Uxolo nakweyiphi na i-neurologists ekhoyo. Isenokuba ndibhale kakubi i-lobe yangaphambili.(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Esi sithuba savela kuqala Quora : Wazi njani umntu ukuba wenza izizathu okanye unezizathu ezivakalayo zokungaqali uhambo lweshishini lakhe?
Uwajongela phantsi amandla ecala lakho elimnyama.
Ngokuchasene nenkolelo edumileyo, ingqondo yakho ayisoloko ikusebenzela. Awunguye, ungumsulwa ingqondo. Ungumzi weempembelelo eziphikisanayo, kwaye enye yezona zikhwaza kakhulu kuthiwa luloyiko.
Lonke uphando lwethu kubuchwephesha lusibonisile oko Abantu badla ngokuthatha isigqibo sokuba benze ntoni ngeemvakalelo zabo kuqala kwaye benze izizathu zokuba kutheni emva koko . Ukuba woyika into, i-subconscious yakho inokuhlala ibetha isizinzi esivakalayo: kunzima kakhulu; awunamava; kukho ukuphinda kuqhutywe kwakhona koMntu oBalaseleyo uBhuti ngobusuku banamhlanje.
Wakhe waxabana nomntu ongasoze atshintshe ingqondo, nokuba zonke izibakala bezichasene nabo? Abasebenzisi ngqondo ukufumana iimpendulo, basebenzisa ingqiqo yokuxhasa impendulo esele benayo. Iingqondo zethu zenza oko ngamakhulu amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Qonda oku: izizathu zikhona ukuze uzive ungcono. Banokubakhohlisa abanye. Banokuphepha ukutyhola. Banokuba yibheji yembeko ( ukuba kuphela kwakungengomqolo wam / umfazi / umlutha kuJerry Springer ). Kodwa izizathu zikhona kuphela zokuphelisa iintlungu. Abaze bancede ukuba wenze i-shit.
Ubuza ukuba wazi njani ukuba wenza izizathu okanye unesizathu sokwenene sokungazami ukuba ngumrhwebi. Nanku umthetho ophathekayo wesithupha: 
Zibuze ukuba ufuna ntoni(Ifoto: Oliver Emberton)
Okokuqala zibuze— uya ngokwenene uyayifuna lento? Ndiyathetha, 'ndifuna' umzimba ogqibeleleyo, kodwa andizimisele ukufaka iiyure ezi-6 ngosuku kunyaka olandelayo ukuze ndifike apho. Ukuba awuzimisele ukwenza imibingelelo efanelekileyo ngenxa yento ethile, awuyifuni ngokwaneleyo. Kulungile. Yamkele kwaye ufumane olunye ubizo.
Ukuba u yenza ufuna into, injongo yakho kukulima ngazo naziphi na izizathu. Bamele babe nje ngamagqabi abuthathaka kwindlela kaloliwe othutha iimpahla.
Nali iqhinga elinye-lonke ixesha usiva isingxengxezo, phendula ngo-ewe-kwaye ?:
Kunzima kakhulu. Ewe, kwaye?
Ndimncinci kakhulu okanye ndimdala kakhulu ukuba ndingaya kuyo. Ewe, kwaye?
Andazi ukuba njani. Ewe, kwaye?
Inqaku yile: isingxengxezo asonelanga. Nasiphi na isidenge sinokuyila iwaka lezizathu zento. Abaninzi benjenjalo.
NGOKU MASIKWENZE IZIPHUMO ZAKHO
1. Kunzima kakhulu
Ke ikhona into exabisekileyo. Abenzi imifanekiso eqingqiweyo yamavila.
2. Ndimncinci kakhulu okanye ndimdala kakhulu ukuba ndingaya kuyo
UAlex Tew yenze isigidi seedola xa wayeneminyaka engama-21 kwaye engumfundi. UColonel Sanders uqalile uKFC oneminyaka engama-65. Ndixelele, liza nini ilizwe vumela ukuba ube ngumrhwebi, ngokuchanekileyo? Awudingi mvume.
3. Akukho mntu undithatha ngokungathí sina okanye ndaliwe
IiBeatles zakhatywa ngenxa yokuba amaqela egita asendleleni yokuphuma. UMichael Jordan akazange enze iqela lakhe lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola. Abapapashi abahlukeneyo abali-12 bamlahlile uHarry Potter. Wonke umntu uhlangabezana nokwaliwa kwindlela eya empumelelweni.
4. Andifundanga kangako
URichard Branson une-dyslexic kwaye wayenamabanga amabi. USteve Jobs uphume ekholejini. Uninzi lwe-PhD alungabo shishino.
5. Andazi njani
Akukho mntu uzalwa enolwazi lokwenza nantoni na . Ujongene nengxaki efanayo nokuhamba, ukuthetha, ukubhala kunye nokuchwetheza. Ukanti ulapha, uqhagamshele kwisibalo solwazi lonke lomntu, kwi-Intanethi, simahla. Yisebenzise.
6. Andinaxesha
Sonke sineeyure ezingama-24 ezifanayo ngosuku. Nika enye into phezulu, ulumke ngexesha lakho, ulale kancinci okanye ufumane indlela yokufuna ixesha elincinci lokuqalisa.
7. Nguye onoxanduva lokusilela kwam
Hayi abekho. Logama nje unika ityala komnye umntu uyala ukuthatha uxanduva lwento onokuyenza ngayo. Zama ukuthatha umkhwa omnye omncinci wokutshintsha ubomi bakho.
8. Kuyingozi kakhulu
Ukuqhuba kufuna ukuba uhambe ngesantya esisongela ubomi ngaphakathi kwesikhongozeli sesinyithi esiqhutywa kukuqhubeka komlilo wepetrochemical eqhushumbe, ujikelezwe ngamawaka abanye, abanye babo unxilile, wenza okufanayo. Iimoto zingaphazamiseka. Amashishini anokusilela. Uthatha amanyathelo okhuseleko — njengokubopha amabhanti kunye nokufunda iincwadi zeshishini — emva koko uqhubeke nobomi.
9. Ungathini ukuba / unakho / uza
Andazi ukuba kuthetha ukuthini oku.
Uluvo alugqibekanga okanye alunakusebenza
Uninzi lweengcinga zeshishini ziyaphambana. Abantu abaphumeleleyo benza izigqibo ezimbi ngalo lonke ixesha. Ayinamsebenzi kuba bayabuya baphinde bazame enye into. Awudingi ukuqengqa kabini isithandathu okokuqala-qhubeka nje udlale umdlalo.
Ezi zinto zinokubonakala zoyikisa kwasekuqaleni. Kodwa ndiyakuthembisa, ukuba uzimisele ukujonga kuyo, uya kufumana iincwadi, ukhetho kunye nabantu abazimisele ukukunceda kuhambo lwakho kunakuqala. Usikelelwe ngokungenakuthelekiswa nanto.
Ndiza kugqiba ngebali uSteve Jobs awayeqhele ukubalisela abasebenzi bakhe.
Imigqomo yeofisi yakhe yayingachithwa, kwaye imisebenzi yabuza umgcini wakhe ukuba yintoni ingxaki. Umgcini-ndlu ucacisile ukuba iqhaga lomnyango litshintshiwe, kwaye akasifumani isitshixo.
Kwakucaphukisa, kodwa ubuncinci umcoci unesizathu esivakalayo.
Imisebenzi ichaze oku kubasebenzi bakhe: Xa ungumgcini, izizathu zibalulekile. Endaweni ethile phakathi komgcini kunye ne-CEO, izizathu ziyeke ukukhathaza.
Kwinqanaba elithile, akukho mahluko phakathi kwesizathu kunye nokuzithethelela.
Amakhonkco ahambelana:
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Ndingalufumana njani uthando lwam?
Ndingayifumana njani into endifuna ukuyenza ngobomi bam emva kwekholeji?
UOliver Emberton ngusomashishini, umbhali, umdwelisi nkqubo, umzobi, kunye nomsunguli we Silktide . Unokulandela kwakhona iQuora kwi Twitter , Facebook , kunye UGoogle + .
