Enye yezi iqinisekile ukuvula.I-Pixabay Andizange ndibone kusiza. Mhlawumbi bendiyimfama okanye ndisebenza nzima kakhulu ukuba ndibone ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni phambi kwam. Wayenokuthini ukuthandana iminyaka emibini? Kwaye usebenze, nawe? Umzuzu omnye ungoyena uhola phambili kwifem, kwaye ngemini elandelayo bakukhapha uyophuma ngomnyango. Mhlawumbi bebeyazi ukuba ndiyayithiya ngasese? Andinanto ndingayibonisa iminyaka eli-16 yobomi bam. Ndenza ntoni ngoku? utsho umthengi wam.
Yiyo kanye le nto ndisenza lo msebenzi, ndicinga kum.
Kwakungekho kudala apho ndaye ndaphelelwa ngumsebenzi osisigxina xa iphephancwadi endandilisebenzela lalivala ubusuku bonke. Kwiiveki ezimbalwa kamva, ndalahlekelwa yindoda endandicinga ukuba nditshata nomnye umfazi. Oko sasihlala sobabini, ndaphela ndiphulukana nendlu yam. Ndishiyeke ndimile ndinama- $ 98 kwiakhawunti yam yebhanki. Elo yayilelona xesha libi ebomini bam, kodwa ke yayilelona xesha lihle endakha ndanalo.
Uwachola njani amaqhekeza? umthengi wam uyabuza.
Uthabathe amaqhekeza kwaye uwabuyisele kunye eyona ndlela uyazi ukuba uqhubeka njani.
Sifuna ukulila ngenxa yokuba iziqwenga zisemhlabeni, kodwa ngokwenyani, lithuba elihle lokubeka iziqwenga kwakhona kulungelelwaniso olutsha ngokupheleleyo-olulungele wena. Sidla ngokutsaleleka kwidrama yamaqhekeza awa eshiyekileyo — Undishiyile, ndaphelelwa ngumsebenzi, andonelanga, andizizityebi ngokwaneleyo- kodwa siyehluleka ukuqonda ukuba iziqwenga eziwayo asizizo isohlwayo; lelona thuba lililo.
Akohlwayi xa ubomi bakho buwohloka. Uyawongwa.
Ukuba ubomi bakho babugqibelele, ngebungazange butshabalale. Kuba iinkalo ezithile zobomi bakho ziwile, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba eso siseko uzenzele ngokwakho asinakuxhasa. Uphelelwe lixesha. Kuya kufuneka wenze isiseko esomeleleyo, esinokukuxhasa kwaye sikuncede ukhule. Ke, isiseko sakho esidala, esingonelisiyo sokuwa yeyona nto ibinokwenzeka, kuba ikunika ithuba elikhethekileyo lokuthatha ezo ziqwenga uzidibanise kulwakhiwo olutsha olulungele wena.
Kuthekani ukuba andazi ukuba ndifuna ukwenza ntoni ngokulandelayo? umthengi wam uyabuza.
Awudingi ukuba ube nazo zonke iimpendulo. Ngapha koko, kukhethwa ukuba awunayo, kuba ke awunakuphikisa, ndiyaphendula.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyazi into oyenzayo ngaphambi kokuba uhambe. Kufuneka uhambe.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nazo zonke iimpendulo. Kufuneka uthathe inyathelo elinye. Inyathelo elinye kulo naliphi na icala liya kukuvulela iingcango. Konke malunga nomfutho. Awunakulinda nje ukuba kwenzeke ebomini bakho. Kuya kufuneka uqondise amandla akho kuyo nantoni na oyifunayo. Ungakhathazeki malunga nokuba kukuhamba ngokufanelekileyo na okanye hayi. Nje ukuba uhambe, indalo iphela inokukubamba kwaye ikukhokelele kwindlela ekulindele. Kodwa ukuba uhleli ebhentshini, indalo iphela ayinako ukungenelela kwintando yakho ekhululekileyo kwaye ikukhuphele ngaphandle kwebhentshi. Kufuneka uthi, ndifuna ukuphakama kule ben nditshintshe ubomi bam. Ndifanelwe ngcono. Ukwenza oko ngokuma kwaye uthathe inyathelo elinye kulo naliphi na icala ukuqala umfutho wotshintsho ebomini bakho. Nje ukuba ukugeleza kwakho, uya kukhokelwa uye ebantwini nakwiimeko ezihambelana nawe ngokwendalo.
Impazamo oyenzayo kukuzama ukunqanda ukwenza impazamo.
Ebomini, azikho iimpazamo. Kukho amava ahlukeneyo kuphela. Ayinamsebenzi into oyenzayo ukuya phambili, ibalulekile kuphela into yokuba uqhubele phambili nakweliphi na icala. Yintshukumo ngokwayo eya kukuqhubela phambili-hayi kwicala. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha siyakucothisa ukuya phambili kuba asiqinisekanga ukuba loluphi ulwalathiso esiza kungena kulo. Kwaye kuba asifuni ukwenza impazamo, siye singahambeli ndawo. Yimpazamo leyo.
Wazi njani ukuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni emva koko? umthengi wam uyabuza.
Phosa amatye uze ujonge ukuba ngawaphi adadayo.
Xa uphosa ilitye echibini, lihlala litshona, kodwa ayizukutshona yonke. Amanye amatye owaphosileyo aya kudada, kwaye ngawo la ufuna ukuwalandela. Kodwa awuyi kwazi ukuba ngawaphi amatye adadayo ngaphandle kokuba uwaphose onke. Xa uthetha ngenyathelo elilandelayo kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi, amatye onke amathuba. Yintoni onomdla kuyo? Ufuna ngokwenene ukwenza ntoni? Zithini izinto onokukhetha kuzo ezikhuselekileyo kwaye unokufikelela phi? Ziphose zonke. Ziphose zonke phaya kwaye ubone ukuba zeziphi ezidadayo. Ngokuphosa onke amatye akho, ucela indalo iphela ukuba ikuncede wenze esi sigqibo. Izinketho ziya kucaca kuwe.
Sele kuyiminyaka emibini okoko umthengi wam aqhubekile ngokonakala kwakhe. Kuyo yonke le nkqubo, waguqulwa ngokupheleleyo. Okwangoku ungumntu oshishino ngezobuchwephesha okhokela imisebenzi ye-app entsha emangalisayo ayisekayo. Akazange onwabe ngakumbi kwaye ukusukela oko etsala iqabane elihle neliphumelele kakhulu elilinganayo naye ngandlela zonke.
Uthi, andizange ndiqonde ukuba ubomi bam abuyiyo yonke into endiyicinga ngayo. Ndacinga ukuba ndinayo yonke into kwaye khange ndiqonde ukuba akukho namnye kuyo ngokwenene. Ndicinga ukuba kwafuneka ndiphulukane nayo yonke into ukuze ndizifumane.
Ndiyancuma ndedwa ndiphendule, ndiyahlekisa, ukuba kwenzeka njani oko.
Nazi iingcebiso ezintathu zokukunceda uthathe iziqwenga:
- Qaphela ukuba ukuba yawa ngaphandle, ayinakubamba kwakhona. Into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukuxhomekeka kwisiseko esingalunganga esingenakukuxhasa. Nokuba eso siseko yayingumntu okanye umsebenzi, yazi ukuba yawa ngenxa yokuba ingasenakubakhona kuwe. Yayiluvavanyo lweasidi kuwe ukukubonisa ukuba le nto ucinga ukuba ilungile kuwe, yayingeyiyo. Ngoku, ungaqala ukukhangela okukufaneleyo.
- Ziqhelanise namanyathelo omntwana kulonwabo . Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nazo zonke iimpendulo. Kuya kufuneka uthathe inyathelo elinye kulo naliphi na icala. Yintshukumo eyamkelwa yindalo iphela, hayi olona lwalathiso. Bonisa indalo yonke ulungele utshintsho, kwaye iya kukuzisela utshintsho olulungeleyo.
- Musa ukoyika ukwenza impazamo. Khumbula ukuba ebomini, akukho zimpazamo; Kukho amava ahlukeneyo kuphela. Ke, qhubeka uphile ubomi bakho. Beka konke ngaphandle-okuhle, okubi nokubi. Yibeke nje phaya kwaye uvumele indalo iphela ikulethe kolona khetho lubalaseleyo. Musa ukoyika ukwenza ubumdaka. Yenza ubomi bakho bube mdaka ngangokunokwenzeka. Ubuncinci uyazi ukuba ukhe waphila.
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