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URobert De Niro njengoBernie Madoff kwi Wizard of Ubuxoki .UCraig Blankenhorn / HBO
Kwintliziyo ye-HBO Wizard of Ubuxoki Ibali elilula, elidala, malunga nendoda enamandla enamandla neyathandwayo ilibale inqaku lamandla kunye nokuqubuda. Umboniso bhanyabhanya ubonisa ukuwa kukaBernie Madoff (uRobert De Niro), kunye nokutshatyalaliswa okwalandelayo kosapho kunye nabo bonke abantu ababelithembile ishishini lakhe. Kuyo yonke ifilimu, uMadoff uboniswa njengomntu onothando ngaphandle kodwa oxhaphaza ngasese umyeni, utata, umntakwabo kunye notatomkhulu. Kwaye ngelixa ubomi obutofotofo uBernie ebenzela usapho lwakhe ukuba alonwabise ixesha elide, kuyacaca ukuba, ekugqibeleni, ulahlekisile ulonwabo lwabo ngokuzaliseka kwabo, ekugqibeleni urhweba ngobomi babo (kunye namawaka angaphezulu) awakhe.
Kukurhweba ngeli thuba losapho lwakhe lokukhokelela kubomi obunentsingiselo ukudala ukuzaliseka kwakhe okuphazamisa ukubona, nangona kungothusi kangako. Njengoko benditshilo, eli libali lakudala - okokugqibela kugrobile kwiPatato ngokumangalisayo ikati IRiphabliki Ngaba uSocrates uhlekisa ngukumkani otya abantwana bakhe ngeenzame zokwandisa ulawulo lwakhe. Iindidi zabantu abanyukela phezulu kakhulu kwamandla zihlala ziindidi zabantu abakhohlwayo ukuba amandla akhuselekile kakhulu xa abantu owasebenzisayo bengawuboni, okanye bengawaxabisi. Mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba bona ngokwabo abakhuselekanga.
Ukucacisa ngakumbi apha, kuyo yonke inkazimlo kunye nobumnandi bobomi bakhe, uBernie uphuma ethe-ethe kakhulu kule bhanyabhanya. Esinye isiganeko esichazayo ukuphela komdlalo bhanyabhanya sigxile kuBernie ngokungathandabuzekiyo-ebetha umzukulwana wakhe phambi kosapho lwakhe etafileni isidlo sangokuhlwa, egqibezela abo babini ngokumenza abe neentloni zokuzama ukumbuza ngelixa eqinisekisa ubukhosi bakhe utata wakhe / unyana wakhe. Kodwa kuwo onke amandla aloo mzuzu ubekelwe bucala, umpu wokwenene wokungazithembi ulele kulungelelwaniso lomlingane kunye nomqeshwa, uFrank Dipascali (Hank Azaria).
Umboniso bhanyabhanya uphuma kwindlela yokubonisa ukuba uBernie uchongwe ngokusondeleyo kangakanani noFrank, ngaxa lithile enika lo mntu wokugqibela phantse imizuzu emi-5 yokuthelekisa iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabasetyhini angathanda ukukopela umfazi kunye neemoto zemidlalo. Oonyana bakaMadoff, uMarko (Alessandro Nivola) kunye noAndrew (Nathan Darrow), bayabona ukuba le nto yehla bayokukhalaza kuyise, besithi uFrank unqabile kakhulu ukuba angaba lilungu eliphambili lombutho. Ngokukhawuleza uBernie uyawavala, encoma uFrank kwaye ehlazisa oonyana bakhe. Kodwa amakhwenkwe alungile: UFrank uyakhasa. Ke kutheni eza kuba kwisangqa sangaphakathi?
Isizathu esicacileyo kukuba uFrank ukwimeko yolwaphulo-mthetho lweshishini kunye neqabane eliyimfuneko kuloo nto. Kodwa intsingiselo apha yeyokuba kukho isizathu sesibini, esichuliweyo: UBernie uzibona eFrank, ngokunokwenzeka ngaphezu kokuba ezibona ekwonyana bakhe. Kwaye kungenxa yokuba uFrank uyakhasa. Ngu-2017 kwaye ndicinga ukuba kufanelekile ukuba uluntu luyigqobhozile ikhowudi kwinto ethethwa kukuba xa uhlala phantsi etafileni yangaphakathi ubeka iminqweno yabasetyhini ngelixa ubathelekisa neemoto: awuziva mnandi ngawe. Ukwabela amanqanaba, ukudala uthelekiso kunye nee-analogies, ezi ziindlela zokuzibeka ngaphezulu kwabanye ekuhlaleni, kwaye ngenxa yoko kukulingisa kolawulo. Kwaye umnqweno wokulawula ukhula ngenxa yoloyiko. UFrank, kwaye ke nguBernie, ngabo bonke ubukroti babo, ngokufihlakeleyo nangokoyikisayo.
Injongo yokuqonda oku kukuzama ukuqonda uBernie, othi njengoko sibona kwifilimu eyinkosi yokuzifihla. Kwizonyango, kukho umxholo obizwa ngokuba ngamava oLungiso, ngamava okuphathwa ngendlela enxulumene nokuba ungubani kunokuba uzenze ngathi unguye. Akusoloko kuyinto eyimfuneko, kodwa kwiimeko ezinjengezo zikaBernie, apha, kunokuba ngumahluko phakathi kobudlelwane bokuphilisa kunye nalapho umntu omnye ahlawula enye i-200 yeedola ngeyure ukuba axhomeke kuyo. Kwaye ukuphilisa, ewe, yeyona nto; Eli libali elidala kangaka, uluntu lwethu luya kwenza kakuhle ukuba lubone indlela yokunceda abantu ababanjwe kwezi meko zonakalisayo ngokweemvakalelo, kunokuba sibalinde badubule emva koko bohlwaywe emva kwenyani.
Ngaphambi kokuya phambili, ndingathanda ukwenza kucace ukuba andichongi uBernie Madoff. Ndibhala malunga nomlinganiswa kumdlalo bhanyabhanya osekwe kudliwanondlebe kwaye andikaze ndidibane nendoda, kwaye ngenxa yoko andikwazi ukunika nantoni na kufutshane nesifo esichazayo. Oko bekutshiwo, indlela aziphethe ngayo kule bhanyabhanya ijonge kum ngokungathi ibonisa iimpawu ezininzi ze-narcissism. Njengoko sifunda ekuchazeni kwakhe noFrank, uBernie, usembindini wakhe, uyoyika. I-Narcissism, inkohliso yokuba umkhulu kunabo bonke abanye abantu, ikhula ngaphandle kwengqondo ukusuka ebuntwaneni ukuba sesichengeni kuyingozi engathethekiyo. Esi sisilonda sokuncamathisela, uhlobo lwento eyenzekayo xa umgcini womntwana engakwazi ukukhulula ngokwaneleyo uloyiko lwabo.
Ke ukuze usebenze kunye nabathengi be-narcissistic kuya kufuneka ubazi ngoba uninzi lwendlela abanxibelelana ngayo nabantu yenzelwe ukubakhusela kuloyiko olungene ebomini babo besebancinci kakhulu kwaye bengashiyanga. NjengoFrank efuna ukulawula abafazi angaze alinge ukuthetha nabo ngokubabeka, i-narcissists ifuna ukulawula lonke ubudlelwane ebomini babo kunokuba ibenze. Le yinkqubo yokuziphatha okuzenzekelayo, kodwa ayisiyiyo esisigxina. Xa usebenza nabathengi be-narcissistic, umntu kufuneka aqonde iindlela abazama ngazo ukulawula ubudlelwane bonyango kunye nokuxhathisa ngobumnene, ukudala amava okulungisa okuba kubudlelwane obunyanisekileyo, nangona busenokuziva busoyikisa, abusoze bube yingozi.
UBernie uthi oku ngokwakhe kumdlalo bhanyabhanya, ephinda-phinda ukwahluka bendilindele umntu oza kundibamba nanini na xa ebuzwa ukuba kutheni ebaleka ubuqhetseba bakhe ixesha elide. I-Narcissists isengabantu kuphela, nokuba banqwenela kangakanani ukuba babengengabo, kwaye njengakude njengathi sonke kunxibelelwano lokwenyani. Umahluko kukuba bayayoyika ngakumbi kuninzi kwaye kungcono ukuyiphepha. Kodwa xa uBernie esithi ufuna ukubanjwa, unokukholwa. Abantu abanengxaki yokuphazamiseka okubangelwa ngamanxeba okuncamathisela, ubuncinci, banamathele kwiminyaka ababenayo xa babenenxeba lokuncamathiselwa. Oko kuthetha ukuba bancinci kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye bayakulangazelela ukubonwa ngumntu okhathalelayo ukunyanga uloyiko lwabo kubo. Ukuba ubuphila ubomi bakho bonke usoyika, awungekhe ufune ukukhululeka?
UJames Cole Abrams, MA, ngugqirha wezifo zengqondo ohlala kwaye usebenza eBoulder naseDenver, eColorado. Umsebenzi wakhe unokufumaneka kwi www.2dec9web.com apho ebhloga khona rhoqo ngeCawa.
