Iingcali zibheja ukuba mhlawumbi udibana ne-psychopath yonke imihla.Iipelisi Ndiyazi ukuba abanye abantu bacinga ntoni: Andisoze ndijongane nee-psychopaths. Le yinto engacacanga ngakumbi yokuqhafaza.
Akulunganga. Iingcali zibheja ukuba mhlawumbi udibana ne-psychopath yonke imihla. Inyaniso, Uninzi lwezinto ocinga ukuba uyazi malunga nee-psychopaths azilunganga .
Ewe, ii-psychopaths kunokwenzeka ukuba zibe sejele kunabantu abaninzi - kodwa uninzi lwabo alunjalo. Kukho iklasi yonke yabantu abangenasazela okanye uvelwano, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ujongane nobuncinane ngalo lonke ixesha.
Kwaye mhlawumbi benza ubomi bakho bube lusizi. Zii-psychopath zangaphantsi. Nge-biology, mhlawumbi unesifo sephepha okanye awunayo. Emnyama nemhlophe. Akukho kinda. Kwi-psychology kuninzi kinda. Abantu abaneengxaki zengqondo ezingaphantsi kwengqondo zezi zinje. Akulunganga ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungaya ejele, kodwa intle ngokwaneleyo ukuba inokwenza ubomi bakho boyike.
Abakhohlisi baseMachiavellian emsebenzini abenza zonke iintlobo zobubi-kodwa ngaphandle kokushiya iminwe. Amakhwenkwe amantombazana amabi kunye namantombazana akuqhubayo-ngamanye amaxesha ngabom.
Cinga uFrank Underwood Indlu yamakhadi - kodwa ngaphandle kokubulala. Kwaye uphando lubonisa Abongameli abaninzi baseMelika baneempawu zengqondo . Nguwuphi umsebenzi oneyona psychopaths? Impendulo yile: IiCEO .
Yup, uphononongo lubonisa ukuba kukho iifayile ze- Inani elingalinganiyo leengqondo zengqondo kwimanyano yaseMelika. (Ngapha koko, ezinye zeempawu zengqondo zi exhaphake kakhulu kwii-CEO's Kunabaphuli-mthetho abaphazamisekileyo engqondweni.)
Kodwa akukho mntu kwi-HR ukuxelela ukuba unokuba usebenza nabantu aboyikekayo, mayingabi yiyo indlela yokuphila ecaleni kwabo. Imibutho ithi izinto ezinje, Asikunyamezeli ukuphathwa gadalala okanye ukungabi nantlonelo. Ubundlongondlongo, ukungabi nalwazelelelo, kunye nokuzikhukhumalisa akuyiyo le ndawo
Oko kuvela Ingxelo yonyaka ka-Enron ka-1998 , kunjalo nje.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, siye safunda ukwenza. Masifumanise kuphando kunye neengcali ukuba yintoni eyona nto iyi-psychopaths, kunye nento onokuyenza ukuzikhusela kwaba bantu banetyhefu…
Yintoni i-Psychopath?
Ingqondo yengqondo. Yentlalontle. Ngeenjongo zethu ziyafana. Kwaye musa ukubenza badideke ngengqondo. I-Psychotic kuthetha ukuba ubona ii-elves kunye nee-unicorn. Ii-Psychopaths zilibona ngokucacileyo ilizwe.
Mhlawumbi ngokucacileyo. Njengoko URonald Schouten , Unjingalwazi wezifo zengqondo kwiHarvard Medical School uyacacisa, abavumeli izinto ezikhathazayo ezifana nesazela okanye uvelwano ziphazamise. Ngenxa yokuba abanayo nayiphi na yazo.
Ukusuka Phantse iPsychopath :
Ingqondo yengqondo yimeko yengqondo apho umntu abonisa ukungabikho kovelwano kwiimvakalelo zabanye, ukuzimisela ukuzibandakanya ekuziphatheni okubi nakwindlela yokuziphatha engathandekiyo ngenxa yeenzuzo zexesha elifutshane, kunye nokuzithemba okugqithisileyo.
Hayi, abanazo zonke ezibandayo, amehlo afileyo kwaye banxibe imaski yehokhi. Uninzi lubuqili kwaye luyacacisa. Bayi-narcissistic kwaye banomdla. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba bengenalo uvelwano babona abanye abantu njengezinto ezinokusetyenziswa.
Ngenxa yokuba bengaziva benovelwano akuthethi ukuba abayi qonda yiyo. Kwaye uninzi lukulungele ukuyenza into engekhoyo. Konke kungcono ukukukhohlisa ukuze ufumane oko bakufunayo.
Uphando lwe-Neuroscience lubonisa ukuba amaziko aneemvakalelo zobuchopho bawo awaphenduli ngendlela eyakho.
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Kwimisebenzi emininzi yokucinga ngemagneti (fMRI) yokufunda ngengqondo, uMvundla kunye nabahlobo bakhe bafumanise ukuba amagama aneemvakalelo kunye nemifanekiso engathandekiyo ayivelisanga kwi-psychopaths ukwanda komsebenzi wengingqi (limbic) zemimandla esiqhele ukunxulunyaniswa nokulungiswa kwemathiriyeli yeemvakalelo.
Kodwa kubi ngakumbi kunoko. Njengoko URonald Schouten Iingxelo, xa izazinzulu nge-neuroscientist zenza i-PET scan ye-psychopaths emva kokubanika ii-amphetamines, icandelo le-nucleus accumbens lezinto ezingwevu amatyeli amane Dopamine eninzi.
Translation: Izinto ezinomvuzo zikude, zinomvuzo ngakumbi kubo. Ke ucinga ukwenza into elityala kwaye isazela sakho siyabetha iziqhoboshi. Kodwa i-psychopaths 'brake line inqunyulwe. Kwaye izinto abazifunayo zinezihlandlo ezine ezinomvuzo kubo. Ke umntu othile ubeke isitena kwi-accelerator yabo.
Abanye abantu banokucinga: Ndenze izinto ezimbi; Kwaye ndifumana ezinye zezinto zivuyisa ngokwenene. Oh Thixo wam! Ndinexhala lokuba ndingu-psychopath!
Ukuba unexhala lokuba uyi-psychopath, awuyongqondo - kuba ii-psychopaths azikhathazeki.
Ukusuka Uvavanyo lwePsychopath :
… Ukubandezeleka koxinzelelo kukuchasana ngokwe-neurological nokuba yi-psychopath xa kufikwa kumsebenzi we-amygdala.
Ke sibenza njani aba bantu ngcono? Asazi. Ngapha koko, unyango lubenza kakubi . Ukubafundisa ngovelwano akubenzi babe novelwano ngakumbi. Ibafundisa nje indlela yokukhohlisa ngcono. Babona unyango njengokugqiba isikolo.
I-psychopaths ezinobundlobongela ezinikwe iingcebiso zazingama-20% amathuba okuba baphinde baphinde baphule umthetho.
Ukusuka Uvavanyo lwePsychopath :
… Abaphandi ababini ekuqaleni kweminyaka yoo-1990 benze uphando oluneenkcukacha malunga namanqanaba ophindaphindo lwexesha elide lwee-psychopaths ezazidlule kwinkqubo ka-Elliott kwaye zaye zangeniswa eluntwini. Ukupapashwa kwayo ngokuqinisekileyo bekuya kuba ngumzuzu ongaqhelekanga ku-Elliott noGary kunye neCapsule. Kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, iipesenti ezingama-60 ze-psychopaths zolwaphulo-mthetho ezikhutshelwe kwilizwe langaphandle ziyaqhubeka ukona. Yeyiphi ipesenti yee-psychopath zabo? Kwathi kanti: ngama-80 eepesenti.
(Ukufunda inyathelo lasixhenxe elinamasiko asekuseni eliya kukwenza wonwabe imini yonke, cofa Apha .)
Kulungile, kodwa oku kuvakala kugqithisile. Kwaye kunjalo. Ngokuqinisekileyo awuyazi nayiphi na i-psychopaths egcwele umoya, ehamba ngokungxama emva kwayo nantoni na abayifunayo ngaphandle kwesazela sokubalawula…
Kodwa mhlawumbi uyazi i-psychopath engaphantsi okanye ezimbini…
Ii-Psychopaths ezingaphantsi
Ke kwenzeka ntoni xa ucofa i-psychopathy kancinci, ucime ukungxamiseka kwaye ungeze kwisazela esincinci ukuze baphumelele kwisikolo somthetho okanye kwisikolo seshishini?
Ufumana i-psychopath edibanisa ukusebenza kakuhle. Kwaye bayayigxotha imivuzo yabo, bayityeshele imilinganiselo yokuziphatha kwaye bakulungele ukugubungela umkhondo wabo.
URobert Hare , Isayikholojisti yolwaphulo-mthetho evelise uvavanyo olusetyenziselwa ukuvavanya ukusebenza kwengqondo ichaza:
… Ii-psychopath ezininzi azikhe ziye entolongweni okanye nakweliphi na iziko Babonakala besebenza ngokufanelekileyo ngokufanelekileyo- njengamagqwetha, oogqirha, abagqirha bengqondo, izifundiswa, oonogada, amagosa asebupoliseni, iinkokeli zonqulo, abasebenzi bezomkhosi, oosomashishini, ababhali, amagcisa, abazonwabisa, njalo njalo- ngaphandle kokophula umthetho, okanye ubuncinci ngaphandle kokubanjwa kwaye wagwetywa. Aba bantu banazo zonke izinto ezinje ngokuziphakamisa, ukungakhathali, kunye nokukhohlisa njengesiqhelo psychopath yolwaphulo-mthetho; Nangona kunjalo, ubukrelekrele babo, imvelaphi yosapho, izakhono zentlalo, kunye neemeko ziyabavumela ukuba bakhe i-facade yesiqhelo kwaye bafumane oko bakufunayo ngaphandle kokugwetywa.
Kwaye bangaphi abantu abanje ababalekayo? Ngoku ii-psychopaths ezigcwele ngokupheleleyo zi malunga ne-1% yabemi. Ke zizigidi ezi-3 e-US kuphela. Kodwa ii-psychopath zangaphantsi? USchouten uthi bafana kakhulu ne-5-15%.
Ukusuka Phantse iPsychopath :
Izifundo ezivavanye ukwanda kokunyangwa kwengqondo okunyanzelekileyo kubemi baseMelika naseSweden babonisa amaxabiso kuluhlu lwama-5 ukuya kwali-15 leepesenti… isi-5 ukuya kwi-15 seepesenti sabantu sithetha ukuba kubantu abangamashumi amabini, ukuya kuthi ga kwabathathu bangawela ngaphakathi Uluhlu phantse lwe-psychopath.
(Ukufunda indlela yokujongana narcissist, cofa Apha .)
Ke ii-psychopaths zangaphantsi azinqumli abantu ngezembe. Kodwa balandela ngenkani oko bakufunayo ngaphandle kokukhathalela abo babangqongileyo. Benza njani? Ukuba baphula iintliziyo kunye neenkampani ezosulelayo, ababanjwa njani?
Ngaba iiPsychopaths zikufumana njani oko zikufunayo?
UMvundla uthi nokuba ngaba i-psychopath ye-subclinical psychopaths ihlaziya ubomi bakho bothando okanye indawo osebenza kuyo, zihlala zilandela inkqubo yamanyathelo amathathu:
- Bavavanya ukusetyenziswa, ubuthathaka kunye nokuzikhusela kwabo babangqongileyo,
- Basebenzisa abanye ukuba badibane nabo kwaye bafumane oko bafuna,
- Bayazishiya iithagethi zabo baqhubeke… Okanye, kwimeko yequmrhu, bahlala behamba phezulu .
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Okokuqala, bavavanya ixabiso lomntu ngamnye kwiimfuno zabo, kwaye bachonge amandla abo engqondo kunye nobuthathaka. Okwesibini, balawula abantu (ngoku abanokuba ngamaxhoba) ngokubondla ngokucophelela imiyalezo, ngelixa besebenzisa ingxelo evela kubo ukwakha kunye nokugcina ulawulo. Ayisiyiyo kuphela le ndlela esebenzayo yokuthatha kunye nabantu abaninzi, ikwavumela ii-psychopaths ukuba zithethe ngendlela yazo nangaphandle kwabo nabuphi na ubunzima ngokukhawuleza nangempumelelo ukuba bajongana nabo okanye bacela umngeni. Okwesithathu, bashiya amaxhoba anyibilikiweyo kunye nokudideka xa bekruqukile okanye kungenjalo.
Ukuba bahlasela ubomi bakho bobuqu, bavula uvelwano kunye nomtsalane. Bayamamela ukuva ukuba ucinga ntoni ngawe kwaye bayayiqinisa. Umyalezo? Ndiyakuthanda ukuba ungubani . Emva koko benza ngathi babelana ngeempawu ezifanayo. Umyalezo? Ndinjengawe .
Ayifani kangako eofisini. Bayamazi wonke umntu kwaye basebenzise olovelwano lobuxoki ukwenza umbono wokuqala kwaye bakhawuleze babone ukuba ngubani onamandla.
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Nje ukuba bajoyine inkampani, ii-psychopaths zizama ukudibana nabantu abaninzi kwinkampani kangangoko zinako, zisasaza ukubonakala okuhle kunye nokuqokelela ulwazi oluninzi kangangoko. Ngelixa bedibana kwaye bebulisa amalungu ombutho, bafunda iindima zomsebenzi zabalingane babo kwaye baphantse bavavanya ngokwendalo usetyenziso lwabo lwexesha elifutshane nelide okanye ixabiso. Ixabiso lomntu lisekwe apho angena khona kulawulo lombutho (ngamanye amaxesha kubizwa ngokuba ngamandla ezikhundla), ubuchule bobuchwephesha (amandla eengcali), ukufikelela kulwazi (amandla olwazi), nokuba ulawula abasebenzi, imali kunye ezinye iiasethi (amandla oovimba).
Kuya kuvela ukuba kulula kubo. Ukuthanda kwabo indalo kuyaphosakela kwiimpawu zomsebenzi ezixabisekileyo njengamandla aphezulu kunye nokwenza izinto ngendlela yokusebenza. Kwaye ukuswela kwabo iimvakalelo? Owu, kwilizwe lezeshishini sikubiza ukuba sikwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezinzima. Okanye umntu opholileyo phantsi komlilo. Uyazi… izinto ezenziwa ziinkokeli.
Kwaye emva koko baya emsebenzini beqinisekisa ukuba bajongeka behle, abo bakhuphisana nabo bajongeka kakubi kwaye bonke ubungqina bufihlakele.
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Ngokukodwa, izicwangciso zabo zomdlalo zibandakanya ukusebenzisa uthungelwano lonxibelelwano ukonyusa igama labo, ukujongela phantsi abanye, kunye nokudala ungquzulwano kunye neembambano phakathi kwamalungu ombutho, ngaloo ndlela begcina ekwabelaneni ngolwazi olunokutyhila inkohliso. Bakwasasaza ulwazi oluchanekileyo ngenjongo yokukhusela ubuqhetseba babo kunye nokuqhubela phambili nemisebenzi yabo. Bekrelekrele ngokugqithileyo kwaye befihlile, babenako ukufihla ubudlelwane babo nengcaciso engeyiyo, bekhokelela abanye ekubeni bakholelwe ukuba babengenatyala ngokukhohlisa.
Ukuba bangenelele kubomi bakho bobuqu, basebenzisa olo manyano ukuqala ukufumana oko bakufunayo kuwe. Kwindawo yokusebenza bakhawulezisa ukwahlula phakathi kweepawulu kunye nabaxhasi.
Iipawns ngabasebenzi kunye nabo bangaphantsi kwabo basebenzise njengeziqwenga zechess. Abaxhasi ngabaphathi abaphezulu abasondela kubo ukuze bancede ukunyuka ileli yequmrhu.
Mhlawumbi umntu othile ubambelela kwizikimu zabo. Kodwa ngaba impempe yachitha ixesha iqinisekisa ukuba abaphathi abaphezulu bayabathanda kwaye bayabathemba? Ngenxa yokuba i-psychopath yenza. Ucinga ukuba ngubani ophetheyo ophezulu?
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Siyakholelwa ukuba ukonakala kuqala ukwenzeka xa iwebhu yengqondo yenkohliso kunye nokukhohlisa iba yinto engalawulekiyo kwaye abantu abaninzi kakhulu baye babona umbono wecala labo elimnyama. Ekugqibeleni, umntu othile uzama ukwenza into ngayo. Umntu owayekhe wanobuhlobo unokuphikisana naye okanye ajongane naloo mntu, kwaye mhlawumbi ade azame nokuzisa imeko kwabaphezulu. Ngelishwa, ngeli xesha i-psychopath ibekwe kakuhle ngothungelwano lweempembelelo esele zisekiwe kunye nabanye kulawulo lwamandla. Iitheyibhile zijikile kuba ukuthembeka komqeshwa okhalazayo sele kulawulwe kwaye kujongelwa phantsi.
(Ukufunda ukonwaba kunye nokuphumelela, cofa Apha .)
Ngoku ayiloxesha lokuyeka ukufunda. Njengoko u-Yoda watshoyo, ukuba ugqiba uqeqesho lwakho ngoku-ukuba ukhetha indlela ekhawulezayo nelula njengoko kwenza uVader-uya kuba ngummeli wobubi.
Ke ukuba ii-psychopaths zilungile ekugubungeleni imikhondo yazo, sizibona njani?
Uyichonga njani i-Psychopath
Ngoku ungayi kuwela kumgibe wokudlala ngengqondo ye-amateur psychoanalyst, ubiza wonke umntu okhe wakhohlakele kuwe yi-psychopath. Kodwa, loo nto ithe, le yindawo apho uphando luthi unganakho khona themba amathumbu akho .
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba ii-psychopaths zenza ukuba abanye abantu bazive bexolile. Ngoba? Abaphandi bakrokrela ukuba kunokuba yimpendulo yendaleko kwi-intraspecies predator.
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Kuphononongo lwakutsha nje, abaphandi uJ. Reid Meloy kunye noM. J. Meloy baphonononge iimpendulo zempilo yengqondo kunye noochwephesha kwezobulungisa kwezolwaphulo-mthetho ngokubhekisele kwindlela abasabela ngayo ngelixa bekudliwanondlebe naboni okanye abaguli bengqondo. Ukuphendula kwahluka kwaye kubandakanya imvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo ezazisisisu (isisu esibuhlungu, ukuziva ugula), izihlunu (imvakalelo engcangcazelayo, ubuthathaka), intliziyo (ukubetha kwentliziyo), pulmonary (ukuphefumla okufutshane.) Ababhali bacebise ukuba iziphumo zabo zingaba Itolikwe njengobungqina obucetyiswayo bokuphendula kwangaphambili, ukuzimela, kunye noloyiko kwirhamncwa. Bachaze i-psychopath njenge-intraspecies predator.
(Into ebuhlungu kukuba ii-psychopaths zinengqondo ye-Spidey. Uphando lubonisa ukuba bayakwazi ukuxelela ukuba ngabaphi abantu ekujoliswe kubo, ngokujonga nje kubo .)
Ngaphandle koko, yiba nentandabuzo yabantu abajikajika ngobukrakra kwi-charm. Ukuba umntu uphuma ecaleni kwakhe ukukuncoma, zibuze ukuba kutheni?
Kwaye uyazi la mazwi amadala ngokungathembi abantu abalungileyo kuwe kodwa athetha ukuba kubalungiseleli kwivenkile yokutyela? Kuyavela ukuba kuyinyani. Ii-Psychopaths kunye ne-narcissists zikwimo ekuyazi kakhulu imeko enotyekelo olunamandla lokuncamisa nokukhahlela.
Ukusuka Ngaphandle kwesazela :
Ebhekisa kwisayikholojisti umsebenzi ka-Harry Levinson kwi-narcissism esempilweni kwaye engenampilo kubaphathi, u-Hogan waphawula ukuba ii-narcissists ezingenampilo zinembono ephantse yaqiniseka kwaye ziyabacekisa abo bangaphantsi. Banobuchule ngakumbi ekuzonwabiseni ngokwabo nabantu abadala kodwa babaphathe gadalala abantwana babo, ucatshulwe esitsho.
(Ukufunda iimfihlo ze-Navy SEAL's grit kunye nokomelela, cofa Apha .)
Kulungile, ke uqinisekile ukuba lo mntu mtsha ebomini bakho okanye umntu omtsha osebenza naye eofisini uyakhohlisa kwaye udlala inkosi yoonopopi. Iingcali zicebisa njani ukuba ujongane nazo?
1) Musa.
Isiphelo.
Owu, ukuba nje bekulula… Zonke izibonelelo endizijongileyo zazinendawo enye yokucebisa: vele ususe kubo. Ukuba bubomi bakho bobuqu, loo nto inokukwenza. Eofisini, oko akunakuba kukukhetha.
Iinkampani zinokukuphepha ukuqesha ii-psychopath zangaphantsi kwindawo yokuqala ngokusebenzisa imijikelezo emininzi yodliwanondlebe olucwangcisiweyo. Iinkqubo eziguqukayo zodliwanondlebe zivumela amarhamncwa amtsalane kwigumbi elininzi kakhulu ukusebenzisa amandla awo empembelelo. Kwaye ujonge izikhombisi. IiPsychopaths zilele ekuqalekeni. Okuninzi.
Kodwa ukuba kufuneka ujongane nabo njengomntu ozimeleyo, kwaye awukwazi ukubaleka, sukudlala imidlalo yabo. Bangcono kule nto kunawe. Bayenzile ngaphambili.
Isazi ngengqondo saseHarvard uMartha Stout uthi usenokucinga ukuba uliqhawe kodwa eneneni uhlawulisa.
Ukusuka I-Sociopath Next Door :
Musa ukujoyina umdlalo. Ngumtsalane sisixhobo sentlalontle. Sixhathise isilingo sokukhuphisana nentlalontle ekhohlisayo, ukumgqogqa, ukumkhathaza ngengqondo, okanye nokuba ubhanti naye. Ukongeza ekuzinciphiseni kwinqanaba lakhe, ungaziphazamisa koko kubaluleke kakhulu, oko kukuthi ukuzikhusela.
Nokuba uphumelele, qikelela ntoni? Ngoku usebenzisa imidlalo ekhohlisayo. Uprofesa waseStanford UBob Sutton Umbhali we Boss olungileyo, Bad Bad , uxelela bonke abafundi bakhe:
Xa uthatha umsebenzi, jonga ixesha elide kubantu oza kusebenza nabo-kuba amathuba okuba uza kuba njengabo, abayi kuba njengawe. Awunakho ukubatshintsha. Ukuba ayihambelani nokuba ungubani, ayizukusebenza.
(Ukufunda ukuyeka ubuvila kwaye wenze okungakumbi, cofa Apha .)
Kodwa sisiphi isimo sengqondo uninzi lwabantu olungalunganga xa ujongene ne-psychopath enokwenzeka?
2) Yamkela ukuba abanye abantu ziindaba ezimbi nje
Unokukholelwa ukuba bonke abantu banokulunga kubo. Okanye ukuba wonke umntu unokulungiswa. Okanye bangangcono ukuba…
Ayizukubhabha apha. Uxolo.
Ukusuka I-Sociopath Next Door :
Umgaqo wokuqala ubandakanya ipilisi ekrakra yokwamkela ukuba abanye abantu ngokoqobo abanazazela… Sukuzama ukuhlawulela izinto ezingenakuhlangulwa.
Awunakho ukubatshintsha. Into onokuyenza kukwazi ukuba basebenza njani kwaye uzazi ngcono wena. Yazi apho ubuthathaka bakho bulele khona. Kungenxa yokuba ii-psychopaths ziingcali ekuzicingeleni. Lungisa ubuthathaka bakho ngaphambi kokuba babuxhaphaze.
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Njengoko enye i-psychopath ibeka, ndiyabathanda abalungileyo kuba bandenzela okuhle.
(Ukufunda amasiko amane e-neuroscience athi aya kukonwabisa, cofa Apha .)
Rhoqo i-psychopath ye-subclinical ixela ubuxoki obuninzi kunokuba nzima ukubona ngokuthe ngqo. Ugcina njani intloko yakho icacile?
3) Nika ingqalelo kwiZenzo, hayi amagama
Le yenye yonke imithombo ekuvunyelwene ngayo. Musa ukumamela izizathu, ulungelelwaniso okanye ubuxoki obucacileyo. Musa ukumamela into abayenzayo yitsho baya kwenza. Nika ingqalelo kwizinto abazenzayo.
UMartin Stout waseHarvard ucebisa ukuba kusetyenziswe iRule of Threes ukuxelela iimpazamo ezinyanisekileyo kwiindlela zokukhohlisa.
Ukusuka I-Sociopath Next Door :
Ubuxoki obunye, isithembiso esinye esaphukileyo, okanye uxanduva olunye olungahoywanga kunokuba kukungaqondani endaweni yoko. Isibini sinokubandakanya impazamo enkulu. Kodwa ubuxoki abathathu buthetha ukuba ujongana nexoki, kwaye inkohliso sisiseko sokuziphatha okungenasazela.
(Ukufunda ukuba zeziphi ii-psychopaths ezinokukufundisa malunga nokuba ngumntu owonwabileyo, cofa Apha .)
Kulungile, uya kubo. Kodwa baliqela elinempindezelo. Uzikhusela njani kwimpindezelo emsebenzini?
4) Yakha igama lakho kunye nobudlelwane
Ii-psychopaths emsebenzini zihlala ziqesha abantu abangalindelanga kulawulo oluphezulu ukuba bababonelele ngokufihlakeleyo xa amahemuhemu malunga nokuziphatha kwabo okungathandekiyo eqala ukujikeleza.
Kwaye baya kuhlala besebenzisa obu budlelwane ukusasaza ulwazi kunye nobuxoki ngaye nabani na ohamba ngendlela yakhe okanye obeka isoyikiso. Kwaye oko kunokubandakanya.
Ke qiniseka ukwakha ubudlelwane bakho kwaye ugcine igama njengomntu osebenza nzima. Yiba ngaphezulu kwengcikivo. Sukukhalaza. Ngale ndlela xa ukhalaza-abantu abadala bayamamela.
Ukusuka Iinyoka kwiiSuti: Xa iiPsychopaths ziya eMsebenzini :
Ukuzikhusela, qiniseka ukuba utyale amandla ekuphatheni igama lakho, wakhe ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo nobunyanisekileyo noontanga bakho kunye nomphathi wakho, fikelela kwizakhono zakho, kwaye ulandele imigaqo-nkqubo kunye neenkqubo ezifanelekileyo.
Kwaye ukuba ujongana ne-psychopath enokubakho kubomi bakho, ubudlelwane bubalulekile. Abahlobo banokuba nenjongo ngakumbi kunokuba unakho. Xa abantu abaninzi abazithembayo besithi He / She is not good ungafuna ukumamela.
(Ukufunda amanyathelo asibhozo okufumana umcebisi ofanelekileyo, cofa Apha .)
Ngokuqinisekileyo, uzame yonke into kodwa kusafuneka usebenze nabo. Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokwenza oko?
5) IziVumelwano zokuphumelela
IiPsychopaths ngabantu abakhohlakeleyo. Bafuna ukuphumelela. Ukuba unokwenza kube lula kwaye kube nomtsalane kubo ukuba basebenze nawe kunokuba bazame ukukuphazamisa, usenokukwazi ukugcina ukungabi nanceba kwabo kujongiwe.
Ukusuka Kwimpahla yokunxiba yeegusha: Ukuqonda kunye nokujongana nabantu abaQhelekileyo :
Xa uthethathethana nabuphi na ubuntu obunoburharha, zama ukucebisa ngeendlela ezininzi zokuphumelela ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukwenza oku kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kufuna ubuchule kunye neseti ethile yengqondo. Kodwa kumava am, mhlawumbi sesona sixhobo sinye sixhobisayo kuba sibeka ekusebenziseni ngendlela eyakhayo ukuzimisela komntu ekuphumeleleni.
(Ukufunda ubuchule bothethathethwano lwe-FBI oluza kukufumanela into oyifunayo, cofa Apha .)
Ngokuqinisekileyo, sigubungele kakhulu. Masikusondeze kwaye sifunde eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule ixesha elide ukuze i-psychopath ingabutshintshi ubomi bakho…
Shwankathela
Nantsi indlela yokujongana ne-psychopath:
- Musa. 1) Qhuba. 2) Ngaba uqinisekile ukuba awungekhe ubaleke?
- Yamkela ukuba abanye abantu ziindaba ezimbi nje: Ingwe ayisosilwanyana sasekhaya esilungileyo. Kwaye awuyi kuyitshintsha loo nto.
- Nika ingqalelo kwizenzo, hayi amagama: Akukho sizathu. Akukho BS. Sebenzisa uMgaqo weThathu.
- Yakha igama lakho kunye nobudlelwane: Ufuna ukukhusela okuhle kunye neengcebiso ezifanelekileyo.
- Izivumelwano zokuphumelela: Yenza kube lula ukudlula kuwe kunokukutshabalalisa.
Xa uphakathi komdlalo wokufa kunye nesilo esikhohlakeleyo somntu, ukugxeka kufana nokuba ne-ESP. Umbono ophucukileyo unokugcina inyathelo elinye phambi kwabo. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha kunokuba yityhefu.
Musa ukunikezela kubo bonke abantu ngenxa yokuba ujongane nombi kakhulu.
Umama wendalo unengqondo yokuhlekisa. Kwelinye icala unee-psychopaths, ezingenalo uvelwano. Kwelinye icala, kukho abantu abane-Williams Syndrome. Banovelwano kakhulu. Bathembe wonke umntu. Bona thanda wonke umntu :
… Abantwana kunye nabantu abadala abanoWilliams bayabathanda abantu, kwaye ngokwenyani bathembekile ngokwasemzimbeni. Abanaloyiko ekuhlaleni. Abaphandi bacinga ukuba oku kungenzeka kungenxa yengxaki kwinkqubo yabo ye-limbic, eyinxalenye yengqondo elawula imvakalelo. Kubonakala ngathi kukho ukungabikho komthetho kwenye yeekhemikhali (i-oxytocin) ebonisa ukuba kufuneka uthembe nini kwaye ungathembi nini. Oku kuthetha ukuba ngokusisiseko akunakwenzeka kubantwana abanjengoIsabelle ukuba bangathembi.
Abanye abantu balunge kakhulu, abanye babi kakhulu. Kwaye uninzi lwethu luphakathi embindini. Ungavumeli amava amabi ngomntu omnye ukuba onakalise ipati.
Ukusuka I-Sociopath Next Door :
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Ukuze ube nobomi obonwabisayo nomsebenzi onemveliso, kusenokufuneka unikezele ngokukodwa abantu.
Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka unikezele ngabantu.
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