uMnu Ulbricht kunye nam si-98 wepesenti yomdlalo.
Ukwabelana ngesondo 
Izinto zokuqala abantu abaqhele ukuziqaphela ngam : abaninzi bacinga ukuba ndikhangeleka njengoRobert Pattinson ekuqaleni (Ifoto: OkCupid)
Umnumzana Ulbricht ukhaliphile: Akazukulawula ukuphuma ekhaya kunye nawe ngomhla wokuqala, kwaye uqinisekile ngokuzithemba kuye, ahem, kubuchule. Ude acinge ukuba uya kuba yinkwenkwana elungileyo ye-porn, anikwe ithuba. Wayengayi kuba nangxaki ukuba ukhuphe ikhamera kwaye wacela ukuba ufotwe ngexesha lesenzo, ngaphandle kokuba ukhetha isondo xa kucinyiwe izibane.
Ngokuphathelele iikink, akafuni kufumana naye uphambene kwigumbi lokulala, kodwa ngokujonga iimpendulo zakhe, uya kuzama nantoni na efanelekileyo kanye, okanye ubuncinci ukuba yile nto uyifunayo. Usenokude angene kwingcinga yokucheba-nangona ekhetha inenekazi esele lichetyiwe kakuhle-kwaye uya kuzonwabisa ngonyawo, nokuba ayilulo utyekelo lwakhe.
Udlale indima ethile, nangona engakhange ayichaze into, kwaye uzimisele ukwenza into yokudlwengulwa ukuba yile nto uyicelayo (qiniseka ukuba ubeka igama elikhuselekileyo kwangaphambili, mhlawumbi into malunga nokungahambelani kwezinto ezingaziwayo ukuba ufuna ukumenza ahambe). Uyingqondi, akanamdla kwiinenekazi zangaphambili ezisebenzisayo, kwaye akathandi ukuba nomona ngokungekho ngqiqweni.
Ndingumntu omnye, ke ukuba intombazana endikunye nayo ifuna ukwenza nantoni na ethandana nomnye umntu, akunakuphikiswa, kubhala uMnu Ulbricht, kodwa andizukubanomona ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Ubiza umndilili wakhe wokuqhuba ngesondo, kodwa kuye oko kuthi kwabelana ngesondo yonke imihla. Ngaba kulula kuye ukufezekisa i-orgasm? Nangaliphi na ixesha umoya uphakamisa.
Kwaye uyathanda ukuwola.
Indlela yokuphila 
Ndilungile : Ukusombulula iingxaki, ukunika iingcebiso, ukugcina ulonwabo olusulelayo ngaphandle kweemeko zam, ukumela into elungileyo, kunye ne-ping pong nayo: P (Ifoto: OkCupid)
URoss Ulbricht ukhetha iincwadi kumculo, isayensi kubugcisa, ingqiqo kwi-intuition. Ungum-Apollonia oyinyani, ongashukunyiswa zizibheno kwiimvakalelo zakhe ebusweni besizathu. Akazithandi iikonsathi ezivakalayo, kwaye incasa yakhe incike ekuzimeleni ngakumbi kunesiqhelo-nangona engayeki nantoni na emnyama kakhulu okanye enobundlobongela. Usela ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa akaze azive enesidingo sokunxila okanye aphume eklabhini. Umnumzana u-Ulbricht akanguye ubhiya we-bhiya, okanye i-snob malunga nantoni na ngeakhawunti yakhe.
Ngekhe athi unyanzelekile ukuba acoceke nokuba, kodwa ugcina igumbi lakhe lokuhlambela lingenachaphaza, kwaye uzama ukuthatha emva kwakhe kangangoko anako, xa enexesha. Unokuthandana nomntu ongcolileyo, kodwa ukuhlala nabo lelinye ibali xa lilonke.
Ilizwi lam sisibophelelo sam, elam igama yile ndinguye, Mnu. Ulbricht ubhala. Ukuba ndophula isithembiso, esenzeka amaxesha ngamaxesha, ndiya kuhlala ndilizukisa ilizwi lam kwaye ndihloniphe umntu endimnike sona. |
Uninzi lwehippie kuneyuppie-umahluko onzima xa abazali bakho benendlu yasehlotyeni eCosta Rica, kodwa indawo ineendonga zobugcisa kunye namandla elanga. Uyavuma ukwenza iziyobisi kwixa elidlulileyo, kubandakanya i-psychedelics, kwaye uthi unomdla wokuzama i-DMT-yi-dimethyltryptamine kuye nabani na ongakhange abone Ukungena . Okwangoku, uyekile ukusebenzisa naziphi na iziyobisi, kwaye kukho umda kwinto azakuyinyamezela kumdlalo.
[T] nantsi indlela yokuziphatha eqhelekileyo kubasebenzisi beziyobisi andinakukunyamezela, ubhala, kodwa ukuba uyakwazi ukugcina ikaka yakho kunye andikhathali nokuba ubeka ntoni emzimbeni wakho.
U-OkCupid ubuza imibuzo kaninzi malunga nokuba ubambekile kwiindlela zakhe, apho ephendula ngemvume ethile yokuba unenkani ngezimvo zakhe, kodwa uyazi ukuba abanye abantu bafuna indawo ukuze babe nezabo, iinkolelo ezichaseneyo. Nangona kunjalo, xa ndandizibiza ngokuba ngu-Centrist wezopolitiko, kwaxatyiswa njengenye yeempendulo zakhe ezingamkelekanga. Ukuzibandakanya kwakhe kwezopolitiko kudweliswe njengenye ngaphandle kwengcaciso, kodwa iinkolelo zopolitiko zibalulekile kuye, kwaye uyakuthanda ukuphikisana nefilosofi kunye nenkolo.
Umnumzana Ulbricht ukhetha ubomi bokufezekisa ubomi bokuzonwabisa, kwaye ukholelwa ekubeni umntu omdala kufuneka aqhubeke nokuzifundisa. Angakhululeka ukuba lihlwempu ubomi bakhe bonke, kwaye ubutyebi bezinto eziphathekayo abunamsebenzi kuye kumdlalo-kungcono abe noxolo emhlabeni kuneetoni zemali.
Unokuhlala ngaphandle kwe-Intanethi, kodwa ukuba umgangatho wobomi bakhe uya kuthatha impumlo. Kwaye akazange akhe avalelwe. Uyazi… okwangoku.
Ukuthandana 
Kuya kufuneka undithumelele umyalezo ukuba : Uqaqambile, uthembekile, unomdla, unomonde, wonwabile kwaye uhlengahlengiswe kakuhle. (Ifoto: OkCupid)
Ngoku, kuzo zonke izidima zika Mnu.Ulbricht, sizakuqhubeka kwaye sithi kancinci… uyakhetha. Mhlawumbi yimigangatho ephezulu nje? Ukuba ujonge ukuthandana nomhla kaRoss Ulbricht, kuya kufuneka uhlangane neendlela ezithile: 
URoss Ulbricht uxakeke njani ngokuchasene namanye amadoda amhlophe angqalileyo ngokweminyaka yakhe, ngokwemibuzo yakhe yemibuzo. (Igrafu: OkCupid)
Okokuqala, kufuneka ubume obuhle, kwaye angathanda ukuthandana nomntu omncinci kunaye (uneminyaka engama-30) kungekho bantwana baseleyo. Umnumzana Ulbricht ufuna abantwana ekugqibeleni, kodwa yazi ukuba maninzi amanyathelo apha naphaya!
Ufuna ukuba kunye nomntu olungeleleneyo-mellow ngaphezu kwe-hyper-kwaye ucinga ukuba uya kuba nolwazi oluhle lokuba ungubani kwiintsuku ezintlanu. Imali okanye ubutyebi abukhathaleli kumdlalo, kodwa ukuba awukhathaleli umzimba wakho, uyakukubhala kwangoko, kwaye akazukuphinda athandane nabani na oguqukayo.
Umnumzana Ulbricht ubanga ukuba avuleke kamnandi ngeemvakalelo zakhe, kodwa lo mfo akazukuba yindoda ethandanayo. Ulixabisile kakhulu ixesha lakhe lobuqu kunye neemvakalelo, kwaye olona phawu aluthandayo kwiqabane kukuziphatha okuhle. Ukhetha ukubonisa uthando ngokuthetha ngomlomo, ngokuchasene nezipho, ubabalo kunye nezimbo zomzimba. Oko kungatsho ukuba uthando lwesintu alubalulekanga-usakhetha ukukrokra xa ulele, ucinga ukuba ukuhambelana ngokwesondo yinto ekufuneka uyenzile, kwaye ucinga ukuba ukudibana ngokwasemzimbeni yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yokubonisa uthando.
Kwakhona, eli iya kuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokukhumbuza: ufuna umntu olungele ukuzibophelela okukhulu. Ukuzinikezela kunye nothando kokubini kubalulekile kubudlelwane noMnu Ulbricht, kodwa ukuzinikela kubaluleke kakhulu.
Yindlela endiqengqeleka ngayo, ubhale uMnu Ulbricht. Ndikhangela uthando lobomi bam. Ndiza kukunika ithuba, kodwa ukuba awunguye ndiyaqhubeka.
Uhleli kubudlelwane obukhulu obudlulileyo ngaphezulu kweminyaka emibini, nangona enyanzelisa ukuba akazami ukuphinda abuyele kumhlaba wakudala aze athandane nayo nayiphi na i-ex yakhe. Kunqabile ukuba acinge nokucinga ngazo.
Imilinganiselo yokuziphatha 
Ndichitha ixesha elininzi ndicinga ngezi: Uqoqosho, ezopolitiko, ishishini, iimarike kunye nekamva . Kodwa xa ndincokola, ndikhetha ukufunda nje ngabantu endikunye nabo. (Ifoto: OkCupid)
Umnumzana Ulbricht uzichaze ngokwakhe kwiiprofayili zosasazo zasekuhlaleni njengomntu othanda intengiso yasimahla Isikolo sase-Austrian sokucinga kwezoqoqosho . Kubomi bakhe bothando, iziseko ziyafana: Mnu. Ulbricht umntu othanda ukungazithembi urhulumente, kodwa okholelwa ukuba uvelwano luphawu lwamandla. Ngokuphosa nje imidiza engceni yomnye umntu, Mnu. Ulbricht ukholelwa ukuba uya kuthi ngokungakhathali aqwalasele ixabiso lomnye umntu.
Kuphantse kufana nokuba, ngendlela encinci, ubhala.
Ukuziphatha kwindalo iphela kuMnu Ulbricht, hayi isihlobo. Ukuhenyuza, ukuvavanywa kwezilwanyana, ukutshiswa kweflegi kunye nazo zonke izinto ezenziwa ngokwesondo kufuneka zisemthethweni. Kuyafana nelungelo lomfazi lokuzikhethela: Akaboni kuthintela inzala njengokuziphatha gwenxa, kwaye akacingi ukuba umfazi kufuneka azive enyanzelekile ukuba achebe imilenze yakhe. Ude abone ukuvalwa kwangaphakathi ekutshayeni njengokulawula okungaphaya.
Anditshayi, kodwa andinguye ne-eshole enyanzela izimvo zakhe kwabanye abantu, ubhala. Baphathe abanye ngendlela onqwenela ukuphathwa ngayo. Oko kuyincwadi yam yonke.
Uzicingela ukuba ubekekile; akazithathi njengexoki elilungileyo, uhlala ezigcina izithembiso zakhe.
Ilizwi lam sisibophelelo sam, elam igama yile ndinguye, Mnu. Ulbricht ubhala. Ukuba ndophula isithembiso, esenzeka amaxesha ngamaxesha, ndiya kuhlala ndilizukisa ilizwi lam kwaye ndihloniphe umntu endimnike sona.
Ucinga ukuba ukufunda ngemeyile yabanye abantu kunye nonxibelelwano lwabucala ukuba kungangenisi, nto leyo ebeka ukubulawa kwabantu kwiiarhente zombuso kwindawo yomhlobo kaMnu Ulbicht ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ukuba umntu umbuzile ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto imbi ukhe wayenza, uthi uza kuyazi kwangoko.
Ukuthatha 
Izinto ezintandathu andinakuze ndizenze ngaphandle:
1. Usapho lwam liliwa lam
2. i-intanethi (ifana nengqondo yam yesibini!)
3. okuninzi okuzayo… (Ifoto: OkCupid)
Okukhona usomba kubuntu buka Mnu. Ulbricht, kokukhona usiya ngakwicala lokulalanisa, uluvo lomntu ofana no-Lyn Ulbricht, umama ka-Ross womlilo oye waba ngumhlalutyi we-web ngokunzulu ukuzama ukucoca igama lonyana wakhe. Kuyihlazo ukuthetha ngomntu ongazange umbone, kodwa kunzima ukungamthandi umntu kancinci xa uchithe ixesha elininzi kwindawo yakhe yokuhlamba engcolileyo.
Naxa ndandihendwa ukuba ndiqhume kwiphepha lemibuzo ngeempendulo ezingezizo, ndaye ndaqhubeka kangangeeyure ndiphendula inyani, ndihleka okanye ndicofa izinto ezahlukeneyo, ndaphoxeka xa ebetha ulindelo lwam amaxesha ngamaxesha. Inkqubo ibe yeyakho, umdlalo wokwazi ukuba uziva ngathi unezibonda. Ndandijonge iprofayili awayeyisebenzisa phantse de wabanjwa, kwaye yonke into entsha yokuqonda okusondeleyo yacebisa ukuba hayi, akangomntu, akanguye umtyholi weziyobisi. Akanakuba njalo.
Kodwa yile nto uhlala usuka kubungqina bobuqu malunga nasiphi na isaphuli-mthetho, nokuba sinetyala ngokusemthethweni. Okukhona usazi umntu, kokukhona kulula ukumnika isibonelelo sokuthandabuza, kwaye kunzima ukuba nombono wabo besenza into eyoyikisayo, nokuba banokwazi ngokwenene. 
(Ifoto: OkCupid)
Okwangoku, ayenzanga ngqondo kwaphela ukuba lo mntu, athi angonwaba ukuba lihlwempu ubomi babo bonke, ngewasusa i-13,4 yezigidi zeedola kwi-cryptocurrency kwaye waxoxa ngokuqesha ababulali besivumelwano. Umtsalane wakhe wandenza ubuqili kum, kwaye apha ndifana no Uthotho I-podcast fanatic, ekhwaza ukuba akukho ndlela ibinokwenzeka ngayo ukuba ibeke iliso kwikhompyuter yam.
Ke kwakhona, andihlali kwijaji.
