Ngena ngaphakathi, qala udideke.UJosh Calabrese Ndiyazi ukuba ndingumntu ozimisele kakhulu. Ndiphantsi koxinzelelo oluninzi iintsuku ezininzi kwaye ke ndisebenza nzima nyhani ukuba ndingabambeki. Ndizama ukuyigcina kunye ngaphandle kokophula, utsho umthengi wam.
Ndiyazi, ndiyaphendula. Ndiyakwazi ukuxelela ukuba ukhululekile kakhulu. Ke makhe ndikubuze umbuzo ongacwangciswanga-phakathi kwenkanyamba, kungcono ukuba ube yingca okanye umthi?
Intoni? Uyabuya. Ndiyaqikelela umthi. Liqinile-lomelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba lingaqubana nesiphango.
Hayi… ndiyaphendula.
Xa uqinile ebomini, ubomi buza kukuqhekeza ngesiqingatha .
Cinga ngomthi omde kakhulu phakathi kwenkanyamba. Umthi uqinile, awuniki ndlela ngexesha lesiphango ukuze xa kuvuthuza imimoya, ibe yinto yokuqala ethi qheke kubini. Okona kubi kakhulu, wakhutshwa ziingcambu zawo kwaye waphoswa kwenye ikhowudi ye-zip.
Ngokwahlukileyo, ibala elide lengca yolwandle liza kuvelisa umoya. Ewe, iyakubethwa ngapha nangapha amaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ijongisa isaqhwithi, ivumela loo mimoya inamandla ukuba idlule-ingaze incothulwe okanye iqhekeke. Nje ukuba isaqhwithi simke, sime ngokungathi yonke into ilungile.
Okukhona ukhululeka ebomini bakho, kokukhona kuya kuba ngcono ubomi bakho.
Umthi uyayichasa imozulu kwaye ngenxa yoko uyaphoswa ngapha nangapha, kanti ke ingca ifunde ukuba bhetyebhetye — iyazisusa kwisiphithiphithi kwaye inikezela kwimimoya yenguqu. Akukho mntu uthanda ukubethwa ngumoya, kodwa ukuba ungaphumla kwisiphango kwaye kube lula ngaso, uyakuhlala umile. Ekugqibeleni ilanga liza kuphuma kwaye uya kushiyeka umile.
Ngokwenyani konke okwenzekayo kukuba ubomi bubuyisela kuwe umzabalazo wakho wolawulo. Ke, xa ufunda ukukhululeka kwaye uyeke izinto ongenakuzilawula, uyakufumanisa ukuba ubomi buyakhawuleza kuwe. Lonke uxinzelelo noxinzelelo okhe wahlangabezana nalo luyazenzela kwaye kuphela yimveliso emibini yengqondo yakho. Ndiyamxelela.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba nguwe ofuna ukugcina yonke into ikunye, indalo iphela iya kuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ejikeleze wena iyawa ngokungapheliyo.
Ukuba uziva ufuna ukulawula ngokupheleleyo, indalo iyakuqinisekisa oko kwaye ikunike zonke izizathu zokuziva unjalo. Isidingo sakho sokulawula siya kutsala iimeko ezibonakala ngathi azilawuleki, ukuze sikunike amava owacelayo ungazi.
Xa uphakamile, uthintela ukuhamba kwendalo kwamandla okukujikeleza.
Ubomi buyadika kwaye buqhelekile xa uhlala usokola ukugcina ucwangco. Uya kudinwa emzimbeni nasemoyeni, kwaye utyhafe. Ukukhanya kunye nomdla wobomi uya kulahleka ngokulula. Indalo iphendula ngokubuyisa umzabalazo wakho kunye nokuzivalela ngokwakho.
Ubomi buba nzima xa usebenza nzima ukulawula ubomi bakho.
Abantwana banoluvo olulungileyo. Abazami ukulawula, bayazivumela ukuba badlale ngobomi, kwaye, kuba bejongana neemeko ngobunewunewu kunye nokukhanya kunye nomnqweno wendalo, indalo iphendula ngokuzisa iimeko ezivuyisayo neziguqukayo.
Ubomi benzelwe ukuba bonwabele hayi kuvavanywe . Olona vavanyo kuphela ekufanele ukuba lundonwabisile namhlanje?
Uvuyo luxinekile phantsi komyalelo wesiqhelo nolwakhiwo. Xa uyeka isidingo solawulo, uvula ithuba lokuba ufumane uvuyo olungakumbi. Makuyeke, khulula, kwaye ufunde ukuhamba nokuhamba kobomi bakho. Nje ukuba wenze njalo, indalo iya kukuzisela zonke izizathu zokuvuya.
Sukuba nexhala lokwenza ubumdaka. Kungcono ukuhlala kwisofa kunokuba uhlale eplastikini amashumi eminyaka.
Ulawulo lunokugcina ukungcola kude, kodwa ubomi bakho benzelwe ukuba uphile, ungabonwa kude. Ubuhle kunye novuyo zihlala kwaye ngamanye amaxesha oko kuphila kuyaxaka. Lelona candelo lililo. Yiphile — uyonwabele nayo — ngena apho uze ungcolise izandla zakho. Yenza umonakalo kuyo. Ubuncinci uya kuyazi ukuba ukhe waphila.
Nazi iingcebiso ezintathu zokwenza owona myalezo ungcono wobomi bakho.
- Thatha intonga ngaphandle kwempundu yakho. Ngamanye amagama, ungazithathi nzulu kangako-funda ukuzihleka ngokwakho, funda ukuba lula kunye nawe, funda ukukhanya. Xa usondela kubomi ngokulula, ubomi bakho ngokwendalo buba lula. Ukuqina kuqinisekisa ukuba uya kuqhekeka. Ndikhululekile ngakumbi ukuhamba ebomini ngaphandle kwentonga.
- Musa ukoyika ukufaka umbala ngaphandle kwemigca. Musa ukoyika ukwenza loo mess . Kuphela ngaphakathi komdaka apho kwenzeka khona umlingo. Kukuloo ndawo apho uya kufumanisa ukuba awoyiki ukwenza iimpazamo, kwaye awoyiki ukophula imithetho-ukuba ungadala ubomi bamaphupha akho. Nje ukuba wenze olona manyano lubalaseleyo, ungazidibanisa ezona ndawo zakho zibalaseleyo kuba ngoku uyazi ukuba ziyintoni.
- Hlonipha ukungcola, musa ukuyihlambulula . Xa isiphithiphithi senzeka kwaye izinto zingahambi ngendlela yakho, ungazami ukunciphisa umonakalo, yibhiyozele. Qaphela ukuba izinto azihlali zihamba ngendlela yakho kuba ngamanye amaxesha zimiselwe ukuba zihambe ngcono.
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